Monogamous , Poly Or Triad

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Monogamy /Gr. μονός+γάμος (monos+gamos)— one+marriage/ is a form of marriage in which an individual has only one spouse during their lifetime or at any one time (serial monogamy), as compared to polygamy or polyamory.[1] In current usage, monogamy often refers to having one sexual partner irrespective of marriage or reproduction. The term is also applied to the social behavior of some animals, referring to the state of having only one mate at any one time.

I am a firm believer in Monogamy with one exception. While I do have a few married friends who are in the lifestyle, I like as a friend but I do not and cannot respect as a Dominant, although I do believe I can learn from those who are older if that makes any sense.

I have lived in a Triad relationship. I am not speaking poly, Triad meaning three. I believe you can be monogamous while in a Triad relationship. One you are not going behind any ones back. The three live together and live as a unit. All three contribute to the family. At the same time the three stay loyal to each other. This is not cheating.



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Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly], meaning “many” or “several”, and Latin amor, “love“) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

Polyamory, often abbreviated as poly, is often described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy.” The word is sometimes used in a broader sense to refer to sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies; an emphasis on ethics, honesty, and transparency all around is widely regarded as the crucial defining characteristic and it is considered distinct from swinging (which emphasizes sex with others as merely recreational).

The term “polyamorous” can refer to the nature of a relationship at some point in time or to a philosophy or relationship orientation (much like gender or sexual orientation). It is sometimes used as an umbrella term that covers various forms of multiple relationships; polyamorous arrangements are varied, reflecting the choices and philosophies of the individuals involved. Polyamory is a less specific term than polygamy, the practice or condition of having more than one spouse. The majority of polygamous cultures are traditionally polygynous, where one husband has multiple wives. Polyandrous societies, in which one wife has multiple husbands, are less common but do exist.[2] Marriage is not a requirement in polyamorous relationships. The “knowledge and consent of all partners concerned”[3] is a defining characteristic of polyamorous relationships. Distinguishing polyamory from traditional forms of non-monogamy (e.g., “cheating“) is an ideology that openness, goodwill, truthful communication, and ethical behavior should prevail among all the parties involved.[4][5] As of July 2009, it was estimated that more than 500,000 polyamorous relationships existed in the United States.[6]

People who identify as polyamorous typically reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships. Those who are open to, or emotionally suited for, polyamory may embark on a polyamorous relationship when single or already in a monogamous or open relationship. Sex is not necessarily a primary focus in polyamorous relationships, which commonly consist of people seeking to build long-term relationships with more than one person on mutually agreeable grounds, with sex as only one aspect of their relationships. In practice, polyamorous relationships are highly varied and individualized according to those participating. For many, such relationships are ideally built upon values of trust, loyalty, the negotiation of boundaries, and compersion, as well as overcoming jealousy, possessiveness, and the rejection of restrictive cultural standards.[7] Powerful intimate bonding among three or more persons may occur. The skills and attitudes needed to manage polyamorous relationships add challenges that are not often found in the traditional “dating-and-marriage” model of long-term relationships. Polyamory may require a more fluid and flexible approach to love relationship, and yet operate on a complex system of boundaries or rules. Additionally, participants in a polyamorous relationship may not have, nor expect their partners to have, preconceptions as to the duration of the relationship, in contrast to monogamous marriages where a lifelong union is generally the goal. However, polyamorous relationships can and do last many years.

While I do not agree with a polyamorous it can and I have seen it last for many years. Usually a couple who are married or living together may be poly. This means that each are allowed to see other people while living together. This is not cheating. Why? Because both know about the open relationship, and each has to approve who the other may see. Again no one is going behind any ones back. The relationship is very open but both communicate each others needs.

Arianna and I attended a munch on Friday night. I do believe besides one slave we were the only couple who were monogamous. The rest were in an open poly relationship. The conversation at one time became somewhat heated, when I Condemned that type of relationship, okay so now I am back stepping. A poly relationship means many partners in most cases. You know my main concern is what is going around today. Back in the 70’s you could go to your doctor and get a shot. Today not so much.

So the key to an awesome Monogamous relationship is finding one who meets all your needs. Why step out if your needs are being met.

I lived in a Triad relationship for a couple of years while living with Chong. Chong approached me about the Triad, it was not I because all my needs were being met. Chong felt she would thrive better with a female partner living with us. After much talking I agreed on the condition she does the search, after all she had to get along with the other female. So Chong searched for about six months, and one afternoon she showed up with Beth.

If I wanted to form a Triad, I would communicate with Arianna, and I would have to come up with some good reasons on why I thought we needed a third. Many times you see dominants who want more than one slave, but they put the task on the female to do all the leg work. When you see the adds being ran by the Dominant he is posting pictures of the slave exploiting her.

So a Triad would have to be Ariannas idea and not mine. All my needs are being met. I get anything I want anytime without question.

While at the munch it did get pretty heated , one statement came out that Arianna and I had the D’s and M’s mixed up, because of the way we believe a relationship should be. I was not a real master because I did not have the balls to demand that I have another slave.

I was told Arianna had no rights to say anything if I wanted to bring in another slave. This is far from the truth, a slave or submissive does have rights. That is what I practice and what I believe.

To bring in another slave takes time away from Arianna. Then the comment was made well if the other slave took up some of her time, then let the slave fill in, fill the void. I think not.

All three of the above relationships can work. The poly requires a lot of communication. I could not picture another dude fucking Arianna, and besides I love eating pussy to much.

I am possessive very much so, not to the point of being jealous , I do not mind others looking, but keep your hands off my bitch.

Saturday night we were invited to a Birthday party, we had a lot of fun, and met new people. One couple that stood out was a Triad couple. The white couple had a black female, both females were submissive, but the way they got along was really amazing , laughed and joked, you could tell all three were very happy, and the jealousy factor was zero.

Every couple is different, every couple has different needs. Every Master has different needs as with every slave or submissive.

My thoughts are if a Dominants wants to bring another female into the picture, most subs or slaves will go along with just to please. I am almost sure the feeling of being inadequate would have to cross their mind at some point.

Again just my thoughts.



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