Archive for April, 2014

You Cannot Change A Submissive

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, bdsm, commitment, communication, control, Dominant, Dominants, FaceBook Vile Woods, fifty shades of grey, Rules, slave, submissive, sucking cock, you cannot change a submissive on April 30, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

No one really knows why a submissive is a submissive, no one really knows why a slave is a slave. A submissive or slave cannot even answer that question. The only real answer is , it is a need, it is a deep feeling from within. They have the need to please and serve.

To someone who is vanilla this is very hard to understand and most men who are vanilla will not except this type of behavior , they do not understand nor do they want to understand.

You cannot say I know what is best for you, you cannot say it is abuse because it is not abuse. Fulfilling someones need is not abuse. Abuse happens daily just look around at the women who have black eyes, busted lips, that is abuse.

So it is one or two things , your either close minded , or you do not want the responsibility. You care but you don’t care. You care about your needs, you want your dinner cooked, you want your house cleaned, you want your laundry done, you want your cock sucked, you want to fuck her in the ass, but her needs do not matter.

She wants rules, you want dinner cooked. She wants to be spanked, you want your cock sucked. See if your not willing to step into her world, you are only thinking down a one way street. You are self centered only thinking about your needs, and yet you expect the relationship to work.

I can tell you from experience if you are not able or willing to fulfill ones needs they will find someone who will and someone who will enjoy a D’s relationship.

I lived with a slave for seven years, around the 6th year I began to let my feelings get in the way because I felt like I was abusing her. In the end I was not longer the Dominant I said I was, love did not matter, the amount of time we had been together did not matter, she packed up and left. It was not her fault it was mine. I lost control of the situation and I was not able to regain control. You cannot back track.

You want all the womanly duties, but your not willing to give in return. Yea that is pretty fucking selfish. The submissive is willing to give 110%, but your not wanting to put any effort into making the relationship work.

Then if you are willing to step up to the plate you are not going to learn from a book. A book can be a good reference guide, a book can give you an idea, but if you are reading the Fifty Shades Of Grey and your using this book which was poorly written by the way, you really do not have a clue.

The bad news is becoming the Dominant she needs is no easy task, it is not something that happens over night, it is not something you can learn in a month, or even a year. So you will have to seek out a mentor, someone who has been in the lifestyle for a very long time. Someone you can meet in person, and you listen, and listen, and you listen, and your going to listen some more.  The real bad news is every submissive or slave is different, every submissive or slave has different needs, they need different rules, different structure, the communication may be on different levels.

It will not matter how much the submissive likes you or loves you if you are not able to fill the shoes they need you do not stand a chance. You have a few choices, you learn and you except or you find someone you have more things in common with and less responsibility…

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Vile

 

She Gets So Wet

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, blow job, Face Fucking, fucking, Fucking Missionary, Gagged, gagging, I own you bitch, oral sex, slave, sucking cock on April 29, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I love getting my cock sucked. I love wet blow jobs the wetter the better. Arianna has this way of applying pressure with her tongue when coming up and sucking at the same time. I just lay back and relax for the most, but every now and then, well okay a lot I will push her head all the way down so I can feel the gagging and I hold it until I can feel she is getting ready to cough, as she comes up and she releases I can feel the warmth coming from her mouth.

If I am just into getting my cock sucked at that time, I will go 10 minutes or so just letting her stay in control, many times I do not want to cum, I just want to lay back and enjoy, but when I do. I will put one hand one her forehead, and one one her chin, and as i am moving her head up and down I will pump her mouth, until I explode in her mouth.

The when I want to fuck and I tell her to get on her back, she knows to spread and to wrap her arms around her thighs spreading them, as I crawl on top and I am just dieing to get my cock inside her, sometimes it just slips up and down and I have to reach and put it at the entrance or her pussy and I push in. If I tell her to just lay there so I can cum that is just what she does. If I say come on, she knows she can let go of her thighs, she wraps her arms around me and I stay still while she grinds her pussy against my pelvic bone until she cums.

