Archive for June, 2015

Gay Rights And Same Sex Marriage

Posted in bdsm, Gay rights, relationships, Same sex marriage on June 27, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

While it is true we have a bunch of idiots who run our country , people who do not have our interest in mind , and the list just goes on and on.

What is a crying shame is all of these idiots forcing something to be brought before our highest court. All because the politicians who happen to be lawyers could not come to an agreement on how men and women should be able to live their own lives.
Again now these are the same people who do not have your interest in mind. These are the same people who allow millions of children to starve to death right here in our country. These are the same people who have done nothing in the past twelve years , or longer. These are the same people who have medical care but do not think it is fair for every American who cannot afford health care. These are the same people who will get a retirement after only two terms in office, yea the list goes on and one.
To put up a fight over something so simple and something that only effects those in a relationship is totally ludicrous. Our government cannot pass a bill to improve our infrastructure but you mention two men or two women wanting to get married of want equal care the house ans senate is full. Mayors and Governors come out of the wood work to fight against something that has no effect on them at all.

Now something so simple had to go before our highest court , the same court that has been bogged down over the past few years with the Affordable health care act. While the court was divided the ruling was? A deeply divided Supreme Court on Friday delivered a historic victory for gay rights, ruling 5 to 4 that the Constitution requires that same-sex couples be allowed to marry no matter where they live.

Bam done deal and those who do not have our best interest in mind probably did not sleep last night.

I am straight , I am straighter than a 2×4 , I have never thought about being with the same sex , nor would I, but I do not oppose those who want and need to be happy.

Remember the next time you vote if you do vote , remember who has your best interest in mind…..

The Washington Post

By Robert Barnes June 26 at 2:59 PM

A deeply divided Supreme Court on Friday delivered a historic victory for gay rights, ruling 5 to 4 that the Constitution requires that same-sex couples be allowed to marry no matter where they live.

The court’s action rewarded years of legal work by same-sex marriage advocates and marked the culmination of an unprecedented upheaval in public opinion and the nation’s jurisprudence.

Marriages began Friday in states that had previously thwarted the efforts of same-sex couples to wed, while some states continued to resist what they said was a judicial order that changed the traditional definition of marriage and sent the country into uncharted territory. As of the court’s decision Friday morning, there were 14 states where same-sex couples were not allowed to marry.

Justice Anthony M. Kennedy, who has written all of the court’s decisions recognizing and expanding gay rights, said the decision was based on the fundamental right to marry and the equality that must be afforded gay Americans.

“Under the Constitution, same-sex couples seek in marriage the same legal treatment as opposite-sex couples, and it would disparage their choices and diminish their personhood to deny them this right,” Kennedy wrote. He was joined in the ruling by the court’s liberal justices Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Stephen G. Breyer, Sonia Sotomayor and Elena Kagan.

The common theme in their dissents was that judicial activism on the part of five members of the court had usurped a power that belongs to the people.

“If you are among the many Americans — of whatever sexual orientation — who favor expanding same-sex marriage, by all means celebrate today’s decision,” wrote Roberts, who for the first time in his tenure marked his disagreement with a decision by reading part of his dissent from the bench.

“Celebrate the achievement of a desired goal. Celebrate the opportunity for a new expression of commitment to a partner. Celebrate the availability of new benefits. But do not celebrate the Constitution. It had nothing to do with it,” he wrote.

Scalia called the decision a “threat to American democracy,” saying it robs citizens of “the freedom to govern themselves.”

It wasn’t until 2012 that Obama declared that same-sex couples should be able to marry, and it was only last year that he said he thought the Constitution provided such a right. But by Friday evening, the rainbow colors that gay rights activists have adopted were projected onto the north face of the White House. With the Supreme Court’s ruling, Obama said, “Today we can say in no uncertain terms that we have made our union a little more perfect.”

There were wild scenes of celebrations on the sidewalk outside the Supreme Court. Same-sex marriage supporters had arrived early, armed with signs and rainbow flags. They cheered at the announcement of a constitutional right for gay marriage, which did not legally exist anywhere in the world until the turn of this century. The first legally recognized same-sex marriages in the United States took place just 11 years ago, the result of a Massachusetts state supreme court decision.

Jim Obergefell, who became the face of the case, Obergefell v. Hodges, when he sought to put his name on his husband’s Ohio death certificate as the surviving spouse, said, “Today’s ruling from the Supreme Court affirms what millions across the country already know to be true in our hearts: that our love is equal.”

“It is my hope that the term gay marriage will soon be a thing of the past, that from this day forward it will be, simply, marriage,” he said.

