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Am I Really Just Fucked Up ?

Posted in 24/7, A Masters Creed, Acceptance, adapting, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Relationships, commitment, communication, compatibility, Consistency, relationships, Slave, Submissive, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , on December 12, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I was reading a Blog Post on

https://darkgemdom.wordpress.com/2015/11/30/what-is-wrong-with-me/

A lot of what I read reminded me of my past , I knew what I was but had no clue who I was, or how to organize myself.

It was not until my mid twenty’s I started to think something was wrong with me. Maybe deep inside I was somewhat psychotic , maybe demented, not knowing the word that related to me was Sadist.

I saw my first shrink I think I was 22 years old a military shrink but I found it hard to open up because this so called Doctor was in no way interested in what I had to say, nor did he really have any valuable input on where my feelings were coming from or why I thought the way I did.

I was or am a huge fan of tight bondage , extreme bondage, but here recently work has kelp me at bay.

When dating in my twenty’s I knew it would be one date or 3 max, the max is when I would cut ties, because I was finished using. The hunt was complete , then the attack, and the conquer , Bam I was done total victory..  There was no place else to go, each date each slave or a slave in my eyes was a different experiment an object or property as long as I wanted to keep her around, although most ditched me on their own free wheel. Many right after our play time, some not even fully dressed while heading out the door.

Their humiliation was my pleasure, their pain was my pleasure, breaking their will down, was my pleasure, and crying was the greatest gift.

When tying someone I knew I was not there until I heard that grunt, only a grunt because she was gagged. I never pulled on the rope , I yanked pulling gave no grunt, pulling never gave me the fear in the eyes.

As darkgemdom stated the snot and the saliva running down her face  dripping onto the floor , I received great pleasure.

I saw nothing wrong with putting someone on their knees , tying their hands behind their back, and face fucking until she puked , crying trying to get away, fucking her face until I shot my load down her throat.

Humiliation was my goal , it was not something I planned because each was different, each acted a different way.

Tied up in a little ball on the bed with the ass and pussy just hanging over a little so both holes were exposed, both holes being available, and most times I did not require lube for ass fucking, again their pain my pleasure.

It was not about blow Jobs , it was not about the pussy or ass , it was about the control , the humiliation , sitting back and looking at a submissive who looked so helpless. Using as I saw fit , degrading , and then tossing to the side.

Today I am much different because I want more , much more. I needed that stability , the security , and the knowing and the control.

If things are explained in detail and the sub or slave knows what is expected and allowed to speak , the flow goes much smoother.

Today I stand Arianna has been punished one time and one time only. This is due to our communication….

So what I found out I was not fucked up , I was in the learning stage, I was gaining experience, I was learning how to fill the role I wanted to fill..

Vile

 

 

Part-time Doms don’t get Full-time submission.

Posted in 128 Basic rules, 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, A Masters Creed, abuse, anxiety, Arianna, Bad Dominant, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Abuse, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Slave, BDSM Structure, BDSM TPE Relationships, Christian Grey, communication, control, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fake Dominants, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Part Time Dominant, Part Time Submission, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, viledesires62@aol.com on November 8, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Sometimes I come across something that catches my eye, and what I am going to share turned up on my friends list on Fetlife.  I found the Writing of Master James to be right on.

While my way is not the only way I have touched on many things that most disagree with, when I use the word protocols people laugh, when I use the word consistency most laughed, when I use the word rules most laugh , and that is all good until the relationship fails.

You wake up one morning and now your Christian Fucking Grey like him not having a clue and your super Dom, or King Master you want the title you want to be adored and worshiped but you do not want the responsibility , not really caring what effects your having on someones feelings or emotions, or the lasting effects.

The part time Dom has a on and off switch , but I can promise you the Submissive does not have such a switch. So while you the Dominant are making your demands after a long absents your submissive is faking it just to please you which does not equal submission.

I have also talked about rules having a few in place, you can cause a overload if you pile on the almighty 128 Rules most follow when they have no clue.

