Archive for June, 2013

I Enjoy Helping Others

Posted in bdsm, slave, submissive on June 30, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

My life has changed over the past eight months, for the better I might add. Prior to meeting Arianna, I had a habit , a habit helping others in need. Never asking for anything in return, but I learned early on to only help those who were trying as well. Some want a hand out and want everything done for them. Then when they fail they have someone to blame.

Arianna and I before we moved, I had been letting a couple stay with me. She is a very dear friend, her boyfriend is a worthless prick. He is like a screen door on a submarine.

My friend had a lot of medical issues mental and physical, had no insurance or a way to pay to see a doctor. So Vile went to work. Made a few phone calls to some old friends and I had her in counseling, then free meds. Her health is really bad to be a young 33. I pointed her in the direction of the local hospital who offered medical assistance to those who could not afford care. She filled out paper work, filled out again, and again, but was turned down each time.

When you go through life trying to beat the system things never turn out good, but in the end it is always someones else’s  fought. We all have to have someone to blame we could never be wrong.

So I sat her down because she was complaining about how she was getting fucked over. My comment was you have been trying to beat the system for 33 years, you cannot fix everything in one week.

Right before Arianna and I moved out I went to the Hospital with my friend. I told her to keep her mouth shut I would do the talking. In a week she had a insurance card. Now able to see doctors and get the meds she needs.

Soon she will start disability, yes I also had a hand in that. She truly needs help, one of the few that I know who draws a check but really needs it.

All of the above is what Mr. Screen door was suppose to be doing, but with the IQ of about 3 it was impossible.

I have helped others out in the past, mostly submissive’s who had been abused. I would open my door and help get back on track, again asking for nothing in return, and no not even sex, which is what they thought most of the time, or they thought it was expected.

Then came Arianna, it was like she was dropped from the sky, a true miracle, a blessing, a long time coming. Our relationship grew serious very fast, but sometimes you know when something is right. I had to grasp the moment, and take it to heart, I had to take a chance to see where things would go.

Then I began to realize helping someone else was taking time from Arianna, I was not able to devote myself 100%, so changes had to take place. The couple I was helping I knew they could not afford to move. So Arianna wanted to move and we did, a much nicer home, which she has done very well in setting everything up.

I left the other couple set up, everything included in the rent, right down to the internet. I can no longer be or feel responsible for screen doors actions, he is going to have to man up or at least try.

One thing I never did or have done, is taking credit for anything, nor have I ever said look what I did for you, nor have I ever said you owe me. When she tried to thank me, I said no need just keep things in place an you will be fine.

A slave requires a lot of time, a lot of one on one time, if you are helping others there is no way you can devote yourself 100% of the time.

When helping I would give the means and the tools, I left it up to them to put things into place, but at times I had to step in and pick up the pieces.

I do cherish what I have, and taking time away would be well a form of abuse, in my eyes. Putting Arianna first was a need and a must.

I have just changed careers , a new start for me, a difficult one, but I will hang in there because I know it will pay off. Arianna has been very understanding, the career change was her Idea, I gave it some thought and I took the leap.

So much love to everyone,

Vile

A Question Was Asked, Both Arianna And I answered

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, married, Married Dominant, Master, MysticalKitty@wordpress, slave, submissive, sucking cock, surrender on June 29, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I like people asking questions , at times it does make things much easier. I have nearly 500 post all related to BDSM and the Lifestyle. I guess it is kinda like a rock band who writes their own music, after a while you just cannot write any longer you run out of stuff. That is why older bands from the 70’s and 80’s are touring with the same old music.

So at times it is just hard to come up with a topic. I do not plan on going anyplace anytime soon. It is much better at times when someone does ask a question, but always remember my answers are just my opinion. I also like it when people are objective, I love a good argument, or better yet a good debate.