After she has came, I wrap my arms around her thighs pushing her knees close to her head, and I pound her like there is no tomorrow, sometimes I will leave it in, but most of the time I love pulling out and have her jack me off. Feeling her hand tighten around my cock and jacking me WOW there is no other feeling.

At times I will slap my hand on the bed and tell her to get on her hands and knees. I love fucking doggy style, but looking down at her ass, much of the time, I slide my cock out real slow, and I move it up to hole number two. I put the head right at the entrance and I tell her come on back up on it. Once I am in her ass all the way, I just hold it for a minute feeling the warmth of her ass gripping my cock, then I grab her hips and I just pound her. Wow fucking incredible.

She does have some good pussy. As I am fucking her I look in her eyes and I tell her I own you bitch

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Vile

The Fake Fifty Shades of Grey

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Anal Training, Argue, Arianna, ass fucking, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Definitions, being used, blog, blow job, cock sucking, Commit, commitment, communication, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Disrespect, Dominant, Dominants, Drama, FaceBook Vile Woods, Fake Dominants, fifty shades of grey, Humiliation, Married Dominant, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, punish, Punishment, relationships, Rules, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on April 29, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

2011 year of the Dominant. 50 shades of grey was published. The book sold some 70 million worldwide and blindfold sales increased as well.

 

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Fifty Shades of Grey is a 2011 erotic romance novel by British author E. L. James. It is the first installment in the Fifty Shades trilogy that traces the deepening relationship between a college graduate, Anastasia Steele, and a young business magnate, Christian Grey. It is notable for its explicitly erotic scenes featuring elements of sexual practices involving bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism (BDSM). Originally self-published as an ebook and a print-on-demand,[1][2] publishing rights were acquired by Vintage Books in March 2012.[3][4]

There is much that has been left out. I read a little bit of the first book, and if your into reading a fantasy book then good, but it seems to many have taking it from a fantasy to reality, and not really having a clue.

The physical contact when it comes to BDSM is only about 5%, the other 95% is mental.  To be able I want to word this correctly  , to be able to be a Dominant you have to be able to get into the submissive’s or slaves head. You have to be able to stimulate their mind.We have to get to know the submissive or slave inside out. We need to know what truly makes them tick. We need to understand their emotions, we need to understand when they are having a bad day, we need to understand that when they are not communicating we need to communicate to put the submissive at ease. We need to make the submissive know we as Dominants will make everything alright.

I am not sure where or how the depression aspect plays a part, but I do know from my past experience most who are slaves or submissive suffer from some type of depression. I could not make this statement if I had only met two or three slaves , I could not make this statement if I had only met 9 or 10 submissive’s  Over the past twenty years or so I have met hundreds. Most were very dear friends. Then there were the handful that I used, even then I knew something was not right but I did not care enough to even think that something maybe wrong.

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To really get to know the submissive we have to take a walk, we have to be able to get into the brain, we so to speak. We have to be able to open every door at each section and have a full understanding of what makes the submissive tick. We have to know what makes them think the way they do, what makes the submissive like or dislike the things they do. We have to understand their limits , we also have to understand when it is time to stop.

Most who are looking for the one, will bend over backwards to please. Most will take what ever you have to dish out just to please, but if your not inside their head you have no idea the amount of damage you may be doing, and they may have no idea either, until the after. I believe this is when sub-drop is most noticeable. I believe this is when the depression really kicks in. For the most I myself believe sub-drop is preventable through proper care. Most of the time when sub-drop is present it is because the two do not live together, or the submissive is not getting the attention they need. Sub-drop does not always occur after play, you can experience sub-drop even if your alone.

If you meet a submissive who is on medication for depression or any other illness it is very important to find out why they are taking it, what its for, then you research the different meds they are taking.

I know for instance Arianna has limitations when it comes to play, so I stay away from those gray areas. I know exactly how far I can push and I know exactly when to stop. We as dominants never want to push one to that limit.

So its like you knock on the forehead you open the door and you begin your travels, your going to walk through many doors, and your going to spend a lot of time in each room, so you are able to gain information, you will want to know what makes each room tick, what makes them think the way they do.