I have also talked about how being a Dominant is not a 9 to 5 gig , it is a 24/7 365 gig.  You the part time submissive sitting at home at night watching TV or reading a book while picking up your phone to see if you have received a email or a text , and this can go on for days, weeks and even a month or so.

So looking over my friends feed on Fetlife this title caught my eye and I clicked and started reading. I emailed Master James to see if I could re-post here on my blog and he was more than happy to let me share….

Part-time Doms don’t get Full-time submission.

Other controversies aside, what first garnered my modicum of notoriety on this site, was not my social commentary, my love of suits, my satirical humor, my rope, my photos, or my ideological battles with socialist reform zealots……

No, it was D/s. The fact that I audaciously identified as a Master, maintained multiple 24/7 D/s relationships, led a House, and focused my energy on boring stuff like protocol, rather than the fun stuff that looks great in photos and videos.

To this very day, this remains the staple diet of my inbox. Messages flow in, asking a mundane 34 year old stranger from the other side of the planet how to fix the problems in their D/s relationship.

Well, over the years, one issue continues to be a prevalently central element to the problems people face. And after a raft of recent messages from Doms where this issue became apparent. I decided it was time to address it specifically:

It’s the issue of perception. The perception of what a 24/7 D/s relationship is and what it takes. Or alternately, the issue of misconceptions as to what a 24/7 D/s relationship takes.

The majority of messages I get from Doms, start by highlighting issues in their dynamic. And then asking me for tips on training to fix it, and/or protocols to strengthen it. Whist completely missing the root of the problem.

So here’s my Uber-Dom pro tip……..
The secret to the root of 98% of problems in your D/s dynamic, that are caused by you, and stand in the way of you a achieving a functional 24/7 dynamic…..Are you ready for this?

Consistency!

That’s right folks. Consistency and the dedication required to sustain it.

You can research, read blogs, order books off Amazon, go to countless workshops, and write up the most intricate rules, protocols, and punishments. But all the best ‘how-to’ guides and training programs in the world won’t work, if you don’t have the commitment, the dedication, and most of all; the consistency to see them through.

And this is where 99% of D/s relationships fall apart.

Being on the D side of the slash in a 24/7 power exchange dynamic isn’t a part time job, a hobby, a passing interest, or a play thing…. It’s full time. And I don’t mean full-time in the sense of a full-time job. Those in which you do your 8 hours and you knock off and go home.
When we say 24/7, we actually mean 24/7. It isn’t just a catchy title. There are no knock-off times, overtime pay, weekends, sick days, public holidays, or annual leave.

You can’t expect to be a Dom when it’s convenient for you, and expect her to be a Sub when it’s convenient for you., and call it 24/7…. You will inevitable have different ideas of what and when constitutes convenient. You can’t expect to be able to only enforce your rules occasionally, but expect them to be followed all the time. Humans just don’t work that way bro.

You’re setting you both up for failure. But only one of you ends up getting the cane. And you get surprised that she resents you rather than thanks you???

The first step, is figuring out if you want to do this as described. Because any less and you’re not setting yourself up for success.

The second step, is only implementing rules or protocols you yourself are both willing and able to enforce ‘consistently’. When you pick these rules, make sure they are functional. And remember this golden rule: “Never set a rule, or give an order, that you aren’t 100% sure will be obeyed!” Otherwise, once again, you are not setting yourselves up for success.

With this in mind, it behoves you to start off keeping rules simple and minimal.

The third step, is to be her Dom. And you need to be that guy every minute of every day. When you go to sleep at night, when you wake up in the morning. When work is stressing you out and you just couldn’t be bothered. Even when she’s on shark week and she can’t stand you.

My final advice is, that if this isn’t for you. Then that’s cool. Enjoy having a part-time, fun, play based, D/s dynamic. They are great, and they are super fun. They have clearly defined start and stop times to signal when the game is in play. And they have the relevant rules that only apply whilst all parties are on the field of play.

These types of D/s dynamics are great for busy people in casual and short term relationships. They can also be positive, functional, and sustainable and can provide a strengthening element of escape, release, and connection in wonderful long term relationships.

But make your choice and stick to it. Nothing destroys an otherwise good relationship quite the way a half assed attempt at 24/7 power exchange does.