So Arianna and I were asked a question yesterday, a very good question and it really made Arianna think. Arianna is more private than I am as most have noticed, and that is okay , I do respect her space and the fact that she is private when it comes to our lifestyle, although most of her coworkers and family do know. It is just not something she talks about. I on the other hand, I am very outgoing, I also enjoy sharing my life experiences. What I will not do is go into great detail about our play, nor will I ever post any nude pics of her. I find that to be very disrespectful in so many ways. I have posted a few on my facebook page, but nothing out of the way.

So the question was. When the submission turns into surrender? Below is the question from Mysticalkitty

MysticalKitty Says:

There is a question bothering me for some time. And it needs an answer from both sides of the coin. Thus …
Would you Ariana please answer it…
Would you Vile please answer it…

When the submission turns into surrender?

Thank you both for keeping your life’s door so generously open and utterly genuine sharing.

We did answer the question but I would like to add a little more to my answer.

There are a couple of ways to look at the word surrender, when it comes to an M’s relationship. So I suppose in a since a submissive or slave does in a way surrender, but it is a giving, nothing is taken.

In the D’s or M’s lifestyle it is really hard to find the one. I mean the one. I am not speaking of the 9 1/2 weeks type of relationship.

After giving it some thought I think and the submissive or slave is looking just for that. To Surrender, their feelings , mind, and body. The need to let someone take full control, while being in control if that makes any since.

Okay here we go, this subject does not apply to those married Dominants who are going behind their wife’s back and finding a bitch that will do things she will not or because you feel guilty. Yea I am rough on married dudes.

The surrender is a long time coming, and it can be many years before you connect with the right one. Most like Arianna were a slave long before they even new the word or the meaning. Just submitting without really knowing, or having the need to please and not a care about being pleased. The truth is you can only take a one way street for so long.

If your a sub or slave can you fully surrender yourself to a married man, knowing he will never leave his wife and kids? Can you as a sub or slave truly give yourself, your all? Can you just turn your life over to someone who will never put you in the number one spot and keep you there.

Arianna comes first, no matter what. We had a dinner at work because we had reached our goal for the month, a very nice dinner. It was only for the employs not the spouses. So when I was asked , are you coming my reply was not my wife cannot come. So I was asked what that mattered? My answer was I do not go anyplace my wife is not welcomed. Again number one. She may be my slave but she is my princess, she is my partner, and wife.

Lee Surrendered to Grant, not because he wanted to, he had to. He did not want to put his men through anymore pain and suffering, so we are speaking of a different type of surrender.

There comes a time sometimes a submissive but for the most a slave, just hands everything over to their Master. Here I am take me, guide me, use me in anyway you see fit, but please do not hurt me. That my friend is a huge task to carry on one’s shoulders. Now not only do you have to worry about yourself, take care of yourself, you have another. Think about it someone is giving you everything they can possibly give, and if you think about the trust that goes along with it, That is huge my friend.

Arianna wrote a blog and asked me to post it three days ago.Being a slave part two. she explained in more detail about our life, and the responsibility we both had.

Let me tell you something , I want for nothing I do mean nothing. Yes again that is huge, the word no or I cant is not in Ariannas vocabulary, The thing is I do not pile her plate full, I do not give more than she can take. I do not set up for failure. I want to see Arianna excel , improve in all ways in life.

First thing in the am Arianna makes a list of daily task, and I look them over, I check each one, and sometimes I remove things because I can clearly see what she is trying to do is almost impossible, adding to much to her daily activity. Arianna is my responsibility.

In seven or eight months Arianna has been punished once, and only once. Just as her response to MysticalKitty.

She has thought about breaking a rule but then she thinks about the consequences. It quickly changes her mind. The other day she made an admission that she had forgotten something and she had been told about it before. My response was, do it again and I promise you will not be able to sit for a week, she knows I mean what I say. On the other hand I do not just sit around waiting on her to break a rule. Again setting up for failure.

Our job as a Dominant is to build, not to destroy. We are here for support, and guidance. We are trusted like no other.

