Making Love Nah , Having Sex Nah , Just Raw Fucking

Arianna cooking dinner I get home from work walk over bend her over and push three finger inside her pussy, slowly fucking her until she starts to breath a little heavy, then I just simply walk away going about my business.

Being able to just snap your fingers and your submissive drops to the floor without question, even better tell them to go to the bedroom and strip and spread you will be there in a minute. Crawl on top bust your nut and get off. It can be that simple.

The thing is every Dominant , every Master can have it this way.  No questions asked, never. You can lead and they will follow you where ever you go.

Being a Dominant is much more than barking our orders, going to wal mart and buying a dog collar, changing rules when no rules are being broken and you want to punish.

I saw a post on Facebook not long ago a submissive was going to meet her Dom, and he was figuring out different ways to punish her, just for the sake of punishing.

The truth is most of you who except bruises except only because you think that is part of the D’s lifestyle , then there are those who except them because you want the relationship to work, so you will take what ever. Then there are those who truly enjoy them. There are Masochist who truly enjoy pain, there are those who need pain as an escape a way to release, but for the most, many of you just except it.

I heard some time ago that pain was needed to reach sub-space and that my friends is so far from the truth. There is nothing written anyplace that says pain is need to reach sub-space.

Sub-space is mental, sub-space is the connection the two of you have with each other, sub-space depends on how far your Dominant can get into your head, sub-space depends on the intensity of play, and it does not have to do anything with pain.

Okay so lets take the words BDSM we have the kink, we have the sex, we have the control, we have the bondage, the floggers, whips, cuffs, ahh the St Andrews cross. The list goes on and on, and while it is true all of this is a huge plus it is not the foundation of the relationship.

The foundation first and for most is the communication we have, second is the control we show at home and while out. Being honest, loyal, most of all truthful. You learn to guide they will follow and follow without question….. The rest is just a bonus, and the bonus’s just keep getting better and better. The longer you are who you say you are, the more your subs or slaves wall will slowly come down.. Once those walls come down your relationship has no end, it will continue to grow.

All these fake dudes the Fifty shade dudes who do not have a clue, the married dudes who do not have a clue. Their life is so fucked up trying to juggle two lives, hiding everything hoping they don’t get caught. Or the guy who thinks he is King Dom after reading Fifty Shades now he wants to be king master and he is on the hunt. These are all short lived relationships. The married one is not going to leave his wife, more so if he’s not investing anything into the relationship.  If your his submissive and your living alone he should be paying for part of your upkeep he should be helping with the home. I am telling you this from a mans point of view, if he is married he will not leave his wife, he has way to much to lose.

Listen to this you who are seeing married Doms, you are only getting one side of the story about how bad their home life is, you are getting their story. If their life was so bad, they would have already moved out, yes just like I did, they would of already left their wife and kids behind. . He can go on and on about how bad his marriage is, how much he hates his wife, but the bottom line is he is still there and he will be there when you are gone.

Now my question is how can you sleep at night with a clear conscious? How can you sleep at night knowing what you are doing to his family, destroying what she has worked so hard to build. Because what ever a man has it is because of his woman, it is because of his wife. Just something to think about because it is not fair that she does not have the ability to share her side of it. If his marriage is so bad put your foot down, put a time limit that he has to move out, then see what happens. It is not fair to destroy something his wife has worked so hard building, and the bad thing is she does not have a clue that things are so bad, because he will not communicate with her. Now if you think your the only one he is seeing you are stupid, and I know you are thinking the same thing in the back of your head. When you go days with out a call or email, or even a fucking text.

On the other hand if you do not care, and you are that cold you don’t have any feelings then go for it. To each their own I am not judging anyone, have a little compassion.

If he will fuck around on his wife, guess what ?

Now all the trouble you girls go through someone made a comment just a little bit ago.

You are a minority Vile… and are one of the rare ones to do it right.

Okay that can be a true statement but it is really not, you have to weed yourself through all the fake ones. It is like when you open a door and it is full of horse shit, your thinking fuck there has to be a fucking horse somewhere in here. So you open a door and there is a room full of Doms you think one of them has to be real. You have to be able to think with a clear head. You have to have a plan in place before you start your search.

Fuck Collarme.com fuck ALT.com both of those are meat markets to men, and that is exactly what they think. Now are some real sure they are but very few and far between. You have to be willing not to settle for second best, and many times you get the feeling something is not right but you go right along with it. You continue to go along with it even though you feel something is wrong hoping your thoughts are wrong, and you know most of the time they are not.

