Archive for November, 2012

If You Are Seeing A Married Dominant.

Posted in bdsm, Cheat, cheating, Cheating Dominant, Dumped, married, Married Dominant, Married submissive, On your knees on your back, problems on November 30, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Some except the fact they will never be number one, some are happy in that role.  I suppose it is the thrill, of sneaking around, booking the hotel room. Always in hiding

If you are happy being number two, then be happy. There will be no birthdays, thanksgiving, christmas, fourth of july’s you get the idea.

I am speaking from a males prospective, I am giving you the low down, on how we think. Why we step out when we are married. Last why you are going to get dumped. Because he will dump you when you are all used up, or he finds someone closer.

A married man steps out because, and I have said this three million times, but no one wants to listen. You are there because there are things his wife will not do. Nothing more nothing less.

Maybe she wont dress like a whore, suck cock, anal sex. Or just maybe it is a communication thing, which I doubt. Your relationship is based on sex nothing more, that is all you are being used for.

The first three months, six months maybe a year go well, your happy seeing your dominant every month or so for a couple of hours. Then the emails become less frequent, the text slow, hardly any calls.

So you the submissive, you make sure your phone is charged at all times, your phone is sitting within reach at all times. You receive a text, you look and it is a friend.

Really is this the way you want to spend your life? Your job is to sit and wait, until he is ready to use you. That is it, nothing more nothing less.

Most subs and slaves are needy, slaves more so. This is really normal, if you say your not what a line of shit. Once you become needy with your married Dominant, you now become a liability, you are now causing drama that is not welcomed.  You have to go.

What are you learning in a relationship like this? What is he teaching you? He sends an email with a few rules. Maybe tells you what to wear on a certain day, what to eat.

You will get dumped or in time grow tired of broken promises. Now when you do get dumped, it is not your fault. It was not because you were not good enough, or you did not listen. It was because you became a liability, nothing more.

He the married Dominant is not going to let you come between him and his family. Remember you are number two. You are not at the cook outs. the movies, the vacations. You are sitting on the couch waiting, and hoping he can take five minutes out of his time to call, text, or email you a few lines.

Your married Dominant is not going to love you, care maybe, but your best work will be on your knees or on your back. That is what you are for.

What you are experiencing is not BDSM , it is not the D’s lifestyle. He tells you that you cannot speak with other Dominants. Why is this? He may be exposed for who and what he is.

When you get dumped, I said it again. It is not your fault in anyway. This happens to a lot of new subs to the lifestyle, not so much a slave. Slaves tend to be somewhat more reserved than a submissive. New to the lifestyle, chances are you will get burned the first go around.

I am not sure what the fixation is with married men, I truly do not get it. Maybe it is because you do not want a commitment , and you feel safe. Maybe you think he will leave his wife and kids, give up his home, pay child support, maybe alimony. Maybe he will quit his job he has had for fifteen years, and move to you.

Sure he will you just sit there like a good little girl and wait.


The Unknowning

Posted in anticipation, bdsm, breast, endorphin's, Fear, Love, Master, Mind Fuck, Pain, pleasure, pussy, Scared, slave, sub-space, submissive, Unknowing, use me on November 29, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Fear, anticipation, waiting, wanting, needing. The feeling , the touch, the smell, the wondering. The Unknowing.

Dominance comes in many forms, two most common verbal and silence, silence fits all of the above. Silence keeps you wondering, as your standing in the middle of the room, stripped of all clothes, hands behind your back. He your owner looking at you not saying a word, as he gazes up and down, you can feel the lump in your throat, but you dare not say a word. Your mind is going a 100 miles an hour. What is he thinking? What is going through his mind? Have I done anything wrong?

The Unknowing

He stands and walks toward you, places his hand around your throat and slowly pushes you back, until you can feel the cold wall against your skin. He squeezes a little harder, making it almost impossible to swallow, breath, your heart is pounding, you being to sweat a little, his eyes starring deep into your soul, your knees become weak, you start to tremble under his touch.

The Unknowing

His hand still around your throat this free hand drops to your right breast, he fondles then squeezes until you think you cannot stand anymore, then to your left breast a repeat, as he continues to stare deep in your eyes, you dare not say a word.

The Unknowing

His hand drops down to your sweet pussy you spread automatically without question, he places his hand over his pussy and begins to squeeze, as he continues to stare deep in your eyes. You are wet, wetter than you have ever bee before, but you dare not cum.

The Unknowing.

In one swift move he spins you around arms extended palms flat against the wall, he takes a hand full of hair, pulls your head back, and whispers in your ear.

I own you Bitch.

The Unknowing.


Written by Vile

I started a new FaceBook

Posted in bdsm, discussion group, FaceBook on November 29, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

I opened another account on FaceBook, for a couple of reasons. Although my family does know my lifestyle, some of the pictures being posted were well rather open minded, not that I mind, but I do play a few games on FB and most games in order to play you have to add people you do not know, and a lot are children.