My house my rules. My house my protocols. This is not a democracy and it never will be. When we first met I explained everything very clear, about what I expected out of a relationship. When I explain something I go into great detail, so there is nothing to miss, or something that she will not understand, I cover all bases. so there is never a mistake.

The rewards are like no other, it is like finding that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, you as the dominant has anything and everything you could possibly ever want.

I am sure those of you who are single submissive and slave, when meeting someone new you spent more time sucking cock that you did in general conversation, or you spent more time on your back giving yourself in hopes that you found the one. This is not uncommon shit happens. Some has probably been through more than one relationship, in finding the one, or your still looking.

If you meet a new dominant and within the first 15 minutes the topic of sex comes up, dump him, or if your chatting the same thing click on the X. Because if you continue you are nothing more than a good blow job or a good fuck. You are surrendering to the wrong one.

Arianna and I were up in Tennessee a couple of months ago to visit my family, by the way they love her. Driving around Arianna made the comment out of the blue. You are the first I have met that did not think with their cock. You are the first that did not put sex above everything else. A very impressive statement.

Most of the time she does asked if she can suck my cock, or I will be watching TV and Ill just pull her head down or snap my finger, she knows. This is done willingly it is giving, this is her surrender giving herself. The need to please, and yes at times I am the pleaser, I do give in return. It took me a very long time to come to realize that it was not a one way street, that I myself had to give.

I was not looking for a maid, nor was I looking for a cook. I cook a lot, I will do laundry from time to time. Most of the time I pick up behind myself.

When I get home from work, if Arianna is already a sleep. My night clothes are laid out, A huge glass of water by the bed, cold I might add. My coffee mug is sitting by the coffee pot, ready for the next morning.

Again I want for nothing, and I could not ask for more, there is really nothing more to ask for. Yes I get up with Arianna every morning, I make her coffee, and we sit and talk, even if I have only had a couple of hours a sleep, I am there with her. I get up at 3.30am to spend time with her even when I do not have to be at work until noon. The only bad thing is once I am up, I am up, but she is worth every minute I am with her.

Surrender can be a good thing, if you surrender to the right one.

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Vile

Arianna

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, slave, submissive on June 28, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile
The feelings of a slave part 2

"Good Morning Master, may I get up?"
I dare not put my feet down on the floor without explicit permission from 
arising out of Masters bed that He so graciously shares with me. I know that any 
evening as I ask, "may I enter, Master?" that he has the right to say no. 
During the night, I pray that I do not have to go to the bathroom because 
permission is needed. There have been some nights that I lay awake holding it or 
dream of going to the bathroom because I don't want to disturb my Master. Not 
because he would be mad but because He gives so much of Himself that I find His 
rest important. 
Master wakes up every early morning with me even though He isn't scheduled to 
work until several hours later. 
Why does He do this? I can't read Masters mind but I am thankful that I have 
such a caring and thorough Master. 
As I leave for work, Master could go back to bed but instead we talk on my hour 
drive to work and He makes sure I get there safe and sound. 
Throughout the day Master and I text and I give him updates about my break times 
and what I am doing. This keeps me thinking always of how I may please Master. I 
even where I bracelet that is engraved with WWVD. What would Vile do? This 
bracelet along with my collar are constant reminders of whose property I am. 
There are people at work that know of my lifestyle and those who don't may think 
that my collar is a little strange buy so far none of my bosses have mentioned 
anything. It doesn't raise as many eyebrows as the first consideration collar I 
wore. It was a necklace with two handcuffs that met in the middle. Yes. There 
were sexual comments made about that and it was notice when the handcuffs got 
replaced. 
Back at home, "Master may I sit?". "Master may I go to the bathroom?" 
Master may I...... Anything that comes to mind. 
My schedule, when Master isn't home, is told to me through text. When to shower 
and get ready for bed and when lights go out. I have a to do list each day when 
I get home. Master and I go over the list prior to me leaving for work. 
I really don't think too much about asking permission to do things. It comes 
natural. Even transferring from the vanilla world wasn't a huge shift. I was 
always a follower in my relationships and threw my support into the one I was 
with. The important thing for me is communication. This is the highest priority 
for Master too. So, a breakdown in the relationship will not happen as long as 
we continue to talk and relate to each other and understand. 
So right now, how does Vile's slave feel. Probably like most collared slaves. 
Constantly improving or trying to improve my submission. Sometimes this takes a 
creative imagination to think of options for behavior. Master is good at making 
suggestions but I know that He likes when I take initiative to satisfy His 
wants. I believe His needs are met by just me being me but for me to go above 
and beyond is where His wants lie. Master is a simple man. He likes physical 
attention and mental attentiveness. 
Sometimes I feel that if I'm not DOING something for Him that I'm not In 
Service. This is not true though. Just being in His presence can satisfy His 
needs. At least at that moment. When the next moment comes and His needs change, 
I'll be told what to do. 
So, sometimes I wait or I ask what I may do to please Him. Sometimes He says to 
just sit at His feet while He relaxes and watches Tv. 
So. I take the next step, because it's hard for me to sit still, I perform foot 
worship or rub His legs. Sometimes I go between and start playing and kissing 
His balls. I'm still learning. I guess it's a process and I shouldn't be 
impatient with myself. Someday I'll be able to predict Master but then again 
would I want to. Master would want to keep me on my toes and not get complacent. 
So there is a fine line of satisfying without expectations. 

