Archive for December, 2016

How Will You Train Me Sir

Posted in Uncategorized on December 26, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have a lot more info coming about training.
Early next year I will start sharing a little more
About our life as Master and Slave and our new
Sister slave

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This is a question we have all heard and some of you have asked at some point and time. The one thing I can assure you is, you do not start your training off by sucking cock. The reality is training is not what you really think or envision. Training a slave is really not that difficult. Training a slave should not be stressful. As a matter of fact training should be non-stressful, as well as drama free.

The two of you Master and Slave have to come to an agreement prior to entering a relationship. You have to share each others wants and needs. I think this process is geared more towards a slave than it is a submissive, but it can work for a submissive if the two are in a 24/7 relationship.

Last night Arianna and I attended the local Mast Group. Masters And Slaves Together. It…

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Do We Really Train A Slave

Posted in Uncategorized on December 26, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

Almost a new year and I’m just looking back.
I have about 250 partial blogs that are drafts so there is a lot more coming

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We always hear I am in training, or this is the way I train my Slave, but is training the correct word. Do we really train someone? Is the word train really correct?

Arianna and I attended the monthly MAST meeting, Masters And Slaves Together. Friday night. We do not get to attend often due to my work schedule so we jumped at the chance. I also believe it is good for Arianna to interact with others those being Submissive and Slaves.

So we meet a new potential partner, hoping to start a new long lasting relationship. If you look at the over all population, we in the lifestyle are really small in numbers. So finding that one can take time. Being careful in searching for the one, making sure we have all the right connections, and not settling for less.

The topic at MAST Friday night was Masters and…

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We Train To Fit Our Needs

Posted in Uncategorized on December 26, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

What do you think ?

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The word train, or training to many sounds really weird even funny to a lot of people.. Training really just consist of implementing new habits.

Why do Dominants train? Because the submissive or slaves seeks that type of attention. Depending on what your mindset is depends on how far you want to carry the lifestyle.

The truth is and I do not think many will disagree with me, those who are submissive live on the lighter side of BDSM. The Dominant sets rules for the submissive but in time he becomes somewhat lax and does not really enforce. The relationship turns more to just kink,unless the submissive does something that is really out of the norm.

A Slave wants to be owned, a slave needs to have that feeling of being owned. A slave needs that structure. A slave needs to know and feel she is needed.

The hardest thing…

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My World My Slave

Posted in Uncategorized on December 26, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

Just looking back some 4 years ago life is good

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I was single for well over a year, during and prior I made a couple of mistakes and bad choices in partners, and there are those I wish I had never met, and those who are total nightmares.

When we do not take the time to think clearly, our heads get fucked up, it is almost like a cloud settles over our brain, and it causes us to have bad judgement. Sometimes we settle for less just so we have the companionship, even though we know deep down it is not going to work. Then at times we put to much effort into a relationship when we know the same thing, it is not going to work.

While in a relationship some may think my way is a one way street, I suppose if you looked at it from the outside I could see where one might think that. One…

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The Poly Master And Poly Slave

Posted in bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, Dominant and Submissive, Long Distance Relationships LDR, Poly Relationship, Slave, Submissive with tags , , , on December 18, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

In the past few years I have seen the poly community really grow, most who are poly belong to rather large families. Some are Dominant , some are submissive and some are just kink based. My philosophy is if it works for you then it works, if it is working that means you are in a good place.

Then when it comes to a Dominant or Master there is a huge difference but again it is what works for you. How Dominant are you ? How submissive are you? How kinky are you ? In most cases it boils down to being with family, someplace that is secure and safe.

So we look at the whole picture , how can a submissive serve more than one Dominant ? My thoughts are each Dominant has their own rules , structure , and protocols. My other question is if the two do not live together how does one maintain control ? In my eyes and this is just my thoughts if I cannot reach out and touch I cannot control. Being in control is not a want it is a need , being in control of my life and surroundings is a need even at work.

A Master and poly is something you do not see very often. The poly slave is not something you see very often. I myself am very protective , what is mine is mine you can look but you cannot touch. Most Slaves are very possessive , most slaves have one focus and that is serving the one they are owned by.

I have known Masters in the past who would pass their property around like a bag of pop corn and think nothing of it. As I sat back and watch I am thinking how can he truly love her? Maybe it is power or ego , humiliation ?

I believe and this is only me if I cannot reach out and touch someone on a daily basis training cannot be effective.

Training a submissive or slave long distance will almost fail 99% of the time. The Master has no real idea if certain task are being done or what the slave is really thinking. No phone call can replace a facial expression or that look coming from their eyes. Training is changing ones way of thinking and in order to do so the Master has to be consistent on a hourly basis , daily and weekly.

