Archive for October, 2013

Oral Sex

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, blow job, Face Fucking, fucking, gagging, Giving Head, oral, oral sex, Orgasm, pleasure, sex, slave, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick on October 30, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have said this before not every woman knows how to give head. In the past I have been able to tell if they were doing it just to please , or if they liked giving head, or they just totally got into it.  To me it is like spanking If the one I am spanking does not get anything out of it then I do not, the same with getting head.

Just laying back in the bed eyes closed arms propped under my head, and a very long sigh, this is pure heaven.

While I do enjoy just laying back and relaxing , hearing those soft sucking noises , feeling the wetness run down, oh yea I do love a very wet blow job. There is not a better feeling.

At times though I do get rough I do love face fucking, I guess it is the control factor, the feeling of one being helpless, I love the gagging sensation feeling the throat muscles around my cock. that just really drives me crazy. That is not one of Arianna’s favorite past times I can tell you, that she really hates but she does take it not very well but she does. I really try to restrain myself and just lay there the last few night I have been able to, but it is really hard. I will have to admit it is perhaps the best feeling know to mankind.

There is not a day that goes by that I am not asked if I want some head. I love those words can I suck your dick.  That is how you can tell if someone really wants to please.

The slow movement up and down or just staying still, and feeling her tongue moving around. That is a real drug.

I love eating pussy, I truly love everything about it, Arianna only likes if we are in a 69 because it makes her feel closer. I love being between her thighs, my arms wrapped around them, sucking on her lips , her clit , feeling her getting wet. Although just from oral she finds it hard trying to cum if she just grinds her clit a little it does make it easier.  I have this fetish with long lips watching my cock slide in and out the lips folding in and out wow drives me crazy.

It is true however every man cannot eat pussy, just like giving head if the man is going down just to please the woman can tell, but if he really gets into it, you can rock her world. Taking your time is very important building her up to that point and then moving to another area. You need to lightly sucking on the clit while french kissing it, once she is really into it then you insert a finger maybe two and start fucking her, get her to that point again and stop. I love it when the hips start to move, you know then she is had.

The most awesome feeling I get is watching mine cum, the way she shakes her eyes close fucking incredible. She can cum if she is on top and it does not take her long. Most will say if a woman is on top it is not a submissive act, in my eyes it is you are still in control.

Sex should be fun, it should not be planned, sex should be spontaneous , this is the time to show you care, although it is just about me , I do like to please. Maybe I show I am thankful in different way.

I do take care of my own. sexual or not.

 

Vile

Fellatio vs ?

Posted in Uncategorized on October 30, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I love good Head

Stella Kiink

Do you perform fellatio, give blow jobs, or do you get face-fucked? Maybe you do something else.

Some people think that having a mans cock in your mouth is giving a blow job and that a blow job is a blow job is a blow job. fellatioSo very wrong they are. There are as many different ways to pleasure a cock with your mouth as there are, well, cocks. It is true that the cock goes in and out of the mouth regardless what you call it, but the way it goes in and out, the way you appreciate it, the way you worship it, the way he responds… these are all different.

I am a big, BIG, fan of fellatio and cock-sucking, cock worshipping, but I am absolutely no fan of face-fucking. When I am with a man I naturally fall into the submissive role. A stubborn and questioning…

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The Difference Between DD And BDSM

Posted in abuse, Advice, anal sex, anger, Argue, Arianna, Ass, bdsm, blow job, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Discipline, Dominants, Master, Mentor, Religion, slave, Submission, submissive on October 27, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

This week I have been raising some eyebrows with my post on a DD relationship and the abuse within. I am not saying every DD house is abusive but from the comments from some of my readers present and past abuse seems to run higher in a DD home Verses a D’s or M’s ran home.

Being a Dominant can take years to Master if you will, we just do not wake up one morning and say I am a Dominant, most of us know we are different at a very young age, just as a submissive does.

Another key element I would like to point out a younger Dominant will seek out a mentor most of the time, someone they can learn from, more so when it comes to any type of hands on play. It also took me years to Master the control I have and learn the difference between being in control and being controlling. It took me years to Master my anger, to think before I spoke. The words that come out of your mouth can do much harm.

