Archive for June, 2014

When Your Submission Grows

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm with tags , , , , , , on June 29, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I was on Kayla Lords blog the other day and she was speaking about submission.

http://kaylalords.com/2014/06/need-control-something-dominance-submission/

She has just moved in with her Daddy Dominant, but had never lived with him 24/7.

Your life takes such a drastic turn, the events that will unfold will knock you down. I have said this before if you are not living a D’s or M’s relationship 24/7 you are not getting the full experience. . The weekend warrior Dom with a hand bag is not even close.

Once you make that move and you are living 24/7 your feelings can change over night, and you really have no control. The only hope you can have is that you are in the right hands, and you know what ever the outcome , your Dom will be there for you.

I have said this before to many who said well I am a little girl, I need a Daddy Dom, well you truly do not know because you have not lived the Daddy and Baby Girl, Many have said well I am not a slave I am a submissive, again until you walk through that door and you kneel you have no idea what your inside is going to tell you.

You are who you are because you find a certain term appealing , or some online Dom or Daddy tells you that you have the personality of a Baby Girl, or a Submissive, even a Slave.

Okay so lets take all of the labels out of the picture. No Dominants , and no submissive’s , no masters, no slaves, no Daddy’s no Baby Girls.

You all have one thing in common, you are all Submissive. Okay one more thing, you like to have someone in control.  Another you like being able to follow, and know that you have a good leader. You need to know you are going to be taking care of.  Remember now no labels.

You are all submissive, you all want structure, you all want someone who is going to run the house, you all want rules. You need the authority figure in your life, someone who is not abusive or going to take advantage of you.

If you know nothing of the lifestyle, and we are talking I give you a label, and I give a half way decent explanation , guess what? You are going to believe it.

If you are not living 24/7 you are not getting any of the benefits of just how awesome the lifestyle can be. You are getting the moment, the couple of hours, maybe spend the night once a month, you are being taking down a false road of hope. You will catch on but it will take time.

So in Kayla lords statement she was now somewhat confused if I read it right, she was no longer sure what her role was or how she felt.  Southern Sir and her did not want a 24/7 M’s relationship, but now living with him she has mixed feelings.

There is not really that much Difference between a D’s Couple and an M’s Couple, very little difference. If you read the definition of a Daddy Dominant there is very little difference between a D’s Couple and a Daddy and Baby Girl couple. Most of the baby girls though are fed a line of shit a mile long. The Baby girl is always thinking man there has to be more to it than this…

Once you make that move as Kayla Lords did, you are stepping into new territory , you are stepping into the land of the unknown. Okay so you fight it, because you do not want to be a submissive, you sure as hell don’t want to be a slave. Where is fighting something like your feelings going to get you. Stress, confusion, even scared ?

I made it clear to Arianna before she moved in, her life would change. Her life would be nothing like it was with the two prior Dick Heads. Her life did change, we talked about it, so Arianna knew what to somewhat expect.

If you do not fight your feelings because of a label your life will be so much easier. The only possible danger you have is giving into your feelings and you don’t have a Dominant who is willing or can step up to the plate. If you do happen to have that Dominant who can step up, and be there and guide you, your life will grow and it will continue to grow, and so will your submission.kneeling62

My computer is updating. I want to talk about sex . Rimming, foot fetish and sucking cock

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, rimming, slave with tags , , , , , , on June 28, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I will be back up here soon. I do not talk about sex that much, okay well I do.
Just some of the things I love and enjoychain-leash.jpg.cf

Photography By Steve Dean

Arianna Brought Up The Triad Again

Posted in bdsm with tags , , , , , , on June 28, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Something I over looked during this slow process was what Arianna wanted, I mean I knew the third but I did not take into account on who she could get along with. Who she would want to hangout with.

So last night she was on Fetlife and she had shown interest in a girl and she asked for permission to write her, she had liked a couple of her pics as well, so I looked and wow very pretty a lil chunky which is good.

I like an average build to a little chunky. Okay I really have no preference it depends on how they carry themselves . Attitude and personality go a very long way with me.

Arianna and I have talked to a couple of women but Arianna just did not click with them, and it was not that there was anything wrong, it was just personality.

So Arianna started describing who she could see herself hanging with. First it is someone younger. Arianna was talking about someone younger than she is. You will have to ask Arianna her age I am 14 years older than Arianna by the way .

Arianna was talking about how if you bring someone in who is the same age or older she thinks they would have their own agenda, could be true or not.  Meaning wanting to be number one.

We have talked a lot about  bringing someone else into our home. Recently  while at a MasT I was speaking with the Slave who runs it and she was explaining their Poly and how it worked. When I brought up the subject of a Triad, she made the statement you cannot do that because there would be no Alpha, bot would be equal. Well that is not true maybe in a vanilla setting it may be true, but this is my house my rules. That is one of the cool benefits of being a Master I get to make my own rules.