I welcome any questions. I've been with Master for seven months now. We've been 
married for almost two weeks. Master has not changed. He is very consistent. 
That is something that is important to me. Then I know what's expected and He 
doesn't set me up for failure. Only received punishment once. I am very obedient 
and why shouldn't I be? Master puts forth His time and effort into making our 
lives better. He works hard and cares. Above all else He satisfies my needs. I 
need to know that I am needed. That I am pleasing and that I am desirable. 
Each night Master holds me to let me know that He is my safe haven and that 
anytime I can be used by Him. Our evening comes to a close with
"thank You, Master, Good night. "

~Arianna

How Far Is To Extreme

Posted in abuse, Aftercare, anal sex, animalistic, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Beatings, Being A Dominant is 24/7 365, blindfold, Bound, Consensual, control, controlling, Deception, Discipline, Dominants, extreme, fuck hole, fucking, Kink, kinky, Master, Masters, oral, Pain, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, slave, submissive on June 27, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Every submissive or slave is different, just as every Dominant is different. The world of BDSM has grown 110% over the last ten years, some for the good but for the most many have strayed away from the traditional D’s and M’s. Today it is mostly about kink. Unlike ten years ago it was not uncommon to see a couple who had been together , 5 10, 15 years or longer.

Today we have moved more into a kink world, nothing is considered long term, just like a vanilla relationship it is easier to pack up and move on to the next in hopes the grass is greener on the other side. When in fact most of the time it is not.

BDSM Bondage, Discipline , Sadomasochism , sadist , and masochist if you will. You can be a sadist and not be a dominant, I have met masochist who were not a slave nor were they submissive, and a D’s relationship would not be adventitious for them, because they are just looking for the pain aspect, could be a alpha outside the bedroom.

When someone is new to the lifestyle if they do not have the right guidance, one can stray off of their path without knowing. Meeting your first Dominant or sadist, because a sadist at times will tell you he is a dominant, as far as he knows he may think he is until it comes to the responsibility part of the relationship. After 3 months 6, or maybe a year you come to realize this is not for you, there is a bad taste in your mouth.

A sadist is just that, very few have the dominant side, the need to inflict pain, more so the need to see your pain through your eyes, that is the rush.

A new submissive or slave to the lifestyle will take most anything that is dished out and then some, be it verbal, mental and yes physical. They will take what ever just to please, hoping to find the one, but most of all acceptance.

Most have been a Slave or submissive all their life, but did not have a clue about the lifestyle or what they are. The sub, or slave just knows they are different, and most do not fit in the average circle of friends, and no one to talk to about their feelings. I have talked to slaves who had feelings at a very young age, early teens. Some find out at a young age then there are late bloomers in their 30’s 40’s and even 50’s.

