My Views On BDSM Courtship

The first 20 minutes of conversation is when most of the mistakes are made when it comes to a Baby Girl or a Submissive. This is when you give out information that you should keep to yourself until you think something may just work out.

Meeting someone in our lifestyle is probably more difficult than finding a horse in a room full of horse shit, I am being optimistic here. If you have a room full of horse shit there has to be a horse in it somewhere….

One of the first questions you are asked is , What are your limits ? My thoughts are why is such information needs so soon ? You just met you do not even know if your compatible.
What is the shortest skirt you own ? Do you ever go out without panties ? Do you wear Heels ?
Again you just met, you have the compatibility thing still yet to come

Do you like anal sex ? Do you swallow ? Again the compatibility thing, your still not sure.

When you were dating in the vanilla world, I am almost sure these questions never came up. So why would you think anything is different now ?

If a Dominant ask you any of those questions in the first day of meeting , online probably, how much respect does that show he has towards you ?

Send me a few pics so I can see who I am chatting with. Yea okay sure, then you send and he ask for nudes. Again why would you send a nude pic to someone you have not even met ?

All of you have seen this, and many of you have given in to such a dumb ass.
No real Dominant would even consider asking such questions, because they are not a need to know so early on.
Why would you tell a complete stranger you love being fucked up the ass ? Why would you tell a complete stranger you love sucking cock ?
Think about it does it really make any sense ?

Let me tell you something, the reason so many who are submissive or Baby Girls, and I will talk about the baby Girls here in a little bit. The reason your relationships are not working is because you are bowing to soon and to easily. You are giving out to much information to soon.

The courtship should be no different than any other. Okay you may feel obligated to call him Sir, or Mam which ever the case may be, but other than that you are under no obligation to submit until you are 100% sure.

Meeting your new Daddy or Dominant for the first time in person. This is still the learning about each other.
What kinds of food, movies, music, travel , everything this again falls under the compatibility thing.

I think we should start your training today. Okay fine what will my training consist of? How is your method of training going to benefit me ?
I am going to give you a list of rules and you need to memorize them by next week. Sure I will do that , I am sure you have them memorized so tell me what they are..

Your training , is probably the most important part of your relationship. The rules that are giving to you, and yes protocols are the invisible leash.

To pass out rules someone must know you. Someone must know you inside out, and outside in.

The Collar is earned it is not giving. To offer you a Collar on your first meeting that is a clear sign you are having dinner with an idiot.

Submitting is more than sucking cock, submitting is more than allowing someone to fuck you up the ass.
Submitting is you being yourself, following the rules that were giving to you, your protocols, doing your daily task that have been giving to you. Following instructions. This is done on a consistent basis, not just when you feel like it.

If you take the proper steps, and you ask the questions your suppose to, you could stop 99% of your grief. If you slowed down and took the time to think clearly you could stop 99% of your grief. If you found your own man instead of someone whose married you could stop 99% of your grief.

What is your training going to consist of ? You need to get a clear answer. How am I going to benefit from your training ? Again get a clear answer.

There is so much you can do to stop the bull shit before it becomes shit…love

Vile

5 Responses to “My Views On BDSM Courtship”

  1. “Meeting someone in our lifestyle is probably more difficult than finding a horse in a room full of horse shit, I am being optimistic here. If you have a room full of horse shit there has to be a horse in it somewhere….” you’re the king!!! 😀 hahaha

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