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Breaking In A Slave Or Breaking A Slave

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, Breaking a Slave, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Discipline, Dominant, FaceBook Vile Woods, fucking, Humiliation, Humiliation Training, masochist, Master, Master And Slave, non-consensual, Patience, Protocol, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, sex, sex slaves, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, sucking cock, sucking dick, The slave must adapt on July 16, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

There is clearly two different meanings but both can have the same outcome.

Just did a short story, The Breaking Of Sabrina. A woman who was broken at her husbands request. He lost and the Master won. That is something else we need to look at as well, choices and consequences, after all that is what life is about right ?

Breaking in a Slave is a term that is used once you start the training process, and as with breaking some humiliation is used during this process. The humiliation depends on how stable the Slave is mentally, and that is just one factor that comes into play.

Once you begin your search for a Slave not a Submissive, but a Slave you should have a clear picture of how you see your everyday life. You should already know what your intentions are, and what you expect the outcome to be.

To a novice Master who really has no experience, will really have a difficult time, mainly because he does not have a clue. Although there is a ton of Material out here , what works for one will not work for someone else. If the Master has a lot of drama or problems, the training will not be effective. Most associate a slave as just being sexual but that is so far from the truth, although there are just sex slaves who are just used for pleasure and nothing more.

Humiliation puts the slave in that mindset, you also have to point out you are not equal to them. It sounds worse than it really is, this is a mindset you are trying to achieve. To be a slave you have to feel like a slave.

First however the Slave must be willing , second and the most important factor the Master must be real and serious.

I actually sat down and thought about how my daily life would be if I had a slave living with me 24/7. Everything on my terms including sex. Sex is about me. Sex is about my needs being met, my wants.

I have changed Arianna life she has made a 360 degree turn. Today she does not see how she has changed, she does not see her submission, mainly because she lives it everyday.

She does not hear the words Master flowing from her mouth, or asking permission to use the bathroom, or to enter the bed. She does not see any of this, because not it comes natural.

That is when you know you as a Master Has reached your goal. You have created you own masterpiece. You have created something very special.

The bond is like no other, somehow it is stronger than love although your in love , it is a much different feeling, really hard to explain.

So from time to time you have to make slight changes, mainly because of the way Arianna feels about her submission.

Even the slightest change can make a huge difference, maybe in just a word someone uses, or the way they sit, the slightest change makes a huge, huge difference.

Breaking A Slave

This can be done willingly or not. I see it as a total breakdown of someones will, you change their whole thought process, and it could get to the point to where they cannot even think for their selves.

When someone ask you to break them, you need to find out what their reasons are, what do they hope to gain out of being broken?
In a short term relationship being broken could have severe effects, and the outcome could be harmful, or being incomplete in the process, meaning the Master is not their to bring back up.

So you take a Blank canvas , you strip the slave of everything, clothes, makeup, the ability to shave, they eat what you put in front of them.

You control their speech, their posture, how they dress, where they can sit, what if anything they wear.
This needs to be done on a daily basis, house rules are put in place. You limit where they can be in the house, when they can use the bathroom, shower, TV.
What you do, is allow family time, to speak on the phone, for 10 to 15 minutes, in front of you, checking emails in front of you. Not being allowed to close the bathroom door, you take away any privacy they want or need.

You use on a regular basis, showing no compassion or love. Be it just sucking your dick or crawling on top dumping your load and getting off walking out of the room leaving her there. That in its self is a form of humiliation, You have to use on a daily basis, without asking or explaining what your going to do. You want to keep their mind wondering. Trust me it works.

More sever would be extreme humiliation, physical beatings, calling names, such as whore, and slut, your worthless, who in the fuck would want you, you get the idea..

So I suppose in a way Arianna was broken, and here we are today, her feelings grow everyday, her submission continues to grow. She has a need to please.
I did just what I explained above leaving out the extreme. I keep a very tight leash on Arianna, I know where she is 24/7. She even had me install a tracker on her phone. I can pick up my phone and locate her within 50 feet.

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Vile And Arianna

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, A Slave Is High Maintenance, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, An Owned Slave, Anger Issues, Argue, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Be who you are, Being fucked, being used, Cheaters, cheating, Cheating Dominant, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Discipline, Disrespect, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, Dominant Switch, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, fifty shades of grey, fuck hole, fucking, Married Dominant, Master And Slave, Protocol, punish, Punishment, sex, sex slaves, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive on June 1, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

train62 Someone had made the comment that some did not agree with our relationship. I am going to assume that you do not agree because you do not understand, maybe you do not want to understand, but you still look down on such a relationship. That being said , it just means you do not have a full understanding of BDSM, or maybe your just that closed minded.

