Do You Really Need To Train Your Submissive ?

The truth is , no you do not. I know this sounds weird coming from me, but in a real perfect world no training is really required.

Many of you who are in active relationships have really had no type of formal training. Having no training can be okay and find if you are in the right hands.

Now you ask me how is having no training possible and being in a D’s relationship even possible ? How can a D’s relationship work with no training at all?

To train someone is to change someone into something the Dominant wants or needs. Training can be mild to extreme. Training can be very loving, or it can be very hard and strict. That would mainly depend on the Dominant or Master.

If you are truly a Submissive and you have the need to serve, in the right hands no formal training is really required.

Here is my thoughts and my reasoning. You have a lion who gives birth to a cub, once the cub is old enough to learn how to hunt it already has the basic instincts. What the cub now needs it for the lion to teach it how to use the skills it has already.

Okay maybe not the perfect analogy , but if you think about it, it really fits my explanation.

So you being the submissive already know your submissive, and you have the need to serve, be it sexual or domestic or both. What you need is someone who is capable of fine tuning those skills.

A lot depends on the submissive during this growing and learning process. It depends on how honest you have been, it depends on how much you want to put into the relationship , it depends on how much you truly trust your Dominant. It depends on the bond the two of you have formed, but more than anything , How much you want to serve.

See you already have the basic instincts , you already have a vision about what type of relationship you need. The key is finding the right partner, someone who can make you complete.

Many of you I am guessing are not really open to any type of training, your not really interested in being trained. You just need a Dominant figure in your life. Someone who is just going to take control, and lead.

The truth is everything will just fall into place. Everything will just seem so easy, and if continued the transition will be very smooth, and it is something you will not even really notice.

You can meet a new Dominant, which is what you all want. He may say he has 5, 10 or 15 years experience when in fact he has just read 50 shades of grey. This is not always a bad thing if the Dominant has the right intentions, and he to is looking for a long term relationship. Most Dominants who are new and have never had a submissive will never admit that , while I can understand those thoughts it is not really fair to you the submissive.

He will also state that he will train you, but once you have agreed to enter the relationship training never takes place, mainly because he does not have a clue, and you do not say anything because things are moving smoothly.

The only time you should be concerned is when he says lets start your training while he is unzipping his pants.If he tries to give you rules on the first meeting, some rules are okay, if they really benefit you, such as a new bedtime, or maybe a change in diet, but nothing should be sexual at this stage of the game.

If you benefit from just having that Dominant figure in your life with no rules, or task, even protocols then so be it, but you have to make sure your needs are being met, on all levels, and you should never settle for anything less.

The most important thing in your relationship is making sure your needs are met. If your needs are being met,then you are in the right place. If they are not you have the right to question. You have the right to know why you are giving so much and not getting back in return. You have the right to know what steps are going to be taking to make things right, and a time line.

You cannot give and give and get nothing in return, it does not work that way for you and if you allow it to it will not work for long.

You should always come first no matter what, that should never be negotiated.

 

focused Stay Focused, and learn everything will just fall into place.

Vile

16 Responses to “Do You Really Need To Train Your Submissive ?”

  1. Once again an interesting article. I reblogged and commented it on sirfrancobolli.org

  2. Well said and I sincerely appreciate this post. I was in a D/s marriage relationship that was always forced in many ways. My true inner submissive/slave failed to feel free to soar to unexplored heights and I was bogged down by all the rules and regulations to keep him happy. BUT, when the right M came along – I felt safe to let go and let my natural inclinations take over. Training wasn’t necessary, rules developed naturally. There is such beauty and pleasure in my submission now. The energy exchange well balanced and equal giving and receiving in various ways. Again, thank you for your time in your post. Very meaningful and insightful.

  3. As usual your words are fantastic Vile. I agree. The training if the relationship is right won’t be needed. Everything is natural. Communication is vital. Growth will happen and that needs to be talked about. Both parts will have to adjust as you learn and grow.

  4. Lots of great information Vile. I agree that all relationships are different and it really depends on how much the submissive wants to serve. I definitely needed some tuning up in order to serve Sir better and meet His needs. But technically, a true submissive or slave already has their mind set in pleasing and serving their Master/Dom. Thank you for sharing and for your great advice 🙂 Always a pleasure to read.

  5. This perfectly captures what I feel is how a D/s relationship should work. I wish I could show this to my psychiatrist, maybe she would understand it then.

  6. You chose a great analogy how the basic instincts work for a submissive.

  7. Reblogged this on Nipster and commented:
    Great post sounds like me and my Sub

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