This is why I preach to those who are new to the lifestyle if you start out having sex then that is all you have. If you do not live together you are not grasping the true means of living a D’s or M’s lifestyle. Your getting a couple of hours a week or month in a motel room, or the dominant is coming over to your apartment. You are experiencing the sexual side and nothing more. The truth is there is still another 95% you have not touched.

Being a Dominant is not about barking orders, it is not about suck my cock or get on your back, it is not about anal training while your on your webcam , or sending video with your phone. That is not BDSM

Breaking down the four letters BDSM which you probably already know but many are missing the one word that means the most. B= Bondage. Sado= someone who enjoy giving pain, someone who enjoys humiliation. Humiliation comes in many shapes and forms. Someone who many times will push your linits to far and not really care as long as they get off. Masochism = someone who enjoys receiving pain someone who enjoys humiliation, someone who enjoys being used and pushed past their limits. I am sure there are things I left out but the one word I left out, is the one thing you are or most are missing out on D = Discipline

Disciple also comes in many forms and again it is not about barking orders, it is not about making up rules as you go, it is not about punishing, in fact if you the Dominant are in full control, punishment is far and few. The last thing a submissive or slave wants to do is break a rule, or disappoint you. That is the greatest humiliation they can experience.

D= Discipline does not have to mean punishing you, because you rolled his socks up wrong, or you forgot to send a video of your anal training, or fucking your ass with a dildo so he can jack off. D= Discipline means the Dominant is in full control. He is in control and not controlling. He is in full control of his daily life, he is drama free, he is problem free. If the Dominant is not in full control of his life, how in the fuck can he control you. Telling you to suck his cock, or prepare your ass to be fucked is not Discipline.

Arianna met a Dominant one time and he told her he wanted to go back to his place so he could start her training by sucking his cock. She did decline his most gracious offer.

Those four letters BDSM run so much deeper, those four letters have a definition that never ends, because I do not believe you can ever learn everything or experience everything. The learning aspect of those four letters never end.

Now to all of you 50 shades wannabes or you dudes who just want to abuse and use, or you are married and your wife wont suck your cock so you find someone who will.

I am living the DREAM I live with my Slave, I am served by my slave emotionally and physically. My slave who is my wife is my best friend, we actually communicate. I include the one letter and I am consistent on a daily basis. The letter D= Discipline runs deep.

I seldom drink the same type of coffee in the morning. Arianna keeps a variety for me. Almost two years now when I open the door she is kneeling, her hands extended with a huge grin on her face because she is happy to see me. On the nights I get home late my clothes are laid out for me. When I shower she is kneeling by the tub, once I get out she drys me off. There is not a day that goes by she does not ask me if she can suck my cock. She does not know the words NO or I CANT. She thrives to give up control, she is always thinking of ways to give up control. Arianna has the need to serve. All because of that one letter D= Discipline.

Many of you who are submissive or baby girls the baby girls are the worst. Many of you jump from Dom to Dom, hunting and searching you think sucking cock is your way of finding the rainbow. You think this way because you believe everything you hear , or your just that desperate. Why would you settle for less just to have someone a few hours a week or a month. If you are not living together you are not gaining anything.

Having a plan to make that move is different, even if your long distance and getting to know each other but then you decide okay one of us has to move. That is real , that is how you tell someone really cares about you.

There are very few blogs here on wordpress that are positive. Most is just about bitching or how much they miss their daddy. I did not get a call on my birthday , or I sent a text 3 days ago and have not heard anything. I get to see my daddy and it has been three months. It is really depressing, and I just fucking wonder why you want to put yourself through this, why take this type of mental abuse.

I get up in the morning with Arianna , I turn the coffee pot on and we drink coffee together, but I think many of you get up and you drink a cup of stupid, just to get your day going, a cup of drama extra strong, a cup of drag me through the mud. Let me have a cup of depression to get my day started…

I am not pointing fingers at anyone so do not take it to heart, but why in the fuck would you put yourself through such abuse? Why allow someone to come in and step all over you and walk out while they are throwing you a towel to clean up and say I will see you next month. I really do not get it, because all of you could be living the dream.