How can a slave possibly serve more than one Master with each having different ideas , structure , protocols and rules.

When I think of Poly and family’s not living together I think of kink and nothing more again this is just my thoughts and I do not judge those who live the lifestyle.

I myself thrive off of the control , the control is a need but it is not to the point og controlling.

While many use fear to dominate , many use humiliation, many use a form of degrading making one feel worthless , that is a form of forced submission and the Master has gained absolutely nothing , most of all he has not gained respect.

We as Masters when we take on a relationship we now have two we have to think about and sometimes three.

I live in a closed Triad meaning we are a closed family and we never step out to see others. Finding the right one was no easy task and it took over a year to find the right fit. That is a different blog.

If the poly family is happy with their situation then so be it we are no one to judge.

Dominants are more likely to share their partner than a Master will , most Master are very possessive when it comes to their property.

To be in full control you need to be face to face very few LDR relationships work long term. If you have no plans on either one making that move you are just wasting your time.

Training is never really over , there is daily maintenance ,  communication , and keeping everything in check. I have said this a hundred times the Master has to be consistent and consistent on a daily basis.

My experience most Poly Doms are actually Tops, Dominant in the bedroom and once out just vanilla in a lot of ways, this does not apply to everyone but from my experience this seems to be true..

I like to be in control and full control of my home and surroundings , I want to know what is going on, because I can only make the right decision based on the information giving to me.

You may be happy living in a poly relationship however most do not live together, in fact looking on Fetlife …

We all have to be who we are to be happy in life , we all have to be who we are so we may move forward in life.

BDSM is the only lifestyle where everyone is wrong no one is right. People are quick to judge but their life is falling apart , or kinda like going to church and when you leave everyone is talking about everyone else..

However I would think there would come a time when a submissive or a Dom would like to settle down..

I Love Bondage

Posted in bdsm, Bondage, Slave with tags , on December 14, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

Arianna waiting for me to finish dinner.

TPE Total Power Exchange

Posted in Uncategorized on December 5, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

Many do not understand a total power exchange relationship

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From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
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n BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual (the submissive) gives to another (the dominant) ultimate authority over them. It is a form of dominance and submission. The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship is structured in terms of slavery, because of the association of the term with ownership of the slave and the rights of a master to their body, as property or chattel. The dominant is often called Master if male, or Mistress if female.

The owner/slave relationship is entered into on a consensual basis, without the legal force of historical or modern non-consensual slavery, which is forbidden by the laws of most countries.

Slave training is a BDSM activity usually involving a consensual power exchange between two people taking on the…

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Training On Different Levels

Posted in Uncategorized on December 5, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

We all have our own plan when it comes to training

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I was just reading a Blog By Master P.

https://dominationsubmission.wordpress.com/2013/07/16/bdsm-training-methodology-and-techniques/

The topic was BDSM Training-Methodology and Techniques
Before you start ranting I am not totally disagreeing with him but I find to have a different opinion one a few topics.
thekinkyworldofvile.wordpress.com is based one a Master , Slave relationship, it is based on a owner property relationship , it is based on a TPE relationship , Total Power Exchange. If you put these all together I control everything and while I do listen I have the final say.
Again I agree with Most of what Master P is talking about but we are talking about two different relationships. Dominant , submissive , Master And Slave and there by definition is a clear difference.
Behavior modification is changing ones way of thinking, in a good scenario this can be done willingly or forced that would be totally breaking someones will.
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Every Dominant Trains Different

Posted in Uncategorized on December 5, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

I believe this is so true

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There is not one Dominant out there who is the same. We all come from different parts of the world , we were all raised different, we all have different back grounds , and our way of thinking is different.

It was not long ago most Dominant in the community were very close , but over the years thing have changed , we have grown apart the trust is no longer there and it seems everyone is out for their selves.

I am wrong you are wrong , I don’t know what I am doing you don’t know what your doing. If you want your relationship to survive you need to read this book , that book. Wow.

Just like my blog is my opinion so is what you read. What you read is what has worked for someone else , but it does not mean it will work for…

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You Both Should Adapt

Posted in Uncategorized on December 5, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

It takes two

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Let the negotiations begin. Every relationship be it Vanilla , D’s ms’ Baby girl has negotiations. This is the time you spend getting to know each other, feeling each other out , likes and dislikes. favorite foods , movies , music , hobbies is any , work habits good and bad.

In a D’s or M’s it is just slightly different because the relationship is more in depth, there is much more involved in the relationship. Now we have safe words , now we limits. Now we have rules , protocols , some Dominants are strict while others are not.

How are you going to be used in a D’s or M’s relationship, maybe in service , maybe just for sex , there are several different factors you need to look at.

I have stressed many times before it is very important to become friends first before you speak about…

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