Archive for March, 2015

I Feel Alone

Posted in Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, Bdsm friends, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Structure, Being alone, being used, communication, compatibility, Discipline, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, Lies, MAST, Master And Slave, munchs, New age BDSM, Protocols, relationships, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive on March 31, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am not speaking about my relationship With Arianna , I am speaking in general. I am obsessed with the TV The Walking Dead , and I wonder at times if something like that could really happen?

What I am getting at , I remember the very first Walking Dead , when the Deputy Rick had been shot and was in a comma. Once he woke up and started looking around he realized there were no people around. He walked outside and there was nothing no other humans.

Now I am not going off the deep end just in case your wondering , I am just sharing my thoughts. This is why many Dominant need that interaction at local munchs and MAsT groups so we can interact with those who have the same interest.

Here lately that has not been so easy. Arianna and I have attended several different functions and I have not clicked with anyone. I am not sure if it is a lack of differences , or a lack of how we view the lifestyle. I do know that over the past several years the lifestyle has moved more towards the kink side of things, than the what I call the standard BDSM flow. Being communication, structure protocol and rules , and then on to ownership.

I do at times find it difficult to trust people, I also find it difficult to sociable , but maybe that is just the lack of things in common. Going to different functions allows me to be me , and in hopes of communicating with others who have the same interest. What I do find is others bringing drama into a public setting and that is what the conversation is centered around….

I am still debating on filing for my own MAsT chapter , as of now I do have the support of another MAsT group and would give a good recommendation. It is just finding the right time. There is so much more I want to do , but with moving and getting set up , my new job and yes I consider being at a job for 8 months still new. It was not suppose to be as stressful as it is , but I do enjoy it.

Arianna pointed out several months ago , that some people find me to be intimidating , and I am not sure why unless it is my lack of joking around. She also brought it up that many think it is my way or no way. While I can see her side of things , that is not the whole truth. It comes down to a couple of things. If you portray yourself to be someone your not , if you lie , or if your bringing your problems or drama someplace that is meant to be educational , or if your abusive that is where I draw the line.

Arianna brought it up that I should try being nicer to people , be more open or receptive, and after giving it some thought for a while , I decided to give it a try.
I invited someone to my home , and even offered to take them out, as it turned out I had to work so Arianna met her and spent a great deal of time with. Now I invited with the intentions of just being friends nothing more. I made no out of the way advancements because Arianna was in the loop the whole time, and once the two started texting , I for the most dropped out of the picture, we still chatted on Facebook but it was just friendly chat.
I am more than positive Arianna was a good host, I am also sure Arianna was polite and friendly. So after going to a theme park , out to eat a couple of times, all communication stopped.
So one or two things happened , either I offended her or Arianna was not a good host and was not friendly , which I doubt was the case, at any rate this is the reason I distant myself from people , this is the same reason I have very few friends. This is why I do not allow myself to get close to anyone , because after it was all said and done , I felt as if I was used, no explanation or anything.

In the end it is all good though , I am in a good place and it is my own little world….

Before you start thinking , this is not a pity party because I do not roll like that, I am just expressing my feelings , on this part of life..

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Vile

Training No patience..No perseverance

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, adapting, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, Building a BDSM Relationshp, Collarme.com, commitment, communication, compatibility, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, Dominance, Dominants Protocol, Manipulation, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Patience, Protocols, slave, Submission, submissive, submit, sucking cock on March 25, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am still looking for a genuine one who doesn’t think that Slave Training is like popping up an energy pill…no patience..no perseverance …How can they expect to reach the ‘destination’….Any girl feels to the contrary..most welcome to inbox me….BUT only after having read my full profile.

This is a topic in a Fetlife group from a Dominant , a Dominant with no patience , an online Dominant looking for another Slave..

Relationships can be found online eHaromy says so Christian Mingle says so as well as Match. The jokes of the century are Alt. com and the famous Collarme, both are pussy farms and nothing more. Those two are one of the few places you pay for spam, and its not even good spam.