There is no reason for a Man and Woman to stand toe to toe and argue, I look down on men who do so. That does not show any control. Remember we are suppose to be leaders, we are suppose to guide, give advice when needed.The Submissive has to gain trust before they will follow, and we must be able to maintain that trust.

In a years time I have punished Arianna one time and one time only. Why is this ? It breaks a submissive’s heart to know they have done wrong. There is no more pain a submissive could endure knowing they have messed up. A submissive or Slave strives to be the best they can be, they need to be the best at anything they do. Yesterday we had a conversaionI let it go back and forth a couple of times to see how far it would go and I just finely put my foot down in a nice calm manner and it was added to her rules. At her request.

I am not saying there are not some fucked up Dominants because there are, these are the ego driven  men, the fakes I speak about all to often. The ones who prey on those who are submissive because they see an easy piece of ass. So yes there are some fucked up Dominants.

I was not here to Bash and men who live a DD life, but if your going to stand and argue with your mate, something is really wrong.

I myself to not use spanking as a form of punishment, I have one time and that was just to get a point across and it worked.  If the one who is submissive enjoys being spanked why would you use that as a form of punishment. If you spank during play and you use it for punishment, this can and will confuse the submissive, not being able to separate the two.

Most DD homes are christian based while most BDSM homes are not, although I do know people in the lifestyle who do attend church on a regular basis.

I also believe that if you are raised in a DD home the male or female learns from the parents, and they will carry this over into their own relationship. So if they grew up in an abusive home the abuse will carry over. If the home was not abusive and full of love then what they have learned is carried over.

I believe a Dominant has a great deal of more responsibility within his home, we manage everything, some more than others and some more. As everyone knows Arianna and I live in a micromanaged home. I might point out this was at her request.

I do not believe all males in a DD home have the final say, I am not saying all do not, but I believe for the most they do not. I believe the woman plays a greater role when it comes to making decisions, so far I have only had one female respond to one of my DD blogs.

There is a huge difference when it comes to these types of relationships, more so when it comes to the kink. Although sex is not the main objective in our lifestyle it does play a role. I know in my relationship when it comes to sex the word no or I do not feel good does not come out of Arianna’s mouth. I can tell when she does not feel well and I leave her be. I can say there is not one day that passes that she ask if she can give me head, or my favorite was last night she asked if I wanted to finish in her ass, that drives me crazy.

I do believe in most cases Dominants in the BDSM lifestyle are in far more control.

Here is a comment one of my reader posted last night I have much respect for Gemini and her Dominant Joseph.

Dear Vile,

I find it hard to understand DD at times as I know myself and my Dominant are so in tune with each other that I can’t imagine him feeling the need to seriously administer corporal punishment for doing something so wrong that needed correcting. Even as a strong minded and principled individual I am also very placid and compliant with him and really could never see myself defying him to such a degree.

If there was something I disagreed with or vice versa, then we would have a discussion around that and come to some agreement and because I respect him and his views so much it is very likely I would comply. To me that is big part of being submissive in a D/s relationship.

I think I would feel as though our relationship would be failing if I was going against him and breaking rules so bad that corporal punishment was needed. In any case, I enjoy being spanked too much to make it part of our relationship to be dreaded because of my misbehavior. I also love and respect him too much to upset him to such a degree.

On the other hand, I do not see anything wrong in role playing DD and being taken in hand for being Master’s naughty little girl.

Thanks for the last couple of post Vile. I found them very interesting and thought provoking.

Gemini Xx

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I am done with this topic

Vile

A DD Ran House

Posted in bdsm, Christians, Domestic Discipline, Dominants, slave, Spanking, submissive on October 26, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Just from the recent reply’s I can see there is a huge difference between a D’s relationships and a DD’s relationship. Maybe that is why there are two different lifestyles.

A DD relationship can be religious based and non-religious based, But if two people argue with each other then who is really in control? Who is really in charge

Is a DD ran house just a way to get around the kink without calling it a D’s home or an M’s home? Fromm what I understand the only punishment in a DD home is spanking and it appears most of the women enjoy being spanked so what punishment is that?

If the male will stand toe to toe and argue with the female is he really in charge. In a D’s relationship it is much different. a Submissive or Slave is much more docile ,.

Just my thoughts , any reply is welcome.