Because anyone looking to have someone approach life as full-time submissive. While they themselves are only going to rock up as a Dom on a part time-basis; can’t be surprised when the sub quits (or in my case ‘unionise’ and seek collective bargaining power).

If you want a full-time sub, then start by being a full-time Dom.

https://fetlife.com/users/1751801/posts/2818790

Thank you Master James for allowing me to share

The Master’s Creed


Author Unknown

I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or mass of my body. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women. Yet to you, I am Master.

I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor.

You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts.

We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We compliment each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.

You are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your words with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you.

What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural and the rarest gift a woman could give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body and soul, your heart and mind. I dominate you only because you have allowed it. I dominate only because you have allowed me to and when I see your body kneel before me, in my mind and heart you are raised above all other woman, and all the treasures of the earth. What you give freely can not in reality be bought.

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Vile

What Is A Master And Their Role In The M’s Lifestyle

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, A Masters Creed, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, Bdsm friends, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, Daddy Doms, Dominance, Dominant, Master And Slave, slave, Submission, submissive on April 3, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have argued this topic with other Dominants for many years , and no matter who you speak with 99 % of the time the answer will be different , we all have our own opinions.

So the question is who is right and who is wrong ? In most cases no one is wrong, in most cases everyone is right , because that is the dynamics of their relationship.

I tried not long ago to explain to an up coming Dominant and Master he does own. I tried to explain if your new and coming into the local community we have steps that have to be taken. We have standards and protocols that have to be followed. Now no matter where you live, what state , city , county , or country , there will a a Dominant who stands out in the community your in, someone who is respected. He is not a leader per say but someone who has a voice , someone who is heard.

We are to quick to judge someone , we are to quick to call someone a fake , because they do not follow your steps or my steps. What we fail to see is how their relationship is working, and even then it is not even any of our Business.

Many years ago I was asked to speak at a local munch, and the topic was Training. While speaking another Master started asking questions about a previous relationship I had been in which was short lived. This was completely off topic , but I listened and once he was finished , I simply told him if he had any questions about someone he should come to the horse and get the answers instead of listening to a Jackass. The debate got pretty heated and soon our voices began to rise , and we left on very bad terms…

Several years go by , Arianna and I are together and I receive am email. Master Vile I would like to invite you to our Munch to speak. What ? Are you kidding me ? This has to be spam , I know it is because this Master would never think of sending me an email.
I am talking to Arianna about it, and I am telling her it is a trap, there is something going on, and he wants to pick up where we left off. So Arianna and I load up and off we go.
Once in and the introductions were done we looked at each other shook hands and on my end , I could still feel a little tension, but as the night went on it did get better. Today we are good friends and he also found out that everything that was said was false. I had nothing to prove , so I had no reason to explain myself , to him or the pope for that matter.

I posted the question on Fetlife. What is the Difference between a Dominant and a Master , or you can through Daddy in the loop as well. Times have change over the past ten years, and I can remember going to my first Munch , and even going back more my first Black Rose meeting . Dominants sat with respect , and honor , they were not as quick to pass judgement on others, and many were willing to step up and help when needed.

Today much of the Munch’s and MAsT consist of the nasty word Drama. As Arianna sit and listen we look at each other and just shake our heads at each other.

Fuck this , fuck that , fuck them , who the hell are they to say that? Who the fuck are they to do that ? It just goes on and on , and I sit there listening in total disbelief that people actually live in the manner they are speaking. Drama is a cancer , and it is never ending.

This past week Arianna’s mother and I had a very in depth discussion and I had to put the breaks on a few things. When I was finished her mother Apologized not only to me but Arianna and that is something she had never done in Arianna’s 38 years. Make no mistake I run my home , I am head cheese, I am head honcho , I am the general and emperor, what I say goes. That being said I protect my home and I do what is needed to keep a positive flow going and eliminate any problems or drama before they come to light.

To this day , listen because this is the truth , Arianna and I have yet to have an argument. We have not even come close to having an argument or a disagreement. Now there have been things we have talked about and I do take Arianna’s advice at times. I talk she listens , she talks and I listen, after something thinking most of the time I go with Arianna’s idea , not all the time but it does happen.

