What Is A Good Dominant

You know while it is not written anywhere Dominants do have what is called a code of Honor.

At one time what set us apart were the strict protocols that were put in place, and there was a time not only did those who were slaves and submissive followed them, but Dominants did as well.

In the lifestyle we were held to higher standards , because well not only was it expected, but we were leaders. Sometime ago it took a very long time for a Dominant to become recognized within the community, it was not a title that was just giving out or a title someone could claim. As a Matter of fact many were not accepted in the local community just because of who they were and what they stood for.
So yes there was a time when protocol’s were indeed protocol’s and they were followed.

Then the internet boom, all of this information was online and available , and just as with anything you read you can take parts of this and parts of that, and come up with your own ideas.

Then somewhere along the line what we believed in and what we stood for began to fade away. Protocols were being lost in the pile of confusion.

While at a local MAsT several months ago this topic came up and as I was speaking about how things use to be another Dominant stepped in.

He stated you had to let others in who did not believe in the same protocols, rules. His thoughts were you had to let everyone in because if you did not you would have no one to lead.
So then we have to bend our rules, we have to set our protocols aside, we have to let others criticize the way we live and what we stand for.
While I do agree to a point everyone should be allowed to come to MAsT meetings, I also believe they should have to adhere to our rules and protocols, if they cannot do that, show them the door.
I would rather lead a 100 strong into battle than a 1000 blind.

Okay where am I going with this you might be asking ?

What I can say is today there are those who are fake who would never think of going to a MAsT or a munch because they know they would be called out. There would be people who are able to see through the fake wall you have built, and for the most you would be ignored.

There are things that do not mix in the lifestyle , whether you are a Dominant or you just gave yourself the title.

There is no place for anger, if you have anger issues you are not a real Dominant.
There is no place for Alcohol during play, if you drink you can hurt someone, and hurt someone bad. I have met very few Dominants over the years who have had a drinking problem. So if you have a drinking problem and you cannot control your alcohol you have no place within the lifestyle.

Last year we were at a party and another Dominant asked me if he could session with Arianna. It took me a minute to digest what he had to said, but what really got me is he had been drinking.
I explained that I did not share my property and if I did I would not because he had been drinking.

Married Dominants or single Dominants who have this idea about going after married women.

If you re married and you have to cheat on your wife because your needs are not being met, then do what a real Dominant would do, Leave. Pack your things up file for divorce and leave. Why wreck someone’s life because your little kinks are not being met.
You knew before you got married, she did not take it up the ass, you knew she did not swallow, you knew she was not submissive. You knew all of this ahead of time. To bring someone into your mess is not fair. To lie or mislead someone is dead wrong. What you have done is wasted that much time of their life.

Find you own woman, your own submissive, there is no shortage, and if you find a married woman who will fuck around on her husband, guess what? She will fuck around on you as well.
Just like the Dominant who fucks around on his wife, he will fuck around on you in time. Please do not think you suck cock that good, or your pussy is any different because it is not.

I do not like women who are weak, I am not a rescuer , I do not roll like that. I like the challenge , I love the hunt, then you move in for the kill.
I wanted the best, I wanted the woman who would not normally give me the time of day.
One thing that is for sure I never wanted another mans problems.
If you have the need to wreck someone’s home no matter how bad it is, and believe me if it was that bad they would already be gone.
You my friend are no Dominant, you are not now and you never will be.

A Dominant is a leader, a Dominant is someone who is in full control of their life. This is just no my opinion either. A Dominant accepts responsibility but more important admits when he is wrong. A real Dominant would never step between someone and their family.

I don’t want your wife, who is already fucked up in the head with her own problems. I don’t want your girlfriend, if the pussy is that easy to get, why would I want it?

I got game, I do for those of you who have been lucky enough to see Arianna, I got game.
I had to be able to back up my words, if I was going to play the game, I had to know the rules. I had to walk the walk and talk the talk. I got game
I would never stoop so low as to try and take another mans wife, more so if children are involved. They did not ask to be brought into your fucked up world, how fucking pathetic is that.

