BDSM Relationships Move So Fast

Your traditional dating is pretty simple, you meet , talk go out spend time with each other. You go out to eat the movies , parks, kissing making out a little foreplay. You know this things tend to move slowly , both of you are on your best behavior trying to convince each other your the perfect fit.. If it works out it does if it does not oh well.

Then we cross the tracks , the other side of the world a new world unknown to most, something with a dark side , but in a way it is exciting.

Your train of thought changes as a female , you have not yet figured out where you fit in, all you know is what you have read really gets you going.

Now all train of thought is no longer rational , your not thinking clear, your brain is moving at Mach one and as of this moment what you have read , what you have chatted about in chat rooms, and maybe some small talk with women at work or maybe your to ashamed to bring it up.

Your Hormones have just kicked into high gear, all of a sudden you need BDSM in your life this is what you have been missing in your life…

You meet a Dom or Master in a chat room , maybe a Daddy Dom. You now let a complete stranger dictate who and what you are and the way words are put you may not fully understand but you go along with what your being told. He gives little hints using key words you pick up on.

Unlike the traditional dating 20 minutes into the chat , your asked what your limits are ? Limits what the fuck is that? Ahhhh your not sure so he begins to explain feeding you more. The next question is are you Bi ? That is always the first question, the second is do you swallow, do you take it up the ass? Do you enjoy pain? Do you enjoy humiliation ? What is the shortest skirt you own ? What are the shortest shorts you own? Do you go out in public without a Bra? How often do you Masturbate ?

If your not lock then comes the webcam , or kik then talking on the phone leading up to phone sex.

Here is what really gets me is the self punishment , making you punish yourself, spanking your pussy , putting clothes pins on your nipple and clit. Then the name calling starts and you go along with it because you do not know any better. The isolation kicks in keeping you away from friends and family. Your passwords and in most cases your banking information. I have seen a few get completely wiped out, and left with nothing.

If your local and you meet you are to wear a skirt or dress with no panties which I have never figured out. Once you meet about twenty minutes into the conversation he wants to start your training, you either get a room or if your dumb enough you take a complete stranger back to your home.

Then the cock sucking training begins , he blows his load down your throat pats you on your head and tells you to wait on his text..

All of the above happens in a matter of days not weeks or months, days and at times a day.

You are experiencing mass confusion your mind is stuck in neutral and you feel you have no where to turn. On the other hand you are taking the word of one person, then one who claims he can lead you down the right path, the one word you hear is Trust, trust me.

Your going to make mistakes , your going to make more than one , more than two or three and you will continue until you get your head straight.

Everything becomes a chore nothing is now fun, you dread seeing your Dom but at that moment and time he is the only one in your life.

All of the above has to do with your Hormones , and nothing more until your able to take a grasp on things.

The process is not as bad as you think it is, thinking through things is the difficult part..

Vile

 

 

 

23 Responses to “BDSM Relationships Move So Fast”

  1. missagathaarmstrong Says:

    Sir … what a scary lonely world you paint… such a different world than the world I live in with Dear Mr F x

    if i were in that world you painted … what a mess I would be x I so pray that that is not what the norm is … but rather the exception

    • Today if you read any blogs, or are active in the community, even fetlife this has grown to be a norm of a new generation…

      • missagathaarmstrong Says:

        i seem to not get that stuff… maybe because …

        the blogs i follow are all like me. and as for fetlife … i don’t really like the new ones coming through – … they seem to miss the point or points.

        but then i have a Master who, like you, is such an honourable and good man.

        we began as lovers five years ago … and slowly … we are where we are now. i His loyal loving slave and He … my entire world… bit with my life built around Him …

      • slave tasha Says:

        Happily, my relationship with Master developed slowly as friends almost four years ago… same here now… His devoted and loving slave. He too, my world. Finding a local play partner though? i think Vile heard every word and read every email this ’25 years in the lifestyle Dom’ sent me. Expectations of slutty dress and a hotel room as part of an initial meeting? NO, NO, NO from both Master and me. Sheesh!

