Archive for January, 2014

Our Local MasT Meeting coming up. Interesting Subject

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Acceptance, Adapt, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, Dominants, MAST, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Masters And Slaves Together, poly, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, Protocol, Rules, Sister Slaves, slave, submissive, Three's Cpmpany on January 30, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Poly: Not just about wanting another cracker…MAsT: Daytona Beach 2/7/2014 7:00 PM

During some recent meetings, the subject of “poly” (polyamory) came up – bringing about some very passionate responses… So let’s go there & explore this part of the lifestyle.

Most of us grew up with the conditioning, maybe indoctrination, of the seemingly indisputable truth that a relationship can only consist of 1 +1 = 1.
And yet, somewhere, somehow that desired exclusivity can be so restrictive – denying the possibility of inclusion, of allowing others into the realm of your “exclusive” relationship potential.
Can a “poly” configuration/household be sustainable?

“The point for me is to create relationships based on deeper and more real notions of trust. So that love becomes defined not by sexual exclusivity, but by actual respect, concern, commitment to act with kind intentions, accountability for our actions, and a desire for mutual growth.” ~~ Dean Spade

Please join us for what is sure to be an interesting discussion.

This was my response about the meeting and the topic.

Vile1962: about 1 hour ago

I believe Poly can work under the right circumstances. I also believe it has to be an agreement on all three’s part.
I see poly as three living together and each one brings something to the table. I believe the third would be there to help the Alpha, they should become best friends, enjoy going out together. Sisters if you will.
The third has to know there is a number one, and the other slave will always be number two.

Moving into a poly relationship, once the Master has found another slave, the two slaves should become friends first and for most. Once the bond has formed then and only then would I consider taking the relationship to the next level.
Each has their own definition when it comes to poly. I see it as the same with the TV show Three’s Company just kinkier.
The second is there to assist the first, make the load a little lighter. Giving to the house, meaning pay their share of the bills, and food.
I see things differently but I do not judge others, as I should not be judged.
We are all different that is what makes the lifestyle so unique . We are able to be who and what we are.
Leticia brought up the subject this am about the possibility of bringing a third into the picture. Which I had never thought for a minute she would be open nor have I ever brought it up.
That is the communication we have she knows she can come to me with anything. So now I am thinking.
What would it benefit , how would it benefit Leticia? What would she get out of it ?
As a Master and Owner we should look at these things. What will our Slave get out of having a third ?
Okay I will stop I could go on and on

Those are my thoughts on the subject.

Every Dominant is different , Every Master is different , and every Owner is different. I consider myself a Master and Owner. I am a Master Because that is how Arianna Addresses me , that was her choice. I am an Owner because I own Arianna.

I know I have spoken about Poly relationships before. Arianna has been in a poly relationship before, and it did not work. I have been in a poly relationship before and for 7 years it worked, but the third thought she was going to be number one and I kindly showed her the door.

Arianna has met three different Dominants who are either poly or want to be, and she see’s clearly what the difference’s are between all three, and she has no interest in the way their relationships are ran.

As every morning after our morning coffee at 3.40am and I see her off to work, she calls and we talk. This has been every morning for a year and a half, WOW time fly’s when your having fun..

At times our conversations get pretty deep, and intense, and others we just talk about anything and everything. This am kinda caught me off guard. She brought up the subject about living poly. I almost spit my coffee out.

Last year we went up to Tennessee to visit my parents, my dad is getting older and not doing so well these days. We were going to a park to go inside a cave and Arianna made the statement out of the blue. Your the first man I have ever met who did not think with his cock. Where in the fuck did that come from ? She meant our relationship was not based on sex, from the beginning. I will explain where I am going with this.

Some slaves except the fact that their Master needs different flavors. Maybe one slave is not a masochist but everything is going well. So the Master will search for a masochist. The variations can differ but you get the picture.

Some men just have the need to fuck other women. I am not here to judge anyone we all have our kinks. We all have different needs.

While I was in my search for a Slave, I wanted the whole picture. I wanted all or nothing. I refused to settle for less. I found her and life has been unreal , I could not ask for anything better. Arianna is and always will be the love of my life.

So it took me over a year to find the one as most of you already know so I am not going to harp on the subject. If you ever settle for less it will never work.

So to bring a third in that would take a great deal of thought, and the search begins once again. It could take sometime or maybe not it would just depend.

Many Dominants have their slave look for other women. Many Doms who do look post pics of their slave, while searching for another slave. I find that to be exploiting your slave, and it is something I do not agree with.

If the slave has an interest in bringing another into the relationship, then the Master or owner should do the search. Once a prospective slave has been found. The Dominant steps out of the picture for sometime.

This is the beginning stages for the two slaves to be allowed to come together. This is the time they will spend finding out if they have anything in common. This is their time to start to build a friendship. Then and only then should the three sit down and start to work things out.

You as the Dominant should not bring in anyone who is going to make your slave feel threatened. Its like your bringing in another female cat when you already have one. It takes time for the two to get to know each other.

If another Slave is brought into the home it should be to benefit the first slave, not the master. After all the two have to be able to get along. To bring in another slave against the first slaves wishes is not right and it could do a lot of damage.

So the two have to become friends. Then they also have to be compatible , and be attracted to each other, in a sexual way and none sexual way, or maybe neither are bi. That is a possibility as well.

The slave would have to be willing to adapt, the other slave would have to be willing to go through the same training. Follow the same rules and protocols. The other slave would have to know she is the third but would be treated as an equal.

