Humiliation is Needed

Yes indeed I do believe humiliation is needed to a certain extent, and I will explain why… The D’s relationship is based on a consensual power exchange, both come to an agreement, on what level of Domination and submission each will take on.

Usually when the relationship is just blooming, the submissive has a long list of hard limits, they can be minor to down right stupid, but hey it is the Dominant who has to deal with it.

I have only been with one submissive in my 20 yrs, wait two, the second was a total disaster . It was like I am submissive but only on my terms, man fuck that. In 20 years I have had 5 slaves all long term. When I say slave that is just what I mean, out of those 5 I have been in what one would call true love once, and it will probably never happen again, and I could really careless. It does not mean I would not care for, but love fuck that.

I do not expect everyone to agree with me, and I have lost some followers over my post, which I think is really fucked up, because if you did not like my post why follow me. Or you complain about my language , or how I talk down about women, which is far from the truth. I truly do respect women, I am me and that is not going to change, but after all these complaints, some still read my post, like it does not show up in the stats DUH.

Humiliation is needed for a couple of reasons, I am going to use the word slave, to me a submissive is just in the lifestyle for the kink. not all the time, just most.

While in a D’s relationship the slave tends to become somewhat Lax in the relationship, in order to keep her in her place, some form of humiliation is needed, be it a facial, or my favorite. Putting her in the bathtub on her knees, make her look up at me, and you guessed, start in her hair and down her face just letting it flow. Remove all the towels from the bathroom, and walk out while she tries to figure out what to do at this point.

You then hand her a hair dryer, tell her to fix her hair, do not wash your face, no water at all. Once her hair is done you instruct her to get dressed, and you take her out to eat, with urine still all over her face and in her hair.

Some think humiliation is not needed, or it is abuse. What is being done is, you are reminding the slave of her place, you are reminding her that you are not equal, in any shape or form. She is the bitch in the relationship..

You have her prepare dinner, once finished, when she starts to fix the dinner plates, you stop her, the Dominant grabs a bowl, puts her food in it, with no silverware, she places your food on the table, you put her on the floor, she can use her hands, or just her mouth. Again she is not equal.

I once had a slave walk into a 7/11 with a 12 inch vibrator, and stand in line holding it so people could see it, when she got up to the counter, she asked the clerk if she had batteries for it. Again the slave is not equal.

One time I took her to Mcdonalds , we ordered the food, I gave her money to pay for it, when she was going through her purse she was pulling things out and laying on the counter trying to find her wallet, you guessed it the 12in vibrator hit the counter, and we ate in… Again she is not equal.

Humiliation is needed at some point and time. Now if your slave has issues from the past, you may need to take a different avenue, you do not want to cause more damage.

We are not about abuse, it is a committed loving, consensual relationship, where each knows there place. We as Dominants are responsible for the well being of our property, not only emotionally, but physical.

A few years ago and Master and his slave came over for dinner, I could tell she was not happy with company coming over. she has somewhat of an attitude, it was cutting into our play time. I had her shower,once she dried off, I picked up a black marker, I wrote whore on her forehead, on her upper lip I wrote, insert cock here, and just above her cunt I wrote Vile’s fuck hole. On her back just above her ass I wrote Vile’s other fuck hole. She served dinner and ate, and we set down after dinner and talked, and she remained nude, while we were all dressed. Catch another attitude.

I like to have her shower, fix her hair, put makeup on, have her lay on the bed, on her back, head hanging off the edge, I straddle her face put my cock in, and face fuck her, not letting her swallow anything, so everything runs down her face and onto the floor. Once I dump my cum down her throat, I make her clean up the mess she made on the floor, then I march her in the bathroom, so she can look at her pretty face…

Once during Bike week here, I bought her a plaid skirt that just barely covered her ass, white knee high socks, put her in pig tails, inserted a butt plug in her ass. Saturday around noon, main street in Daytona was in full swing. Before we got out of the car I put a collar and leash on her , and walked her down main street. From time to time I would drop something and make her bend over and pick it up, so everybody could see she wore no panties, and she had a butt plug in her ass…. That was truly a Kodak moment..

At times I do get off on humiliation…

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20 Responses to “Humiliation is Needed”

  1. southernbarbie Says:

    Ok…didn’t see this but we did now…awww thats so nasty to pee on her face. I guess if she agreed to it thats a thing to look at. Do you ask her if you can just do something like that or is it all your choice? Do you accidently make them cry, I mean it can be all agree on but it can still hurt emotions. I get thier is trust but is also fear? Fear that she likes to feel because the one causing fear is alos making her feel safe. I’m just curoius why their needs to be humiliation. I know I won’t fully get it because I’m not a sub but the only think I ever done to hurt someone in public is call them a name. I guess it’s kind of the same. So after the humiliation you comfort her. Is it like a cycle?