Most men not just Dominants think with their cock, every 40 or 50 year old dominant wants a 18 year old slave. It can be fun for short term but I have seen very few last. I was the same way so I am speaking from experience. I found I was babysitting much of the time. I am not saying there are not those who are mature at that age, because there are.

I prefer an older slave, someone who has experienced life, someone who is mature. Now it is not to say that if I had not met Arianna it is possible I would of met someone much younger, although that is not what I was looking for in a relationship, we cannot help who we like of fall in love with.

A lot of younger subs or slave prefer older dominants those who have been in the lifestyle for sometime, those with experience. Would a 20 yr old submissive really consider a 20 year old dominant? maybe just maybe but at such a young age what does the dominant really know about the lifestyle, or how to implement structure in someones life, enforce rules, but most of all stay in control, and not be controlling. Just my thoughts you do not have to agree with me.

So you meet a New dominant for the first time. Dinner someplace public. Then you jump in the car and head for the nearest Motel. He ties you up, blindfolds you and the HELL starts, you have never been beating so bad in your life, fucked in every hole even if you had limits in place. The next day you can hardly walk, your black and blue, or worse something is broking. Okay lets say you suck it up, take about a week to heal, your going to either stay away or your going to try it one more time.

To most sadist if he is not looking for a relationship, he is just looking to put another notch in his belt, you were a piece of meat for the night, he busted a nut you went home crying. I am speaking from experience here I am not just running off at the mouth. To many are to eager to please, they could care less if they are pleased. To many are eager to meet someone and allow someone to use them. It many cases the after the fact is to late.

So just how far is to extreme? how far do you really need to go to find the one? better yet how much are you going to take?

I have said before have a list ready, your needs, your do nots, and your limits, and what you expect out of a relationship. Stick to the list do not bend from it. Once you give in your just another notch in someones belt. I know I had one belt I had to replace because there was no room for anymore notches.

Believe me when I say this you can get hurt, you can get hurt bad, and chances are you will not go to the police and explain why you let a stranger tie you up and beat you.

Just think, as your pulling into a denny’s how far is to extreme.

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Vile

The Feelings Of A Slave

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, Beatings, cage, Fear, Fetish, Humiliation, Master, molding your slave, owning a slave, Pain, punish, Punishment, slave, submissive on June 24, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Having a Slave is one thing, but making one feel like a slave is a different story. Although it is almost impossible to keep that mindset 24/7 there are things that can be done as constant reminders.

I have blogged about some of this before, but when I get a random thought I like to share.

One way is to limit the slaves space within the home, when and where they can sit. Arianna is not allowed on the furniture unless permission is giving. I know your shaking your head, but to be a slave you want that feeling inside and out. The mind is a very powerful machine.So you plant the seed. You limit the slaves space. While home you limit what one wears, how they sit, eat, drink, bathroom. The owner controls everything.

These tactics do not go over so well with those who are submissive, and there may be some slaves who are like what the fuck. The truth is there are so many different levels of BDSM , so many Levels of being a submissive, or slave. Everyone is different, everyone has different needs, kinks and fetishes.

So if out and I hear something that sounds kind of wacky to me, I just think hey it is their kink. So when hearing about others in the lifestyle don’t be so quick to judge. What you like someone else may not. There are many things I do not understand, but I ask questions so I can see where the other is coming from, sometimes I understand and sometimes I do not.

At times Arianna will get relaxed, Hmm maybe snippy, I have Slave positions I use to put her back in that frame of mind, I have never came right out and told her this but she will know here in a few, but I use these positions as a reminder of who the bitch is in the relationship. These positions put her back in that slave frame of mind.

The first 30 days is the hardest when entering a new relationship. The first 30 days is the make it or break it time period. If the Slave is true and has the heart things just fall into place. We as Dominants take bad habits and replace with good habits. It is a very slow process. I believe when entering a M’s relationship it takes about a year for the slave to adjust. It takes that long for the slave to truly know her owner and what is expected.