Most of you Baby Girls are seeing men who are married, that I do not understand. Because you have a 99.9% chance of him not leaving his wife, you are there because there are things his wife will not do.  Then your only getting his side of the story, maybe you should go see her, give her a call to see if things are so bad, because if they were so bad he would of already left. She is the one who had his children, she has helped him buy the house and cars, she is the one who is cooking for him, she is the one doing his laundry, and yes she is still fucking him. Why would you disrespect her? What has she done to you? Why would you want to destroy what she has worked so hard to build?  It is not a question will you get caught it is when, and I can tell you it wont be pretty, because when you try to destroy her world she will destroy yours. Why put her through his mess, his fuck ups? She has done nothing to you, and you could really care less. If your Dominant or Master or Daddy really cares about you, he could pack up and leave, money or no money, I know because I did it. I lost everything, but in the end left with nothing I was happy.

If he is fucking around on his wife, do not think for one minute you are the only one he is fucking. Do not think if he does leave his wife he will not fuck around on you. Think about that.

I am living the DREAM and if your willing to put just a little effort into your life you can as well. If you 50 shades of grey Doms stop thinking with the wrong head you could as well.

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Much Love

Vile

The House Of Vile

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Acceptance, Adapt, Alpha Slave, Arianna, bdsm, Beta Slave, Bondage, Camel Toe, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominant, http://housemakai.wordpress.com/, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, Living Poly, Living Triad, Master & Slave, owning a slave, poly, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, Protocol, Protocol public, Punishment, Rules, sex, slave, submissive on April 28, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

The title does have a nice ring to it , Arianna and I had a very deep conversation this am while she was driving to work. We do talk every morning , at times it is more general, then at times the conversation turns very deep.

I am for the most a jokester , hmm is that a word ? I am a prankster , now that is a word. For the most people do not know if they should take me serious or not, or I will say something make a comment and the room gets quite, and someone will say I am waiting on the punch line.

It is no secret or at least I don’t think it is I sell cars for a living , it is okay it was a huge career change for me , and Saturday I was selling a prius V to a lady and when I took her credit application in the general Manager looked at me and said what do you know about this woman ? My reply was man she has a huge camel toe, and I just got this blank stare and everyone is looking at me, and I am like what it is huge. People laugh when my phone rings and my ring tone is Tone Loc, Funky Cold Medina. It was Stranglehold By Ted Nugent for the longest. I am not very good with my Samsung Galaxy S4 so every now and then Arianna will showing me something new, like the Mp3 down loader then this bad ass ringtone maker. So I am not all serious 24/7, Ariannas Mother still has not figured me out, and I have made some comments that has just blown her mind.

Ariannas Mother does know about our lifestyle, and although she may not agree with everything, she has seen a vast improvement in the way she acts and her health, Her mother also knows she is loved and cared for. Just like last Sunday I was off and Arianna had to work. I love cooking and I like to cook when I am off I guess I am helping out in a way. So I went to the store and I bought dinner. When Arianna arrived home dinner was prepared.  I served her Lobster tail, Baked Salmon, and shrimp and Lobster meat, and pasta. My way of saying thank you.

Twenty plus years I have had three long term relationships., I have talked about the last two in depth, in my past blogs. The in between was some pretty rough road, not for me but those who were submissive, because in my eyes they were just objects, something for that time. Okay so I used and I was wrong because many times you can give false promises without even saying a word. At times I was very cold because when I was done, I was done it was time for you to get the fuck out. The ones that I just used I had never brought up the topic about a collar, because that was not my intention.

The last before Arianna was Lynn. Lynn was the perfect situation for the time. She would come over on Friday and stay til Sunday then go home. We would text through out the week , then when she was over it was just bondage and sex. I knew it would never turn into anything, so it was fun for about a year. I never took her to any local events because I was not into her like that. There was only one Dom I introduced her to, again because I was not into her that way.  When it was over it was over, no contact at all between us so the parting was mutual. That was the slave whos husband came over crying because I was banging his wife. That is what I keep saying you will get caught, it is not a matter of how, but when. No matter how sneaky you are or how good you think you are you will get caught, and in today’s times you get get hurt or even killed.

