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BDSM And My Structure

Posted in 24/7, An Owned Slave, Argue, Arianna, Bad Reltionships, bdsm, BDSM and Goals, BDSM Munch, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Slave training, BDSM Structure, BDSM TPE Relationships, Building a BDSM Relationshp, commitment, communication, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, Daddy Doms, Dominants Protocol, etiquette, http://www.peter-masters.com/wiki/index.php/Structure, MAST, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Masters And Slaves Together, Private Protocol, slave, Submission, submissive, Total Power Exchange, Total Submission, TPE, Training Arianna, training your slave on June 6, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Structure no matter the lifestyle is needed , be it vanilla , Daddy Dom , Baby girl , Dominant and submissive , or Master and Slave , and last Domestic Discipline. Structure insures the home is ran smoothly and consistent. Structure insures the family or Master and Slave are on the same page.
Along with Structure comes come rules. Rules are needed to provide structure.
Even when the slave is out rules are followed and they are meant to give the slave a sense of direction. Rules are meant to provide a sense of direction under any circumstances.
A Slave or submissive is a direct reflection of their Dominant or Master. The Training is a direct reflection of the Dominant or Master and while out at a local event be it a Munch or a MAsT meeting or anything that is BDSM related the way your property acts comes back on the Dominant or Master.
While nothing may be said there is talk.

I will give a little insight , while at a recent munch I allowed Arianna to be open to speak as she wanted to. Sitting at a table with a few friends Arianna was laughing and joking having a good time.
As the munch ended everyone opted to go to a nearby Restaurant , we were all seated together and Arianna was laughing and making jokes.

The next day my email on fetlife was flooded with comments on how different Arianna acted the previous night. Everyone enjoyed hearing her crack jokes, and laughing. I explained to another Dominant it was protocols I had in place and that night she was allowed to be open.

If you take a look at http://www.peter-masters.com/wiki/index.php/Structure

He speaks of standing orders , standing orders are a part of structure and protocols. Standing orders are as follows. Arianna brings me dinner after sitting my plate down she thanks me for allowing her to serve me, she then ask permission to sit. She will not begin to eat until I have taking my first bite. She will ask permission to go to the bathroom , shower , even shave.
When going out I choose her clothes, her nail polish and even how her hair will be done. With the above I am providing structure.

Everything we do is planned , I plan things out one week , two weeks and at times three weeks. We could be going to a Munch or MAsT meeting , out to a park , like last weekend we spent the day at Fort Desoto over near Tampa. I very seldom do anything spontaneous but at times I may have something I want to do and we do it.

Arianna’s mother may call and ask for our help , I will tell Arianna what days we are available and the hours we are available, and that goes with anyone who may ask for help.

Arianna arrives home and the first thing she does is strip , no clothes are allowed while home. She may however request to put on what we call slave dresses. These are very long dresses that touches the ground and have very lite and thin material. The stripping is a protocol.

Now your thinking wow Vile that is to much work , or your way to strict , or your to controlling, or you may be thinking I could never live that way.
The truth is all of the above is obtainable and is really fairly easy , once you the Dominant or Master puts everything in place.

All of the above should be worked out before entering the relationship. What structure will be in place , what protocols will be in place, and depending on how well you know the sub or slave what rules you will be putting in place. What many fail to see is rules are meant to provide structure and a sense of security.

Sending nude pics is not a rule or videos Masturbating , those are in noway meant to help with anything, with the exception of helping with humiliation , because most will send just to please , not because they want to.

Structure must be what ? I have said this a 1000 times , consistent and consistent on a daily basis, if you are not consistent everything you have put in place will not work and the sub or slave will see that you are not in full control. You cannot be a Dominant when you want to be , there is no on and off switch.

Your thinking I could never be that submissive , I could never give up that much control to someone. I am telling you under the right Dominant you could and you would want to give more and more and then spend time trying to figure out how to give even more.

I posed the question to Arianna when we first met how deep do you want to take your submission ? How do you see yourself living on a daily basis as owned property , a slave? Is there anything you need for me to add or put into place that will help you ? Her answer to all of those questions was I do not know.