There are many things I do not understand, for one I do not understand the male switch, how he can be dominant, then submit to someone else in front of his submissive , or how a Master could submit to someone else in front of his slave, that is one. Two I do not understand how married men go behind their wife and fuck someone else. Three I do not understand how a single female could see a man who is married and not care about wrecking what she has worked so hard to build. Four I do not understand how so many can allow so much drama into their life and complain about it on a daily basis but still live it. Five I do not understand men who abuse women verbally , mentally , and physically maybe its because it makes them feel more like a man…  So there are many things I do not understand, nor am I able to comprehend. One thing I do though is speak my mind. One thing I do is share the truth.

I am not a man who has to hide my relationship, nor do I have the need to search out other women to get gratification , nor do I have to search for women to abuse. I do not need more flavor in my life, nor do I have to live behind a lie, sneak around watching behind my back. Having to delete my text messages.

So Arianna had been looking for a Master, not a Dominant or a Daddy but a Master. I myself had been looking for a slave, not a submissive or a Baby Girl. A Slave.

Arianna had met two who claimed to be Masters, one left her bruised for almost three weeks, badly bruised, and went back for seconds hoping things would get better. She saw another Master who abused her both physically and mentally, playing head games, losing his temper yelling at her making threats. That is noway to live and be happy.

We met and we talked and Arianna expressed her needs, not wants. She explained she needed micromanagement , she explained she needed a relationship with no rights, only the rights she was giving, she explained she needed all freedom taken away, she explained she needed to give up full control. Arianna explained she needed rules and protocols to be in place and enforced. She explained she needed structure and trust. Yea it was a pretty deep conversation.

Although I wanted a long term relationship, and I was looking for a slave. I was looking for someone who was very docile, an introvert. Someone who would follow a few rules, a fuck toy, a piece of ass. Someone to use when I wanted to. Then kinda like putting them away in a closet. That is what I was looking for and nothing more.

So it was I who had to decide if I wanted the type of relationship Arianna wanted, it was I who had to decide if I wanted to take on that much responsibility , it was I who had to think if I wanted to be that consistent , enforcing rules, and protocols.  It was I who had to decide if I wanted that much responsibility.

Now unlike many Arianna does have one right, and that is the right to question me if she feels things are not going right. One thing she has the right to is to insure I have her best interest in mind. Many of you are not allowed that type of communication, or your just simply told what ever to appease you at that moment and time. Many are not allowed to question your relationship status, or many of you fear asking afraid of being dumped. Many of you are afraid your Dominant is not going to leave his wife. Many of you are told his wife does not care what he does, but you are only hearing one side of the story. Many of you go days at a time with out hearing from your Dom, many of you spend your birthdays alone and do not even receive gifts.

So many of you think Arianna has it so so bad, many of you think she is abused, or not treated well, or fairly, or treated with the respect she deserves.

We are Master and Slave, we are not Dominant and Submissive or Daddy and Baby girl.  We live a true M’s relationship and our way has worked for over two years and it continues to get better as each day passes.

There are very few relationships like the way we live I know this, there are very few who could life a true M’s relationship, there are even fewer who would want such a relationship.

I am totally against any type of abuse when it comes to women. Many of you are in non consensual relationships, because your partner is married. You only consent because you are willing to settle for less. When you settle for less that is exactly what you get so you have no reason to complain, or sit around and pout because you have not heard from your married Dom, who cannot even control his own house, because if he could he would not be fucking you.

Many of you are punished when there is no reason, because you were not able to send videos of you masturbating so he could jack off, or you did not send nude pics of yourself. Wow

Many of you are in relationships with the fifty shades of grey Dominants who do not have the slightest fucking clue. They see the visual and nothing more. You cannot read a fucking book put it down and say I am a Master it does not work that way.

I Vile am living the dream, and you could be too. I am married to my wife, my slave , my slut and my whore. She is my all and anything I want her to be, but do not think for one minute I do not have to give 150% back, because at times it is much much more.

If you do not understand then ask.

It was Arianna who said. Will you except me as your Slave?

 

Shit Just Happens

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, Argue, bdsm, blow job, communication, control, Depression, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Giving Head, Marriage, Married Dominant, Master, oral sex, predators, Rules, serve, sex slaves, slave, submissive on November 7, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We enter a new relationship hoping this will be the one. We have finely found the one. The one problem is both are on their best behavior, people tend to hide who they really are, hoping to make a lasting impression.

The problem is this lasting impression never last , and most of the time it is the male or Dominants fault. Those who are not real I call imposters , posing to be someone they are not. On the prowl, the hunt. Once the hunt is over it is no longer fun the thrill is gone, they have conquered.