My new link to FB is,

I am also going to be starting a discussion group so people can ask questions and participate. You can make an anonymous page to keep your identity hidden.

Come and join me lets have some fun…

You The Submissive Or Slave Has Rights

Posted in bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, communication, control, Conversation, Dating, Lies, married, Married Dominant, Married submissive, munchs, needy, submissive or slave has rights on November 29, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Many do not think or believe they as the sub or slave has no rights. This is far from the truth. I know your thinking WOW this is coming from Vile, the total ass of wordpress. As I was called sometime back the Howard Stern of wordpress, which I did not get. Okay if you had of said Tom Leykis an awesome radio host then I would of said yes that is me….

One of my mentors yes indeed, I have been following him for years.

You as the submissive has rights. You as the submissive has the right to express yourself, your feelings as well as your concerns. The foundation of the D’s relationship or any relationship for that matter is communication.

We have the responsibility as dominants to make sure ours is receiving the proper care and attention. This is what we have promised. If we are not fulfilling our agreement then the submissive has the right to step up and say Hey what is going on here.?

You as a submissive has the right to question, any concerns you have. You are the one submitting , your the one laying on your back, or on your knees. You cannot be used then put in a closet and wait to be used again.

Okay there may be times when One cannot stay in contact, well I cannot say that either, we are talking five minutes out of a 24 hr period.

I do have a friend on wordpress here, he is an awesome young dominant, and at this time he is just over whelmed with family issues, then work. His submissive who is awesome as well were trying to put a new relationship together. She was confused, he had not been in contact with her like he was.

So I contacted him to find out how he was doing, we are meeting up sometime mid December for a drink and cigar. After my email it was some fifteen minutes when I received a reply. His problems run deep and he is handling things the best he can.

I told him, look you have to talk to your submissive, you cannot just leave her hanging. This is not fair to either. She needs to know what is on your mind. He did just that, I am sure at some point they will pick back up, and continue.

One of my saying is, if the dominant cannot control his own life how can he control someone else. Lion is very much in control, he is handling one thing at a time, but as humans we can only have so much on out plate. I do wish him well, and I look forward to us sitting down and talking.

Abuse comes in many forms, and neglect is one of them, just as verbal, or even physical.Neglect is one of the worst forms, because it leaves one hanging. One has no idea what to do, how to act, or who to turn to.

If you as a submissive or slave feels like you cannot express your needs to your dominant, you have the wrong man. You should never be punished for wanting or needing to share your needs.

As far as feeling needy, all subs of slaves are needy this is nothing new. We as Dominants know this. This is why communication needs to be open. At all times.

I receive a lot of hate mail. You guessed it all from men and Doms. I will post one here soon I received the other day, telling me how worthless I am and I should shut my trap. He is married and I hit a nerve with him.

So let me get this straight, you hate me, you find me to be disgusting an idiot , but you read my whole blog. Wow. Who is the Idiot?

Do not think you as the submissive does not have rights, you even have the right to say NO. You have the right to make demands. I did not say slave.

A man or Dominant cannot say he cannot take five minutes out of his day to make a call or text, or email. Fuck the president even fucking tweets. How much busier can one be than the president.

Why do Doms hate me? Maybe I speak the truth. Maybe I make some ask questions. I totally disagree when a dom tries to keep his from communicating with others. A submissive needs interaction with others, subs and doms. As long as the dom is respectful, which at times can be hard to find. Munchs and different functions are important for a young submissive, new to the lifestyle, it is needed. The submissive needs to know how others in the lifestyle, live and interact.

With a new slave that is one of my first dates if not the first. I want her to meet my other friends in the life style. I can provide references, as other Dominants should as well if asked. Every Dom who has been in the lifestyle should be able to provide information to back up who he is. You as a sub or slave should not just take ones word. I can ever provide, references from other submissive’s if needed.

These are questions that should be asked and answered. Come on now, really?  Even if a relationship turned sour and the break up is a bad one. The dominant should still give access , so the submissive can contact. There are two sides to every story.

I do not have all the answers I wish I did. As much as I would like to say I am perfect, I am not. That is why I encourage interaction with others in the lifestyle.

One last thing, never let a dominant tell you he does not have to explain his self or his actions, because he does. You are the one submitting , are you a submissive or a doormat ?



A Slaves Creed

Posted in A Slaves Creed, bdsm on November 28, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile


More Erotic BDSM Photography

Posted in bdsm, Black and white, erotic, photo, Photography on November 28, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile













ImageMy Favorite…




I had a Deaf Submissive visit

Posted in bdsm, Deaf, submissive on November 28, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

This month has been pretty wild, for me two visitors, and very interesting. I do know a lot of people, and since she has returned home, I have had several out reach programs stop by here to talk to her about different training.

I have a very good friend who is an attorney who happens to be blind, called me last night and wanted to offer her a job has a paralegal , since she had just completed some courses. well she is back home now and I wish her well.

She is really one of the most awesome sub and women I have met in a very long time. Very smart and really pretty hot. Very dedicated.