    • Yea really not my bag, every submissive or slave has needs. The truth Brit most submissives or slaves were abused as a child, molested, or even raped. At a certain point in their life something triggers their emotions, and the sub in them comes out.
      The key is trying to find a dominant who will not abuse them,and someone they can come to trust.
      The awesome part about BDSM Brit is the open communication, being about to talk about anything and not being made fun of, someone who understand the needs.
      After care is very important, this is holding and talking, sometimes I even bath.
      The relationship is really based on positive reinforcement

      • southernbarbie Says:

        Aw that is sad that most of them go thru that, and Im sure none of them had professional doctor help. Even that does not always work Im going to college for that but Everything is a disorder according to Psychology. You can tell a woman its not her fault but deep down she will blame herself, wonder what she did. Its proven fact that a jury on a rape case is usually men, men who are close with their mother, married, and have daughters. You have a woman on that jury and she is judgjng the girl. Very sad indeed because the victim could be anyone. But a woman will say she did something to get raped, she must have been out to late, must have led the man on, she will compare herself to the victim. To make it to where she would never become a victim. I learned that most rape women will have an orgasm during it, it’s painful Im sure but most question why is their pleasure. They can feel dirty with themselves and you cant talk openly with another woman. So you turn to a man and I can see where the sub would come out. Strawdogs is a show that made women question many things. Well if she’s not reliving it and if their is care after then its ok. I do see why people say its abuse, even thiugh you did make it clear thru every post its not. I dont see it as abuse because your not trying to just hurt the girl. Your causing pain but pleasure. She may enjoy the pain but she agrees to it. Ppl say its abuse because of the cycle. Positive and negative. They say its not normal but what is normal? You look at history and women had no choice, they had to submit. They were property first by their fathers then their husbands. That was normal back then. Then women fought back which I respect, they made it possible for women to become equals. Thats was not normal for a while. I think, I could be wrong but my thoughts are yall live in the old time period. Men were in charge and women were not. But yall have a modren twist on it that makes it much better than the history, it’s agreement. Like with me I can want full control but i will have 99% of it, because it is natrual for me and a woman to take a step back for a man to lead. Do I like it no, but I do fall into that trap once a blue moon. I say their is equal but to be honest it’s really not, yall have higher pay we get away with a lot more. It’s fair. But I do know if we had to live all by your lifestyle or the old way. I would be screwed. See you would have to show me hailey how to be a D because we would not be sub.

      • If you want to see clear abuse look at my Domestic Discipline

      • southernbarbie Says:

        You just gave me the perfect idea. I already talked to Prof. Narby on FB and he said apporved. A girl no name is in my classes and she had talked about domestic violence and BSMD was in her report. Well we have to do a debate and I asked my professor if I can support BSMD and prove its not abuse. While noname girl will say its abuse. A debate with facts and the class picks who had evidence to back up their statement. Im trying to see because I would never do it so the class will have to look at no experince in that department. Idk, challenge so I may do it. Idk I may change to something else.

      • I would never do it so the class will have to look at no experince in that department. Idk, challenge so I may do it. Idk I may change to something else.
        I do believe the blonde in you just came out.
        BDSM is not abuse. Lets say I dated what I call a vanilla girl, which I do often. I would never push anything on them, nor does the topic even come up.
        A dominant male is in control, always in control, never shows anger, never yells or argues. He protects his girl.
        The abusive male is controlling , jealous, wont let you go someplace by yourself, and so on.
        You picked a good topic

  2. Although I am well just a tad on the kinky side. I am not about the abuse of women, no matter their lifestyle.
    I have never raised my hand to a woman out of anger.
    There is really no reason to argue. To avoid it just think before you speak. Count to 10. It takes time to train yourself, but in the end you will feel so much better

    • I hope I did not upset you

      • southernbarbie Says:

        Nope. Takes a lot to get me mad.

      • I will help you with your project if you want. The fact is there are about 20 million people in the lifestyle world wide.
        A submissive is easy to spot in public, take walking in a mall, one will never make full eye contact, or when you pass her eyes will drop, to avoid making eye contact, or when you are speaking, again no eye contact.
        A dominant in public is very quite, he walks with a positive attitude, he is secure.
        With his submissive in public she will either hold on to his belt, or walk a step behind.
        You never know who might be in the lifestyle, anyone in class could be, or the prude neighbor next door….

    • southernbarbie Says:

      Yes it did come out, bad part it came out when I read your reply..I was so lost because you put what I put. I know my books but thats it. I mean this the girl who put aluminum foil in the microwave…I forgot you couldnt do that, when the flames came I was like crap. My boss was pissed. And I’ve done and said worst things then that.