Not every Dominant is this way , but the fakes or wannabes do out number the real. The real are far and few between. Someone who is new to the lifestyle does not see this nor do they want to see. I have blogged about this before as a matter of fact several times.

Your Newly found Dominant should encourage to to meet others like yourself ask if he is active in the local community. Ask about other Dominants he may know. Ask about his relationships and why they did not last. If the reasons fall on the slave every time, then there is a problem.

The Submissive or Slave runs into a problem the Dominant may step in and help this is a good sign. If the Submissive or Slave is emotional at times, he will not stick around to long. I am sorry but I am not the one for you we need to move on. Remember you have already been conquered the thrill is already gone, if you produce any problems this becomes more of a task, it kills the thrill.

Those who want to be a Dominant or pose as a Dominant the thrill does not last. He lays out a few rules sexual most of the time because he is fucking clueless. You think its okay because he is showing authority , he is taking charge, even if the number one rule is, you will worship my cock.

The spanking grows old, the bondage grows old and fast. The sex grows old because he is a predator the thrill is gone he has hunted and made the kill.

He knows what to say because of the wide access of information today, the childish chat rooms. So yes he knows exactly what you want to hear, and you will fall for it every time until you get wise.

I have spoken about mentors many times. I believe a Dominant should have a mentor more so if you are new to the lifestyle. The same goes for a Submissive Or Slave. If you are new to the lifestyle find someone who has experience someone who will help you pick through the fakes.

It could take you several months to realize something is wrong, but you cannot put your finger on it. Even after speaking to others. At this point you are in love and you are going to hang in there hoping it will change, but you know what ? It never does or will, it will continue to get worst. At this point the Dominant is hoping you will break it off, this takes the guilt away, he walks away with a clean slate because everything was your fault or this is what you are led to believe .

So you have spent the last six months on your Back or on your knees. You have spent the last six months crawling around on the floor, phone sex, sending pics, and in some cases videos.

This is not a bad reflection of you , you have done nothing wrong, you are just trying to please. This is a normal reaction for a Submissive.

So you are going to meet a new Dominant for the first time. Listen I am not talking out of my ass, I am speaking as a male a Dominant and a owner of a Slave.

Do not let him tell you what to wear. You wear what you feel comfortable wearing. You never session on the first meeting, after all this is your first time meeting. A real Dominant would never expect you to do so anyway. There are signs but you ignore them, you know there are signs but you still ignore. This is the time you take a breather , clear your head, gather your thoughts.

You meet someone for the first time you go to a hotel, he ties you up blindfolds you, guess what ? You are fair game, he is going to do what ever he wants, and he will say fuck your limits. Think about that, you can get really fucked up. You are not going to call anyone, you are not going to call the police and tell them this dude had you tied up.

If your in a relationship and it goes south, and you are clueless, you did nothing wrong. You did not know just like the ones before you did not know.

When you first meet you the Submissive has to set guidelines down. You got his number you should be able to call when you want, you should be able to text when you want, and expect a return text in a timely manner. You should know where he works, what kind of work he does. You should know his address where he lives. He should invite you out with his friends. You should be able to go to his house at any giving time. If the answer to any of these is no, you have a problem on your hand.

Here we go again I cannot get over married men who stray from their wife, because she wont do anal, or suck cock. So he finds someone who will. Some do not care if someone is married, and that is okay, if you are willing to spend your birthdays alone, Christmas alone, thanksgiving along and never spend time on vacations. If you are good with this more power to you.

If you are emotional , or you stress easy, your Dominant should step in with a plan of action, take control and fix the problem. The Dominant should show great patience , and the desire to work through any situation that may come up. Your Dominant should never yell at you, he should never call you names out of anger. The Dominant is always in control.

If any of the above is happening to you or has happened, it is not your fault. You were just one of the unlucky ones that met a Dick Head.

So put your shoes on, kick the dirt and move on.

I am here to tell the truth , I have no reason to lie to you or mislead you. Again I have been in the lifestyle for a very long time, I am married to my Slave, and very happy.

A Dominant will have a plan of action when he meets you, he will have goals for you, he will want to see improvement, he will want to guide you.

Rules are meant to help, rules are meant to guide you. Rule number 1. You must worship my cock. How is this going to help you ? On the other side of the coin every Dominant is different, every Dominant has different goal, and some do not even have goals.

So what kind of Slave are you going to be or what kind of Slave do you want to be. A Slave who is used for service? A Sex Slave ? the list really goes on and on. You have to be you, and you have to be upfront about who you are and what your needs are.

Be careful about what you share with someone, start out with small bits and pieces , you do not want to lay your whole life out on the table to someone you have known for a couple of months. In the end if the relationship goes south, this is all ammunition to be used against you. Take great care in what you share.

