What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life

I use the word Submissive because I think Slaves are becoming harder and harder to find, maybe we should get congress to put Slaves on the endangered list.

What is it you want out of life ? Where do you see yourself a month from now ? Where do you see yourself 6months from now? Where do you see yourself 5 years from now ?

Many who are submissive spend more time jumping from Dom to Dom, and if you continue you will never build anything. You spend 5 % of your time struggling trying to hold the relationship together hoping things will get better, then you spend the other 95% sucking cock or on your back. Still hoping things will get better.

I cannot even begin to imagine what goes through your minds when your in a bad relationship and your being used. Being used is just not about sex, but when it comes to sex I still cannot imagine what goes through your mind while your being fucked.

The problem you are having is you have no plan in place. You really do not have a clue what to expect once you open the door to BDSM. Then you instantly believe what your told. You are kelp isolated from the world. You hear the words of one person. Again I cannot imagine how you would feel being so alone and isolated from the world, even more while being in an abusive relationship.

You have no plan at all , you have no questions, even if you do your to scared to ask. Your to scared to question a Dom when you have not even agreed to submit. Your to afraid to question him in fear he will reject you, and I know rejection is a mother fucker. Being rejected makes you feel like you have walked off the edge of the world and your just falling. The truth is sometimes falling is much better than going through a bunch of bullshit you have no control over. Then you spend days, weeks and months crying over some dickhead who abused you for 6 months to a year.

What kind of life do you want to live as a submissive? I am sure you all have some sort of idea , I am sure you all have a clear picture in your head. I am sure you have thoughts about how you want to be treated. If you have this idea or this picture, or you have needs, why would you let someone destroy your dream, because you believe he is the only one?

Those who are real will encourage you to make friends in the community. Those who are real will take you to local functions. Those who are real and have been in the lifestyle for a reasonable amount of time will introduce you to other Dominants. Introducing you to other Dominants is a need. Every Dominant wants to show off his property. Other Dominants are proud of their property.

From the time you agree to be someones submissive, your training will start. The Dominant may tell you it has started but you will never heard the words training is complete because it really is never over. We learn and grow daily.

The Dominant already has a plan he already knows what he is going to do , he already knows what he is going to implement and what he is not. Training does take a little time, because what worked with the last submissive may not work with you. This is the getting to know each other time.

You cannot enter a D’s or M’s relationship without some type of plan. Before you agree to enter such a relationship, you need to share your plan, you need to make sure both of you are on the same page.  If the Dominant cannot agree to your terms when it comes to submission just simply say thank you, and you move on.

You never want to be a Dominants first, your just an experiment and you will be in a short lived relationship, not to mention he really has no clue as far as knowing what he is doing…. In my opinion it takes three to five years to have a good understanding when it comes to being in a D;s or M’s relationship , but many of the Fifty Shades guys have it pinned down when they set the book down.

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life ?

It is unfortunate if your new because your going to believe everything your told. Being new makes you very gullible , being new makes you an easy target. Even when there are warning signs you ignore them because you think your in a perfect world. Your blind, you do not see anything, nor do you want to. Your so infatuated your blind to warning signs.

What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life ?





9 Responses to “What Do You As A Submissive Want Out Of Life”

  1. Wet Bliss Says:

    Great post! I agree 100%. Continuous planning, assessing and modification is an important part of overall growth and satisfaction, which is often neglected by many who settle for the mediocre life that falls in there lap rather than actively going after what is wanted or needed.

    • You are so correct. The fact is though it is so easy to mislead those who do not have a clue.
      I’d they are being abused it may seem natural to them if they do not know any better.
      Thank you for dropping in

  2. My response will be a discussion titled, “it was me”. I’m going to Write it now.
    Thank you Master for a thought provoking post.

  3. BoPeep Says:

    Lesson 1 for submissives. Where do you want to end up? What’s your goal? I guarantee you most will not have thought of this and will have a hard time defining it in clear terms. How can you make any progress until you know what you want and tell the other person? Excellent article Vile. Thank you once again.

  4. Yet another great post that I have to agree with 100%. After all, isn’t the biggest question when we get out of school, where do I want to be in this or that time? Isn’t it the same question when we are looking for a job or a different position within our job? Isn’t the answer to that question the reason why we change our life? If it comes easy to us in those kind of situations, why is it so hard for some submissive or slaves to think that was when they enter a D/s relationship? One would think that is the first question before doing anything else. Then again, any real abusive relationship, be it in a d/s relationship or a vanilla one, has their own bad dynamic that I was made to understand very little in the recent past. Prior to that explanation and experience, i did not understand it at all. But that’s beside the point. When people are already in an abusive relationship, the dynamic IS different. But I cannot seem to understand why a submissive would knowingly put herself or himself in a situation where abuse is the only result.

    • And I agree with you. There for a minute I thought we were off track well the last time you did not agree
      Your one of the few who has ever disagreed with me. Well Southern Sir I do find that odd.
      Thank you for stopping in…..

  5. Reblogged this on Raunchy Reads and commented:
    Important things to ask yourself!

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