      Well I may do it, but this noname chick is being stupid I just texted her and she dont want me to do it. So I will do it just to show her she’s wrong. If it’s done right then its safe right?

      If you dont argue then their is no make-up sex. I mean I been in an arguement where natrually the guy towers over me but it takes a lot for me to back down. Usually it stops quickly but we dont do it infront of our daughter. Even though she is just a baby we dont. Were never loud its more hateful talking in the bedroom where we are honest. I never seen my mom or dad fight which is wierd because my fiance grew up with that. Idk why didnt I mean my parents are far from perfect because I seen my mom pissed but never spoke about it. But the next day she would be fine. My dad did run the household, but Im the close to him more than my sisters. Guess it goes by how your raised. Idk.

  3. southernbarbie Says:

    Wow that’s a good bit of people in it and I would have never known with the body language. Well now I’m trying to see if people I know do that. I know the eye thing would be annoying because I hate when someone does not look at me directly. It’s a pet peeve, it’s like you can tell a lie in the eye..So a sub can’t look the D in the eyes? The way you talk about a D walking reminds me of like authority…so he walks with authority…I like that lol. The question that will be asked for me is why can’t they walk on the side of the male. Also could a woman be a D and a male be a sub.

    So where would I fall in your lifestyle category, beside vanilla. I’m wondering if I have a submissive bone in my body.

    • In the D’s lifestyle a female is called a Domme, or a Mistress, yes there are male subs and slaves.
      As I stated before there are many levels of D’s some do not allow contact while some do. We follow a strict protocol with in the community.
      A female walks behind out of respect and is part of protocol.
      Every woman is submissive, well except like a bull dyke.
      Yes in general every woman is. It just takes the right male to bring it out.
      Here is the key, a male dominant, gets inside the subs head, he knows her inside out,he knows what she is going to say before she speaks. When she speaks it is always out of respect.
      You were speaking about what would happen if one broke a rule.
      The only time a submissive would even think about breaking a rule, is if she is not getting the attention she think she deserves
      .

      • southernbarbie Says:

        Ok so how strict are you? On a scale 1-5 …..Well I don’t think a D could get inside my head, also half the time I don’t know if my comment will come off bitch and dry or sweet. If I’m just talking what comes to my mind will come out my mouth. Like lets say I was with a D and we were in a room full of people. And a girl was dressed a way I thought was trashy It would be obvious in my face. It’s a habit. If I didn’t like lets say the D’s friend out of habit I would walk away. Let say I’m mad at the D, idk what would come out my mouth and I would not want a punishment I would want to be left alone. Privacy is what I would want if I broke a ‘rule’. Maybe I’m a bull dyke even though I don’t think I look like a man, I hope not gosh that would be gross….or maybe I would have to be with an iron fist D hahaha,

        And a sub can walk away anytime…what are usually the rules, and they both have to agree. Lets say you have a rule and a sub agree but a month later she don’t like that rule because she keep breaking it. Could it change?

    • In the D’s lifestyle a female is called a Domme, or a Mistress, yes there are male subs and slaves.
      As I stated before there are many levels of D’s some do not allow contact while some do. We follow a strict protocol with in the community.
      A female walks behind out of respect and is part of protocol.
      Every woman is submissive, well except like a bull dyke.
      Yes in general every woman is. It just takes the right male to bring it out.
      Here is the key, a male dominant, gets inside the subs head, he knows her inside out,he knows what she is going to say before she speaks. When she speaks it is always out of respect.
      You were speaking about what would happen if one broke a rule.
      The only time a submissive would even think about breaking a rule, is if she is not getting the attention she think she deserves
      . Then she would break a rule just to get attention.

      • southernbarbie Says:

        I think we did a double post.

        Ok so how strict are you? On a scale 1-5 …..Well I don’t think a D could get inside my head, also half the time I don’t know if my comment will come off bitch and dry or sweet. If I’m just talking what comes to my mind will come out my mouth. Like lets say I was with a D and we were in a room full of people. And a girl was dressed a way I thought was trashy It would be obvious in my face. It’s a habit. If I didn’t like lets say the D’s friend out of habit I would walk away. Let say I’m mad at the D, idk what would come out my mouth and I would not want a punishment I would want to be left alone. Privacy is what I would want if I broke a ‘rule’. Maybe I’m a bull dyke even though I don’t think I look like a man, I hope not gosh that would be gross….or maybe I would have to be with an iron fist D hahaha,

        And a sub can walk away anytime…what are usually the rules, and they both have to agree. Lets say you have a rule and a sub agree but a month later she don’t like that rule because she keep breaking it. Could it change?

  4. On a scale from 1 to 5 probably a 5. Here is the thing before two enter on to a relationship, the two sit down and talk, and both go over their needs, if they come to an agreement, they continue. The At that time the Dominant lays out his guidelines I call I do not like the rule word, and protocol.