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Slaves Then And Now

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, Consensual, Depressed, DNA, Dominants, forced sex slaves, Genetics, human trafficking, In Service Slave, Local events, MAST, Master, Roman Slaves, serve, sex, sex slaves, sex trade, slave, submissive, Total Slavery on October 7, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Friday night Arianna and I attended the local monthly Mast. MASTERS AND SLAVES TOGETHER. Mast is nation wide with about twenty five thousand members.

The topic was how we differ from Roman times and now, which I found very interesting. The Slaves in Roman times really had no say. Very few were ever released. If released the age was around thirty, back then that was the average life span.

Slavery had began way before the Roman era , we today are really not sure when slavery started, but at times while in Slavery, it was common for the females slaves to have children, even start family’s while husband and wife were slaves. Some slaves lived from generation to generation.

Okay I am sure you know where I am going with this. Some slaves lived in slavery from generation to generation. Some slaves were highly educated, not all were used just for manual labor. Some were teachers, some were book keepers, and some even ran the house. Some had children to carry on a family name.

Then we got off on the subject of DNA and genetics , how certain traits are passed from generation to generation. So why could not someone be born a submissive or a Slave. After all People are born Gay. So why would this be impossible.

Some know they are different at a very young age, while others are in their late 20’s , 30’s even 40’s and sometimes older. There is something that sets off an event. There is something that clicks in their mind. Then the research starts and they dig and dig for information until the answer is found.

Maybe my thoughts are getting pretty wild here, but it is a fact many who are submissives and slaves have a lot in common, not all mind you I said most. I have blogged about the most common things, number one being depression.

Slaves in the Roman times after sometime adjusted to their lifestyle, many were happy in their roles, Not so sure about the manual labor slaves. I am talking mostly the in house service slaves.

There were those used for sexual pleasure as well, nothing more and nothing less. The slaves for the most were well cared for, some when it came time to be released did not want to leave. Why leave if that is the only life you have known.

Today a small percentage of Master and Slave is what you would call consensual. A large percentage are those sold into the slave trade unwillingly , and are most likely doomed and will never see freedom again, from children to adults.

Those who serve willingly could it be genetics ? Could it be hidden away in ones DNA ?

I think of some pretty wild stuff.

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To Add Another Slave

Posted in Arianna, Ass, bdsm, blow job, communication, control, Dominants, In Service Slave, Master, Open Minded, oral sex, owning a slave, Polyamory, pussy, sex, sex slaves, slave, submissive, Triad on July 25, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have posted about this before but I think I will word it different, maybe I can make some sense of it when one needs more than one slave.

Only in the BDSM lifestyle could a Dominant sit his slave down and say hey I would like to add another girl, okay well maybe in a vanilla if the female is that open minded but I think more so in a D’s relationship more so in an M’s relationship.

While it is true in a Gorean house most Master do have multiple slaves, but the difference being Gorean slaves are more service orientated and less sexual. Every Slave has task to complete through out the day. Even cooking each Slave has their own duty so everyone does their part , each is responsible for a dish, even after dinner each has their own clean up.

A D’s or M’s relationship is much different for what ever reason, maybe because most connect BDSM with sex, which it is not suppose to be based on sex, but everyone has their own idea on how a relationship should be ran.

Adding another to a D’s or M’s relationship should be something that both agree on, it should be something that both want. . If your a Dominant and your relationship is running smoothly but then you get this idea hey I want another Slave, you could very well fuck up a good thing, your Slave may speak like she is receptive to your brain storm, and the idea that your excited over, deep inside your Slave is fuming.

If you sit back and look and you think you have the perfect Slave but then you want to add another, even though your Slave agrees deep inside the Slave will feel inadequate , the Slave will feel like they are not good enough, like they can no longer please.

The other thing is your Slave could say sure you can have another but I am out of here do want you want. You cannot stop them from leaving. They could agree and still want want a third but will stick around because they need the structure and guidance, and at that point and time a secure home.

To me a reason to add another Slave would be to take some of the load off of your Slave, you can overload someone with to much responsibility causing a crash. Most think of a Slave as a house keeper, cook, and then sex.

Under the right circumstances I may at some point consider another Slave, I just cannot think of a valid reason. I get anything I want and then some. I take up some of the slack at times, I cook sometimes, I try to pickup behind myself. It is not Arianna place to pick up my socks. I am not even sure if Arianna brought up the idea I would be open to the subject.

So the Dom wants to add another, you know a M’s relationship is much different than a vanilla. A Dom get a M’s relationship gets anything they want without question. Pussy is Pussy, Ass is Ass.

