Words And Submission
One thing I do during training is, I utilize what is called speaking in thirds. This is something that is common in the Gorean lifestyle.
To me speaking in thirds has a purpose, and the purpose is to make one focus, to think, to think before they speak.
The words tend to have more meaning, and the slave is able to explains things better if she has to think before speaking.
Speaking in thirds gives one a total different aspect of who and what they are, it is like a reminder, and it teaches self discipline.
Once I start training I use the technique for a couple of weeks or sometimes I will use as a form of punishment, again to make the slave think.
When a Dominant uses the word Train, it is good to ask what he hopes to get out of it, and how the training is going to benefit you ?
So the night before last we were laying in bed, I was watching shark week, Bah Humbug, and I get an email. Guess from who? Yup Arianna, I was like what but sometimes she is able to express herself better writing things down, or in an email , than talking sometimes and I do understand her reasoning.
Arianna was expressing interest in speech restriction, and using the term your property when addressing me.
Her reasoning was it would make her feel a deeper submission, not only speaking in thirds but using the word property.
Once you give up full control , and you learn to follow the rules, protocols, it becomes a habit, and when things are a habit there are times we do not even realize we are doing them.
That is how Arianna feels at times, everything just falls into place and she does not see her submission.
That is why I have said in the past it is very important for the Dominant to remain consistent on a daily basis. If you say something, then mean what you say. If you say your going to do something then do it.
Although I am not Gorean I do follow many of the protocols, and I am consistent.
I can also tell you what rules work for one does not work for another. It would be almost impossible for every slave or submissive to have the same rules.
What protocols, and rituals that worked for one will not work for another. Every Slave or sub is different, their habits are different, but more so their needs…
Behavior Modification, changing the way one thinks or acts, in public or private. Changing ones thoughts, or how they view things.
This can be done, if the Dominant is true to the relationship , but just as I tell those who are submissive, I tell the Dominants the same thing. Be careful what you ask for.
The best way to kick off your training, is for both to be able to take a vacation, and no I am not joking. You have kinda like a 5 to 7 day mini boot camp.
Before you say anything Arianna has been there, and she can tell you that her changes have only been positive. Being able to let your mind go, and just flow with your training, but truthfully training can only be successful if you trust the one your with.
So there are some who wish to move into a deeper submission, even after training, the training never really stops, it does continue and it is daily maintenance.
The changing of one word , yes that is all it takes, just as Arianna stated in her email.
Instead of using the word I, she wanted to use your slave, or this slave.
About a month ago , I instructed Arianna to use the words Thank You. Thank You for everything.
Thank you for letting me sit, shower, bathroom. After taking the first bite of food, Thank You.
This all falls under Behavior Modification, but you as the Dominant you need to remain consistent.
You know what I truly find disturbing is a Dominant who is not really a Dominant, but enters a relationship with a Baby Girl a Submissive, under false pretenses. Promising one thing but not being able to deliver.
The Dominant not thinking of the negative effects he is having on someones life, the damage that is being done, and playing with someones emotions.
Then it is clearly not the Submissive who is the problem, it is the Dominant who will put all the blame on the sub or baby girl because the relationship did not work. When in fact the Dominant either had no intentions of making things work, or he did not have a clue.
Changing one word, can change ones life.