The three have to function as a family. You go out to eat together, movies , theme parks, vacations . The three function as one. Each slave would have different task within the home, and out of the home. The third must remain loyal at all times.

Poly should be about benefiting the slave. These are just my thoughts and my own opinion.

Then sex, all of this is talked out before hand. is sex allowed with someone no present. I do not think that should be allowed and I would not permit.

Poly can be a good thing and it can work. It can also be beneficial during today’s times, now you have three checks and not just two. Everyone contributes to the house.

Three’s Company can be good if the Master’s head is in the right place, and he does not just base everything off of pussy and getting his cock sucked.

Turn it around and let a Slave or Submissive ask the Dominant t if she can bring in another Male, yea see how far that gets you. The book is much different.

The relationship cannot be based off of sex, the picture is much bigger.

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Why The Dominant Is Single

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Acceptance, Adapt, Baby Girl, bdsm, Commit, commitment, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, Conversation, Dominants, Giving Head, Humiliation, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, pussy, Rules, slave, submissive, sucking cock on January 29, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am going to touch on this a little more. Yesterday I was watching training Videos of Grant Cardone an awesome motivational speaker. I have been watching his video’s for about 10 hours over a period of two days. It seems no matter what I am doing or watching I somehow find a way to relate it to the lifestyle. I see Hear something that is said, or I am just observing things around me, but everything comes back to the way I live.

The one word that came to mind and it really stood out was commit , commit means everything. The Dominant reaching that point of commitment and truly meaning it.

When a Submissive or Slave meets a new potential partner they already have an idea or see in their mind how they see their selves living in a D’s or M’s relationship. Most already have a plan and what kind of Dom they are looking for.

The Submissive or Slave expresses their needs and how they want to live. They see how they want to live from day to day. They see how they want to serve and be treated.

Treated is another key word. While some see being treated as a princess such as a baby girl, the Submissive see’s living somewhat a strict life, while the Slave wants to give up most everything. Some do not like being called names while some crave. Some do not enjoy humiliation, while others crave it, some do not like pain, while it is a need for others. So every Submissive or Slave is different. Looks, height, weight, habits, personality’s, everyone is different.

If a Dominant finds the perfect Submissive or Slave and everything is going good, and as planned, but it begins to crumble and it falls apart it is because of one word. Commitment . With Commitment comes a few other words as well. Truthful , Honest , and the ability to stay consistent, then attitude. The Dominants attitude also sets the foundation. Staying positive means the world. There should be no negativity .Coming home work should stay at work. If you do not like where your working it is okay to express those feelings but to come home and spend an hour bitching, that is not good. I recently changed employers. Arianna knew I was displeased and I shared why, but as far as really bringing my work home I left it there at work.. The Dominant must remain positive at all times.

What happens is you the Dominant rubs off on the Submissive or Slave. Even to include what you believe. They will adapt to their surroundings.

Without putting that first word into motion Commit, there is noway the relationship can form. It will never grow and it will remain stagnant.

You can have the best communication in the world. She could suck the most amazing cock, have the best pussy you have ever had, cook the best food you have ever eating, follow your rules to a T, but if your not ready for that one word Commit, it will never work.

I would imagine there are those who are Submissive who are afraid of that one word as well, but for the most I think that lays on the Dominants shoulders..

So after you have met and you have asked your list of questions, and shared any concerns. The last and final questions come up.

Are you willing to give me 100% of yourself, no questions asked ? Will you be there for me no matter what ? Will you take care of me to the terms we have agreed on ? Will you be loyal to me ? That goes if your not in a poly relationship. Will you be fair ? Will you have open communication ? Last but not least ARE YOU READY TO COMMIT.

Commitment .

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Some Feel Bad For Arianna

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Adapt, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Definitions, Behavior Modification, communication, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, Daddy Dom, Depressed, Depression, Discipline, Dominants, Domme, emotional, Emotions, Gorean lifestyle, Gorean Portocol, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, No Rights, Protocol, Protocol public, Safe, Safe and Sane, slave, Slave Contract, Slave no rights, Submission, submissive on January 26, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

A few of the comments that have been made has really got me to thinking, one that really hit me was the one about cutting Arianna’s hair. It sounded as is they were truly concerned about her well being.

I would just like to go over a few things, not that I have to explain myself because I do not have to, but I am going to take you a little deeper into our relationship.

Like most Arianna has probably been a slave for a very long time, I am even going back to her childhood days. While growing up being married twice, being taking advantage of several times by other men was something she was pretty much use to.

Most who are submissive or a slave know they are different, and most know they are different at a very young age. You continue to grow still having these feelings but you have no idea who to talk to. Maybe you have tried to talk to your husband or boyfriend but they did not understand, or they thought something was wrong with you.

Before I move on I will say this again. If your in a relationship and you cannot communicate, by communicate I mean being able to talk freely about anything and everything. You are in the wrong relationship. I call that a relationship of convenience, and nothing more. If you cannot talk to your partner about how you like to be spanked, slapped, tied up, or even peed on. You need to rethink your life. Are you going to live miserable for the rest of your life, or are you going to put your foot down and do something about it.

So when I first met Arianna she was out of control. She was on the verge of a serious break down and no one cared. She really had no one she could talk to and certainly not her nutty mother, who is a true wack job. She was lost and her life was spinning out of control. She was out almost every night drinking, guys were taking her money. She had spent 30.000 dollars on motorcycles .

Then we met , we had dinner I cooked for her. Baked chicken, homemade mashed potatoes, home made green beans, and rolls. I do enjoy cooking when I have time.