But Austin R. Nimocks, senior counsel for the Alliance Defending Freedom, a group that supports traditional marriage, said: “Today, five lawyers took away the voices of more than 300 million Americans to continue to debate the most important social institution in the history of the world. . . . Nobody has the right to say that a mom or a woman or a dad or a man is irrelevant. There are differences that should be celebrated.”

The Supreme Court used cases from Michigan, Ohio, Kentucky and Tennessee, where restrictions against same-sex marriage were upheld by an appeals court last year, to find that the Constitution does not allow such prohibitions.

Continue here…. http://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/gay-marriage-and-other-major-rulings-at-the-supreme-court/2015/06/25/ef75a120-1b6d-11e5-bd7f-4611a60dd8e5_story.html

Something so simple made so difficult

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Anal Sex And Bondage

Posted in anal sex, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, Bondage, communication, fucking, fucking and sucking, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, Total Power Exchange, TPE, viledesires62@aol.com on June 27, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Arianna and I just recently had Physicals done and we both got the green light with the exception of my sugar being low so we have changed up my diet a little. It is really cool we see the same Doctor and at the same time in the same room together. The only thing I found somewhat disturbing was getting a prostrate check by a 70 year old female doctor in front of Arianna and getting hard while being checked.
January 1st 2014 was my last real cigarette , and although I am still on the ecig I am feeling 300% better and Ive noticed a difference in how food taste. Then comes the slight weight gain of about 15 lbs, but that is out weighed by the money I am saving. Before I was spending about 350 to 400 a month and as I look back man what a waist of money. Today I am at about 65 dollars a month. When I first started my Nicotine level in the ecig juice I was using was 36 milligrams when kept me on my toes meaning a huge buzzed feeling. Today I am down to 6 milligrams . This was a huge step since I had been smoking for 38 years. Still every now and then I get a craving but is passes really quick.
It does not bother me to be around others who smoke unless they are smoking a cheap generic then I kinda gag , not the gagging like Arianna does sometimes but a sicking gag.

Slave had stumbled across some of my postings via Fetlife and she thought it could of been her Master. It was not long until her and Arianna became friends. We had dinner Thursday night and it was truly amazing being able to communicate with someone who thought along the same lines as I do , well for the most anyway.
We are all different but the main thing we had in common was , one we both live a 24/7 M’s two we take the lifestyle very serious. I am not saying others do not, but not many share the same point of views I do.

I seldom blog about our sex life or out sessions , but the other day while we were playing , I noticed the more I did the more aroused I became. I love bondage , I love rope but my favorite is the moving plastic wrap.
I love using leather cuffs locked of course , but my favorite is the hood.Even with the hood I use the plastic wrap to go around the eyes even though the hood has a mask , because I want to block out all light. Cuff on her hand placed in front , then I wrap her up right below her breast several times tight enough she cannot move.
The plastic wrap is awesome because if you do like a mummy who ever is wrapped up is not getting lose. It is funny mainly because the more control I have the harder I get, at this point I could of hung a wet towel and let it dry.

The only place the mask has an opening because I left it open was the mouth, and we all know what that is for. I placed her on the floor in the sitting position, and walked over picked up her vibrator and handed it to her and I said Cum. I tilted her head just a little bit and said open wide.
You can actually feel the throat muscles when someone is gagging, one of the best feelings in the world. I am going to say this went on well not long maybe 15 minutes or so, then I pulled out picked her up and placed her on the bed spread her legs and I just started pounding her, to the point of being out of breath. So I pulled out and I just stood back looking at my property, then I saw it that bottom hole, grrr.
So I decided to be nice this time and I am looking around the room ahhh there it is the lube. After lubing myself up I walked right up and slowly slid my cock in her ass , just holding it yea the muscles gripping feels almost as good as the mouth.
Once I thought she had adjusted I began pumping , wrapping my arms around her thighs , I was trying to make her throat swell, well that is how deep I wanted to go,and again maybe 10 minutes or so I pull out because now I want the pussy again.
I pull out and just walk away I jump in the shower wash off. Once done I dried partly off walked up and slid my cock back in her pussy , and yes still just as wet and I finished until I dumped my load.

There is just something about anal sex that drives me up the wall , but along with anal sex , the more control I have and the more helpless Arianna is the more turned on I get.

The control thing has been there well ever since I can remember , not only when it came to sex or bondage, I am speaking in general. Even when out with friends I would control the conversation most of the time if I was interested in what I was hearing.

In my teens I had a pretty bad temper , but I can say during my time in school from elementary through high school I was only in one fight, and I believe that was the seventh grade, and after that no one messed with me. Even if confronted I managed to talk my way out and turn things around pretty fast.