The other side of the story there are many who believe or think they are submissive but they are not. Maybe from talking to others , in person or a chat room , reading a story or a book , and then when you meet a Dominant your like what the fuck is going on ? You are hearing what is being said but your not listening , and what may seem like abuse on your end is really a lack of communication on your end. Most of the time a good Dominant can catch those who are living in a fantasy world and tell her her to move on, unless hes just looking for a fast fuck.

When you add a combination of things together in a relationship Patience tops the list along with being honest, telling the truth, being who and what you are. At number one though is keeping your word. Keeping your word will push the relationship in high gear.

If your training consist of a couple of monthly meetings that last about an hour sometimes two, and it is a little bondage , or your time is spent on your knees or your back. The truth is your being used, your a fuck toy and nothing more.

Once you enter a D’s or M’s relationship you will go through different levels of your relationship, the first being getting to know each other. If the Dominant if only interested in sex there you go, that is what your relationship will be based on.

Your communication is going to grow on different levels as you both begin to explore new sides of your freedom. There will be different levels of trust. There will be different levels of structure . Your needs will change and will continue to change until you find that place you have been looking for , and it is up to your Dominant to change with you. What keeps these levels growing is communication. If you are afraid to communicate in fear of being rejected or yelled at , even dumped , then there is not much there anyway.

We are in full control of our own lives , it is us who controls the paths we take and Don’t take. If your going to be Dumb you gotta be tough.

kneeling62

Vile

What An Awesome Life

Posted in adapting, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, commitment, communication, Dominants, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, relationships, slave, Submission, submissive on March 16, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

On Thursday we went to the Monkey Doctor for Arianna’s annual exam , yea nothing I would rather be doing than sitting in a Doctors office with a bunch of pregnant women , and no Arianna is not pregnant , she was just getting the factory checked out.

So sitting there gave me a little free time to just think and as my mind began to wonder , I thought to myself, Self ! you really have it made.
Arianna and I have been joking because I carry a Dollar in my pocket , and I was saying you cannot buy a fucking thing with a dollar , so now I have two dollars in my pocket and this am a ten was laying on the table.
I am not one to carry cash anyway because all of my needs are met, and as she stated I get pretty much anything I want anyway, and you know she is 100% right….

I was looking back at day one when I first met Arianna. As many of you know if you have been following me. Arianna had a break down when we first met. This is when the Doctors found out about our lifestyle and supported us 100% , even to the point of agreeing that the structure we had in place was a good thing.
Arianna had missed a lot of work but with the amount of off time she receives from work she was getting paid anyway, but that is not the point. The point was to get her healthy.

It was me who found her a new doctor who really dislikes me , but such is life. I am not going to say it has been a struggle because it has not been. It is much different when two are working together as a team.

So the progress has been awesome , I could not ask for more or better. Arianna’s medication has been cut quiet a bit , and now she has registered at a college , to continue her learning. She is now looking at a new career in her second part of life.
So this means here pretty soon Ill be banging a college chick.

I explained to Arianna by filling out the paper work it was in no way a final decision , it was her who had to think things through and it would be her own decision, but I would back her with what ever she wanted to do.

It is truly amazing to just sit back and look at how much progress as been made, how far we have come and where we are going. It is truly amazing to sit back and look at how you have effected someones life , to see the changes that has happened over time. It is amazing to see how the rules and protocols you have put in place has changed someone.

Last but not least my favorite past time is cooking , I love to cook , don’t tell anyone though cooking does not sound to Domish. I love to grill , and each time I try and out do the last. I do not follow any recipes I think about what sounds good and how it would taste if I was going to cook it..
Arianna on the other hand is an awesome cook as well , and she has a couple of apps she uses. So just about every night we have something different…

This was my last dinner I cooked last week , a bone in pork chop you could cut with a fork.

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We Went Out Last Thursday night

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, communication, Dominants, Karaoke, Master And Slave, slave, Submission, submissive on March 16, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Arianna loves Karaoke and she does have a beautiful voice. Thursday night she had people up on the dance floor, singing Sinead O’conner Nothing compares to you, she really rocks, whats up, by four non blondes.
The Bartender has the hots for her BAD , I think its funny because he watches her every move, and I am like yea suck it up bad boy I own her.