No I did not get a blow job nor did we fuck.

While talking well I let her talk and I just listened because I wanted to take everything in. While listening I was analyzing every word that came out of her mouth. While trying to process everything, and thinking of solutions , it really had my brain pretty much whacked by the time she left.

When she left I had a couple staying with me, and kelly said there is no way in gods world are you going to pull her in, I just winked and walked away. I may have said something as well but I do not remember.

So now I had to decide if I wanted to put that much into a relationship? We met again and like the first time we hit it off, so far the only thing we did not have in common was music.

I could see the confusion in her eye, I could see the hurt, I could feel how lost she was, and I wanted to take her by the hand right then, but we had to talk.

She told me she was a slave, she told me she wanted to serve. She told me she needed to be micromanaged. She told me she wanted no rights.

So before entering the relationship everything was pre-negotiated . I explained to her how I ran my house, my rules, and my protocols, and she agreed. So Arianna did not enter the relationship blindly.

As far as giving up control this is what she wanted, and now it has come to a point where she wanted to give up more control. This has come now because she knows she can trust me.

Arianna did have a break down. She had been seeing a doctor who had her on the wrong medication for years. Prior to that she had , had a couple but not as sever.

This was a very hard time for both of us, but we both stuck together. I was called in to speak to her counselor and we talked about our relationship. She did agree that the way our home was, it was good for Arianna to have rules and protocols. This came from a medical professional.

Cutting her hair was not a spur of the moment thing, again this was negotiated. I also wanted to see how far her submission was. We cut it she did not like it, but she was happy because I did.

Although we do not have a written contract we do have a verbal contract. It states what is expected out of each other. She states how Arianna will conduct herself at all times public or private. Where she can go, when she can go, and how long she can go. What she will wear. There is much more but again everything was negotiated, nothing is or was forced.

I believe a lot of the negative thoughts are coming from those who are younger submissives , or maybe even younger slaves. This all depends on what type of Dominant or Master you live with or what type of relationship your in.

Bottom BDSM

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Male bottom held on a leash by a female top

In BDSM relationships, the bottom or submissive takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role. The other partner is the top or dominant.

A bottom can be subjected to acts such as flogging, servitude, or humiliation and can be physically restrained by bondage, which can itself inflict pain. A person who relinquishes control for a large percentage of his or her day-to-day life to a top, or who submits within a formal set of rules and rituals, is sometimes referred to as a slave. The top is then often called the Master or Mistress.

The term bottom originates from a more general use of the word, especially in the gay male community, to mean receptive partner during anal sex. (See bottom (sex))

Limits to submission

The acceptance of a bottom or submissive role in a BDSM relationship is seldom absolute, often operating within a set of defined limits.

A common means by which a bottom or submissive can signal to a top or dominant partner that their limits are being approached, pushed, or even crossed is the use of safewords; Extreme forms of submission or the practice of edgeplay can remove the safeword option from the bottom or submissive, although, this somewhat risky situation is entered into with the consent of the bottom or submissive.

It gives a clear definition of a submissive, or what is also known as a Bottom. The submissive does not submit on a 24/7 basis, and can put limits on their submission, as well as rules.

The world of BDSM as I posted the other day the BDSM Tree Of Life shows the different branches and the different lifestyles and that just touched on a very few.

Master and slave bdsm

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In BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual (the submissive) gives to another (the dominant) ultimate authority over them. It is a form of dominance and submission. The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship is structured in terms of slavery, because of the association of the term with ownership of the slave and the rights of a master to their body, as property or chattel. The dominant is often called Master if male, or Mistress if female.

The owner/slave relationship is entered into on a consensual basis, without the legal force of historical or modern non-consensual slavery, which is forbidden by the laws of most countries.

Slave

Outside the BDSM community, the relationship of Master/slave is sometimes regarded as a form of consensual sexual slavery. In BDSM, a slave is a specific type of submissive. The master/slave relationship refers to the relationship between the individuals involved, and does not necessarily require any specific acts, sexual or otherwise, though sexual activity is usually an aspect of the relationship. The sexual aspect could be conventional, and not necessarily BDSM. A slave could also be a masochist or bottom, but this is not always the case.[1]

Some participants regard the relationship as sexual roleplay, while others enter into the relationship on the basis of a highly committed, long-term, submissive lifestyle.

Some practitioners feel the difference between submissive and slave is the degree of submission. However, many who are involved in Master/slave relationships see the difference as being conceptual. For example, some slaves may not have a naturally submissive personality, but choose to surrender their will and volition to another.

Symbols and rituals

A slave collar with D-rings, to which a leash may be attached

Various forms of symbolism are sometimes used to affirm the owner/slave relationship. These include the wearing the owner’s collar, being registered in a slave register, adopting (sometimes legally changing to) a name chosen by the owner, or engaging in a public declaration or ritualized ceremony of some type.

Some people draw up a slave contract that defines the relationship in explicit detail. These contracts may also deal with domestic arrangements (such as cleanliness, home duties) and interpersonal relationship matters (such as issues of deference, language, etc.), besides the sexual arrangements. Typically, they would provide that the master has the only say in all matters relating to the body and manners of the slave, including clothing, underwear, social relations outside of the arrangement, etc. However, these contracts are understood as not having any legal weight and are not intended to be used in a court of law, but are an understanding and agreement between the individuals.