I was 18 when I was introduced to Buddhism , it was then I learned to channel my anger into good thoughts. It was then I came to realize the things that happened while at home was not my fault and my family was just dysfunctional and I was the normal one.

Last here is a new Toy that was giving to me by a friend and it will get plenty of use..

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My Definition Of A Unicorn

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Triad, communication, Dominant, FaceBook Vile Woods, Living Triad, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, slave, submissive, TPE, Triad, Unicorn on June 23, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

The term or word Unicorn is relatively new , and it is a word I would never use myself in a general conversation or even when looking for a third to form a Triad.
So when I used the word unicorn it was as almost impossible to find , or non-existent.

Arianna and I were talking last night about how other Dominants have a full house and she made the statement well you could too if you lowered your standards.
I could not meet someone and bring her home and tell Arianna hey she is staying with us like it or not. You would really be surprised how often that happens.

There is a myth that unicorns are disposable and while many think that may be true I have never heard that before.

I was speaking with a male submissive a couple of months ago and we were talking about poly and Triads , and he mentioned the Unicorn and the definition was they are called unicorns because they are either not real or extremely hard to find. I stand by that statement.

Now I or we have had the opportunity to bring others in , but the click or the chemistry was not there. To bring another in it has to fit like a glove, nice and snug.

In the past weeks I have met a couple of friends , I am trying really hard. So I met a Dominant who is new to the lifestyle as with his Submissive but they are still finding what works and what does not work. He then began to explain he was thinking of adding a third.
I thought for a minute then I said you cant not right now , the two of you have still not defined your relationship or which direction you both want to go.
To bring someone into your home and your relationship not being in place , and stable it would not be fair. You bring someone in with false hopes and you can really fuck someone up.

Talking on Facebook my friend Bopeep made the comment and while I agree with her I never looked at a unicorn in that way, until my last blog I had never used the word unicorn.

BoPeep Hmmm..I think that the poly community frowns on the term “unicorn” and couples who are “unicorn hunters” because it implies that the third is a disposable object or toy for the couple. It dehumanizes the third. I’m sure there are a few out there that would tolerate it for a time, but if you are imposing limits to the thirds “importance” in the relationship right off the bat, the third already has one foot out the door. Most poly-fi-tri’s I’ve read about that are successful happened out of shared friendships over a period of time. I wish you and Arianna the best, if anyone can make it happen it’s you

Last I believe this whole topic is hard to explain or more so for anyone to understand my reasoning. When you ask most Dominants why they want to add a third the answer is always more flavor. If you need more flavor then the submissive or slave you have now is not meeting your needs. So by adding more flavor you can now justify the act of fucking someone else.

Arianna and I have been speaking about adding a third for sometime, we have weighed the good and the bad as well as the awesome possibility’s, but the click has to be right.

We have spoken to several submissive’s and time and time again I have explained it is not me you have to win over it is Arianna , win over is a bad way to put it, Arianna is the one you have to bond with.

So maybe the term Unicorn hit a bad nerve with some of you, and as I look back on my post I can see why. To many men or Doms and even couples Unicorns are disposable. So the female is never allowed to truly bond with either nor are they treated as a equal within the relationship.

I think in many Triads the third is left out a lot and I hate using the word third but I got a lot of feed back about using the term Unicorn. There are those who could give a fuck about your feelings be it a Male Dominant or a couple, in fact many times a third is used to fulfill a couples fantasies and nothing more.

In most cases the fantasies get old or jealousy kicks in and the communication falls apart if there was ever any, or maybe the couple did not have a clear vision on what was expected from each, or what the needs would be. Any way you put it playing with someones emotions or feelings is a bad way going about things, but there are those who could really give a fuck. Find you use and abuse then dump you. There are several sides to that picture it goes not only for women but men and couples.

Arianna and I are still talking about adding someone to our home but I and we know we have to be careful, at this point another slave would be a no go, a submissive yes. The rules would be much different I am sure.

Anyway I just wanted to add more on my thoughts about the Unicorn and third..

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I Am A Dominant

Posted in Uncategorized on June 15, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

A Reader just comment on this , looking back it is a reflection of who I am

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I cannot fix you but I can guide you , I can give you the tools to put you in a much better place. I can give you communication so you know where you need to be as a slave or submissive.

I am a Dominant , I can teach , and give you advice so you will be able to see things in a much clearer way. I can help you understand the things you do not understand.

I will hold you just to hold you and want nothing in return. I will always put you first no matter what , and you will grow to know you can fully depend on me.

I am a Dominant , I will always be honest with you , I will never lie to you , nor will I lead you down a false path.