    A submissive would never disrespect her dominant in public, so that is not even something to talk about it just would not happen. If there was something she did not like, or wanted to voice her opinion it would be when they were alone.

    It just so happens some males and females are co-dependent. Like someone who has come off of drugs they go to drug or Alcoholics Anonymous. They need those meetings.
    So the submissive or the slave needs structure in their life, and the dominant is there just for that.
    Being co-dependent in a lot of ways is not good, unless they are long term. Most Dom and sub couples are for life. The bond is like no other.

    A submissive would never change her mind. The only time this would happen is with someone new to the lifestyle and just checking it out, but for the most a submissive or slave has the need to please, that is where they get their gratification from.

    • southernbarbie Says:

      I’ve gone to college since 09, year I graduated high school. Some of the classmates been their for five years and are seniors higher than I am. I’m easily coming up with things naturally that I would ask a debater. If a person went thru so much trauma in their past and did not deal with it other than harming themselves, there is a disorder. Mental….is that open in the relationship, is it obvious if the sub needs help mentally. If she does will the D actually help her out. Talk to her find medical help for her. Is the relationship like a regular relationship with visiting family for holiday and friends. Is the only thing diff is that women submit. So ‘guidelines” are your call and she can easily say no if it’s a test run correct. What I mean is if she keeps accidentally breaking it not on purpose like lets say she is new to it. Would change that rule to where she does not always have to get punish or would just say you pay the price.(Almost put rules because you said slave and I don’t like that word for a woman…but were both diff your vanilla and I’m strawberry ice cream….sorry I don’t like vanilla ice cream so you had to be the vanilla. :P)

      Now you have me trying to figure out if I have a submissive bone lol…I don’t think every woman is submissive I’m not a follower, I’m leader. I’m a Hawk not a dove. So a five would be strict, so your strict….so you wouldn’t put up with Hailey and my bullshit…haha but were a blast

      • I am a very patient man. Yes I could put up with you and your friends bull shit..
        Being a Dom does not mean I do not like to have fun because I do. I like to laugh and tell jokes, you cannot always be serious.
        As for a new submissive, you can tell from the start if she really is a submissive. Most strawberry women, who read something on the net or a book, like fifty shades, start to think that is me. So they run out and find a Dom. Then in about week they see it is not for them.
        The holidays around family, you are a couple, you cannot be a D’s couple 24/7 you have to be best friends as well, lovers, all the kink is just extra, that is like play time.
        Why do men fuck around, well they knew the girl didnt like anal sex, but all he was thinking about at that time was the pussy, at that time that is all that mattered, then 6 months into the relationship , now he wants the booty, and she says no. Well guess what he is going to go somewhere else, now he has a wife or GF, but he has somewhere he can get the ass from.
        That does not make it right, because he knew in advance Miss Strawberry did not like anal sex, so he should man up.
        Many submissives are seeing doctors, and if not yes I would encourage her too, and I have gone with.
        The doctors know of the lifestyle as well, but as a doctor are you going to take their only outlet, I would think not as long as there is no signs of abuse. Medication does not fix anything it puts a band aid on the problem. Like Prozac I call it a fuck it medication, because you take it and you dont give a fuck about anything.

  5. southernbarbie Says:

    I get what you mean with the whole “I read a book so let me live it”, personally I think that’s dumb. To read a book and want to live, it’s not like you will meet that exact guy. You read the internet but that should not pressure a woman to change her views. If she does then it’s clear from my point she does not know what she wants, she doesn’t know herself and wants to find who she really is. Maybe it is that lifestyle maybe it’s not.

    I can be serious but I love to have fun and live it to the fullest. Yea a lot of doctors want to go ahead and give meds, well I don’t believe in meds I’m more natural. I say workout do something positive to make you feel good about yourself, because that’s where it all starts. Well lets say Strawberry didn’t like anal sex that should be something they talked about before they had sex. The do’s and the don’t should be said, sex is not just sex but communication. You learn your partner but when it’s no it’s no. And the guy wants to cheat go right ahead honey, because I can get a guy quicker than you can get a girl. But I have self respect and will just laugh at you because your pathetic in my eyes. That is when I think a woman is above a man, is when her lover scoops low and cheats. And if a woman is stupid enough to stay then she gets what she gets. I had a guy a long time ago cheat on me because I didn’t want to lose it to him. When I found out I really just actually laughed at him since in my eyes he was pathetic. But I really am never single…I did a blog actually about it and I think I put it on this websight. I think guys for me are drama, the first week I was single after a relationship for three years, all my guy friends wanted to go out and do this. I did but then I didn’t know if you go on dates with a guy a good bit he says yall talking. Well I never been single longer than four months. Crazy how four months out of six years I never been single.

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