I can talk shit because I am living the dream. I have what you fake Dominant only dream about.
Yes I have what you never will.

While this blog or post is not about anyone in particular, I am sure many can relate to my words.

If your a Dominant then be one.

master

As Always

Vile

17 Responses to “What Is A Good Dominant”

  1. This is a great post Vile and on a subject I think people in the kink world need to give more thought to.

  2. I attended a meeting at our local dungeon last week led by a Dominant who is definitely old-school leather. You know I have great respect for my own Sir/Daddy and those in the online world who have shown their worth…but it was a different experience meeting a well-established Dominant who was recognized within the local community as a leader. He earned my respect within the first few minutes of his discussion. Good Dominants are out there, and while they come in all different shapes, sizes, and styles, one of the things that distinguishes them all is their ability to earn respect without trying very hard – it’s just a part of who they are.

  3. I share many of your thoughts about a Good Dominant.
    Constance is not my wife but she’s the mother of my son. In this respect, she has a full place in my life.
    Excellent post, a great pleasure to read it.
    Salutations
    Symon

  4. Hear, hear.
    Great read Sir. I commented and reblogged it on SirFrancoBolli.org.
    Have a great day.

  5. Right on point Sir, as usual.

    By way of example- here’s the correct protocol… If you were going to share your property, with a man or a woman, it would be not only your decision to do so, but to offer that to those whom with you wanted to share. It’s not like borrowing a shovel or a hammer or a cup of sugar from your neighbor for fuck sake! “Hey buddy, can I borrow your slave tonight? I promise I’ll return your slave well used and abused, is that okay?” I mean really- this guy should’ve gotten in his car, left the seat belt off, then driven his car from the rear view mirror- cleansing of the gene pool.

    No, you can’t borrow or share, and I won’t loan mine to you either. I hope you were able to put him in his place- out the back door on his ass, Vile. Or at least revoked his membership?

    -Tom Wolf

  6. Reblogged this on Born of nightmares and commented:
    “If you re married and you have to cheat on your wife because your needs are not being met, then do what a real Dominant would do, Leave. Pack your things up file for divorce and leave. Why wreck someone’s life because your little kinks are not being met.
    You knew before you got married, she did not take it up the ass, you knew she did not swallow, you knew she was not submissive. You knew all of this ahead of time. To bring someone into your mess is not fair. To lie or mislead someone is dead wrong. What you have done is wasted that much time of their life.”
    THAT!!!
    My cousin called Greta (she don’t know my blog, no one of my friends know it, so it’s ok) ‘departed’ from her boyfriend just last week. They were together 8 or 9 years (not sure). I mean, NINE f*cking years of your life spent with someone that don’t love you or that you don’t love?!
    First of all, when 2 ppl ask me ‘who’s right?’ I say that right is never to someone’s part.
    SHE knew from the start that he did not want child, just what she wanted.
    He knew she did not love him.
    HE’s rich, I mean REALLY rich from his job (he’s a dentist), while SHE work on her parents’, they are decorators (they use gold and silver on old forniture, I don’t know how to explain that lol) so not much money at the end of the month.
    Now the question is: WHY stay together nine years for nothing?!
    I wanted to make a post about this weeks ago, but lost the ideas, and now that they are ‘departed’ I thought about it better…
    If I don’t love my man, why should I stay with him so long?
    Why can’t we just TALK about what WE desire from each other and from our relationship?!
    By the way… My cousin left for a 2week vacation to her ‘new’ boyfriend (4hours away with train!) ajust 3 days after she departed from the last one. And that explain EVERYTHING.

  7. No truer words can have been spoken. Your blog is insinspirational. Were did you ffind the picture can I use it?

  8. Reblogged this on thekinkyworldofvile and commented:

    So true

  9. This is perhaps my favorite post of yours, ever. Every man who wants to call himself a Dom or Master should have to read this!

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