If I meet someone , they will not even be introduced to Arianna until I get to know them. They must get my approval first. No Drama, that is one of the deal breakers. There is really not that much, ahh I know Arianna does not want any children in the house right now.

Once I get to know you, if I feel there is some compatibility then I would introduce the two. Arianna is focused on one thing and that would be me. She does not want to take any time away from me, I am number one just as she is number one.

I have seen Triads work, I have seen some polys work, I think it depends on the Dominant and how he runs his house. Just as I explained the third would have to sit face to face and we would all have to talk. Arianna does not want to be the Alpha female and that would work as well, but the other would still take direction from her. Arianna is to slavish to be in charge, and that is not a bad thing.

One thing I do want to point out we are not looking for another slave. That would put to much on me. The submissive or lets say Baby girl would not have the same rules as Arianna, but would still have to respect Ariannas position. Although I am strict I am fair I am not one to just sit around and hope you break a rule. The truth is I hate to have to punish, but will if and when it is needed. I have said this before I have punished Arianna one time in the two years we have been together.

I was a sadist at one time, when I first entered the lifestyle, my first slave was a masochist, a true pain slut, but as I grew older I found out that being a sadist was just not me. To this day I have never left a Mark on Arianna. I fully understand her limits and I respect them.

The whole Triad thing is not for me, because I get anything I want and need, and more, sex is plentiful ,again when I want and how I want.

Although a third would be nice for Arianna , there is no one who could ever fill her shoes, there is no one who could replace her. I am not wired that way, nor am I that weak.

I had really stopped looking sometime ago, the words fuck it came to mind, because it is not a need for me, although the thought of waking up next to two women is pretty hot.

A submissive could not really ask for much more. A stable home, no problems, zero drama, loved and cared for. Being part of a strong family. Being part of everything we do , going out to eat, the movies, Karaoke when Arianna gets the urge, vacations. We have so much to offer to the right one. Those are the key words the Right One.

I believe many are truly afraid of me for what ever reason, maybe the name Vile, or maybe you dwell to much on what I have blogged about when it comes to my past. The truth be known if you are in my circle, you are part of me, you are safer than you will ever be someplace else. Just ask Arianna how she is treated. When she is emailing someone or texting, Arianna loves to text, that is her free time, I rarely ever look at her text, it has been months since I have looked at her email. I am not insecure, I do not have an ego problem.

I do have Arianna’s passwords to everything, but she wanted me to have them, and I have never used. It is not to say I never will, but as of now I have not.  Ask Arianna how she is treated if you have followed my blog or read hers you will see she is loved, and cared for.

I hope everyone is having a kick ass weekend, filled with nothing but kink..

Much love to everyone who stops by. I do try to visit other blogs daily and I will get to yours soon..
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Vile Radio And More

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, MAST, Master And Slave, Masters And Slaves Together, slave, Submission, submissive, Vile Radio with tags , , on June 27, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have been really busy here lately, been home a lot more but all is good….  New job next week so that is good 40 hrs a week sweet.

This will also free up more time for projects I would like to complete.

One thing that is very important is finely starting up a MasT group here. A few months back I spoke with MasT international and they were open to the idea so that is something I am very passionate about.

My radio station which is going to be awesome, has been put on hold for about a month.  Due mainly to computer issues, we do have a new Laptop but I fucking hate windows 8. Windows 8 is a pain in the ass. So I do have a Desk top I have been tuning up, I prefer a desk top over a laptop any day..

We added a total of 3 new fish in the past two days. Two we had to order. One is really really cool.

Okay we have the Elephant nose fish his name is Josie, it was Jose named after a friend at work but we are in America so it is Josie. Then we have our Baby Whales which are cool as fuck, Hobo and Gerald. Before we got Hobo and Jerald Josie would stay in his cave all day and never come out, I did feel bad for him, once we added Hobo and Jerald ,  Josie was out and running, well swimming. Now the three are out all day playing, well except feeding time. I feed twice a day Brine shrimp and Blood worms.

So the three new fish we added are really fucking cool , The first well his name is Freddy Prince I have not got a real pic of him yet, it will take a couple of days before her feels at home… Once full grown he will grow as much as 12 inchs.

Freddy Prince is what is known as a Black Ghost knife Fish.
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The next is Bubba the upside down cat fish, he is just cool
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Then we have the Clown Loach His name is The Terminator. We bought him for the snail problem we have, and he has been on the job. We opted for the Loach instead of any medications to kill the snails. The Elephant Nose and the Baby Whales have no scales, so we cannot use most meds.
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I have a more interesting subject coming up tomorrow….