I usually let Arianna have a few drinks when we go out and I drink regular coke , I never drink and drive , because a DUI can ruin your life , but Thursday night was my night , had it in my mind I was going to cut lose , get sideways , get hammered , get blind like Stevie Wonder, but that changed I just wanted to chill a little and enjoy watching my property.

A few weeks back i did have a beer , I walked up to the bar and Arianna’s crush waited on me and he asked what I wanted and I told him I would like a Samuel adams and he just gave me a blank stare , and I was like um you know the beer? So he started looking through his coolers and he did not have one, he then sent one of the bouncers to a store to get me a Samuel Adams, how fucking funny is that? So I did have one beer but I drank coke for the remainder three hours.

Thursday night was different though , I very seldom drink , that is something that has changed when it comes to me. Back in the day I was trying to drink Jack Daniels out of Business , and it took me several years to realize it was a losing battle.

My drink of choice however is a Tequila Sunrise , So Arianna asked me what I would like to drink and I told her, she walked up to the bar and when she returned , yup Bar Boy was watching her ass. The first sip , I almost busted a nut , fucking wow it had been years. So now I am ready for another , Arianna walks back up and orders another. One of the female bartenders ask Arianna if that was a single or double and she said she was not sure why? The Bartender said well we are not sure how he is going to act while drinking, so it was a single.
Arianna is singing and this bouncer walked past me and I said hey get me an order of cheese sticks, he just looked at me and said um sure okay. A few minutes later the girl bartender walks over and says did you want an order of cheese sticks? That is what I told the guy, she said she would get right on it.

So waiting and finely here she comes , she places the basket on the table and ask if I need anything else , I shrug and thanked her. A few minutes later she is walking by with two beers in and , and I stop her, hey when you get a chance could I get a few napkins ? She turns around walks back to the bar and picks up 40 or 50 napkins and hands them to me , then she ask are these okay? Um yes , are you sure ? Um yes, okay well now I am thinking other people are getting better napkins.
I am not sure what it was but this girl was terrified of me , when she handed the napkins to me her hands were shaking, and she made the other customers wait on their beer who was sitting at the next table.

Anyway then my third and last for the fuck man those were good. My real favorite is Black Berry Brandy in a shot glass and heated for like 15 seconds in a micro wave with an awesome cigar, but since I don not smoke anymore I have not had any. Although I have been thinking about a nice Padron here lately.

So we were talking yesterday and Arianna brought something up about me not pushing her to far , or she thought I was missing out on something. The truth is and I explained it to her. I am responsible for our home, I am responsible for her , not only physically , but mentally and emotionally. I do at times push some but I am well aware of what Arianna’s limitations. I am very happy with what I have right now , life is good…

If you push someone to the point of a break down , what would your next steps be ? How would you explain something like that to medical professionals or even law enforcement. Knowing your property is most important.

Something that really kills me , is when a submissive or slave meets a Dom and a half hour later they are in a Motel. The Dominant knows nothing about who he is going to play with, nor does he know her limitations, or her mental state. You could ruin your whole life with one slap to the face. Shrugs.

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I understand your statement

Vile

You Both Should Adapt

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Adapt, adapting, anger, anticipation, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, Bond, commitment, communication, compatibility, Consistency, consistent, Dominants, Fantasy, Humiliation, Inservice Slave, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Protocols, Rules, sex slave, slave, Submission, submissive on March 14, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Let the negotiations begin. Every relationship be it Vanilla , D’s ms’ Baby girl has negotiations. This is the time you spend getting to know each other, feeling each other out , likes and dislikes. favorite foods , movies , music , hobbies is any , work habits good and bad.

In a D’s or M’s it is just slightly different because the relationship is more in depth, there is much more involved in the relationship. Now we have safe words , now we limits. Now we have rules , protocols , some Dominants are strict while others are not.

How are you going to be used in a D’s or M’s relationship, maybe in service , maybe just for sex , there are several different factors you need to look at.