So the House Of Vile. I run a very strict well structured home. We are problem free and drama free. I have rules and protocols that are followed daily. If they are not, then the choices and consequences come into play. In almost two years Arianna has been punished one time, and it is something she will not forget, since then it has been smooth sailing.

There is no arguing, there is no yelling, I rum my house. I have a place within the home and Arianna has a place. I am Dominant she is Slave, and yes she does call me Master but that was never anything I brought up or told her she had to do. As a matter of fact when she first met me she asked, what do I call you? I told her for now just call me Vile, then what will be will be. I think it was a couple of weeks and she started calling me Sir, again that was not something I told her she had to do. I had to earn her respect, and being called Sir is something that has to be earned.  Although we have never argued , nor has Arianna ever spoken out of place, I do get the eye roll every now and then, sometimes I say something then at times I just let it go.

So we are now talking about adding a 3rd, bringing someone into our home. I blogged about this the other day, our little bubble. To bring another into your home is a huge decision, and it is something that needs to be discussed in great depth. Both parties have to come to an agreement. We are speaking to a slave now, who will soon come out to visit. The first time we spoke on the phone I made it very clear. It is not me nor is it about me. You will have to win Arianna over, you will have to become her friend, you will have to become best friends. I am the easy one I am the one who can adapt. Although having another Slave would be nice, and I am not speaking about sex, because that is something we have not really talked about. It would be nice to bring another in to help run the house. To insure things run smoothly. To help Arianna , help with task, shopping and so on. Go out together have fun, Art classes and art shows. So bringing a 3rd into our home is not just about pussy or getting my cock sucked by two women at the same time.

There has to be an Alpha Slave, there has to be, although both are treated equal there is a chain of command. The Alpha is just as respected as the Dominant, although the Alpha does not run the home , she is in charge while the dominant is not home. The Beta is giving task and will follow through with them without question.

I believe you have to have an open forum once a week. This is the time that the three sit down and speak freely about anything and everything. How things are going. Did any problems arise that needs to be addressed? Are things running smoothly ? Did the two have any differences that needs to be addressed. This is not and will not turn into a bitch session.

The Alpha is an Alpha for a reason, number one she was present first. The Alpha was the Dominants choice , The two has been in a growing relationship for sometime. So when you start to talk about bringing a 3rd in, the Alpha has to know things will not change, no matter what happens, because if she feels threatened in any way, then the possibility of a 3rd will never work. So the weekly talk should be very open so both can speak their feelings. Maybe something could be done a different way, maybe the two do not agree with something.

The first rule of the house is the Alpha is always right, if your confused about anything then you ask. The Dominant and Alpha sit down and work on the daily task. I then pass down what the Beta needs to do, and the Alpha insures everything is done.

If you have experience and you have been in the lifestyle for a while, maybe a long time. You can take everything you have learned and throw it out the window , because you will have to adapt to my way, and I can assure you my way is much different.

The way you will act, the rules, the protocols, even the way you dress. When you are out in public you are a direct reflection of me. Just like the bracelet Arianna wears WWVD . So while being a 3rd will not be an easy task in the beginning, the payoff would be great because Arianna and I have a lot to offer the right one.

One thing Arianna brought up was sex , and she made the statement , that no sex would take place without the three being present. I said done. That is the way it will be, it is not because I gave in to her want or need, I did it out of respect. On the other hand, Arianna and I will have sex while alone, but I would never have sex with the 3rd without Arianna being present. Arianna is no Bi but should would play.

The reason is I have deep respect for Arianna, although Arianna is my Slave, although is she owned, she is first and for most my wife. Nothing will ever change that.

Protocols are something that has been long forgotten , but with out protocols you cannot have any type of structure, you can not function as a D’s ran home or for that matter an M’s run home, without structure you have nothing. Without house rules you have nothing.

It is clear it is the 3rd who will have to adapt to our way of living, she will have to adapt to our protocols, our rules, and be willing to take direction from Arianna.

You have to show an interest, you have to ask questions, surely you want to know what your about to get yourself into.  The idea is the three take care of each other, and with everything stated above, you can have a nice peaceful, home, you have have the security you need, you can have the structure you need, and most of all you will be cared for.