I Wanted to thank everyone who stops by and reads what I have to say. I have met a few in the last few days who have said they follow my advice…
I may not know everything, and you do not have to agree , but if you just use a small portion I promise things will be much better.
Much Love

Vile

Reflecting On My Past , Fucking and Humiliation

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, Humiliation, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , on June 27, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I was looking at my Blog last night, the main page, and just scrolling down the topics seemed like it took forever.  Probably if you printed everything it would be a ream of paper maybe more.

I remember my first BDSM experience while I was just a teen, with Beverly in the woods. Everyone called her the school whore but she was not a whore she just liked to fuck. I never got that a man can fuck twenty women a week and he is a stud but a woman would be a whore. That is just so one sided.

When I was young I use to think something was wrong with me, 9th grade and up. Then it was not even about fucking, it was about pain, and humiliation.

Ive always felt inside that anal sex was a sign of submission although many view it different, but as a young teen even then I felt that it was total submission, looking back though I did not know the term submission. I owned you those were my thoughts.

As I had Beverly tied to the tree, and I sat down in front of her just looking and thinking, I could do anything to this bitch I wanted to, and she would take it. It was not because she liked it, it was because she wanted to be excepted, and like everyone else she wanted to be loved.

Even in High School I was a people watcher, I looked at how dudes would try to kiss up, just so they could hold hands walking down the hall, and pass little notes back and forth. I thought how fucking pathetic is that these dudes are like begging, for something they will probably never get.

Most girls were scared of me, and there were a few who were truly good friends, friends I never fucked with. I am weird in a sense because if I do not start out as a M’s in a relationship you become more of a Sister to me, and no matter what my thoughts are sex is out of the question.

My parents did okay even though they both had a drinking problem, and each was in and out of rehab all the time. We has a chicken business , eight chicken houses and each house held 80.000 chickens. , but I learned quick if I worked for my parents and they paid me I owed them something, so often I would work for nothing. Once I turned 16 I went to work at the old cotton mill after school, that was hmmm 1978, and then I was making 200.00 dollars a week. Once I turned 17 I joined the Army and that is when my life changed.

As I grew older my need to humiliate grew, and if you watch any of the public disgrace videos I have done much of that in my past, only those girls were paid. So although I do like the series, its not real.

While in Korea I saw first hand how some men were weak, and they bowed down to the pussy. A GI would go to a local bar, get drunk , pay 10.00 to get fucked and fall in love with the girl, go the the credit union get a 5.000 dollar loan and buy her freedom. Divorce his wife who was in the states, to marry a bar girl. The 5.000 dollars was just for the bar owner to pay off the girls debt, then came the real money. The back ground check, the physical , the visa, in the end he would end up spending 15.000 grand on some pussy. I suppose some were in love, but I am sure for the most the girls wanted a way out.

With me NO meant NO and it has always meant stop , No is the magic word, NO means stop right now. If you did not want to fuck then go get the fuck out. I was not going to beg for a piece of ass, because tomorrow was a whole new day.

I learned it was easy to spot a submissive in public. so on the weekends I would hit up the local mall . Think about this, and ive tried to explain this to many. Your walking in the mall or someplace where there is a lot of people. You walk past a woman, look at her in the eyes, and when you make eye contact, her eyes will drop. This is really true. It was then look at finger, if no ring it was conversation time.

Ive never been shy about approaching women, rejection never bothered me, I cannot think of a time when rejection did bother me, because I knew for every no there was a yes around the corner.

I always picked out women other dudes would not talk to, or the women that intimidated some men, that was the challenge . I had a rule never fuck someone you did not want to wake up with. I love beautiful woman. Beauty is not only in the face or body, Beauty if in the personality. I am not just attracted to a blonde or redhead , or petite, to average, or maybe a little chunky. I have a wide range of taste..

My first threesome was with sisters Tami and Bambi, that was hmm in early 89 or 90. The next day my beeper went off yea a beeper, so I called the number and it was Bambi she wanted to know if I wanted to go back out. I said really  ? I knew both of you all of 45 minutes, and we were at your house fucking, yea do me a favor and lose my number. They did not do anything together but I guess it was the taboo thing of being together, while I let Tami suck my cock, I face fucked Bambi, I fucked Tami in the pussy, but I fucked Bambi in the ass.

47 years old I woke up one morning and said dude what the fuck are you doing. I wanted more, I needed more. so I sat down and I compiled a list of everything I wanted out of a Slave.

Many of you who are jumping from Dominant to Dominant, Daddy Dom to Daddy Dom, have no real plan nor did you ever. You fall for the first line that catches your attention. Or maybe you let your insecurities get in your way.

