BDSM Relationship Reset
We all get in a routine , we do the same ol thing day in and day out. The routine becomes such a habit we do not even realize it.
The same goes for relationships , the old routine , and up until last night I never gave it much thought until Arianna brought it up, and Reset was the word, a relationship lifestyle reset.
Now you could say the same thing about a vanilla relationship, but I really doubt you could pull your wife by the hair force her down to her knees, shove your cock in her mouth pump until you blow your load, bend her over the couch and force two fingers in her pussy and two in her ass and pump until your arm gives out, then put her in a cage. That does sound very interesting.
The routine , Yes Sir, No Sir, may I Sir? You may , you may not , hey lets play!!!!!!
You already have rules in place , you have structure in place and rules but your submissive or slave feels like they are in a rut, a dead end, no where to turn, and once their feelings are discussed you then think of a plan.
A Boot Camp a Mini Boot camp , 12 to 24 hours maybe even 48 hours, you can set time aside , after all its your relationship we are talking about, you cannot put a price on time spent with your partner. Once we get comfortable we tend to expect things instead of appreciating them , that is something we have to keep in check so your partner does not feel they are being taking advantage of…
So I am in the planning stage of what a Reset would mean to me , maybe something like the story I blogged about ? The Breaking Of Sabrina, maybe a kidnapping scenario, that would last 12 , 24 maybe even 48 hours.
Bondage , Hot wax , leather hood, ball gag, dildo’s , face fucking ass fucking … Fingers deep inside Arianna’s pussy probing and feeling around inside as deep as I can go, Fingering her ass, one, two, three fingers pumping her ass.
No conversation just using.. A Total mind fuck weekend nothing discussed , nothing negotiated.. What comes with all of this a total M’s relationship reset…
So we are different a Vanilla relationship may make plans for a nice weekend , a short get away. I on the other hand have a different thought of mind.
I think the only times this would not work is one , if you went through no training. Two if you did not enter the relationship as a D’s or M’s couple, or you do not live together. I do know LDR’s you cannot put an effective training program in place. The Dominant is not present so there is no way he can be in control 24/7 and he can only go by what he is told..
Sometimes we can get in a rut and we do not see the whole picture, we grow to expect things, everything just seem normal, and things begin to grow Blah.
Even today almost three years later I am always thinking of ways to change things up a little. The one thing we do not want to do is put or add more than the sub or slave can handle. The same with rules, once you have been together for a month or so the Dominant can begin to add a few rules, as the relationship progresses more can be added..
Many times we as Dominants let our feelings get in the way, we think one way and act on another, maybe in fear of that huge bad word NO. If your relationship is on track the word NO will never come to light. Your thinking you want your cock sucked but you see your sub watching TV, or playing a game on the phone, or maybe you feel guilty?
I take training very serious , once you begin a M’s relationship you are molding someone to fit your needs. You are changing someones thought process.
You are changing someones habits, you are training someone to know what your thinking, how to do something, and when to do it.
You as a submissive may think well I don’t want to give up that much control. Once in a relationship and as your trust builds , you will begin to let more and more go. Once you find you are in hands that truly care about you and has your best interest in hand…
One thing I do know, you always put your partner first no matter what, you keep an open line of communication open. If that happens you both will grow.
To have someone kneel because they want is a total rush, to have someone kneel because you can make them is just ego feeding.
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Vile
August 20, 2015 at 5:33 pm
Reset is a great word. Thank you for sharing Vile.
August 20, 2015 at 5:36 pm
Thank you
August 20, 2015 at 6:08 pm
Vile, M.reset locations and times. It was needed and brought a fresh look after a really tough time in life (imagine almost dying and your sub took over bc you were in lala land — HAD TO SHIFT).
August 20, 2015 at 6:24 pm
i enjoyed this post, Vile! Luckily, Master is very creative and i am very appreciative. W/we are long distance for now, so everytime W/we’re together is a reset of sorts.
August 25, 2015 at 10:09 am
I understand and I am glad your in a good place, I hope things continue to grow…
August 20, 2015 at 8:02 pm
Excellent post! Well written, interesting and as always, very informative!
August 25, 2015 at 10:08 am
Thank you and thank you for stopping by
January 6, 2017 at 8:29 am
Reblogged this on thekinkyworldofvile and commented:
At times a reset is needed
January 6, 2017 at 9:16 pm
Reblogged this on Under Lock and Key and commented:
Awesome Post!!!
January 7, 2017 at 11:55 am
Thank you
January 11, 2017 at 6:41 pm
You are most welcome