I have stressed many times before it is very important to become friends first before you speak about anything that pertains to BDSM. Are you into bondage, humiliation , pain is a biggy? Are you into following strict rules ? Maybe you don’t swallow , or do anal , all of these are Negotiations , and these are things that have to be worked out prior to entering a relationship.

If there is enough in common or the Dominant feels there is enough in common he may wish to move forward even if the submissive or slave has certain limits they are against. In time limits can be renegotiated , but more so a good Dominant does not change he can simply adapt to somethings in a new relationship.

I believe a huge misunderstanding is about the 24/7 relationships , new relationships. It is the submissive or slave who has to adapt to the new ways. It is the submissive or slave who has to adapt to their new surroundings.

The negotiations should continue until both have agreed to enter a D’s Or M’s relationship….

Limits should be pushed but respected, Limits are part of the Negotiations and the submissive or slave should stand by theirs. If you are totally against something or something makes you feel uncomfortable then speak your mind. One thing you should never agree to something in fear of the relationship not working out. The good thing is I can assure you once in a stable relationship some of your limits will pass. You will want to explore that sense of freedom.

You will never change a Dominant , in some cases he may change his way of thinking , when it comes to training, and putting rules in place but a total make over will never happen. At times he may adapt to certain situations if he feels the relationship is moving forward in a positive direction as well.

Many times in any relationship we tend to take other for granted , we tend to forget the small things and we begin to just expect everything, the small things are no longer appreciated. This is when the communication break down begins and the relationship starts to fall apart and if not caught in time it will fail and both are to blame.

Stress brought on by those who think they are submissive , but in reality it is just a fantasy , those putting up resistance during training , not following rules because they think it is a joke or not taking the relationship serious. You may like the Dominant but not the lifestyle and you expect him to change , and that is not going to happen. The relationship fails and all the blame goes on him, while all along it was you who caused the break down.

Bruce Lee once said. If you want to learn to swim jump in the water. On dry land no frame of mind is ever going to help you..

BDSM And Fetlife

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Bdsm events, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, Building a BDSM Relationshp, communication, control, controlling, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, etiquette, exhibitionism, exploiting your slave, Fetlife Groups, Humiliation, MAST, Master And Slave, munchs, Private Protocol, Protocol public, Protocols, Rules, slave, Slave Owned Property, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used on March 3, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I thought I had found a place where I fit. I thought I found new friends well I was hoping anyway. Someone I could speak with on the same level and someone who truly understood where I was coming from.
Before sending a friend request I wanted to get to know the Master a little more. I wanted to see where he was coming from , and what his feelings were.
I had even gone as far as inviting him and his slave to dinner , mainly because we had so much in common…

I need that interaction with others in the lifestyle , I need to be able to relax , talk about things we have in common or just shoot the shit

The Master has not been active in the local community but I was willing to look that over , again things in common, we were on the same page of what an M’s relationship was all about. He is starting a new group and I was going to go as far as to promote it for him so we could get a good group together.

There are not very many Dominants who think or feel the way I do about the lifestyle , some even say I am somewhat unorthodox in my ways, or I am to strict , I need to let up a little , give Arianna some breathing room.

All in all I am me and nothing is going to change, I am who I am and I am completely happy. Right now I am in a good place and I do not see things changing anytime in the future.

So I have been on Fetlife for several years now. I have had one other profile but it has since been taking down now for a couple of years. I belong to about 21 groups and I have about 40 friends 90% of which I have met.
There has not been a group that has caught my eye until last week.

MALEDOM Central Florida…. Description:

A central Florida community of Male Dominants and female submissives that operates under the belief that “women exist to be the property, servants and playthings of men”

Okay so I am in the game so far , because this for the most is what I truly believe. I have believed this since a very early age going back to my teens.

Basic Membership Rules:
*Only 100% Dominant Males and 100% submissive females please, no switches.

*Females is defined as “having a vagina.” Post op transsexuals are always welcome, however no submissive men may join, including sissies, crossdressers, and pre op transgender. If you have a penis and are submissive, this is not the group for you.