If one Slave was going to be used for more service taking a load off of your Slave that may be somewhat different, in that sense that just might be a relief to your Slave, but to bring one in just because you need more flavor, you could really fuck up a good thing. You can yell and scream all you want as they are walking out the door, then your back to square one. You still only have one slave.

I am not even sure if I would want the responsibility of two, one is really a handful then to add another I just don’t know like I said the circumstances would have to be right, and I do not know what would change my mind.

You like watching girl on girl, yea nothing hotter than watching a chick go down on another, while my slave is really not into women if it was something I wanted she would, but why would I want to force something that is not really wanted.

If you do want to add another, it is up to the Dom to find another Slave not your Slave. The Dom should take on this task. In personal adds you see Doms looking for another but in his post he has pics of his Slave. Very very tacky.

Meeting the second should not be about sex. You should allow the two to get to know each other, become friends, hangouts , shop together. It is very important the two get along.

If all three agree to such a relationship you sit down and talk about how things are going to be. This sounds harsh but needs to be said. You are number two, you will always be number two nothing will change that, if you try to come between you are on the outside looking in. Then and only then if the third agrees you can step forward.

If your current Slave works full time and your wanting to take some weight off of their shoulders that could be a valid reason, or you as the Dom could step up and give a helping hand.

On the other side what if your Slave who is female wanted another male to become the third, the Dom would go nuts. There is noway he would allow such a thing, but we tend to look at things one sided.

Think very hard before adding a third, you could fuck up a good thing or it could be awesome. Do you want to take that chance.

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In Service Slave

Posted in 24/7, bdsm, Beatings, Dominants, In Service Slave, oral, oral sex, relationships, session, sex, sex slaves, slave, Spanking, submissive on July 17, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

BDSM has so many levels and kinks I seriously doubt I could explain everyone of them. If you were to look at it like a family tree you could not count the branches.  Although BDSM has been around for Hundred’s of years maybe longer dating back to the Romans, the Viking era, there has always been service slaves.

A Slave who is truly willing gives up all rights, makes no decisions, and is loyal to one, the Slaves Owner. That is really heavy if you think about it.

Now before you go judging I stated above that there are many different levels of BDSM, many different kinks, and fetishes. I may not understand the dynamics of someones relationship but I respect what they have.

Some have little to no rules, some have no protocol at all. To some it is just about sex and nothing more. To some it is about sneaking out while the spouse is at home and hooking up with another to get your kinks on.

Then there is the other side. The strict, the rules, the protocols. to some these are needs not wants. I run my life off of a need system, once my needs are met then I look into my wants. I want a 1978 Camaro Z28 with a 4 speed, but it is not a need. We did need new transportation so we bought Arianna a new car, that was a need. She drives it daily I do not, but when I drive it I do have fun the Fiat 500 is an awesome car. That was a need, I was looking out for Arianna.

We have rules that are followed, we have times certain things are done, bath time, bedtime , getting up and so on. Everything I have put into place has a purpose, nothing is meaningless.

I handle everything without question, that is what I agreed to do, Somethings are on a need to know basis. Our house runs smoothly, no arguing , no drama, no stress. It is my job as a Husband and Master to insure all of the above goes as planned. On my days off I take Arianna out, maybe to eat, a local munch, we went to a few night clubs a couple of weeks ago, but when I am off I take care of her needs. Now this is on top of my work, I work at 50+ hour week, so I do get tired.

An In Service Slave in my house is mainly sexual, some bondage, light play spanking, cage time which Arianna loves, so using the cage for punishment is out of the question.

Before Arianna met me she had been with a few other Dominants, all were based on not only stress, but consisted of some kind of pain, be it punishment or just play. One time Arianna was bruised so bad it was about two weeks before everything cleared up.

So we take out the pain aspect of the D’s and M’s part of the relationship. I have spanked Arianna once. Spanking is not something I normally do as a form of punishment, but I wanted her to know it is there for my use. I can tell you she did not enjoy at all.

I call it in service, I do help out around the house, I do a lot of the cooking, I am not much on laundry but if I see Arianna is getting over loaded, I will step in. My coffee is ready in the am with my cup in place I hit the button. Once done I prepare two cups one for me one for Arianna. my Dinner is placed before me. She does not start to eat until I have taking the first bite.

Sex when and how I want it, although I love head I seldom have to ask, because she is the first to ask. Arianna sleeps nude just for that purpose. If I wake and want to hit it, to just get off that is what I do.

When it comes to sex the word no never comes out of her mouth, it is for my taking when and where I desire. After I shower I am dried off. I like that, that was not something I requested she just did it. While I am in the shower Arianna kneels by the tube, again this was something she felt she had to do.

