Topping From The Bottom
This can be a very serious issue and is found in relationships where the Dominant is new and really lacks experience. Some cases it also happens in a Daddy Baby Girls relationship. Also it can be the way the relationship is set up, the relationship is structured in such a manner.
The submissive will pout in order to get their way, or simply say no. Many times the submissive really calls all of the shots..
To a Dominant who is not experienced , he knows something is wrong but he cannot figure it out.. Many times causing arguments and fights between the Dom and sub..
Topping from the bottom also happens when the submissive does not truly trust their Dominant and is unable to fully let go. It took Arianna some time to trust me enough to fully let go, this does not mean she topped me because I would never let her do such a thing…
Many times the submissive will try to manipulate a Dominants decision, either by questioning or pouting in order to get their way.
There is not a lot of information out there on this topic. Which really makes it hard for me to go into any great detail.
Sometime ago I was in an M’s relationship and after much conversation I moved from a Master , Slave relationship to a Daddy Baby girl relationship which lasted only a year. This was topping from the bottom and I did not even realize there was a problem until we had already split. The break up was my fault and only my fault because I gave in. That was the down fall because now she had moved into control and she knew it..
Some ways this can be avoided more so in a new relationship is to use your property often and without question. If you want to fuck then just fuck, you want your cock sucked , it is your right. Mean what you say, say what you mean….
Vile
August 16, 2015 at 3:13 pm
How do you feel about Him wanting the challenge of breaking his submissive when she gets defiant or says no?
August 16, 2015 at 3:24 pm
Breaking one is okay if the relationship is long term. It takes a great deal of humiliation
August 17, 2015 at 2:16 am
It sounds like the sub/slave really didn’t want to be in that relationship anyway. If that is the case, why would she start it in the first place?
August 17, 2015 at 1:23 pm
Not all the time Thomas, sometimes it is by mistake and the Dom does not knows its going on, then at times a sub or slave may try to manipulate…
An experienced Dominant would catch on
August 17, 2015 at 4:31 pm
I completely agree with the pouting aspect. I see a LOT of submissives talk about pouting when they want something or think the dominant is not doing something the submissive thinks they should. Nice post.
August 16, 2016 at 9:04 am
Reblogged this on thekinkyworldofvile and commented:
This is true
August 16, 2016 at 6:18 pm
What you said here – There is not a lot of information out there on this topic.
This is probably because most Doms won’t do what you did..go out on a limb and admit that they let it happen. I have seen some very talented and powerful Doms allow their efforts to protect and nurture turn into topping from the bottom.
As good as my girl is, she still tries from time to time. I think every slave at some point has had a melt down, faced the quiet tiger that is waiting for them to return to their role and though, shit, I fucked up, what’s he going to do. That’s the critical point. Let it go, and you both lose.. just like you said. Another great piece!