A Master is a leader in the community , he offers help and Assistance when needed , he gives advice to those who are seeking it , and is non judgmental.
Today what many fail to see as far as Dominants go , being a Dominant is not a 9 to 5 gig, once a week gig, or once a month gig. You are 24/7 365. Once both have come to an agreement to enter a relationship, the dominant agrees to take on the responsibility. To my knowledge there is not an on and off switch when it comes to submission.

A Master is a leader in his Local community, he takes part in different functions , helps and takes part in teaching his point of views when it comes to the lifestyle. He shares his Knowledge , shows what makes his relationship work. A Master Is non Judgmental and open minded.

I myself am very open minded when it comes to different aspects of the lifestyle and the way people choose to live I make it a point to learn something new everyday, lifestyle related and non related.

A Master enjoys helping others expecting nothing in return ,A Master is in control , and gives 100% communication.

Here is an answer that was giving When I asked a question on fetlife. What the difference is between a Dominant and a Master.

What sets a Master apart for me, is that a Master is someone who is recognized as such for their contributions to community, for workshops, for volunteering, and participation with others. A Master reveals themselves with a strength of presence and natural gravitation to a leadership role, which they exercise through that recognition. This takes confidence, balanced with humor and humility. A Master has unique characteristics, that cause other Dominants to recognize and respect their wisdom and seek their council.

In my time in the lifestyle I have never heard someone explain a Masters role in this depth……

It is not to say that some Dominants do not step up to the plate or Daddy Doms do not step up to the plate because I have met and know a few.

What I do know is if more leaders do not step up to the plate , the art of our lifestyle will die. BDSM and everything it stands for will become a Myth just like the lost city of Atlantis .

creed

Vile

What Is A Good Dominant

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You know while it is not written anywhere Dominants do have what is called a code of Honor.

At one time what set us apart were the strict protocols that were put in place, and there was a time not only did those who were slaves and submissive followed them, but Dominants did as well.

In the lifestyle we were held to higher standards , because well not only was it expected, but we were leaders. Sometime ago it took a very long time for a Dominant to become recognized within the community, it was not a title that was just giving out or a title someone could claim. As a Matter of fact many were not accepted in the local community just because of who they were and what they stood for.
So yes there was a time when protocol’s were indeed protocol’s and they were followed.

Then the internet boom, all of this information was online and available , and just as with anything you read you can take parts of this and parts of that, and come up with your own ideas.

Then somewhere along the line what we believed in and what we stood for began to fade away. Protocols were being lost in the pile of confusion.

While at a local MAsT several months ago this topic came up and as I was speaking about how things use to be another Dominant stepped in.

He stated you had to let others in who did not believe in the same protocols, rules. His thoughts were you had to let everyone in because if you did not you would have no one to lead.
So then we have to bend our rules, we have to set our protocols aside, we have to let others criticize the way we live and what we stand for.
While I do agree to a point everyone should be allowed to come to MAsT meetings, I also believe they should have to adhere to our rules and protocols, if they cannot do that, show them the door.
I would rather lead a 100 strong into battle than a 1000 blind.

Okay where am I going with this you might be asking ?

What I can say is today there are those who are fake who would never think of going to a MAsT or a munch because they know they would be called out. There would be people who are able to see through the fake wall you have built, and for the most you would be ignored.

There are things that do not mix in the lifestyle , whether you are a Dominant or you just gave yourself the title.

There is no place for anger, if you have anger issues you are not a real Dominant.
There is no place for Alcohol during play, if you drink you can hurt someone, and hurt someone bad. I have met very few Dominants over the years who have had a drinking problem. So if you have a drinking problem and you cannot control your alcohol you have no place within the lifestyle.

Last year we were at a party and another Dominant asked me if he could session with Arianna. It took me a minute to digest what he had to said, but what really got me is he had been drinking.
I explained that I did not share my property and if I did I would not because he had been drinking.

Married Dominants or single Dominants who have this idea about going after married women.