If you do not live together you cannot truly know the fulfillment of living a D’s style relationship, to know what it is like waking up every morning with your Master, following his rules, his guidelines there is no way to experience it. The little you get while on the phone and it is phone sex mostly, the weekend out of a month if that, maybe a night or even just a couple of hours. You will most likely spend your Birthday alone, as with all of the holidays.

So no it is not that I am a minority , because there are plenty of me out there. It is just you the submissive or slave taking the time to weed thought the bad to get to the good. There are Dominants out there that will more than fit your needs. There are Dominants out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve, who will treat you as their princess.

For you Doms in the lifestyle for a while, just learning or the Fifty Shades, if you play your cards right, the submissive is for your taking. They want to be used and used on a regular basis, nothing brings more pleasure to a submissive to be used. Some of you guys just kill me.

Lady’s all you need is a plan.

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9 Responses to “Making Love Nah , Having Sex Nah , Just Raw Fucking”

  1. Cinnamon ( Formerly Phoenixasubbie ) Says:

    I meant you are one of the rare ones who do it right, in regards to you mentoring/protecting a submissive. 🙂 which I normally do not approve of.
    However, it works in this context too..

    Good advice as always. Happy Easter to you and yours.
    xxx

  2. Mynx's Sir Says:

    A great synopsis of what the wrong Dom looks like Mr Vile. Well stated.

    The challenge here, as you said, is that there are so many fakes and posers -both Dom and sub- out there that it is difficult to find and sort through the shit from shīnōla. Recently, I met a Dom and sub new to the lifestyle, together that is. For her, he was her 7th husband- she just wasn’t getting the gratification she needed as a sub-miss to fulfill the needs of her given Sir. He, on the other hand, had been through so many women, never married, but searching just the same, for someone to complete him.

    In their relationship, they were asking how to bring it out of the bedroom- she needed it, he wanted it, but she has 2 children which she brought into the marriage and they didn’t know what that looked like in front of the kids. To your point- here’s what I replied;

    Respect- you must have it and give it for the good of the TPE. Form follows function- if the functional relationship is good (and it seemed like it was) they would have the ability to ‘form’ the 24/7 to fit around the family to the extent they desired.

    Love and Compassion- if one or the other doesn’t care, it won’t work functionally. Both have to be able to comprehend their roles in order to fulfill the needs of the other. Love of and for each on some level, must exist- this, in my mind, means that both must have equal skin and vulnerability in the relationship.

    Desire- for the Dom, he must desire to “be the Dom” and set forth the rules by which the sub-miss abides. For her, she must desire to fulfill his wishes, whatever they are, and by what they both agree on. I think it was you who said in a recent post that there must be time spent getting acquainted so that each knew where they thought they fit. Then the Dom would create rules based on hard and soft limits of the sub, and her desires for that role- sort of a post interview after the initial determination that the two desired to explore more together.

    Trust- both must have it in the other, and it is earned not given freely, if it is of any value. Again, to your point- those who are seeking it on the side because they’re not getting what they want at home, should reconsider their relationship at home. The home relationship needs to fit both else it isn’t a relationship at all, is it? If it doesn’t work, seek counseling to give it a chance, but move on if there is no hope and just be happy being you with someone else who accepts you for who you are.

    Rules- once made, to be followed lest she receive just punishment. As you said- no gray areas, just facts, follow them or receive what’s coming to you. But Dom’s have rules too; be loyal and crave your sub-miss for who she is, not what you want her to be. Accept her the way she is- and this goes back to the interview… If she represented herself improperly, then it’s as good as a lie and there is no trust, game over. Close the chapter of that book and move on. There is no sense in rehashing it unless there was opportunity for misunderstanding, then maybe it can be reconciled.

    I agree with you Mr Vile- the sub-miss has just as much (if not more) responsibility in making the correct decisions to ‘tie’ herself to the correct Dom. In other words, in my opinion, just because he’s a Dom, or claims to be or has dominant tendencies, it doesn’t make him a good Dom nor the correct Dom for any given sub-miss. Dom’s and sub’s alike must make good choices in one-another lest the relationship be doomed before it starts.

    Much love to you and Arianna …

    -Mynx’s Sir (Tom Wolf)

    • A D’s home can be good for children. They see the respect between man and woman. If they have a daughter she sees how a woman should be treated the same with the male child.
      They see the structure with in the home.
      It can benefit in many ways.
      Thank you

  3. Reblogged this on fenixwild15's Blog and commented:
    excellent advice

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