I am a Dominant I promise to…

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Our Second Wedding Anniversary

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Structure, collaring ceremony, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, Manipulation, Marriage ceremony, owning a slave, slave, Submission, submissive, Total Submission, TPE, Wedding anniversary, Wedding Vows on June 13, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Wow I cannot believe how fast time has flown by. Arianna and I have come a long way and we have grown together and we continue to grow on a daily basis.
You know one thing I do is encourage Arianna to get out and she does from time to time. She has a dear friend who is like her second mother she visits on a regular basis and then she visits her mother as well , without me which is nice.

In the past she has been invited out with the girls and again I have encouraged that as well, I believe a Slave needs down time, it helps clear the mind and gather you thoughts.
When she was invited to a girls outing for lunch she did not want to go because we were not going together…. It was just Wednesday night at Karaoke someone said that we compliment each other so much. Ahhh we did a duet together it was Wanted Dead Or Alive by Bon Jovi. We had people standing in front of us singing as well. I think they were supporting Arianna because I am sure I butchered the song. I was already into 3 maybe 4 drinks.

I may post a Video of Arianna singing here soon. She really has a beautiful voice and I am not saying that because of who she is.

When your with the right partner you not only want it to work , but you have a need for it to work. That need will never fail you, the want will fail you but not the need. It took many many years to learn that those two were different and that both had different meanings.

Something I had to learn was what I wanted out of a relationship ,but to go deeper is what I needed out of a relationship . The need will over ride the want , a want is a passing thought a need runs much deeper. I want a 2015 Dodge Challenger SRT8 Hellcat but that is not a need.

It took me sometime to be able to tell the difference between a need and a want. Some years ago I went through cars like people go through water , every month or two I was trading up or down what ever I thought my need was at that time, well it was not a need it was a want.

It took me sometime while being single to realize I was talking to people but not talking , they were talking at me and I was talking at them. The only thing you get out of someone talking at you is Boredom and you never get anywhere. Many times leaving a restaurant I was thinking to myself WOW that is an hour of my life I will never get back.

After my breakup before meeting Arianna , I went into well mot hiding but I just wanted to be left alone, I refused to let depression set in, so I needed to take time and gather my thoughts and decide what I wanted out of life and a slave.
I found the perfect place out in the middle of bum fuck Egypt , a one room log cabin about 900 square feet but it was perfect, little did I know it would be short lived because the floors had black mold and I started getting sick after about 6 months.
I had just gotten over the bleeding ulcers that landed me in the hospital for 30 days and about 18 days in ICU. Here I was again extremely sick. This really sucked because I was just getting everything together.

One day while at work I was dropping off someone in a less than perfect Neighbor Hood and I saw a few guys working on a house, as I walked in I asked if the place was for rent or sale, as I am looking around , new floors , new carpet in the bedroom, new kitchen cabinets , new tub and a new washer and dryer.
I got the owners number called him and wired him the money that day. My rent was 535.00 with lights , water , cable and internet included, and it was a nice house on the inside but when you walked out it looked like a war zone.
I lived there for almost 3 years and I never had a problem it was quiet at night and that is all I really cared about.

I had gathered all of my thoughts and I knew what I was looking for, I was tired of being talked at. The truth is you can tell when someone is truly interested in you.
I had already made arrangement’s to move when I met Arianna. A few months back I was standing in the front yard after a MAsT meeting talking to two other masters and one made the comment how lucky I was and it was like Arianna fell from the sky.

So here we are some well almost 3 years later and who would of thought. Life is good and I can honestly say we have had way more ups than downs , and even today we continue to grow.

So June 15th 2013 we along with some very close friends standing on the beach in Daytona near the light house, standing there as the sun started to rise and the ceremony began,
It was the first time in a very long time I got this knot in my throat. Slave began the ceremony and as Arianna stood there looking at each other I had this warm feeling come over me. Once we were married , we had a small sand ceremony , followed by the collaring.
After the Ceremony was over Arianna and I invited everyone to the Hilton for an awesome Breakfast.

We are not sure what we will do on June 15th Arianna just wants to go out to dinner but I am sure what ever it is it will be awesome..

Much love to everyone

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I am working on several post and a new interview is coming

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationships, BDSM TPE Relationships, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, slave, submissive, training your slave on June 12, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have been super busy with work , my hours have changed at work , which really sucks canal water but all is good.

Our second wedding anniversary is coming up here in a couple of days.

I have a new interview I will be doing here pretty soon…

I actually have about 15 drafts waiting to be finished….

I am also going to talk more about Arianna and I still thinking about forming an awesome Triad..

I am also going to cover more about Arianna’s Training

Much love

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Service vs. Control: What Drives You?

Posted in Uncategorized on June 9, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

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Truly Awesome.

Service vs. Control: What Drives You?