If you re married and you have to cheat on your wife because your needs are not being met, then do what a real Dominant would do, Leave. Pack your things up file for divorce and leave. Why wreck someone’s life because your little kinks are not being met.
You knew before you got married, she did not take it up the ass, you knew she did not swallow, you knew she was not submissive. You knew all of this ahead of time. To bring someone into your mess is not fair. To lie or mislead someone is dead wrong. What you have done is wasted that much time of their life.

Find you own woman, your own submissive, there is no shortage, and if you find a married woman who will fuck around on her husband, guess what? She will fuck around on you as well.
Just like the Dominant who fucks around on his wife, he will fuck around on you in time. Please do not think you suck cock that good, or your pussy is any different because it is not.

I do not like women who are weak, I am not a rescuer , I do not roll like that. I like the challenge , I love the hunt, then you move in for the kill.
I wanted the best, I wanted the woman who would not normally give me the time of day.
One thing that is for sure I never wanted another mans problems.
If you have the need to wreck someone’s home no matter how bad it is, and believe me if it was that bad they would already be gone.
You my friend are no Dominant, you are not now and you never will be.

A Dominant is a leader, a Dominant is someone who is in full control of their life. This is just no my opinion either. A Dominant accepts responsibility but more important admits when he is wrong. A real Dominant would never step between someone and their family.

I don’t want your wife, who is already fucked up in the head with her own problems. I don’t want your girlfriend, if the pussy is that easy to get, why would I want it?

I got game, I do for those of you who have been lucky enough to see Arianna, I got game.
I had to be able to back up my words, if I was going to play the game, I had to know the rules. I had to walk the walk and talk the talk. I got game
I would never stoop so low as to try and take another mans wife, more so if children are involved. They did not ask to be brought into your fucked up world, how fucking pathetic is that.

I can talk shit because I am living the dream. I have what you fake Dominant only dream about.
Yes I have what you never will.

While this blog or post is not about anyone in particular, I am sure many can relate to my words.

If your a Dominant then be one.

master

As Always

Vile

Is Your Dominant In Control

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, A Masters Creed, abuse, anger, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, control, controlling, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants who suffer from depression, emotional, slave, submissive on May 19, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This is something I have seen over the years, those who want to control and the kink, but they want no part of the responsibility.  When you enter a relationship in a D’s or M’s setting it does not take to long for the true colors to start showing.

Slave S and Master Mark came to visit one day, one of the few times I have invited someone over to my house. Arianna was the host and a fine host she was. If you come to visit you do not have to lift a finger. As Master mark was sitting there making little comment about his slave not doing anything, I just sat there wondering what type of protocols he had. Well at least someone is filling my drinks, or at least someone is giving me seconds. It was not slave S’s place to do anything.

The way Master M treated her was really humiliating. Then it came out, Master M had a temper a really bad temper. Screaming and yelling, calling her names. Then while she was in the hospital, he was out looking for another slave so they could have a threesome once she was out. Then once home she tried to explain she was not feeling well she needed to wait a while before she would be able to do anything. Then she was worthless, his words. So they are no longer together, she has moved on and is now living with another Master whom I have known for several years.

If your Dominant has anger issues, you need to rethink your relationship. If you are fighting and arguing you need to rethink your relationship. If you are in a D’s or M’s relationship and your dom or master suffers from depression you need to rethink your relationship.

I cannot believe it has been over two years with Arianna. To truly understand the dynamics of our relationship you would have to be here. To see what a true slave is you would have to be here.Arianna is the most compliant slave I have ever met, and no she is not a doormat. I let her speak her mind, she knows she can come to me and talk about anything, even if she disagrees with something, I always let her speak freely. I can tell you this, we have never had a argument, nor have I ever raised my voice to her. I have never put her down. I believe is positive reinforcement and nothing but. I do run a very strict home and there are very few who could step in and be able to adjust to the protocols and structure I have in place.

As Dominants we are in full control of our life. If we are not able to remain in control, how are we suppose to control someone else. How can we expect someone to hand over control. I am not going to sit here and say I do not get upset or mad because I do, but Arianna has never seen that side of me, and she never will.