Vile

My Take On Domestic Discipline

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, anger, Arianna, bdsm, blog, Breaking Protocol, Breaking Rules, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, Discipline, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Discipline, Domestic discipline. It is Okay to abuse your wife, Dominants, excommunicated, Honesty, Master, My House, passive, Protocol, punish, Punishment, relationships, Religion, Respect, Rules, Shun, slave, Spanking, Submission, submissive on October 23, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I believe from what I have read and the research I have done , Domestic Discipline is a christian based relationship. Both male and female grow up in a DD type household. I grew up in one my parents being Southern Baptist. My brother and I lived in a very strict home, but that is not where the trouble laid.

Although my father was a deacon in our church and a very respected member in our community there were very big dark secrets. Both parents drank very heavy , both were abusive to each other, even to the point of contact.

I would like to say I learned from their mistakes, I learned about a DD house at a very young age. I learned very early on that I was Dominant although in my teens I did not fully understand.  I knew I had to be in control, and  I knew my partner then had to be very passive, easy going, lady like, calm.

Now in my early years I did have a very bad temper, but never to the point of hitting a woman out of anger. At that time I knew nothing of BDSM but I would punish my partner. I would simply walk her to a corner or send her to the bedroom. There was never any contact.

It took me years to control my anger, my thoughts, and the difference between being in control and being controlling. I learned you were much better off talking than screaming.

I learned about BDSM while I was stationed in Korea, but there it was not called BDSM it was just Master and Slave.  I was introduced to an older gentleman named Kim. It was just by luck I fell into meeting him. I can say I did learn most of what I know from Kim. Learning the difference between being in control and not being controlling, learning to listen to someone and really taking it in. Learning you could Discipline from words and not by contact. Beating your slave or submissive is not always the answer.

So from a very young age I learned the way my parents lived and other I had interaction with was not the correct way of living. I wanted to treat my lady better. Even out in public you can see abuse even if it is just verbal, those memories never go away. Words do leave scars. Bruises go away words do not.

Now I am not saying every D’s relationship is perfect, nor am I saying every M’s relationship is perfect, because there are some fucked up Dominants, there are some fucked up men who give themselves titles.  There are Dominants who use the lifestyle as an open door to abuse. The same in just a plain Vanilla relationship abuse is very active today. It just so happens some of my readers in the past have posted about Domestic Discipline and the abuse that happens.

Not every time but most of the time if a male grows up in an abusive house he to will abuse. I have seen this, and I am sure many of you have.

In my church as a kid the woman was to be seen and not heard. Last year I met a Jehovah Witness who had been living in a DD run house and was abused very bad verbally , and even to the point her husband had her excommunicated from the church and her children, mother and father. Instead of being a man and trying to solve his own problems he had to run to elders and tell what his wife had done. What kind of religion does this to a mother? Wow now is this the way a DD house is ran ?

Here are a few scriptures from the bible this explains where many who are religious get their ideas about DD.

What is CDD?
A Domestic Discipline (DD) marriage is one in which one partner is given authority over the other, and has the means to back up that authority, usually by spanking. The application and practise of DD in each marriage is as unique as the individuals who make up that marriage. There is no “One Ring of Power” in the Domestic Discipline world, to which all DD couples must bow; no singular path to “true DD enlightenment”. What works well for one DD couple may not be a good fit for another marriage. Therefore, you may see many different suggestions espoused on this site and elsewhere.

A Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) marriage is simply a traditional, male-led, Christian marriage which utilises aspects of Domestic Discipline. It is set up according to Biblical standards.

Therefore, in a CDD marriage:

•The husband is the head of the household, whilst the wife is submissive to her husband as if the Lord Himself was her husband. See Eph. 5:22-24.
•The husband is to love his wife as himself, and as Christ loved the church. He is to be a servant, and leads by example. He is to lay down his life for her. See Eph. 5:25-29.
•The wife is to reverence her husband. She is to obey him, so long as his instructions are not in opposition to God’s commands. See Titus 2:5, Acts 5:29.
He has the ultimate authority in his household, but this authority is tempered with the knowledge that he will answer to God for his actions and decisions. The final decision rests with him, and therefore, the final responsibility, whatever the outcome, is his to bear. A wise husband will not make a major decision without prayerfully asking God for wisdom, and without seeking his wife’s counsel. Prov. 20:5

He is to be the head of the home. She is to be the heart of the home.