In some traditional rituals, after signing a slave contract, many people celebrate the commitment to the relationship with a collaring ceremony, which can be simple or elaborate and friends are usually invited. The slave then wears a collar, which symbolizes their status. The collar may be a piece of neckwear, or may be a bracelet or other piece of jewellery that symbolizes slave status. These collars are generally not removed unless or until the relationship is dissolved, although some slaves are permitted to wear a more subdued (or less obtrusive) one outside of the home – for example during work or in social situations with people who may feel uncomfortable by them.

Slave training

Slave training is a BDSM activity usually involving a consensual power exchange between two people taking on the roles of a master or mistress and a slave. Typically this involves changing the slave’s behavior in a manner that is pleasing to the master or mistress, perhaps instructing the slave to follow a set of rules that the master or mistress has set out.

Slave training is a learning process both for the slave (or submissive) and for the master or mistress, or dominant. Training will usually be set out and defined clearly before it begins. The master or mistress will teach the slave how to speak, act and think in a way that is pleasing to them. The slave, in return, gets pleasure from being able to make their master or mistress happy. Or, the slave gets a reward like food, a bed, etc.

In some instances, in more extreme relationships, it may also involve some forms of aversion training. This could include use of spanking, cropping or clamping to encourage compliance, and to permit the slave to find an excuse for complying in their own minds. If the “slave” being trained is also a masochist, they may enjoy painful punishment, therefore punishment may need to be psychological or emotional, to create the unpleasant result that the punishment requires.

The way a submissive and Dominant live, although some who are submissive may call theirs Master out of respect. The relationship between Master and Slave is much different.

The training is much different, the intensity of the training is much more different, the consistency of the training is much different, and then the daily life is much different than that of a submissive, or lets say a baby girl.

Those of you who do not understand Arianna started a blog because she felt she needed to share some of her thoughts about what I write. Those of you who have seen it, you have the freedom to ask her anything and she will answer with all honesty.

As I stated the world of BDSM has many branches , we all take a little from this and a little from that to make us who and what we are.

Although I am not Gorean I do run my house in a Gorean way, the difference being I only have one slave. I use Gorean Protocols as well

I can assure you our relationship is consensual. There is nothing non-consensual about our relationship. To this day Arianna wants to add more, as far as giving up rights and freedom.

I can assure you Arianna is where she needs to be, wants to be. Together we will continue to grow as Husband and wife, and Master and Slave.

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Shameless: Suitsupply and Carli Hermes, Something for Master.

Posted in Uncategorized on January 25, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Maybe the Mens Warehouse should look at different ways of advertising .
Your gonna look good I guarantee it.

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Suit Supply Shameless-III-campagne-voor-2010Suitsupply is a men’s fashion brand founded in 2000 by Fokke de Jong in Amsterdam. Suitsupply is a vertically integrated company with stores in the Netherlands, the United States, the United Kingdom, Italy, Germany Belgium, Latvia, Lithuania, Belarus and China. They are known for choosing unconventional retail locations where they sell both ready-to-wear (starting at $350) and ‘cut-to-the-bone’, where suits are made off-site after measurements are taken at 70 different points around your body.

You’d expect a Dutch company to have fairly liberal attitudes and Suitsupply is well-known for their risqué photography and advertising campaigns.  Carli Hermes (1963, Schijndel) has shot all the Suitsupply campaigns since 2004. He is one of the best photographers in the Netherlands. His photographs are enticing, exciting, confrontational and alienating. The photos are edited so that they evoke the feeling of a surreal dream, a dream of perfection.

Some of the Suitsupply campaigns have caused a stir, such as Shameless, Ambition and Not Dressing…

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A Slave Is A Pet

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Adapt, An Owned Slave, Arianna, bdsm, Bond, cage, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, Depression, Dominants, Human Pet, Kink, kinky, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Mind Fuck, owning a slave, Pet, Rules, slave, submissive on January 25, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This will be my seven hundred and one post today. Wow a year and a half has really flown by. I am going to guess out of 701, I probably have 25 that were re-blogs from others who caught my eye.

What started out as something for me to do, maybe a hobby, something to spend some time on, turned into a message I wanted to send out to as many people as I could reach.

Hoping to share the hidden dangers out in a world that can be very deep and dark. A world you can get hurt in, be it mental or physical. A world were if your not in the right hands you can suffer from abuse. There are those out there who get off on a life long mind fuck. There are those who are just looking for a piece of ass and they see submission as a weakness.  When in fact they could have the greatest gift they have ever had.

Many who are in the beginning stages while searching out their submission will often mistake abuse from caring. If your new and you do not have a clue you really don’t know what to expect.

90% of my blog is about safety , some of you have listened , while some have not. It would make more since if you listen to a Dom who has walked in the very shoes I speak about.

I share with you what is said in the male huddles, I share what others have told me, and I share what I have done in the past. If you think about it I have no reason to lie to you. Someone lies if they have something to gain. I gain nothing from sharing with you. Nothing at all. What I could gain out of my sharing is you listen to some of what I have to say, and use parts, and you would see that it could save you a lot of trouble and heartache.

Thank you all for reading what I have to blab about, if nothing else you get a good laugh. or you may not wake up alone black and blue.

Today I hooked up the DVD player I had promised to do it sometime ago, but I am on Viles time. We rearranged the bedroom as well so we could put a TV in the bedroom which I am accustomed to. I also had another job interview, that had to be the longest in my life but I truly enjoyed it. I am taking a new job Monday , but it never hurts to cover all bases, or maybe a better opportunity come up.