So how many years are you willing to waist? How many years are you just going to throw away ? How many Doms are you going to go through before you stop your madness ? How many are you going to go through before you get hurt ?

You need a plan, if you need to write it on paper, and you stick to eat. You make a list and you check it off one by one. Question by question must be answered looking eye to eye.

Adding a third to our home. Adding a third must bring something to the table, it is not about money, or how much you can clean or cook. It is about you fitting in, and be willing to adapt. If your a true submissive then the adapting part would come natural.

Getting to know you, no one will chat , email or talk to Arianna until I say so. I protect what is mine. The truth is Arianna does not have a lot of time to just be chatting or emailing, although Brit was supposed to and never did. She has been a very dear friend for a long time. Now she is like the Bundy’s Married with children.

If I do not think your a fit, you will never have any contact at all. It is not to say others on here cannot contact Arianna, such as Bopeep and a few other. Just as friends , there are some good people on here.

As usual I get off track, someone made the comment the other day I must of messed up on a blog by copying and pasting something, but if she had been following my blogs she would of known I get off track a lot, then I just kinda flow back into it.

I do however feel some form of humiliation is needed in a D’s or M’s relationship, how extreme is up to the couple. I have known some to really get off on humiliation, it is really not my thing, but it is needed from time to time as kinda like a reminder. Hey this is your place. Nothing in public or in front of friends, it should be a private thing….

Much love

 

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Do Women Ever Think About Their Camel Toe While Out In Public

Posted in bdsm, Camel Toe with tags , on June 25, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

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Are You Looking For Submission Or Just The Kink ?

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Dominant, Dominants, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , on June 25, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Submission comes on many different levels , many married couples only take part in any D’s while in the Bedroom, once the door opens it is back to ward and june clever, your normal everyday vanilla couple. There is nothing wrong with that we all need our own outlet.

Many read books and something just triggers, something deep inside may have been hidden for many years, or something happened as a child and something twenty years later sent triggers to your brain, and you have no idea where your thoughts are coming from. What you once thought as Taboo and nasty now kinda rings some type of bell in your head.

The down side to this is if your married, and you wake up one morning at you feel like your a different woman inside out. You have this need to be controlled, the need to be used, and it does not matter how your used.  Sometimes if you have the right communication things can be worked out, or you can manipulate your husband. into getting what you need.  The correct way would be talking to him about your needs, and why you think you have changed, what caused these series of hmmm events to take place.

Some husbands will do what ever is needed to keep his family together , then again some view D’s or BDSM as abuse, and if you really do not know anything about the lifestyle the first thing that comes to mind is abuse…

While I do believe a woman can wake up and the submissive slaps her in the face, it is much different when it comes to a Dominant. Being Dominant in a relationship is not something that is learned over night.

I have said this before the best way for someone who wants to live this type of lifestyle is to find a mentor. Someone who has the time to talk to, to teach and share life experiences. Being a Dominant is much deeper than just Barking orders or passing out senseless rules, or punishing.

Maybe your just kinky, maybe you just like rough sex, maybe you just enjoy bondage, maybe you enjoy being gang banged. There are people out there who can meet your needs.

There is a difference between a kinkster and a Dominant a huge difference,  and your search should be different. It is really easy to mislead someone and you really not meaning to, by then you already have feelings involved and it is not fair to the other. So if your just into the kink then look for kink, if your into submission then search out a good Dom.

One thing I like to bring up is, keep your drama at home. You cannot enter a relationship with a dark cloud hanging over your head and every time you speak it pours rain. It is not fair to the other. You would not want someone spilling their guts all over your floor would you, I would think not.

I have also said Arianna and I have zero drama , and I will keep it that way. That is why I limit Arianna’s communication with people, and you can take this to the bank if I tell Arianna NO, there are no questions. I protect what is mine.

Drama is a cancer, and with some people there is no known cure, and it spread and it infects the whole family, and it will drag you down, and it will eat and eat, until you have no friends left.

The D’s world, the M’s world can be very rewarding. I myself look forward to coming home, I want to be home, I have a need to be home.

Everyone is going to have problems come up, but you handle them head on , before they get out of hand. It is easy to put a smoldering fire out than it is a full blaze.

I know everyone does not want the kind of life I have, not everyone is into the M’s lifestyle, but I can show you how to have an awesome relationship, but and there is always a but, nothing is giving to you. If your not willing to put a little bit of effort or work into your relationship, you will walk around with that huge dark cloud, and you will become a cancer.

It is not hard, for myself it was learning to communicate, but the hardest part was learning to listen. If you can do both and you really care, there is no limit.

I cannot even begin to explain how rewarding the D’s lifestyle can be. You can have perfection, your world as you know it can be perfect.

I want everyone to be able to say you know what Vile was right.

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