WELCOME TO THE HOUSE OF VILE , Sit down and fasten your seat belt your in for one hell of a ride.

I had the privilege of speaking with a Dominant last week, who also happens to be an Author and I will pick up the book he recommended to me , but he also has his own radio show, it is a weekly broadcast and that is the main reason I contacted him, I was seeking advice, because I am still thinking about doing the same thing as well as a book. The awesome Lea Berrymire is assisting me with the book. We spoke for about 10 maybe 15 minutes, and what an awesome conversation we had, well I think so anyway, but I want everyone to check out his blog. I just found out he is poly but the way he runs his home is much how I see things.

I do prefer the word Triad over poly just my preference and there is a huge difference, in my eyes anyway. Here is his link.

http://housemakai.wordpress.com/

Vile

Three Collars

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, Collar, Collars, Dominant, Dominants, eternity collar, http://www.houseofcollars.com/, Master, Master And Slave, slave, submissive on April 28, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

The Collaring of a submissive or slave is probably the closest you will ever feel, your emotions sky rocket through the roof. I myself could feel the oxygen running through my veins, the rush, as I looked down at my arms , they looked broke out as I watched the chill bumps rise..

Then as she turned around and I picked up the allen wrench and I begin locking the Collar, the rush grew even more intense, my thoughts were becoming numb, I could feel my hand shaking a little, but still keeping my composure together. Then it was locked, I now had full ownership of my slave and wife, it was done.

I searched for days I spent hours comparing different collars, where they were from, how they were made and even who made them. I wanted something special, then I found House of collars, as I was reading it stated they were all hand made and being made by hand showed some imperfections. How awesome is that? That means that each collar is different, not any two collars are the same.

The House Of Collars does awesome work, they can be hard to get a hold of but if you leave a MSG they will return your call. Dom Wolf the maker of the collars cannot hear so well so you speak with his wife. They will do most anything you would like to have done.

So I picked out three collars I liked, and yes one was from eternity which are nice collars they do look perfect, but me being me I look at every detail. As I am reading I get to the weight , the eternity collar weighs in at 3 to 4 ounces, while the house of collars weighs in at almost a full pound. There is a major difference. I think being able to feel the collar knowing it is there has a huge impact.

The other collar I had found was from China and I was not willing to stoop that low , and you really do not have a clue as far as what kind of metal it was.

Out of three I picked one, and once I placed the order I was able to contact them by phone to insure everything was still on time. I have even called them about placing the diamond in a collar which Eternity told me they could not, I have been to several Jewelry repair places and have been told they could not do it because the metal is to hard. They were more than happy to do their own creation and the cost was over a thousand dollars. Yea I am thinking not.

To have a collar that no one else has, they may look the same but if you look up close each is truly different. Each is unique in its own way.

As I opened the box and I lifted the collar out, I had never experienced such a feeling, it was like the collar was glowing, As I held it up to the light I could see the slight imperfections, the weight of the collar, it was perfect.

To this day I do not understand how some can disregard what a collar means, the disrespect , the joke and some even call it a dog collar, I guess that is because that is what it looks like. Then the Dom gets upset because the submissive or slave does not wish to  wear it in publicImage

She does not wear the O ring while out as a matter of fact It was taken off the day I received it.

The collar is something the two should take part in looking for one, but in the end I made the final decision, but it was not going to be a fake leather collar from and adult book store that cost 3.99.

Vile

gorgeous vintage

Posted in Uncategorized on April 26, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I love this pick it’s been floating around wordpress

K. C. Cave

Gorgeous vintage ass. By the look on her face, I’d say she’s gonna get spanked.

via K.C. Cave.

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Our Search For A Third , Our Bubble Our World

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Arianna, ass fucking, Baby Girl, bdsm, blow job, Bondage, cage, Change, Commit, commitment, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominant, Emotions, FaceBook Vile Woods, Living Poly, Living Triad, MAST, Master, Master And Slave, Masters And Slaves Together, micromanage, Micromanagement, No Rights, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, Protocol, Rules, sex, Sister Slaves, slave, Submission, sucking cock, Task on April 26, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

First I want to say I have been cigarette free since January 1st, okay sort of, I am still using the ecig thing. Second I have to wait until October for the Walking Dead to come back on. I am addicted to that show. Now I have to wait almost seven months, and it is killing me.