He is not a dictator. She is not a doormat.

He is not a overbearing Lord of the Estate, seeking to trample over his family. She is not some weak-minded lass, needing to be molly-coddled, or seeking to get straightened around.

He has the responsibility for leading his family and is accountable before God for their well-being and development. He has the authority to spank his wife for disciplinary reasons, but in real CDD marriages, this authority is taken quite seriously and usually happens rarely. Most CDD marriages do use spanking, generally for serious offences, such as the “Four D’s” (Disobedience, Disrespect, Dishonesty, or Dangerous [as in dangerous choices… reckless driving, disobeying doctor’s orders, etc]). Some CDD marriages also use non-corporal disciplines, such as writing lines, or the temporary forfeiture of a favourite privilege. Again, every marriage is unique, and CDD is much more than just corporal punishment or spanking.

CDD is not a “magic pill”, and this website does not claim CDD will prevent all marital rows. It is simply a tool, one method which many couples round the world feel is quite effective in strengthening their marriages, and improving the quality of their relationship.

CDD is the husband loving his wife enough to patiently guide and unselfishly cherish her.
CDD is the wife loving her husband enough to follow his leadership and trust his direction.
A Christian marriage should embody selfless love and true romance.
A Christian couple is to be a reflection of Jesus and His Bride.

I posted some time ago about Domestic Discipline and had a few readers respond, even a female submissive who grew up in a very abusive DD ran house. There are submissives who have posted about a DD ran house, so I am not the only one.

I myself have nothing against a DD ran home, as long as it does not consist of abuse, be it verbal or physical. As long as the man is in full control and not controlling. As far as that goes I am against any type of abuse in any home.

I have said this before and I will say it again. How can you expect your woman to cook, take care of the house, kids, pay bills, and lay on her back, and you abuse her ?

So after six months or so I had two people comment about my blog on Domestic Discipline  and just gave me hell up one side and down the other. Even saying I knew nothing of a DD ran home. Well the truth is I do, If you are going to comment at least leave me a way to contact you instead of blocking your blog. You are just wanting to have a one way conversation. You want to say your peace, but you have to have the last word, yea pretty fucked up. You want to start an argument  but not give anyone a chance to respond. Okay I am good with that.

Here are the post.

swl1 11h
The glaring flaw in this entire argument is the completely erroneous assumption that domestic discipline is something that is forced on an unwilling wife by an abusive husband.
In fact it would take only a minimal amount of easy research – I would suggest a few of the two or three hundred public domestic discipline blogs (mostly written by DD submissives) available on the internet as a starting point – to establish the fact that, not only is domestic discipline an entirely consensual private agreement between two adults, but that it is most commonly introduced into the relationship by the submissive partner. It should be noted that one of the operative words here is “adult”, meaning that DD neither extends to any children in the family nor, like the sexual activities of the parents, is the arrangement made known to them. In short, DD involves only the two consenting adults within the relationship and affects or hurts no-one else.
It is also not the case in any shape or form that the submissive partner in a DD cannot withdraw consent at any time if she finds that the dynamic does not work for her. I am sure it is the case that there are many relationships in which a women is forced and intimidated into remaining in a violent and abusive situation, but a consensual domestic discipline relationship is definitely not one of these.
It always surprises me greatly that so many people who would consider it a curtailment of their human rights and freedom of choice if they were told that they must restrict their private lives to the limits of someone else’s approval and desires, can at the same the time and in the absence of any research casually condemn the choices of others.

One other thing. I think that you will find that, in a DD relationship, any ‘hitting’ is confined entirely to spanking the bottom and that split lips, black eyes, etc, do not feature and would be considered abusive and out of place by anyone who practises genuine DD. You might also be surprised to learn that DD, even when used in punishment situation, more often than not has a strong undertone of eroticism (from the D/s interaction) which results in ‘reconnection’ by *mutual* sexual pleasure directly after the spanking.
Finally, while I have encountered a very few individuals who hold rigidly stereotypical views on what they think are typical D/s and M/s relationships, the great majority of people in the DD community, while not necessarily personally desirous of these kinds of relationships, have respect and acceptance for the dynamics and choices of those who do practise them.