Everything Arianna does she needs permission, with the exception of being at work, even then when lunch time comes around I get a text with food choices and I decide.

You want to do what ever it takes to keep the slave in that frame of mind. When it comes times to punish I seldom spank. I have had to punish Arianna one time in about 7 months, now she has that fear of messing up. Fear is not always a bad thing, it keeps the slave thinking.  A couple of good punishment Ideas besides spanking.  Pour a cup of rice on the floor and have the slave kneel on it. Ginger root is very effective when inserted anal, I hear it burns really bad. Corner time works very well this gives the slave time to think, corner time nude. Beating is not always the answer, more so if the sub or slave enjoys pain. I myself find slave positions to be way more effective. On knees bent over hands on ass spreading apart everything is exposed. I have been told it is very humiliating.

Ask permission to enter the bed, before entering strip, besides that time of the month. Why nude? I may get that urge to just roll over and hit it. Sleeping nude or keeping one nude while at home keeps the slave humble, in most cases not all, it depends on the slaves personality.

We have a huge Dog crate, that I am going to start using tomorrow. Big enough to sit in and turn around in. Even big enough to lay down in curled up.

Owning a Slave is one thing but keeping them in that frame of mind is another more so if you live M’s 24/7. A lot of work in the beginning but after about 3 months or so things just start to fall into place. What was hard for the slave has now became a habit, it is not even a thought any longer.

So in the cage, hands tied above head, and gagged. I am sure I could find something to do for about an hour.

 

Vile

Pussy Is Like A Hostess: Twinkie

Posted in bdsm, Eating Pussy, Hostess Twinkie, oral, oral sex, pussy on June 24, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I remember as a kid buying my first pack of Twinkies, I was in total bliss from the first bite. I was thinking if the man above made anything better, he had not released as of then. Now the 15th of July Hostess makes a cum back.

I have been on a diet for some time now Ive lost some 20 pounds, then I strayed for a little bit and now I am somewhat back on it. I was never fat just what I call stocky, I do feel much better in someways, but now the fucking Twinkie is back.

Pussy is like a Hostess Twinkie , one of my favorite positions to fuck is laying her on the bed, pulling her ass to the edge spread wide and just slide it right in. Then I just hold it to savor the feeling, just like biting into a twinkie, once you bite into it, you just want to hold it in your mouth. Then I begin to pump real slow, by now she is soaking wet,and it feels so fucking good. The same way when I am slowly chewing a hostess twinkie it taste so fucking good.

Although that is my favorite position it is hard for me to cum that way, maybe its something to do with standing up, or I am just so into the feeling I am not even thinking about it.

Okay two things the man upstairs created that cannot be replaced, the hostess twinkie and pussy they both truly go hand in hand.

Just like crawling on top, her legs spread wide and just sliding in, and holding it there is no other feeling in the world, warm wet juicy, ahh tight, the twinkie not so tight, but warm and juicy, creamy.

Much the same as eating pussy, which I totally love, a huge fetish, the taste is so unreal, wow.

I know your thinking I am nuts, this was just a random thought after reading about the return of the twinkie this am…

Much Love.

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What Is Expected From Us As Dominants

Posted in 24/7, A Masters Creed, abuse, Aftercare, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Cherish, codependent, Collar, Collars, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, Discipline, Dominance, Dominants, Giving Head, Honesty, Lie, Love, Loyal, Master, Masters, oral, oral sex, Pain, Protocol, Protocol public, punish, Punishment, Respect, Rules, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, Safe Word, serve, session, sex, slave, Spanking, submissive on June 23, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We are expected to be men of honor. We are expected to be truthful in all ways. We are expected to be in control and not controlling, and yes at times Humble.

Arianna will tell you I am a thinker, I think before acting, I look at choices and consequences, most of the time I am right. Then at times no matter how much planing you do things just do not go your way.