 

Well it is almost 6am eastern time , I am up as I am every morning. I wake at 3.40 am with Arianna we sit in the dinning room and have our morning coffee and we talk. Then around 4.30am I walk her out to the car and see her off to work, then our morning drive talk. Sometimes we talk about nothing, then at times like this am we have a deep conversation, and the conversation did get pretty deep and personal, mainly about our life.

The one word that comes to mind is simplified , our life is very simple, but I have made it that way. I have made our life simple and drama free, not a worry in the world, why or how is that ? Vile has made it that way. We live in a very controlled environment. It is almost like walking into a clean room in a hospital, you dawn your little paper suit, your paper boots and your mask, then you enter Vile and Arianna’s bubble our own little world.

The world of a Slave, the surroundings of a Slave, the thoughts of a Slave. What I have done it taken someone and I have molded them , I had a perception of what I needed out of a Slave. I had a picture of my own little bubble, I had a clear picture of how I saw my life.

When I first met Arianna she was way out of control, her life was in total shambles, a life with no direction. This was not her fault not in any way. Once she found out who and what she was she needed guidance she needed a teacher, someone to step in that really cared about her well being. What she found was men who thought they were Dominants or who thought they were Masters who were controlling and lived their life with their cocks. One thing on their mind and one thing only PUSSY.

The sad part is many of you out there have been through the same thing and many still are but you feel you have no place to go, or you think okay I am here I just might as well stick it out, better to have someone than have no one.

Now this can be a little scary and some will think there is no way, but when I say train a Slave that is just what I mean. Having this ability does not come over night, nor does it always work. One you have to be true to yourself, two you have to have the need to own, three you have to be willing to step up to the plate, four you have to have someone who is in need and also willing. It is kinda like okay my way is not working you do what you need to do.

So I open my world, you can step into my bubble , I will share what is so precious to me. In my world you will find no problems, you will find no stress, you will find no drama. Welcome to Vile’s world.

I am very much in control of my life and I let very few people into my world. When I invite someone over which is very seldom, even then I do not allow them into my bubble, I unzip and I step out, once they are gone I step back in.

Arianna was talking about how much she has changed, and how she missed somethings, it was like she did not care about anything or anyone any more.

Then I began to explain, I talked about the local news the other day she said I want to change this it is so depressing. The thing is none of that effects us. The problems around the world does not effect us, the cost of food going up, the price of gas going up, the problems the people next door have, all of the killing going on around us the everyday problems around us, none of that effects us, because I do not allow it to. Mainly because of our own little bubble. I handle things before they become problems, many times I handle things without Arianna even knowing. She will bring something up and I will say its already done. There was a problem from her past that came up and it had a huge effect on her. All along I told her I had a plan and when the time came I would take care of it, and sure enough I did. It is not something that will happen over night there are steps we have to take, but I am doing the stepping, Arianna just has to follow. It was a huge load off of her shoulders, and once it is finished there will be a great relief.

The bottom line is I will not let anyone or anything disrupt our way of life, our bubble our world. I am in full control and I will continue to be in control. Sure even I have rules, I have rules that come with daily life. I may or may not like them but they are there, sometimes they have a meaning and sometimes they do not but they are there, I follow the process because I do not want to disrupt what I have.

So I met Arianna and we hit it off , but after we had met I had a lot of thinking to do because it was really the first someone had laid out to me what they fully needed. It was now me who had to decide if I wanted that much responsibility. If I wanted to take on such a task. The I had to stop and think wait a minute you are Vile, there is nothing you cannot do. The one thing I learned long ago is, you never tell someone you cannot do something even if you do not know how, you say yes I can then you learn how to do it.