Louise 36m
In the vast majority of DD relationships, it is the woman who actively desires this type of relationship, and often has some trouble persuading her husband or boyfriend to try it out. Those where the woman is persuaded into it by the man seem to form a very small minority from what I have read. You don’t really seem to know much about DD at all.
I am guessing both are males, I have yet to have a female post anything positive about a DD relationship. These are all male opinions , just as what I post is my own opinion. I am glad some disagree but please have the balls to let me rebuttal, please leave the door open to let me respond.

I can tell you how my house is ran, it is probably much like a DD ran home. I have rules that are followed, I have put structure into my home, as well as protocols.  I can also tell you that I have never raised my voice to my wife and Slave, I have never hit her nor have I ever talked down to her. My wife is very intelligent , beautiful , and is far from a doormat. I do allow her to speak and share her thoughts and ideas.  We also have a communication based relationship, okay so it sounds perfect, that is because it is.  My wife and Slave will also tell you I have never left a bruise on her.

DO NOT COME TO MY FUCKING BLOG AND COMMENT AND ME NOT HAVE AWAY TO AT LEAST RESPOND. I approved your comments and I replied If you are going to come to my HOUSE and run off at the mouth at least have a little respect.

Now I do understand there are some who are submissive who comment, and do not wish to be contacted, that I do understand. If you are a male commenting on a subject you have deep feelings about and you run off at the mouth, then fucking man up.

THIS IS MY HOUSE

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Vile

More On Living Poly

Posted in Uncategorized on October 22, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have a very dear friend who is going through some troubling times. Some eight months ago she entered a relationship with someone who was not honest and has not kept his word as far a D’s relationship. I believe he is just using the lifestyle to get laid.

Anyway I have advised her not to jump into anything right away but that idea was kinda thrown out of the window, which is okay with me. At times we as adults do not looks at the consequences. We take steps without looking at the whole picture.

When entering a new relationship it is very important to be honest upfront. I live by the truth, always have , always will.  If you are not truthful upfront it will come out in the laundry, by that time it is way to late to try and reverse anything. The damage is already done. You just blew the motor in your car and now it has to be replaced. Replacing is not always easy.

A poly family can work, it takes a lot of work but it can work. It can also be very beneficial to all who live in the house. The thing is each person has to bring something to the table. Each submissive or Slave has different duties and task that must be completed. Most of the time everyone adds to the pot, meaning funding the house bills do have to be paid and just being in love will not pay anything.

There are things you have to consider as well. Number one being your personality. Are you okay living with a couple ? What is your temperament like ? The you have to consider medical, how is your health ? Last but no least the big bad word DRAMA. How much DRAMA are you brining to the table.  Bringing DRAMA into someones home is just no exceptable , the same when entering a new relationship, you want your plate to be wipped clean, your starting off brand new.

Living poly can work, it takes a lot of effort from all three , but most of all it takes communication. If living in a D’s home each submissive would have their own task when it comes to running the home.

Some do live just fine in a poly household. The problems I have ran across is jealousy between the two submissive’s . I have also said this more than once the Dominant cannot play favorites, but there has to be a number one. Now this is just my own opinion.

I would think if a Dominant brought a third in his submissive just might feel somewhat threatened if she is not totally open to a third coming in. I have also seen where the third at some point and time want to be queen bee.

The bottom line if you are thinking of living the poly lifestyle have all your ducks in a row. When your unpacking leave all your baggage packed. Be upfront about any medical problems, more so if you suffer from any type of depression, if you bring all of this junk it is not fair.

Just like any other relationship take your time, moving into a poly home is not something you just jump at. You need to think about the choices and the consequences.

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Vile

Back For Now

Posted in bdsm, blog on October 19, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Well my computer for the time being is somewhat working, lets see how things go.

You know what I blog about mostly is about my past life and some of my present. Also what I blog about is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

Right now my mind is kinda blank after some 590 post I have made in just a little over a year. It is not easy blogging about one topic without hitting on something more than once.

Maybe some of you could ask some questions or just post an opinion. If you do not feel comfortable asking questions in public shoot me an email and I will post with out your name.

Much love everyone