If you are true the slave just comes out, without thinking. You as a slave or submissive , you already know what to do it is just being allowed to be yourself.

This type of relationship works for some, while some it does not

If those of you who are submissive could truly learn to release everything and give yourself fully. Your relationship would be so much different. I am not saying this is for everyone because it is not. To experience total bliss and not having a worry in the world all things would be good.

To be able to release to give yourself 100% knowing the one your with is going to take care of you and only you. What more could one ask for?

Vile

So You Want To Be A Slave

Posted in 128 Basic rules, 24/7, abuse, Advice, bdsm, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, Discipline, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fantasy, Giving Head, Love, Master, Masters, Molding, molding your slave, Open Minded, oral, oral sex, Patience, pleasure, poly, Punishment, relationships, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, serve, sex, sex slaves, slave, Spanking, submissive, sucking dick, Total Slavery, TPE, training your slave, your own pet on March 21, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I did not write this article , it gives you the first glimpse into a slaves transition, into the life of a slave. I did email her to ask If I may use but the mail was returned as an account that had been expired but will still give her all the credit where it is due.

The truth be known many women, dream of the chance to be able to give up full control. Many women dream of being controlled, being used for ones pleasure, but you have the communication problem.

Many men for what ever reason shy away from such a relationship, and many look at it as a form of abuse. I posed the question to a guy I know. What if you could just snap your fingers and a bitch would drop to her knees to suck your cock? His answer was no. What about a relationship where you are in complete control, and there is no arguing. His answer was no.

There are a few of you who email Arianna on a regular basis. She will tell you in the five months we have known each other and been together we have never had an argument, I have never raised my voice towards her. In five months I have only punished her twice, one was corner time, and although I do not generally spank for punishment, I felt it was needed, so I spanked her while she was completing a task. With each movement she felt the belt across her ass unto she was finished. I do not like to punish, I truly feel bad, and somewhat guilty. I believe as long as you have strong communication, and the Dominant stays consistent punishment is not needed. When I explain something I go into great detail, not leaving any doors closed so the slave has a full understanding of what I expect.

So you step into the life of a slave. This should be a slow moving transition. We begin by implementing a few rules. Such as bath time, bed time, If you impose to many rules at once you can cause a crash. What we want is for the slave to excel. If you had the slave 128 rules, you are setting her up for failure. Thus all your work is down the drain and you have to start at the beginning  again.

You must take the time out to get to know the slave, her likes and dislike, food, drinks, favorite colors, her clothes, which you will probably change.

When out to eat, the first thing you do is order her food, do not ask what the slave wants just order, the same with the drink. You are slowly taking freedom away. You are slowly taking the control the slave once had.

You may want to pick a hair style, a hair color, new nail polish if any, lipstick. You are now molding a slave to fit your needs be it domestic or sexual.

This is something I have never understood. I have a very good friend who is a Dom, his magic number for slaves to live with him is four. Why would one need four. You find one slave you have a lot in common with, and you mold her to fit your needs. Dress, cook, clean, how you like your cock sucked, how you like to fuck. Someone you have awesome communication with. Why would you need more than one? The thing about the lifestyle is everyone is different, and we all have different needs or is it just ego?

I myself being in a micromanaged relationship I do not have time for another, all of my time is consumed with one. On the other hand my rewards are well I cannot even begin to explain. Although sex is not on top of the list it is there for my taking.  When and where and how I want it no questions asked.

I wish I had wrote this article it is really good, I hope you enjoy it…

So You Want To Be A Slave: The Realities
By miria hunter
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I decided to write this article because I have seen so many submissives come into the lifestyle expecting everything to be dream-like and perfect. I don’t wish to ruin anyone’s dreams, or turn them from the activity, but what I wish to do is to explain how things really are. Being a slave can be, and is for me, a wonderful life. It’s everything I wanted it to be. It is also more than I ever expected, and had someone explained the realities to me prior to my decision, it would have made my transition so much easier. For the purpose of this article, I am addressing issues related to being a 24/7 slave. These comments are from my viewpoint, which is that of a female slave with a male Master. By no means do I wish to exclude Domme’s or male slaves. For them, I cannot comment from personal experience. This is just my view from a real-time experience.

First, there are a few things you need to discover for and about yourself. Do you wish to be in this type relationship 24/7? Perhaps you only wish to be in it during the scenes. Maybe you want to role-play at only during certain times. There are many ways this activity can be done, but you have to figure out what is right for you.

Second, you need to learn to be honest with yourself. Figure out what you will and will not do, and what is a “maybe”. Search inside yourself for what you really want, and when you find it, be honest to anyone you talk to. Don’t agree to something long-term that you know you will not be able accomplish. Ask yourself some hard questions. The rest of this article will give you aspects to contemplate so you can base your decisions on reality, and not someone else’s dreams of how it should be.

