This is where you write your own book. Your 30 days of submission. This should be giving a great deal of thought before you even enter your relationship.
How do you see yourself as a submissive? How do you see yourself living as a submissive ? How deep do you want to submit ? Do you just want to submit in the bedroom only ? Do you want to submit outside of the bedroom ? Do you want 24/7 submission ?
If is up to you for the most part keeping yourself in that submissive mode. What rituals would you like to implement on a daily basis, rules for yourself to keep you in check. What protocols do you want to put into place ?
Remember once you enter a relationship and you have a plan, you this submissive will have to adapt to the Dominants way, his surroundings, his needs and wants. You are there to follow.
At times you do not feel submissive and staying in that frame of mind is not always an easy task, so putting a game plan into action can make all the difference in the world. You in a way can put your life as you see it into place.
Once you enter a relationship or lets say your in the process of entering a relationship you should go over everything with your potential Dominant. How you see yourself in a relationship, and what it is you want out of the relationship. Remember everything you do effects not only your Dominant but you as well. You have to get just as much out of the relationship as your new Dominant.
Most how ever do not think about the 30 days of submission until they have already entered the relationship. Sometimes that works but for the most it does not and if it does it turns out to be a one way street, and this is not fair to you the submissive. If you just give and give and get nothing in return, what do you really gain?
Your 30 days of submission should never have to stop at just 30 days. You go 30 , 60 , 90 , 120. It is a never ending story, it is your story, it is your life.
If you choose to only submit in the bedroom, why would you try to connect with someone who wants a 24/7 ? If you want a 24/7 why would you try to connect to someone who only wants the bedroom.
This is where your 30 days of submission begins. You have a clear plan and you stick to that plan. Share your thoughts, and get answers for everything.
The world of submission and Dominance can be a very beautiful thing. The ability to be as open as you want, the open communication like you have never had before. The Bond you have never felt. Yes all of this is in your hands. You control the level of submission.
No one can tell you that you are submissive, more so do not let anyone twist your thoughts around telling you that your more of a submissive. Maybe your told you are a slave, when in fact your not , but you will go along with what ever because you feel this is the right Dominant. Never allow yourself to be pushed into a corner, and if you are speak your mind.
This is probably one of the most important things you need to learn. If you are asked a DIRECT question you need to give a DIRECT answer. You need to give a truthful answer, you need to share your feelings. If you are not allowed to speak your mind, or share your thoughts and feelings, then you have the wrong Dominant.
Maybe instead of 30 days of Submission, you should think about doing 30 days of Interviewing , while your sharing your 30 days of submission. Because until you commit to such a relationship you are the one who says yes I can or no I cannot. It does not matter what is said prior to entering a relationship. You should be able to speak your mind.
Another good thing to do is write, not on a daily basis, or hourly but when you feel like it. This book should be yours and only yours. This is your private get away place, your own little world.
The book would be called The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly . Picture a piece of paper with three lines going down. one is the good, one is the Bad, and last the Ugly. This will help you see things more clearly, and it just may help you understand your own little world. If your filling up the two last then something is wrong, and then and only then should you start to question yourself. Then and only then should you share your concerns. After all you are submissive, you are not a Slave.
The difference between the two is a huge difference. You as the submissive has the right to speak up when things are not going as planned. You have the right to say hey wait a minute we did not agree to this. You do have that right, just as you have the right to open and honest communication.
You the submissive before entering a relationship should already have a list of rules in your mind that you would like to follow. What is going to help you thrive? What rules are going to benefit you you as a submissive ? What rules are going to help you in daily life ? Share these ideas with your new Dominant.
Protocols , when that word comes up most people just shrug their shoulders. Why do I need protocols ? Protocols are stupid. Well Protocols help keep you in that mindset , they help with your submission. Depending on the protocols you have depends on your state of submission. These are some of the things that should be in your plan when meeting someone new.
Listen to me , because when you first meet someone and you already have your plan in place. The new Dominant will know you are not a push over. He will know you know what your talking about, and your not going to be an easy target.
When asking questions make direct contact with his eyes, and make sure you get direct contact with yours. If his eyes are drifting or looking around, that is not a good sign.
Now most will say before you meet, there will be no eye contact, you will address me as Sir. Wear a skirt with no panties, high heels. Again this is not the case because you do not know if this Dominant is for you. Addressing someone as Sir is earned, it is not giving.
The Good, The Bad , and The Ugly your own book, write it and stick to it. Do not I repeat do not use an eraser. Once you have your thoughts and ideas down stick to it.
I can assure you if you stick to your plan things will work out to your advantage. It may not work out in the time line you want, but it will work. Having a plan before hand will make a huge difference. White writing your book before entering a relationship you can make changes, because as you are writing you will grow inside, you will grow daily, weekly and monthly. It is okay to make changes, but before entering a relationship have your book finished. Most of all make sure your new partner is willing to follow your ideas as well as you follow his. The two of you need to work together.
I am not speaking about a Slave although a Slave should have a game plan as well in the type of Master they are seeking, but a Slave is looking for total submission. A Slave wants a master to take full control, so please do not confuse the two.
If you think for a minute you may be a Slave you need to do some hard soul searching because once you cross that line it is real hard to walk backwards.