Okay so Arianna needs this and this and this, Arianna needs to be micromanaged, she needs daily structure, she needs rules, she gets pleasure out of being used, so I just had to come up with a plan. I was about to venture a total new training process. I called several Doms who I consider friends not close friends but friends, and everyone gave me the same answer. DUDE FUCK THAT, THAT IS WAY TO MUCH WORK. I can tell you the first time I walked Arianna into a munch and I saw Jaws dropping open, I was thinking yea mother fucker eat your hearts out, this is my bitch. You can look and then go home and jack off thinking about her.

So I had a plan it was a plan I had to sit down and put on paper, and once I was done I knew I had to stick to it. Although she was a slave and she had needs it was her who had to adapt to my ways, she had to adapt to my way of living, my thoughts and needs, it was her who would crawl to me.

A month into the training, I remember eating Dinner,Arianna was chained to the kitchen table and I was feeding her, I knew then the Adapting process was well underway, or when I chained her to the couch. Then when she asked for permission to go to the bathroom, I knew I was on the right path.

So our search for a third, it has been on and it has been off. The need for another Slave was not something I brought up, it was Arianna who brought up the subject. This was after attending a few MasT meetings and then we had a Dom invite us to lunch because he wanted to drill us about our life and how it worked. We get that a lot people want a peak into our little world, people seem so amazed when we talk about the way we live. We are really no different I do not think. Either you are Master and Slave or your not.

I am very protective of Arianna , I keep a close eye on her, while at home and even while at work. While I am in control, while she is my slave, it is her who comes first. I make sure her needs are met before mine. Why? Because she gives so much, even when she does not see what she gives. She does not see how she has changed mainly because she lives her life daily, I keep everything in check. I keep the two of us in our own little world…

So in the past couple of months I have emailed, spoke with and text several slaves, and I have nixed all of them with the exception of one we have been in contact with now for about a month. We talk on the phone and Arianna and her are in consistent contact with each other during the day, and soon she will fly out to visit.

When her and I first started talking I explained to her that is was not me she had to win over it was Arianna. Her and Arianna had to become friends, because well on my end, I know everything would just fall into place.

There are things that have to be understood and after reading this she may very well change her mind, but I cannot bend from our way of life. It is the Slave who will have to adapt to our way of life, my rules, my protocols , then she may enter our world our bubble.

The third will not be micromanaged which is obvious , I have no room for that. She will not have to follow the same rules Arianna does, she will not have the same task Arianna does. She will have to understand Arianna’s way, the way she is treated, she will have to understand her rules, her protocols, and be willing to except them. Arianna does have a cage, it is Ariannas cage and only her cage. That is her special place, she goes there to let everything go, to relax, she feels safe from the outside world. The slave will have to adapt to our way of life, our surroundings. The slave will have to fulfill our needs. Although Arianna does not fit into that normal Alpha position the third will still have to be the beta. The slave is there for Arianna.The slave will serve the home, the slave will help with the upkeep of the home. The slave will become part of the family, and except the way things are ran.

My first thoughts when thinking of adding a third was someone who is docile, and introvert, someone who is quite. This slave is some of those things but I think will be able to adapt.

We had thought about a Baby Girl in the recent past but I decided against that  because it would disrupt our process, it would disrupt our way of living. I think Arianna might be willing to except someone with one child, we spoke a little about it the other day and she said something about needing a three bedroom, that was the end of the conversation.

The slave the third would have different rules as I have stated, different task, but most important be willing to except Ariannas way of life, and not make any judgements one way or the other. Arianna is in a very happy place right now, Arianna is in a very safe place right now.

I have not brought up the extra flavor yet. This is what most Doms or Master say their reason is for needing another Slave. You know I get everything I need from Arianna. The word no has never come out of her mouth. I get my cock sucked when ever I want, I fuck when I want, I get the ass when ever I want. Sometime I just pull out of her pussy and slide it right into her ass without a though. I can do pretty much anything I want . Arianna does really not have any limits, that in itself is not easy to find, with the only exception she is not into pain.

So while sex would come up , that is not our main reason for adding a third. The third has to bring something to the home, the third has to be able to add to the home and to help continue to build a solid foundation.

Another thing I have to keep in mind Arianna will pretty much go along with anything, so I have to be careful with some decisions I make, things I do, again it is her who will need to benefit from such a relationship.

With the right Slave a Third could be good.

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