Are you prepared to surrender 100% control of your life to someone else? 24/7 slaves do this. Role-playing would mean entering into this relationship only for the time agreed upon that the Master would have the total control. Once the scene is over, everything returns to normal.

Do you enjoy country music? Maybe you love Rock and Roll. Consider this. The Master who’s collar you will eventually wear, may only like classical or another type of music that you don’t enjoy. Are you prepared to give up those selections and only listen to His music? This type sacrifice can apply to many other things you currently enjoy. For myself, I love old love songs of any type, and my Master is into Hard Rock. Because of His preferences, I rarely get to listen to my songs. But, when I am a good girl, at times, He does permit me to listen to my choice of music, as long as I get my assigned tasks and chores done. Note, I said, “permitted to”. Something as simple as listening to the radio is a reward for me. It is not a given that you will be permitted to enjoy even this little pleasure whenever you wish. These limitations can apply to many areas of your life such as TV, choices of food or friends, just about anywhere anything! Is there a certain style of clothes you love? Certain colors and scents you wouldn’t be caught without? If your Master doesn’t approve of them, you may be wearing a totally different style with colors you never would have dreamed of. He may lay your clothes out for you every morning. Are you prepared to abide happily by His choices? If He asked you to wear something very skimpy to someplace simple like the grocery store, could you do this without hesitation? I am lucky in the fact that my Master lets me chose my own clothes most of the time. But at anytime, should He decide that He wants me to wear something else, I am to change immediately. Trust me, He does exercise this right. I have learned to always ask Him what He would like me to wear if we are going someplace special.

Are you prepared to change your hairstyle, length, or color to please your Master? All of these will belong to Him once you accept your collar as will everything else that once belonged to you. You will no longer own anything. From the time you take His collar, everything will be His. It will no longer be “your” car or “your” clothes, but “His”, on loan to you as He sees fit. If He should so choose, you will not be permitted to wear clothes at all. This will be HIS choice, not yours. Remember, you will have given up all rights to make these choices for yourself.

You have a favorite chair, or a certain way you like to sit or walk? Your Master will decide whether you sit on furniture or on the floor. He will have the say if you are to cross your legs, or sit with them spread wide-open. You will have to ask permission to even climb into bed, or sit on a chair. Most slaves are allowed a cushion on the floor that they do not need permission to sit upon, but very little else. You will even need permission to eat at the table with your Master.

It’s been a long hard day at work. You get home and want nothing more than to relax in a tub and go to bed early. Well, you won’t be able to. Being tired, ill, or just in a bad mood does not excuse you from your required tasks. You are still required to do them: prepare His meal, and go to bed when HE tells you to. Retiring for bed usually occurs at a set time, even if you are not ready to go. There will not be an “I am too tired” or “I don’t feel well”: nothing of the kind. Unless your Master has excused you from your tasks and chores, you will remain responsible for making sure His needs and wants are filled: no matter what. It is your job to inform your Master of your physical health status. One of your main jobs will be to take care of and protect, His possessions. You being are the most prized one He owns. As long as you let your Master know how you are feeling, He will make sure that your tasks will be appropriate to your capabilities.

Many come into this lifestyle looking to be used sexually, to service their Master at His whim. They never consider other aspects. The main part of being a slave is to be of service to your Master, and not to be serviced for yourself. However, being readily available to Him at ALL times is also an unspoken expectation. The old excuse “not tonight dear, I have a headache” doesn’t work in a D/s relationship. In order to provide Him pleasure, you must also express to Him the pleasure of the moment for you as well. NEVER make your Master feel this is a chore to you: something you would rather not do, but will only because you have to. If your Master tells you to do something, it will not be up to you to question Him. You will be required to respond with no questions asked. At a later time (if this is permitted in your relationship), you may ask Him for permission to speak on an equal level. If He gives permission, this will be your opportunity to ask your questions. However, it is important to ask in a way so as not to question His authority, but at the same time to satisfy your curiosity.

Do you feel being a slave is to be coerced: forced into servitude? Do you think you couldn’t do this unless you were? Then think again. Slaves enter into this relationship of their own free will. This is not the day of forced slavery; it is a matter of choice. YOURS! You are the one who will decide to give over your power to your Master. You will be doing this, not because you are forced to obey, but because you need to. Yes, during the course of your relationship there will be times you will be forced to do something, but it will never be something that goes against who you are. Your Master may feel obeying this command will help you to grow into the best person you can be, or will help you break out of an inhibition you have.