If your Dominant is riddled with problems, or drama, you need to rethink your relationship. It took me a very long time to learn to keep everything in order, but today we live a very stress free life, no problems, no stress, and zero drama. I do not allow such things to interfere with what we have. I handle problems before they become problems, no problems equals no stress. I handle everything in my house and our life. I insure everything gets done. I do not allow drama to come into our home.

If you think about it there is really no reason to fight, there is no reason to yell or call someone names. There is really no reason to get physical. A woman should never be hit out of anger,NEVER.

While every Dominant or Master is different we all have one thing in common we are in control. Those with anger issues are controlling, that is where your abuse begins, first comes verbal, screaming, yelling, once that starts it does not take to long before it gets physical, because the anger will only grow.

We have a great responsibility to take care of our own, and nothing else should matter or come between what the two of you have built.

Anger has no place in a D’s or M’s relationship…….

Masters Creed

Above all else He cherishes His slave, in the knowledge that the gift she gives Him is the greatest gift of all.

He is strict and takes full advantage of the power given to Him, but knows to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that He may control others. As a stern and demanding Master, He can cause His slave real tears.

As the consummate lover, He will kiss the tears away without stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Master is a supportive partner and friend, never forgetting that this is a loving relationship between two caring individuals.

He is quick to understanding the difference between fantasy and reality.

He would never ask His slave to put Him before her career or family just to satisfy His own pleasure.

To win His slaves mind, body, soul and love. He must first earn her trust. He will show His slave humor, kindness and warmth.

He must always show her that His guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable deserving of her attention, that this is a man she can learn from and trust in His discretion.

He is romantic enough to be protective and gallant. When called upon, He will fight for His lady’s honor. He proves to her that He is someone that she can lean on and depend on.

When it comes time to teach His slave her lessons in obedience, He is a strong and unyielding professor. He will except no flaw, nothing less then perfection from His student.

Never does he use discipline without a good reason . When He does, its always with a careful and knowledgeable hand.

He is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. He is patient, taking time to learn her limits and knowing that as the trust for Him grows, so will they.

He never has to demand ritual behavior. She responds to Him out of want to please Him. Compliance from wanting to please, not the fear of punishment.

He understands the fragile nature of her mind, body and soul and never violates that trust given to Him.

He is secure enough to laugh at Himself and the absurdities of life. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow.

His tools are mind, body, soul, spirit and love. He understands that each partner gains from pleasuring the other. And both of them know that love and trust are the only bindings that truly hold.

Vile

It Is Our Responsibility

Posted in 24/7, A Masters Creed, abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, blow job, Bondage, Collar, Collars, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, Discipline, Dominants, Emotions, It Is Our Responsibility, kinky, Love, Master, molding your slave, Patience, Respect, Rules, serve, session, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on December 4, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

The Slave is going to lay on her back , the Slave is going to suck your cock , the Slave is going to do most if not all of the cleaning, cooking, laundry.

You the Dominant are going to spend hours upon hours playing do what you like most and maybe touching on something the Slave enjoys but for the most it is about us.

We change their whole life , the way they talk, sometimes the way they walk, we impose rules that we would never follow ourselves. We give out protocols that must be followed. In some cases we choose their friends, Although Arianna has friends in the lifestyle I pick and choose. Although the last couple of friends have been a bad choice on my part I do make mistakes.

In the lifestyle our world of BDSM I have never met so many fake people in my life, male and female. I have never met so many bullshitters in my life, and what is really funny is when I know they are bullshitting and I just go along with it.

The thing is it is much easier to just be who and what you are, and you know what ? No matter how bad you are there is someone for you.

We as Dominant have very high expectations , I myself have very high standards , but sometimes you can set your standards so high your quest for a partner is just not obtainable. Then at times you lower your standards so low knowing it will not work, and you know this already but it is mainly for the companionship. The only time this is wrong is when you just use someone until something better comes along.  I myself have a conscious and feelings when it comes to just using someone for my personal use. I am not saying I have never settled for less because I have and yes knowing it was not going to work, but we are human we need than interaction. When it was my time to go I just left, it was not until I found someone better.

