Shit Just Happens

We enter a new relationship hoping this will be the one. We have finely found the one. The one problem is both are on their best behavior, people tend to hide who they really are, hoping to make a lasting impression.

The problem is this lasting impression never last , and most of the time it is the male or Dominants fault. Those who are not real I call imposters , posing to be someone they are not. On the prowl, the hunt. Once the hunt is over it is no longer fun the thrill is gone, they have conquered.

Not every Dominant is this way , but the fakes or wannabes do out number the real. The real are far and few between. Someone who is new to the lifestyle does not see this nor do they want to see. I have blogged about this before as a matter of fact several times.

Your Newly found Dominant should encourage to to meet others like yourself ask if he is active in the local community. Ask about other Dominants he may know. Ask about his relationships and why they did not last. If the reasons fall on the slave every time, then there is a problem.

The Submissive or Slave runs into a problem the Dominant may step in and help this is a good sign. If the Submissive or Slave is emotional at times, he will not stick around to long. I am sorry but I am not the one for you we need to move on. Remember you have already been conquered the thrill is already gone, if you produce any problems this becomes more of a task, it kills the thrill.

Those who want to be a Dominant or pose as a Dominant the thrill does not last. He lays out a few rules sexual most of the time because he is fucking clueless. You think its okay because he is showing authority , he is taking charge, even if the number one rule is, you will worship my cock.

The spanking grows old, the bondage grows old and fast. The sex grows old because he is a predator the thrill is gone he has hunted and made the kill.

He knows what to say because of the wide access of information today, the childish chat rooms. So yes he knows exactly what you want to hear, and you will fall for it every time until you get wise.

I have spoken about mentors many times. I believe a Dominant should have a mentor more so if you are new to the lifestyle. The same goes for a Submissive Or Slave. If you are new to the lifestyle find someone who has experience someone who will help you pick through the fakes.

It could take you several months to realize something is wrong, but you cannot put your finger on it. Even after speaking to others. At this point you are in love and you are going to hang in there hoping it will change, but you know what ? It never does or will, it will continue to get worst. At this point the Dominant is hoping you will break it off, this takes the guilt away, he walks away with a clean slate because everything was your fault or this is what you are led to believe .

So you have spent the last six months on your Back or on your knees. You have spent the last six months crawling around on the floor, phone sex, sending pics, and in some cases videos.

This is not a bad reflection of you , you have done nothing wrong, you are just trying to please. This is a normal reaction for a Submissive.

So you are going to meet a new Dominant for the first time. Listen I am not talking out of my ass, I am speaking as a male a Dominant and a owner of a Slave.

Do not let him tell you what to wear. You wear what you feel comfortable wearing. You never session on the first meeting, after all this is your first time meeting. A real Dominant would never expect you to do so anyway. There are signs but you ignore them, you know there are signs but you still ignore. This is the time you take a breather , clear your head, gather your thoughts.

You meet someone for the first time you go to a hotel, he ties you up blindfolds you, guess what ? You are fair game, he is going to do what ever he wants, and he will say fuck your limits. Think about that, you can get really fucked up. You are not going to call anyone, you are not going to call the police and tell them this dude had you tied up.

If your in a relationship and it goes south, and you are clueless, you did nothing wrong. You did not know just like the ones before you did not know.

When you first meet you the Submissive has to set guidelines down. You got his number you should be able to call when you want, you should be able to text when you want, and expect a return text in a timely manner. You should know where he works, what kind of work he does. You should know his address where he lives. He should invite you out with his friends. You should be able to go to his house at any giving time. If the answer to any of these is no, you have a problem on your hand.

Here we go again I cannot get over married men who stray from their wife, because she wont do anal, or suck cock. So he finds someone who will. Some do not care if someone is married, and that is okay, if you are willing to spend your birthdays alone, Christmas alone, thanksgiving along and never spend time on vacations. If you are good with this more power to you.

If you are emotional , or you stress easy, your Dominant should step in with a plan of action, take control and fix the problem. The Dominant should show great patience , and the desire to work through any situation that may come up. Your Dominant should never yell at you, he should never call you names out of anger. The Dominant is always in control.

If any of the above is happening to you or has happened, it is not your fault. You were just one of the unlucky ones that met a Dick Head.

So put your shoes on, kick the dirt and move on.

I am here to tell the truth , I have no reason to lie to you or mislead you. Again I have been in the lifestyle for a very long time, I am married to my Slave, and very happy.

A Dominant will have a plan of action when he meets you, he will have goals for you, he will want to see improvement, he will want to guide you.

Rules are meant to help, rules are meant to guide you. Rule number 1. You must worship my cock. How is this going to help you ? On the other side of the coin every Dominant is different, every Dominant has different goal, and some do not even have goals.

So what kind of Slave are you going to be or what kind of Slave do you want to be. A Slave who is used for service? A Sex Slave ? the list really goes on and on. You have to be you, and you have to be upfront about who you are and what your needs are.

Be careful about what you share with someone, start out with small bits and pieces , you do not want to lay your whole life out on the table to someone you have known for a couple of months. In the end if the relationship goes south, this is all ammunition to be used against you. Take great care in what you share.

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4 Responses to “Shit Just Happens”

  1. Awesome. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

  2. Thank you for sharing your viewpoint from the other side of the coin. We’ve all heard the horror stories. Too many of us have found ourselves to be the focal point of such stories.

    It’s overwhelming at times to process out the realization of having been caught up in half of the basic trappings of an abusive relationship for whatever the end game may have been. In my case, I didn’t love the person. I just got caught up completely in my own nature to such an extent that I ignored every last warning sign before it was too late.

    Since this time in my life, I’ve learned to reign in this part of my persona and keep it like a secret so to say. Honestly it sometimes it bothers me that I’ve become this way. However at other times it makes me cherish my submission that much more because I truly only share it with those I love anymore.

    • Most of the time you can tell if someone is real or not. In the past if I knew I was being played, I played the game.
      I am against abuse when it comes to women, more so towards Slaves or those who are submissive.
      Thank you for your comments

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