Anyway once the DVD player was hooked up Arianna wanted to make sure it was working so she put in the movie THE PET which is a truly interesting film about the love an owner has for his pet. The slave was willing to go through changes in her life and showed total devotion, towards her owner. The love between the two was just unreal. The part that got to me was when the owner was playing fetch with the Slave, and Arianna laughed , I said what the fuck are you laughing at I will take you outside and make you play fetch, yea it got quite.

The movie was suppose to be BDSM based but it was really about the world of slave trade which is alive and running even today. There are some 28 million people who are sold as slaves every year.

When we think of a slave, we think of someone who is very humble, and docile. Someone who seeks someone they can turn total control over to someone else. This is a great deal of responsibility for the Master, and it can be an easy task or it can be one that drags out for months depending on which form of training one chooses to put into place.

The training can only begin once the Master has gotten to know his slave inside and out. This goes the same for the Dominant and submissive. To train the Dominant or Master, or maybe owner has to really know you. Your habits, your thoughts, any types of medication your on. The medications if your on any could have an effect on any hard limits you may have. I am speaking as far as any type of depression you might have going on, anxiety you might have going on. So any training process must be giving great thought. Most of us do not have a PHD , but most of us do have common sense.

We take care of ours, we cherish, we guide, and for the most we take a huge weight off of their shoulders. We promise to make everything alright.

There is a saying I like to say. Come and let me hold you so I can take all of your pain away. When you hold someone tight enough you can truly feel. You can feel the good and bad, but you can feel the lost as well. Just like the KISS the KISS tells everything, you can tell if it is real, you can feel feelings. Hugging someone that tells as well. You can feel from the hug, you can tell if its real or if it is fake.

The Slave is a pet. A pet who will happily lay at your feet, and will do so without question. The slave will follow without question, trusting you. The slave will walk hand in hand without question.

Very few truly understand how deep an M’s relationship is. Most who are submissive do not understand how someone could willingly give so much. Many who are submissive do not understand how someone could live as a slave and be happy.  The slave does not understand how one can just be submissive, and only submit at their choice of time. Although there are those who wish to take their submission to deeper levels.

I also believe there are those who are a slave but are afraid to cross that line, so the word submissive comes out. The thought of giving yourself over to someone, and them having full control over you. It is pretty scary. If you connect with the right Dominant, Master and Owner you would then see it is not that hard.

The first time I saw the movie THE PET it really got me to thinking. What would life be like if I were to own a human pet. The pet much like a slave wants for nothing. The pet like the slave has nothing to worry about, everything is done for them. The Slave like the movie THE PET is obedient very docile, non confronting. The Slave like the movie THE PET does not wish to argue or question their owner. At times they have questions in their mind, they may worry about something that comes up, but it soon passes once they see everything is handled.

You have to let your Slave speak their mind if something comes up. Something happened not long ago that upset Arianna, and we talked about it. I did allow her to voice her opinion, to kinda get it off her chest, but if we did not allow this, that is where a communication breakdown could happen.

We are each our own, we all live how we want to live. We have different ways, different kinks, and needs.

Most Slaves are very needy, I did not say all but most. Arianna needs constant direction, that is where the consistency part comes in, at time I need to add a little then at times I take a little away that is to make an even balance.

Arianna has also added to her rules, things that she believes should be in place. Her rules are read daily. By reading them it gives her a sense of security. She knows she is loved, she knows she is cared for. In return I get anything I want, that I know will not harm her.

To own a pet it would be neat just not for me. Well at this point and time in my life.

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ImageI May play with this idea some.

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The BDSM Tree Of Life

Posted in 24/7, Adult Baby, Adult Kitten, Ass, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Be who you are, communication, Consensual, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Dominants, Fetish, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, Kink, kinky, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, poly, Polyamory, Pony Girl, pony play, Rough Sex, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, Slave no rights, Submissive kitten on January 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

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We as a community have branched off in so many directions. We have the only lifestyle where we can be who, and what we need to be.

We have been able to Branch off in every direction to fill our needs and kinks. No matter what your into you can always find a partner, or maybe more than one.

Our lifestyle allows us to be free. We have what many only dream about. We live what others only see in a fantasy. We wake in the am proud of who and what we are.

You can be a Submissive , a Slave, A baby Girl, and Adult Baby if that gets you off. You can be a pony, a puppy, a little kitty and lets not forget the little bratty sub, who is always stirring something up.

You can be a Sadist who has the need and love to inflict pain. The Masochist who crave the feeling of a single tail whip strike your back. You can live your life as a slave, and hand full control over to someone.

You can be as open as you need, you can share your deepest and darkest secrets, with that one special one or like many share on their blogs. You have that second life no one knows about.

No matter what your kink is there is a branch for everyone. Every idea, every thought , need or want, you can find it in our small little world.

The Baby girl who needs a Daddy in their life, to love and guide. The bedroom submissive who only wants to submit when the lights are out. The submissive who is learning a new path of freedom, with her Dominant, or the Slave who wants to surrender all.

The pony who want to pull the buggy, or the puppy who wants to be in a cage, the kitty playing on the furniture. The tree is always growing and new branches are born everyday.

You can find the sensual Daddy Dom who will always be easy, or a Dom you likes it rough, there is someone for everyone, no matter what your flavor is.

In the world of BDSM a Dominant or Master can have multiple subs or slaves and at times all living under one roof. Some work out while some do not, to some it was just an experiment . If we do not experiment then how do we learn.

The bad news your going to make mistakes, some mistakes will have a plan and just goes wrong, while some mistakes are due to being careless.

One thing we all look over is we all need to get along. We are small in numbers. We should not judge anyone for their kinks, their needs. We are who we are and nothing is going to change it. We should support each other, give friendly advice, and if your told something keep it to yourself. There is a very heavy trust factor.