I am not going to go into why she chose to visit, I do keep somethings private, but I truly hope things work out, if not she always has a place…


Something Interesting. Viking Slaves

Posted in abuse, bdsm, Flogger, Floggers, Forced Prostitution, forced sex slaves, Viking Slaves on November 28, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Slavery has been around well since thousands of years. Farm workers, Construction, House slaves, and yes even sex slaves.

Viking Kings were know to have many female slaves besides his wife. Although vikings did prefer the British female to marry and bare his children, the sex slave industry was really booming at this time, I believe more so than now.

I am a History Chanel buff, many night I go to sleep watching. Last night the show really caught my eyes. On this very topic. A king had passed on, and a slave volunteered to be buried with him, so she would be useful in his next life..

Unlike today, at that time slaves were considered well nonhuman almost, they were beaten, raped, forced into the sex trade, and even killed for a small mistake. Killing a slave was not considered murder, but if a viking killed another mans slave, he only had to pay what the going rate was at that time.

There are also a few erotic books available on kindle you might like. Here is the link, enjoy.

Many of the slaves were chained at night to stop them from escaping and spent most of there days in shackles. They were fed at their owners convenience, not when they were hungry. They were flogged, slapped, and used for sexual gratification, without feelings.



So I suppose without the selling and buying part BDSM has really been around for thousands of years.



My Type of Woman

Posted in bdsm, Bond, Cherish, Conversation, Dating, Discipline, Drama, Email, Friends, Friendship, Honesty, Kink, Open Minded, Stuck on yourself, Vanilla Friends on November 28, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

I really do not have a preference when it comes to a female. I can tell you I am not into looks, I really do not care what someone looks like. Well okay there is a limit. The truth is I do not base anything on looks. As a matter of fact if we met, and we were separated by a wall, and we spent time talking if I was able to click with you, on all levels, I am good.

To me it is the conversation, being able to communicate, really clicking.. Okay I am not the easiest man to live with. I can be difficult I know this, but my philosophy is be who you are, not what someone wants you to be.

I prefer the girl next door, no makeup type, shy, and introvert, but smart, intelligent, a good self esteem.

What turns me off, is to hear someone just talk about everything they have done, on a daily basis, on and on and on. it is all about them and nothing else. Just like men you have dated who were just stuck on themselves.

Being open minded is a must, willing to learn. Follow direction, and know that there are choices and consequences for our actions.

I believe most of our problems are self inflicting. We tend to sweep things under the rug, in hopes something will go away. Well it never does. If a problem arises you take care of it right then.

So if you are stuck on yourself, and you have no personality, nah I am not even interested. I was seeing a woman for a while then we went separate ways , then 9 months later we started again, a huge mistake on my part. Everything was always about her, the accomplishments , who she had worked for, what she had done, all about her. Huge turn off.

You can tell when someone is interested in you. Small things. How was your day? What are you thinking? How is your son? You can tell when someone is truly listening to what you have to say.  Instead of spending twenty minutes talking and all you get is a oh yea, or really.

Don’t get me wrong I love beautiful women, but if the personality is not there, it just wont work.

A female who follows my blog, is like just smoking hot, long blonde hair, the biggest brightest eyes you have ever seen, petite, but she has a kick ass personality , she is a very very good friend, someone I can talk to on all levels. She is not into BDSM , and will be married soon, but all around she is really awesome. Our conversations never go towards the extreme , which I do like. I have a lot of female friends who are vanilla, and non sexual. They know what I am about, but they feel safe around me. They know I am not going to hit on them, or judge who they are.

The topic of BDSM never comes up, we are just friends. Even if at some point and time one wanted a relationship, I could not go there. Reason being that is not the way our relationship started out, if that makes any sense. Women seem to be far more understanding than men when you want a true conversation.

I have one who I bowl with, one I fish with, and the other is just a hang out, movies, flea markets, what ever. Some have stayed the night, slept in the same bed without fear of what I might try or do. The truth is sex does not even cross my mind.

Anyway just a little more about me…


The First Thing I notice In A Woman.

Posted in Ass, bdsm, Camel Toe, Fetish, pussy, short shorts, Tight jeans on November 28, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Okay there are two things that catch my eye, when I first meet a woman. Most men say the eyes, the lips, maybe the neck bone, or the breast, maybe her hair.

Mine are neither. The first thing I notice is the almighty camel toe.


Image. Yea I know, pretty simple minded, but my fascination with the pussy is truly unreal. If there was another word besides fetish, that would be it.

Then come the Ass, I am totally obsessed with the female ass, I love spanking, touching, massaging, fingering, just something about it that drive me crazy. One thing I love doing is after a shower, I love to put lotion on her back and down to her ass, slowly rubbing in.



On a petite woman I love the gap between her legs, it really drives me crazy. I am not just into petite women, I love all. A little chunky can be good.


Just something I was thinking about last night. So if we should ever meet and you notice my eyes looking at your camel toe, take no offense, or if I compliment your ass, which I have been known to do.