Before Your Training……
Training seems to be an area many of you who are submissive have been mislead on. It seems many of you have been giving incorrect information, or your just being used.
Remember my blog is my own opinion , but you also have to remember I am giving you a males point of view and nothing more.
Courtship , courtships are so nice, I remember dating back in school, and the courtship set the pace of what was to come.
Although once I hit the age of 14 I went through some huge changes. It was as though I woke one morning a different person, something animalistic inside me came to life.
Courtship before BDSM the getting to know each other phase, the giggling and laughing. The different foods we like, how we like our steaks cooked. The music we like, places we have traveled and so on.
Something I did prior to meeting Arianna, if I was considering a relationship. I would require the slave to write a journal for 30 days.
You cannot possibly enter a D’s Or M’s relationship not knowing each other. You and I know this can not be done in a week or even two weeks.
Now if your just looking for the kink side of things, and your not interested in the structure, protocol’s and everything else that goes along with a D’s relationship , then the above would not include you.
It takes roughly a month for the Dominant to know you well enough , before he can start implementing rules and Protocols. The Dominant has to know you inside and out.
Something else you have to consider, every Dominant is different, every Dominant has different expectations, goals, and needs.
A journal is an inside peak into your life, it tells who you are, what your thoughts are, your needs, and what you need out of a relationship.
I would take the journal and spend about a week reading it so I could come to understand the slave. I wanted to know what made the slave tick. I wanted to know what the slaves needs were. Where she was now and where she wanted to be in the future.
Putting a plan together, a training plan that would benefit the slave.
As a Dominant or Master our only concern is our property is being taking care of, mentally and physically, nothing else matters because we are now going to put our property before anything else in our life. We have made a clear commitment and a promise we would be there for them no matter what….
You should be number one at all times, that is what you expect and you should not settle for anything less..
Compatibility is the first both will need to find out, if you agree to enter a relationship and you really know nothing about each other the relationship will be short lived..
I do agree the training should start once you enter the relationship but there has to be a getting to know each other phase, if it is just sexual then that is all your going to have.
Let the Dominant explain upfront what your training is going to consist of, what your going to get out of your training.
If those questions cannot be answered then you are with a 50 Shades of Grey Dominant, and that is one thing the movie left out was the training, why the training and how to maintain a D’s Or M’s relationship.
50 shades of grey is just a more intense version of the movie , 9 1/2 weeks and nothing more
If your Dom is not taking interest in your needs, or lets say your blog, or your not recognized on social sites as being their partner, or not interested in your hobbies, then you know he does not have your best interest in mind, and your probably really nothing to him.
The journal opens the door to your world. It shows the real you, it shows your inner feelings that you may not otherwise be willing to share.
Sometimes putting it on paper is much easier that trying to talk and share your feelings.
You know even today Arianna will email me if something is on her mind, because it is easier for her to explain something in that form, and I understand.
If your journal is your blog, make sure your Dominant reads it, ask him questions about your thoughts, sit down together and go over everything.
He may be able to give you a much clearer picture.
Both of you need a clear plan prior to entering the relationship. ..