Just be who you are, and be free.

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No matter what your flavor is there is someone for you.

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What Makes You A Submissive

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, Argue, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Be who you are, being used, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Dominance, Dominants, Fake Dominants, fuck meat, Giving Head, Love, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Patience, Respect, rimming, Rules, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, Safe Word, Security, slave, Slave no rights, Structure, submissive, Submissive Brat, sucking cock on January 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

That question should be looked at long and hard. You are going to step into a whole new world. You are going to go places you have never in your life thought of. Your going to be treated like you have never been treated in your life.

There are things you need to think about before taking that step. Reading about BDSM is totally different than living it, or acting out.

What makes you a submissive ? What makes you think your a submissive ? Why do you have the need to serve ? Why do you need rules ? Would you really follow them ? Why do you need structure ?

Those are things that should be thought out before you begin your search. Again here comes the list things all of the above should be on paper and you should be able to answer each and everyone.

Then comes the hard part. Finding the new Dom. That will probably be the hardest task you will ever come across in your life. Because now you are going to spend a great deal of time weeding out the fakes. This will take you at least two or three relationships. Then you have to weed out those who think they are Dominant but they do not have a clue. Then you have to weed out the real ones. You have to pick out the one who fits like a glove.

Maybe your looking for a Daddy Dom , maybe a regular Dominant what ever that maybe, Maybe your looking for a Dominant who is a sadist, or a Dominant who is more into the discipline part of the lifestyle. Maybe your a Masochist, not every Dominant can fill that role,. Maybe your a Brat, again not every Dominant can fill that role.

The above should go on a list as well, and you should be able to answer each and everyone with a clear understanding of what the differences are. What role each Dominant plays.

What type of relationship do you want ? This falls under all of the things above. How do you see yourself living as a submissive on a daily bases ?

What are your limits ? What are some of your limits but in time you may be willing to try ? Never be afraid to express yourself, never be afraid to tell someone what your limits are, and they had better be respected. Never be afraid to tell someone if your limits are crossed you will walk away.

Remember you are a submissive not a slave. You still call the shots. You still have the right to say what will happen and how. You are submissive not a slave.

Make sure your Dominant keeps his word. After all the first thing a Dominant will tell you is to always be honest, and truthful. Why would you not expect the same respect in return.  If you are promised a call, a visit, a text, flowers, a birthday card, then that is what you should get.

Let me get something straight you the submissive are replaceable , that sounds really cruel, but I am sure most of you have been there at some point in your time. You were dumped without notice, no calls, no emails, no text, your calls were ignored. You were replaced.

The same goes for a Dominant he is replaceable as well. Many men fail to look at that side of the picture. When you enter a relationship you need to plant that seed. You were looking when you found him. You need to stand up for yourself, there is nothing wrong with making sure you get what you need and want out of life, and a relationship.

You are a submissive you say when you will submit, and how you will submit. Most who are in a D’s relationship do not even live together. I did not say all I said most. So why would you as a submissive submit to someone who cannot be truthful with you, or they cannot keep their word.

I am giving you a males point of view, because I have been that asshole, I have used, I have abused. Before the mule kicked me in the head, most of the women I saw and fucked were just meat, and nothing more. Most were just cum dumps, with a functioning cock sucker. I could care less what happened once they walked past my front door.

If you think I am the only one who thinks in this manner if you have dyed your hair blonde, you need to run to sally’s and dye it again and fast

So I sit here almost on a daily basis, giving advice. I am giving good advice. You can call me stupid, you can say I do not know what I am talking about, shrugs I could really careless what someone thinks of me.

It is not impossible to find the right one, it just may take a little more time than your willing to invest, but if your willing to invest more time, it would cut out a lot of heartache , and drama that you do not need.

Limits are very important. You have limits in place for a reason. Maybe you don’t like anal sex and you don’t care to try it. Maybe you refuse to RIM, maybe you don’t swallow , no matter the case you need to share your limits and explain that they will not be crossed. Why because they are replaceable.

The Slave factor is a total different story. Arianna is not into pain. Being a sadist at one time, I still have those tendencies, but I respect her way to much to hurt. That is a limit I have, hurting my toy. With the exception of pain and a few others that are normal, Arianna has no limits. That was something that was discussed when we first met. I covered each and everything in great detail so there were no questions. The only answers giving were Yes Or No. Apparently she answered more yes’s than no’s because she is still here , and will be for many years to come.

If your in a relationship and you have to step outside of your circle to ask for advice. Guess what? Your in the wrong relationship. You do not have the communication within your circle to make it work. That means you never had the freedom to express yourself, or your feelings. Now comes the replace part.

You can ask Arianna about the past Dominants she has met, more so the ones she has met while with me. She can see a clear difference. She will tell you how many times her ass was beat and left black and blue, the pain she endured. So there is more than just you who are having or have had problems. Guess what ? Arianna replaced them. You can do the same.

If you are not getting the attention you deserve, the communication, the play time you need. The you need to open the dictionary and look up the word replace.

You can make your search very simple, or you can drag your life through the mud. You can be relaxed, or your life can be full of drama. You have to decide what side of the fence you want or need to be on. Your the one dealing the cards.

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I Own You

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, Collar, Consensual, control, Dominants, Love, married, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, mistakes, No Rights, owning a slave, Protocol, Punishment, Respect, Rules, slave, Slave no rights, Structure, Submission, The perfect Slave, TPE, Vile on January 22, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am not Master alone you call me Master out of respect. You are not a Slave alone, I call you my own. You are mine you have chosen to give yourself fully without question. Upon my return you kneel with great pride and respect. You kneel because you have the need.