I had someone ask me not long ago, how are you always right, how is it you can never be wrong, this is true. My answer was I live by the book, even as Dominants we have to live by the outside world rules, no matter how much we disagree, there are rules that still has to be followed. When I was younger I tried to beat the system, any chance I got, I was trying to cut corners. Well surprise it does not work, you will get slapped every time.

How can we put in place rules and protocols and expect them to be followed, if we as Dominants do not do the same. We are looked up to, we are depended on, we are giving trust , and total devotion. mind and body.

If we cannot be truthful, and honest, how is it we come to expect the same from a submissive or slave. The first words out of our mouth when talking to a new submissive, is always be truthful, never lie to me.

If we cannot be truthful, and honest we have no right demanding the same from another. If you cannot be truthful, how does one come to have expectations from a submissive, how can we make demands.

We as Dominants have a creed, we are suppose to be different, and yes it is true we are of the few.  I talk to vanilla men daily and when my relationship comes up, they admit they would not want that type of responsibility. To much work, fuck that.

On the other hand how many of those men can snap their finger and their pants are being unzipped. How many of those men can tell their partners to go spread. How many of those men are told no to certain sex acts such as anal, or I don’t swallow. These are very unhappy men. Most vanilla men do not want the responsibility of taking care of the house, with the exception of those who are controlling, that is a far different story.

While sex is a small part of a D’s or M’s relationship it is there. The do’s and dont’s should of been worked out prior to entering a relationship and the do not’s should be respected, although at times I will try to push limits, which there are very few in our relationship, but those in place are respected. By respecting their limits is how we gain respect,and trust.

. It really blows my mind to hear one Dominant speak badly of another. Well he does not know what he is doing, or he is not real. I keep my mouth shut unless it is a clear case of abuse. We all have different rules, expectations, and needs. I myself run a very tight ship. I have tight rules in place, if one is broken we talk about it, if it is broken again then choices and consequences come into play. I am very fair. I have not expected Arianna to be able to memorize the rules, but she does read daily as a reminder, fuck I cannot even memorize them how could I expect her to. I have tight protocols in place public and private, Arianna acts the same if we are alone or company is present. The only change I allow is around her friends and family.

The Collar, Arianna’s collar is similar to an enternity collar. It was made in Arkansas, Houseofcollars.com the man did an awesome job, although you can see a few imperfection, that makes the collar a one of a kind. Arianna wears it daily it never comes off, this includes while at work, shopping, or visiting her parents. While they do know about our lifestyle they do not understand.

What Ariannas mother has told me, is she has seen a positive change, our relationship has been good for Arianna. I have tried to sit her mother down and explain everything, but as usual people only hear what they want to hear, but it is all good. I am welcomed in their home anytime, we text back and forth all the time.

We as Dominants are expected to keep our word. If we set rules in place, the rules should not be changed. I have allowed Arianna to speak up and she voiced her opinion about certain rules and how they would do better if changed or re-worded, the change for for her benefit. I welcome thoughts and concerns.

The worst punishment a slave can have is knowing they have broken a rule. The funny thing is they know, and this causes much hurt. In some cases this is punishment enough. Beating one is not the answer. If a rule is broken talk to find out what happened,

Most use safe words, during play, I do not, mainly because I still have that sadist buried deep inside. The other is I know Ariannas limitations and I do not push. I know what excites her, and what displeases her. I know what excites me as well. If you push one to far you can break that trust, once it is broken the slave can say everything is okay or forgiving but the amount of trust you had at one time is now gone.

Arianna a couple of times during play has said let me feel pain. I knew she really did not mean that. Those words were words she thought I wanted to hear. Until she met me she thought it was all about pain.

If your new to the lifestyle a safe word should be in place at least until you both get to know each other. Our main concern is that of our property. If you break your toy, you cannot play with it.

We should cherish what we have, and truly show we care, communication, aftercare after play, take an interest in their needs. Do things the slave or submissive likes to do.

The reward is truly unlimited.

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