      • Thank you for stopping by , I am glad you have found the one, it makes life so good

      • missagathaarmstrong Says:

        Tasha – mine is the same – but five years – as lovers and now …. He is my life and world …

      • missagathaarmstrong Says:

        this makes me want to scream… it gives yet another excuse for the vanilla world to judge badly this strange and very beautid world of kink … and it is a beautiful world full of so much more substance than i could possibly ever have imagined.

      • We are judged on a daily basis by those who do not understand

  2. I let a lot of things be done to me because of hormones but at passwords at last your brain should kick back in

  3. Sir Vile you are so right. I have seen friends go with what they are told because “He is the Dom”

    Never taking what they want into consideration. The part they forget is that the submissive has the power. Not the Dom. Without the submissive there is no Dom.

    Love this.

  4. I was completely on track with the opening paragraphs. But I thought you were going to go somewhere else towards the end and when you didn’t it threw me. You talked about when the Dom is not skilled or honorable. I thought you were going to talk about star struck newbies.

    It can be just as bad if the Dominant or Mistress is skilled. A sense of euphoria takes over is there is a sense that this is absolutely what you needed. That the person that introduced it is the one and only one The Dominant may have planned a collar of consideration, then a training collard, but it is all too slow for the person who has suddenly had the experience of a lifetime.

    It even happens sometimes just from a casual play scene in a dungeon. We create these deep intense connections that sometimes make it hard to visualize yourself as anything less than half of a symbiotic relation.

    So yeah, Bad Doms with velcro collars are bad but that’s only half of the problem with moving too fast. Star struck newbies are the other half. Both are a recipe for broken hearts and shattered dreams.

  5. missagathaarmstrong Says:

    Sir – this has been on my mind . i suspect it is because of my age – i am a relatively old bird… i know myself well. i have had a life time of adventures and have travelled and lived all over the world.

    Meeting Mr F … well He is the lock to my key. He may have from me whatsoever He chooses – but it has absolutely nothing to do with … hormones – i love Him unconditionally and have done so from the moment i met Him.

    In life i have done some truely insane things … things that would curl the hair of most sane or even relatively mad people… but they were from want and a need to belong rather than hormones… or maybe they were hormones … but i think not.

    i am frustrated and terribly saddened to think that there are girls out there … and boys tòo, that would put themselves in such a position … all because of hormones …

    • It is sad but it is also true, more so with someone new and does not take the time to research… thank you for stopping by

      • missagathaarmstrong Says:

        This ties in well – with Your next post… people’s perceptions. peoples judgements because of their perceptions.

        You Sir and Mr F are very similar in as much as You both live under ‘no prescription’ – it is Your way and not the masses…. You and the treasures i follow – all are ‘no prescrioption’ –

        it is your heart and honour and love that guide you …. and we follow because of your honour heart and love.

    • I too am “old”. But I reject that label and I hope you will as well. There is nothing so intense, pleasurable, exciting, and stimulating as a successful Ds relation. You have this, which makes you desirable on a whole different level than age.

      When you go into dungeons, the Ds community is filled with people who do not appear to belong together. It is the attraction of uncommon currency, the value of the things we place on a higher shelf. Never doubt the desirability, and the attraction to a slave of great worth.

      • missagathaarmstrong Says:

        Dear Sir – what an extraordinarily lovely thing to say – i thank you, and i know Mr F would – for your words.

        Did you read Sir Vile’s last post – He is a very intresting man …

      • missagathaarmstrong Says:

        i have done many things in my life – but this is all slightly new to me – i was taken to a private dundgeon before i met Mr F and had such a lovely time….. i had no idea these places existed… i have been to a few munches… but i find this sort of thing exhausting – and as for night club dungeons – i would rather eat the toe nails of a lizard…. they are a bit like meat markets – and i have been to plently of those – thanksfully … i think definately will put the age card on this one – i am too old for such frivolity ….

        but they all have one thing in common – presception….

  6. slave tasha Says:

    Reblogged this on Close To His Edge and commented:
    Good things are worth the wait. From a Dominant’s perspective– thank you, Vile! 💜

  7. It is this train of thought that causes a lot of concern. I’ve seen some interesting results to these sorts of things. Knowledge is power and the eagerness for experience needs to be put into the education first. There are perversions everywhere and that includes people who prey on those that are naive. This post was well state. Thanks!

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