There is a creed we are suppose to live by, we are looked up to not only for comfort , not only for guidance , not only for love, not only for structure , not only for companionship , not only for communication , not only for the rules , not only for the kink. We are suppose to be their for ours 24/7 no questions asked.

A Slave does not ask for much , most Slaves are content with just being loved and cared for. Our creed we live up to our responsibility’s . We have to show we are who we say we are. We as Dominants have much more to prove , than the Slave does.

A Collar is earned, a Collar is just not giving just for the sake of owning someone. Then if that is the case it really has no meaning. You set out your plan your training. Tell what you expect and what it is going to take to earn a collar. Set goals and make sure they are followed through with. Once you decide to collar your Slave if she excepts it that is. Explain why you want to collar her, explain the meaning of the collar, explain your meaning of a collar, but most important explain what it takes to keep it.

We have a Responsibility to keep our word, to be who we told them we were.  to guide and protect. We teach what we have learned. We set our Slave up to excel not to fail. We listen and support their ideas, we listen and we communicate. Most of all we put ours first no matter what.

If every man, would just man up and be truthful he could have so much. It is the Slave who makes the Master, but it is a good Slave who makes a good Master, a Slave wants to see her Master excel as well and if the two work together the road never ends.

A Masters Creed – Author Unknown

As it is often important and often even necessary for one human being to have certainty and a clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations, and needs of another, I offer this testimony in trust and sincerity.

I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel more intelligent or wiser.

I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body.

I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.

Yet, to you I am Master.

I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind, and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor. You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt.

Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We complement each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.

You are sure, strong, and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your word with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you. What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.

I recognize it is your body, mind, and soul. I dominate you only because you have allowed me to, and when I see your body kneel before me in my mind and heart, you are raised above all other women and all the treasures of the earth.

Within the bounds of our relationship…it is my duty to protect you, and that you will know, that under my care; NO harm will come to you as a result of actions taken by Me..or you. That is my responsibility, to protect you..from yourself if necessary. What you give freely cannot in reality be bought.

We as Dominants should have to live by this without question.

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Living As A Slave II

Posted in 24/7, A Masters Creed, Acceptance, Advice, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, Master, molding your slave, Punishment, Rules, slave, submissive, Train your slave, training your slave on November 20, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Your heart has to be in the right place, you have to have the need to serve, the need to give up total control. You have to be willing to go through what I call a reconditioning phase or kinda like installing a new windows in your computer.

In my eyes training is never over. I do have rules but probably way less than what most Doms put in place. My rules are meant to structure a slave.

The reconditioning can take a month three months or even longer this is what I spoke about yesterday. Limiting the area in the home where the slave is allowed. The food they eat, the way they dress, walk and talk, even to the point of a complete name change. Meaning what people in the lifestyle would call your slave. That is something I am still working on as well, although I gave my slave a name I have not really enforced it as of yet.

To keep the slave in that submissive mode, speaking in thirds is a good idea, this is not an easy task and can take sometime to get accustomed to. Example , THIS GIRL , THIS SLAVE , THIS BITCH . The key to this again is staying consistent.

I myself during this time leave all Bondage play out of the picture, this is our time of getting to know each other. This is the time I want to be observed, you learn much more from watching. Arianna had asked me if training was hard, and I explained that 90% of the training was just watching me and taking it in.

Every Master trains different, so to say that Master J is wrong or Master B is wrong is not really politically correct. There are books out there but these are just opinions, some of the books are good while others are not so good. So really no one can say well Master J does not know what he is doing. I may not agree with everything Master J is doing but that is his relationship.

You want the Slave to be accountable for their time , their actions. I started early with Arianna, she makes a list, well this am she did not, time kinda got lost before she left for work. Every morning before work she has a note book she writes time and mileage once at her destination the same , this is part of the conditioning. You want the Slave to be able to account for every minute of their time when you are not home.

Keeping your Slave nude while at home, no clothes allowed, well unless it turns cold. The Master Dressed the Slave Nude at all time even while eating dinner. You sit at the table and have your Slave sit on the floor next to you. One thing I do is my Slave is not allowed to start eating until I have taking the first bite.