I am Master because you are my Slave, without a Slave I am but only a Dominant man. I was a Dominant man in search of a partner who would complete the man I am, the man I needed to be.

I was lost, I was not complete , I searched for the one , I searched for the one who would fill that empty void, the empty feeling deep inside.

You were a lost Submissive who was seeking much more, you were lost in every sense, you were confused, and no where to turn. Then you were guided to me.

June 15th 2013 you married me as the sun rose standing on the beach, you excepted my ring of love, and the gift of my collar, and I thank you for both.

Owning you comes with great responsibility now I must look out for two. The mistakes I make now effects both and not just one.  I now must take the steps to improve our lives in the home and out. I must take great care when making decisions. I must do what is right for both Master and Slave.

You have giving yourself without question, and I see daily how proud you are to wear your collar, public or private. You are a Slave and you walk with great pride.

Your collar is locked just like our love for each other. Our love and respect for each other will continue to grow, our M’s relationship will continue to grow.

I feel everyday we are as one, while we are apart I feel as if something is missing from deep inside. It is only replaced once I am home and I hold you, only then do I feel complete.

I own you Arianna, and I do so with great pride, and Honor. When I walk through the door and you are kneeling I look and I am thinking there is my wife, my slave my property. I own you. You as a Slave have adapted to my way, you follow without question.  You are my Slave. You have giving up all rights, you are now able to be free. I own you.

You follow my rules with a great need and passion, you follow my protocols without question, you have excepted punishment without question. You have giving yourself to me. You are my Slave

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Our Relationship Has Taking A Turn

Posted in 24/7, A slaves passwords, Adapt, An Owned Slave, Arianna, bdsm, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominants, fetlife, fucking, journal, Master, Master And Slave, Masters, micromanage, owning a slave, Patience, Rules, slave, Slave no rights, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, Total Slavery, Total Submission, TPE on January 22, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Living as Master and Slave is really not as difficult as most think. It really depends on how much the Slave wants to Submit and how much the Master wants to give in return.

While I was searching , I knew what type of Slave I was looking for, I knew the qualities I was looking for, I knew the demeanor I was looking for in a Slave and the personality. I had in six months compiled several list and narrowed everything down to one. I took a little from each list and made one. I knew exactly what I was looking for, and I would not except anything less.

After meeting Arianna for the first time I was just in total awe, I cannot even begin to explain the next steps I was going to take and more so how I was going to proceed.

I remember my friend Kelly telling me after Arianna left, she said dude there is no way your going to pull that off. Kelly said she is the hottest female I have seen in a long time, there is no way. I looked at Kelly and said bet me, bet me anything.

After an hour and I heard nothing, I was thinking I just may lose this bet, then my phone beeped . I want to see you again tomorrow. I knew right then I was in like flint

So now I had to really think after learning just what type of relationship Arianna wanted, I had to decide if I was up to the task or not. Just the thought of a Micromanaged relationship put heavy thoughts on my shoulders. It is not that I could not do it, the question was did I want to invest that much time in a relationship.

Over a years time I had met with some 50 or so Slaves or who wanted to be a slave and I had no interest in any one. So for six months I just chilled. No looking, I had no interest. I needed to take a break and gather my thoughts. Maybe just maybe I had set my expectations to high. Maybe the slave I was looking for was not or could not be real. Maybe it was time to lower my standards a little, maybe I expected to much from one person. Maybe poly was the way to go. Nah fuck that at this point and time it was just a waiting game.

Micromanagement , you are taking control over someones life. You are taking full control over someones life. You are making there decisions , what to wear, how to talk, how to walk, when to eat, what to eat, There whole life is balled up and laying in your hands. When to sit, when to stand, when to go to bed, when to get up. How I wanted my cock sucked, how I liked to fuck. Wow that is a lot of responsibility .

At this point to add anything to our routine would not be like adding anything at all. Once you form a D’s or M’s relationship and the two are on the same page things just fall into place.

Arianna had brought something up about a week ago. She had stated that she did not feel her submission as much. I explained she does not see or feel as much because she lives it everyday. Everything she does on a daily basis comes natural.

In the past I have brought things up that I am truly against when it comes to any relationship. The first being a Dom or Master demanding all of the subs or slaves passwords to all of their accounts. Even in the world of BDSM everyone needs their own privacy, not to mention you are giving private information to someone you hardly even know. The second thing I am against is access to your cell phone, again a privacy thing, and third your computer. Most Dominants or Masters who demand such a thing are ego driven, and insecure. Trying to throw their authority around, and you give it to them because you think you have to. Your trying to prove your submissive.

Okay where am I going with this ? Last week Arianna and I met with another Dom who is single. We met in St Augustine, had lunch at a small Irish pub very nice, the setting was much better than the food. Arianna and I were drilled for maybe two hours, being drilled I mean a lot of questions about how we maintain our relationship. How we maintain the M’s side on a daily basis. How we stay Master and Slave. How is it we never argue.

Arianna was asked a question I believe it was about trust, she made the comment that she would be more than willing to give all of her passwords as well as being monitored by a GPS tracking device. The topic had nothing really to do with trust, coming from her, it was about giving up more control. She explained how she loved to be restrained on a daily basis, caged more. As I am listening I am taking all of this in, and I am thinking would any more that I decided to put in place add more to my bag, not at all because we are at the level of truly knowing each other.