How is your temper? Are you quick to fly off-of-the-handle when you are upset? Or are you laid back, accepting anything and everything, and then go off to sulk because your feelings were hurt? A Master does not wish to have a doormat for a slave nor does He desire to be told how things should be. Learning when and how to say things will become very important in your relationship. If you do not tell your Master when something is bothering you, then you have no right whatsoever to become upset. However wonderful and omnipotent He may seem, He is not a mind reader: unless you tell Him, He won’t know. The key, as I said a moment ago, is in how you tell Him.

Your self-discipline is very important in this relationship. Do you tend to put things off until the last possible moment? You won’t be able to do this when you are owned. There will be chores and tasks your Master will assign that He expects to be done in a timely fashion set by Him, not by you. Your Master’s wants and needs will be put before your own. Self-discipline is similar to self-control. Your ability to follow complete assignments made by your Master will be very important. As a slave, you will need to be able to control your own actions well enough to be able to remain within the boundaries set for you by Him. If He says you can’t do something, simply, you can’t. Doing it anyway, and not telling Him doesn’t make it right. In the case of a Master/slave relationship, what you don’t know CAN hurt you, as well as the relationship you have worked so hard to build. Even a simple “white lie” can destroy the trust so necessary to really establish this type relationship.

As to wants and needs of your own: do you know the difference between the two? If not, I strongly recommend you figure them out before entering into servitude. Sometimes the two are hard to distinguish, but it will become important that you do so. Your Master will ensure all your “needs” are taken care of, but the “wants” will be His to allow or not, as He sees fit. Needs are the necessities of life that are required in order for us to remain mentally and physically healthy. They allow us to grow emotionally and spiritually. If you can survive without something, then it is a want. Wants are usually given as a reward for good behavior.

In order to be a slave, there will be many things you have to learn to accept within yourself and adapt to. Your primary purpose in life will be to see to your Masters pleasure (both mentally and physically) in any manner He should desire. In order to do this, you will have to learn your Master well. Find out what pleases and displeases Him. By this, I do not mean just sexually. You will learn that sex is but a small part of your relationship. Learn to anticipate His every need and desire without being pushy. His needs and desires will encompass intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other things unique to Him. Remember – physical does not equal sexual. Physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touch, favorite foods, textures, clothing, and colors as examples. It will be your job to make sure His physical pleasures are met in everyway. Think of the five senses, and make His environment pleasing to all of them. Never forget – the most pleasing thing in His environment should be you.

As His slave, it will be up to you to figure out what pleases your Master. He should not have to ask constantly for the basic things – you should have learned them. If His glass is empty, quietly and unobtrusively refill it. Remember, you are doing this for His pleasure not your own. Just because He does not notice and praise you doesn’t mean you are doing it wrong. Look at His smile. Is He comfortable? If He looks happy and content, then you have done well, and should bask in His content. Always remember that you do this for Him and not for your own satisfaction. Your happiness should come from serving Him and His being happy.

As I said in the beginning of this article, I am not trying to scare you away from the world of D/s. My goal is to make sure that, when you enter our lifestyle, you do so with your eyes wide open, fully knowing what to expect. The road will not be an easy one. You will have to re-learn much of what you once took for granted: things you just did without thinking, like simply sitting in a chair. These are habits we never even think about anymore. That is, until we find a Master.

Everything else you learned before reading this article is probably true. Being a slave is a wonderful life: one where you are taken care of. Most decisions are out of your hands and in those of your Masters. But, many choices will still be left up to you. Most Masters want a slave who is smart, has a sense of humor, and a will of their own. There is no pleasure in owning a doormat who just sits or is only walked upon. He will become bored very fast. Being yourself is the best advice I was given, and I have found this to be absolutely true for me.

You will find being a slave everything you dreamed of and so much more if you enter this life knowing more of what to expect. If you are meant to be in the lifestyle, you will find that, where you were once only walked through life, you will be gliding on air. Parts of you that never were complete will then become whole. In relinquishing control, I have found freedom: freedom to find and be the person I am inside.

It is my hope that, after reading this article, you will be able to make a more informed choice about entering this lifestyle. Never forget that, one of the most important requirements for existing in this lifestyle is honesty. Honesty with yourself first. However, you will find that this is not as easy as it sounds. Once you learn to do this, you will find yourself at peace and able to enter your servitude with clearer mind, knowing where you are and where you want to be. When you accept your Masters collar, you give up all your rights. Your friends, your life – nothing will remain yo urs. Being a slave means giving up so much more than you would if you were only being submissive. You give up all rights in your life. Slave isn’t just a word; it’s a way of life, a defined action. Be well, my friend, and I hope you enjoy this lifestyle as much as I have come to love being in it.

Rick’s miria

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