Some except the fact they will never be number one, some are happy in that role. I suppose it is the thrill, of sneaking around, booking the hotel room. Always in hiding
If you are happy being number two, then be happy. There will be no birthdays, thanksgiving, christmas, fourth of july’s you get the idea.
I am speaking from a males prospective, I am giving you the low down, on how we think. Why we step out when we are married. Last why you are going to get dumped. Because he will dump you when you are all used up, or he finds someone closer.
A married man steps out because, and I have said this three million times, but no one wants to listen. You are there because there are things his wife will not do. Nothing more nothing less.
Maybe she wont dress like a whore, suck cock, anal sex. Or just maybe it is a communication thing, which I doubt. Your relationship is based on sex nothing more, that is all you are being used for.
The first three months, six months maybe a year go well, your happy seeing your dominant every month or so for a couple of hours. Then the emails become less frequent, the text slow, hardly any calls.
So you the submissive, you make sure your phone is charged at all times, your phone is sitting within reach at all times. You receive a text, you look and it is a friend.
Really is this the way you want to spend your life? Your job is to sit and wait, until he is ready to use you. That is it, nothing more nothing less.
Most subs and slaves are needy, slaves more so. This is really normal, if you say your not what a line of shit. Once you become needy with your married Dominant, you now become a liability, you are now causing drama that is not welcomed. You have to go.
What are you learning in a relationship like this? What is he teaching you? He sends an email with a few rules. Maybe tells you what to wear on a certain day, what to eat.
You will get dumped or in time grow tired of broken promises. Now when you do get dumped, it is not your fault. It was not because you were not good enough, or you did not listen. It was because you became a liability, nothing more.
He the married Dominant is not going to let you come between him and his family. Remember you are number two. You are not at the cook outs. the movies, the vacations. You are sitting on the couch waiting, and hoping he can take five minutes out of his time to call, text, or email you a few lines.
Your married Dominant is not going to love you, care maybe, but your best work will be on your knees or on your back. That is what you are for.
What you are experiencing is not BDSM , it is not the D’s lifestyle. He tells you that you cannot speak with other Dominants. Why is this? He may be exposed for who and what he is.
When you get dumped, I said it again. It is not your fault in anyway. This happens to a lot of new subs to the lifestyle, not so much a slave. Slaves tend to be somewhat more reserved than a submissive. New to the lifestyle, chances are you will get burned the first go around.
I am not sure what the fixation is with married men, I truly do not get it. Maybe it is because you do not want a commitment , and you feel safe. Maybe you think he will leave his wife and kids, give up his home, pay child support, maybe alimony. Maybe he will quit his job he has had for fifteen years, and move to you.
Sure he will you just sit there like a good little girl and wait.