Now the key to my part I have said a thousand times is me being and remaining consistent, and being consistent on a daily basis. Consistency makes the world of D’s or M’s run smoothly, the Slave just falls into place, and will follow without question.

I get up every morning with Arianna at 3.40am . I go into the kitchen and turn the coffee pot on while she is getting ready. When she comes out her coffee is poured and we talk. A couple of times a week I only get about 4.5 hrs sleep, but I still feel the need to get up with her. Then on her way to work she calls like clock work, and we talk more. The other day we were talking about our visit and she brought up the subject that she needed to give more, and wanted me to take more control.

She keeps two daily journals now. One in the car, time and mileage to and from home, work and where ever she stops in between , then once home she has a journal she writes in of all her task, even when she just wants to sit and relax. I know everything she does and what time.

So now I had to figure out a way to take more control. So I mentioned a App for a GPS tracker which she found one downloaded it and sent me the link. It is called Life360 , it sends me updates every time she is on the move. I know exactly where she is at. . I now have all of her passwords to all of her email accounts, as well as her wordpress and fetlife, not that I will ever use them, but I do have that ability.

I in noway demanded any of these things, nor have I ever brought the subject up. This was all of Arianna’s idea. This was her way of giving up more control. This is what she needed as a Slave.

In the past with the rules I have in place, not only does she follow my rules, but she has added a few on her own as daily reminders, which I thought was awesome. She added these rules because she felt she had a need.

To take without the other wanting to give is very wrong, to take when offered makes you feel good, knowing they have that need to give and they want to give.

It is wrong when you first enter a relationship and your passwords and other information is demanded. You as the submissive has the right to say no thank you, unless your new Dominant is going to give you the same access. Ask him for his passwords and see how far that gets you.

The more the Master keeps their word or Dominant the more you as a submissive or slave will want to give. After all that is what your looking for, you want to give all , you do not want to hold anything back.

Arianna’s perfect setting as a Slave would be total solitude, and confinement , then she would be truly happy.

Everything I have spoke about is all about trust. Trust will get you everywhere and everything, without full trust you really have nothing.

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Vile

If You Can’t Trust

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, slave, submissive, sucking cock, TPE, Trust on January 21, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

In our lifestyle trust is probably 95% of the relationship. Trust is the building of a relationship. Trust is being tied down spread eagle and knowing your not going to be hurt.

The words you can trust me, those are and can be very misleading I think when someone uses those words that is a huge flag. That is why I believe trust is earned and it is earned from getting to know someone inside and out

That is why or I use to be shocked when a submissive would meet a Dominant and on the first date allow someone to tie you up. That is not trust that is being dumb.

If you cannot trust the one your with , and you always have thoughts in your head that should not be there, why be with someone ? Because even when your together you still have these thoughts looming in your head.

If your with someone who has cheated before be it male or female they will do it again. Just like when a man hits a woman out of anger and he promises not to do it again, the fact is he will. There are no if’s and’s or but’s about it he will and each time it will get worse.

Trust does not happen over night, trust is like building a bridge. Depending on how many times you have been hurt depends on the amount of time it takes to build a new bridge. It takes one fuck up to make a bridge collapse, and a long time to rebuild.

There are a lot of things in life I do not understand, one I have talked about is the married man who has a family and he has to find a submissive to suck his cock because his wife wont .

The other thing I do not understand is the submissive who sees the married so called Dom and sucking his cock after he has fucked his wife. If you think your the only one he is banging besides his wife then you are way out there. I am speaking from experience , I have done the same thing, well I take that back when I was married I remained loyal even though it just sucked ass. At one time I was stringing 4 or 5 along making each one believe they were special, when in fact none of them were. I had someone come over almost nightly and suck and fuck me then go home. So I am speaking as a male. Do not think your that special, that your the only one he is cheating on his wife with.

You do not have to agree with me, you can say I am wrong or I do not know what the fuck I am talking about, or maybe you can show me a different point of view. I am open minded. The one I think about is the wife stuck at home taking care of the kids.

So even being in such a relationship how can you fully trust ? How can you fully give yourself? How can you bild on such a relationship knowing that it could end at anytime?

Your in cuffs, blindfolded, ball gag , on bed legs spread, butt plug in. You are fair game and there is nothing you can do except lay there and take what ever is giving. If your in a relationship things tend to be much different, but if your just meeting someone think about the possibility’s. Think of the different outcomes that could happen, like when they show you different ways a movie could of ended. You are the star of the movie.

Living in a D’s world or more so an M’s world, you are putting your life in someones hands. You are giving up most if not all control of your life. Someone who is going to give you rules, make most of your decisions .

Arianna brought something up last night before going to bed. We talk every night once we get relaxed. She wants to give up more control, she wants or needs to be restrained more, less move ability, more restriction on where she can sit or be allowed with in the home. Remember we are talking about a Slave and not a Submissive. We also know as we grown within a relationship we change and our needs change as well. Keeping an open mind is very important. Also if something is implemented and it looks like things are not going as planned, then we should change things up.

This is the trust I am speaking about, and the trust that is needed. Trust is everything.

If we are going to control someone we need to be fair. We need to be upfront and honest about what is expected. If we are honest and keep our word as a Dominant, the submissive will give everything they have, no questions asked. If we as Dominants show we care and we are putting them first, the submissive will give all they have. If we are truthful, and we live by the truth the submissive will give everything they have.

The submissive will give, and give, and give until there is nothing left to give, but the giving will continue if they are getting something back in return.

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