*females will address ALL males respectfully and submissively at ALL times, addressing them as “Sir” unless otherwise instructed.
1. This is one of the problems I started to have with the Moderator of the group. The way I look at it is we are all different so I am not here to bad mouth anyone. We all have different point of views when it comes to the lifestyle , but unless under my direction Arianna does not and will not address another Dominant as SIR. That is part of my protocols and those who have been in the lifestyle for any time knows and understands my way of thinking..

*This group operates under the firmly held belief that “women exist to be the property, servants, and playthings of Men” so all members must share this mindset.

*Dominants must be courteous regarding other Dominants property, but all females will be treated as just that, property. females will always interact with Dominants without arguing, backtalking, or giving sass. There will be no expectation of respect, fair treatment, courtesy or politeness to property. females have no rights to ANYTHING here.

Here is the second problem I had , now mind you him and I have been texting and things have been going smoothly. Again we had a lot in common or so I thought….

Now he is new to the community as far as being active , so I am not sure how long he has been in a M’s lifestyle we never got that far.

Here are some more things I found troubling. I am The Master of Arianna , I am the owner of Arianna, and she is my property. Although there may be times I ask for advice I do have the final say in all matters…..

ALL females, whether owned or not, must wear a collar to ALL events. If they are not owned this is to signify and reinforce that they are property, not people, and certainly NOT equal to ANY male. Once inside any private event, all females will be expected to immediately strip down to panties or change into revealing fetishwear. If any Dominants would prefer their property to be dressed differently at an indoor, private event, please contact Master Joe at 555-555-5555, and exceptions can be made. If no prior arrangements have been made, females will be expected to strip down to panties and collar or revealing fetish wear at the door.

*ALL females will help serve at events and will be available to get drinks and food for Dominants. Any Dominant who wishes to remove His property from this group service for a period of time may do so by putting her on a leash or lead. Any female not on a leash or lead may be ordered by ANY Dominant to perform simple NONSEXUAL service (get drinks, move chairs, etc) and must immediately obey.

*No female will be required to participate in any sexual play (unless her Owner orders it, of course). If a female is available for play or open to sexually serving Dominants other than hers, this can be demonstrated by attaching a pink ribbon to her collar. A pink ribbon does NOT require a Dominant to allow His property to participate in any play and is used only to indicate that asking her owner is welcomed and not offensive. Any female without a pink ribbon attached to her collar is understood to be unavailable for sexual service or play with others and MUST NOT be ordered to and her Owner should not be asked as this is very rude and offensive.

*Please be courteous with other Dominant’s property. females are property and playthings and deserve no respect, however, if a female is owned, please remember that her Owner DOES deserve respect, so all Dominants please act accordingly.

Now the above

His group , he is the moderator , but I do find a few things wrong, okay wrong is not the right word. Maybe I would do thinga a little different..

While I do agree with 95% of the above there is 5 % I do not, and I will explain why.

I blogged last week I think it was about exploiting slaves and submissives , and the above is a form of just that. There are some factors you have to look into and respect being one of them , and then you have the mental side of things. Just how much can your property take? Although I do believe at times some humiliation is needed to keep things in check, but never in a public setting.

So shortly after Arianna and I met I began to put protocols in place as well as a few rules. Some of the things she wanted clarification on , was sharing , and being exposed in front of others, and if I would be taking on other Slaves as well ? Those are all good questions so I answered all of them , No Sharing , she would not be exposed and I had not thought about taking on another slave nor would I unless she brought it up and she has.
In the end I gave my word and for me to go back , well it would not look very good, and I lose that trust we have built. Rules once in place there is no changing , I have the right to add or amend if asked but I am head cheese.

There are no Dominants or Masters I know of who would agree to have their property topless at a gathering and be at other Dominants beck and call. I would never allow such a thing to go on.

Finding the right partner is hard enough for Dominants , Master , Slaves and those who are submissive. You cannot go back on your word.
In the end our partner , our submissive , our slave , our property, we are the only ones they can turn to and they need to know we are going to be there.

Again I am not here to bad mouth anyone. I did read in the rules though exceptions would be made if contacted and in my case there were no exceptions.

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Vile