You cannot surrender until you give up full control. You the Slave should repeat this in your head as often as you can. Being in the right hands, is very important, long term. If you know you are about to enter a short relationship keep a wall up, you should not give yourself totally and I will explain.

At a local Mast Meeting MASTER AND SLAVES TOGETHER the question came up about a slave moving out , packing up and leaving, starting over. I myself find this to be a difficult task if you have been in a long term relationship. You have gone from being fully dependent to being in full control. This would be kinda like a culture shock, and the effects mentally could be harming.

When you the Slave notices a problem it is very important to have open communication, you need to be able to speak to your Owner/Master about anything. You need to be able to communicate your concerns. You need to inform your Master of your thoughts. Every day I make it a point to ask Arianna what is on her mind. She knows this is the time she can speak freely , she knows she can speak to me about anything.

You the Dominant while in the training phase should stay in control at all times. Speak in the same tone of voice, do not lose your temper when something goes wrong. You will get your point across much better by sitting your Slave down and speaking in a normal tone of voice. Remember the Slave at this point is observing you, the Slave is taking in everything, the way you speak public and private. The way your carry yourself public and private, and how you handle situations when a mistake is made. Remember you are still in the training mode the Slave can walk away at anytime.

Slaves are going to make mistakes, the first six months is almost like walking on egg shells. You as the Dominant should remain call and in control at all times. There is no reason to argue or raise your voice.

The training has to be consistent on a daily basis. Before you can begin training though you have to know who and what your dealing with. If you had a slave in a prior relationship, the same training may not work, or be beneficial to your Slave.

At this point in the relationship a Collar should not even be mentioned. One may be purchased and placed somewhere as a reminder, but during training offering a Collar is way to soon. Six months to a year would be okay. Would you marry someone the first night you met them, the first week, month I would think not. The Collar is a commitment , and it should be treated as such.

Your training plan should consist of daily task, communication. Time should be set aside on a daily basis to talk, and talk about anything and everything. You as the Dominant should want to know what is going through the slaves mind. You may need to change up somethings , you do not want the slave to become overwhelmed. If your Slave has questions or concerns she should be able to speak openly. If you the Dominant does not allow this, or you judge her this will make her close up and when something is truly bothering her she will be afraid to come to you.

Speaking how do you want your slave to speak, be it public or private. How do you want your Slave to dress, public, again while at home the Slave should be nude weather permitting. As I stated before you want to limit the space where the slave is permitted, it was almost a year before Arianna was allowed on the furniture.

I am very big on protocols, most today in the lifestyle are not. I set protocols public and private. Protocols build structure.

It is also very important to let the Slave continue to see family. I have known Doms in the past who have cut off everything, family and friends. Lets face it we all need a break. A Slave needs their time to unwind , let their mind breath a little, relax. I also believe it is very important to take the Slave to local functions, such as Munch’s. This gives the Slave an opportunity to meat others in the lifestyle.

After about ninety days or so you will start to see changes in your Slave. The changes you like you keep, the changes you do not like you alter.

Remember this is your training program. Always have a plan set in place, and stick to that plan. You do not have to give any details about your training plans, but keep the communication open.

Use your Slave often , yes I am speaking about sex. I think you should for sometime just use for your pleasure.  it does give a slave a very humble feeling. With me it was and is a control thing. Only I have the say when she can cum or play.

As for the Dominant be careful what you ask for, especially if you are not that experienced , because how you train is going to be what you have for a very long time.

Once everything has been implemented things will just flow, all that is left is the Dominant staying consistent , keeping his word. AN M’s relationship can be very rewarding and long lasting.

I know I have been pretty vague here , but I just wanted to touch on somethings.

Every Slave is Different, every Slave has different needs, and kinks. If you are not into her kinks, you will either have to just say well we are not a fit, or you do just to please. Every Slave has goals we are suppose to support them, and help grow.  We are suppose to guide, give advice and tackle any obstacle that is put in front of us. We are suppose to be there through not only the good but the bad.

We do have a Creed we are suppose to live by.

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