The Main Types of Submission in BDSM: Submissive, Slave and Pet

This gives a good break down of the different types of lifestyles. Slave, Submissive and Pet. Very good reading and information

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In the BDSM lifestyle there are largely three different types of submissives, and when speaking to them, they will tell you with pride which they are and why. I will give you here some description of those types but before I do so I would like to make clear something regarding my BDSM World. Most will say a slave in comparison to a sub is mostly a female without opinion, she is only to do as her Master desires and in some cases without limits. I argue there is anyone without opinion, desires and much more I do not accept any reference to NO limits.

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4 Responses to “The Main Types of Submission in BDSM: Submissive, Slave and Pet”

  1. Very informative as usual Vile.

    D/s – M/s has as many different connotations and meanings as there are people participating. This subject came up recently during an off-line conversation I was having with a fellow Dom. Much like a marriage, each couple defines the degree of their level of participation to which they feel comfortable. In my follows (unscientifically) I have noticed that couples who are married seem to draw closer and have a higher level of truth and more full disclosure than vanilla couples. When the couple is involved in a marriage (official or common-law) there becomes a bond which draws the deeper together, and I think this also the case for committed unwed couples, although this just my opinion based on observation.

    I liken this deeper commitment to your descriptions (and those whom you’ve quoted) of being a in deeper submissive or dominant state. This, I think dovetails Southern Sir’s recent post on feminism… http://southernsirsplace.com/feminism-and-bdsm/ …and BDSM. Candidly, the two just don’t mix. As JB stated so eloquently- (paraphrasing here) the feminist movement gave equal rights to men and women, it did not necessarily mean woman to be equal to men. My opinion is that this extends itself into the BDSM community in that a D or an M can be a man or a woman just as a sub or a slave can be, which falls back into personal preferences. The point here is that, in each and all cases, one lives to serve the other – and the other lives to serve the one.

    Take your relationship with miss Arianna for example- while she lives and desires to be your slave and you her Master, being a slave to her means serving you (and more I’m sure). She likely achieves a ecstatic level of mental eroticism by serving and pleasuring you, and like a drug, craves more and more of your Dominance, ‘enabling’ your relationship to go deeper and deeper. In that light, you in turn feed off of her desires to please you through her submissive slavery to you, empowering you to dig deeper within yourself to do more, be more for her as her Master, which brings out more of her corresponding servitude.

    It’s my theory (opinionated) that relationships like this cannot be built on anything but deeper levels of trust further enabling each to allow or pursue that deeper level of D/M and sub/slave ‘space’ as it’s been termed in each facet of their relationship. These are ever evolving (in your words) if the D/M performing his role in creating a disciplined structure in which the sub/slave can thrive. It becomes symbiotic and self perpetuating provided both are committed to nurturing it. When one or the other looses interest or begins to wain from craving the other, dissolution often results.

    I’m going to draw a whacky comparison of evolution here- it could be argued that we all have these same tendencies but limit our depth of exploration based on our own societal bounds- and one therefore becomes bound to seek a deeper knowledge about this lifestyle proportionate to the amount of societal bounds you’re willing to let go of. For example, two young people dating start off holding hands, then the kiss, then a grope, clothes fall off, and then, as you said, ‘shut up and fuck her.’ Okay, then they become ‘engaged to be married’ with the same rituals- hold hands ending with fucking. Then they get married- repeat again. Enter Mynx and I, deeper level yet Married D/s Couple and repeat the process. Further deepening would be your relationship with miss Arianna, and though not married, you went through a similar, more direct ‘discovery process’ together, enabling your desires and cravings to be mutually fulfilled. In the end it’s about desires, cravings and satisfaction and what they mean to the individuals partaking in their own level of satisfaction, but giving respect and appreciation for the other for meeting their needs. Does that make sense?

    Keep up the great work Vile- I certainly enjoy your posts and perspectives!

    -Mynx’s Sir (Tom Wolf)

  2. Dear Vile,
    Thank You, Awesome reblog. I’m now following dominationsubmission many thanks,
    Your Friend,
    Anastasia

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