Two and a half years later Arianna is not giving me input , she is sharing her thoughts and looking for ways to deepen her submission.

I had a Master tell me not long ago man that is just to much work , that is not my thing. My question was how much do you care about your slave ? Are you not willing to invest the time needed to put everything in place? How long do you want your relationship to last ?

You expect the submissive or slave to follow rules why would you expect them not to have expectations ?

Last year Arianna and I went to a local MAsT and the first question posed to me was how do you two argue ? I look at Arianna with a puzzled look , and I am thinking what the fuck is he thinking about? What kind of question is that ?

I look at him and I say we Don’t argue we don’t fight , I have never raised my voice towards Arianna.

How is this possible ? With all of the above, if you implement structure and your consistent , your relationship will flourish and grow with no end in sight.

When I ask people this question no one can give me a straight answer. Why do you argue ?

The above is just my opinion and nothing more. I am not in anyway judging anyone or telling someone how they should be living.
If you think that well to fucking bad.

Some say arguing is good but we all know that is a crock of bullshit , when you argue you say things that hurts ones feelings. Those words are a calm mans thoughts. Bet that. If your fighting and he calls you a stupid bitch he means it. Those are the thoughts he has when he is calm.

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Vile

Vile And Arianna

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, A Slave Is High Maintenance, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, An Owned Slave, Anger Issues, Argue, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Be who you are, Being fucked, being used, Cheaters, cheating, Cheating Dominant, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Discipline, Disrespect, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, Dominant Switch, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, fifty shades of grey, fuck hole, fucking, Married Dominant, Master And Slave, Protocol, punish, Punishment, sex, sex slaves, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive on June 1, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

train62 Someone had made the comment that some did not agree with our relationship. I am going to assume that you do not agree because you do not understand, maybe you do not want to understand, but you still look down on such a relationship. That being said , it just means you do not have a full understanding of BDSM, or maybe your just that closed minded.

There are many things I do not understand, for one I do not understand the male switch, how he can be dominant, then submit to someone else in front of his submissive , or how a Master could submit to someone else in front of his slave, that is one. Two I do not understand how married men go behind their wife and fuck someone else. Three I do not understand how a single female could see a man who is married and not care about wrecking what she has worked so hard to build. Four I do not understand how so many can allow so much drama into their life and complain about it on a daily basis but still live it. Five I do not understand men who abuse women verbally , mentally , and physically maybe its because it makes them feel more like a man…  So there are many things I do not understand, nor am I able to comprehend. One thing I do though is speak my mind. One thing I do is share the truth.

I am not a man who has to hide my relationship, nor do I have the need to search out other women to get gratification , nor do I have to search for women to abuse. I do not need more flavor in my life, nor do I have to live behind a lie, sneak around watching behind my back. Having to delete my text messages.

So Arianna had been looking for a Master, not a Dominant or a Daddy but a Master. I myself had been looking for a slave, not a submissive or a Baby Girl. A Slave.

Arianna had met two who claimed to be Masters, one left her bruised for almost three weeks, badly bruised, and went back for seconds hoping things would get better. She saw another Master who abused her both physically and mentally, playing head games, losing his temper yelling at her making threats. That is noway to live and be happy.

We met and we talked and Arianna expressed her needs, not wants. She explained she needed micromanagement , she explained she needed a relationship with no rights, only the rights she was giving, she explained she needed all freedom taken away, she explained she needed to give up full control. Arianna explained she needed rules and protocols to be in place and enforced. She explained she needed structure and trust. Yea it was a pretty deep conversation.

Although I wanted a long term relationship, and I was looking for a slave. I was looking for someone who was very docile, an introvert. Someone who would follow a few rules, a fuck toy, a piece of ass. Someone to use when I wanted to. Then kinda like putting them away in a closet. That is what I was looking for and nothing more.

So it was I who had to decide if I wanted the type of relationship Arianna wanted, it was I who had to decide if I wanted to take on that much responsibility , it was I who had to think if I wanted to be that consistent , enforcing rules, and protocols.  It was I who had to decide if I wanted that much responsibility.

Now unlike many Arianna does have one right, and that is the right to question me if she feels things are not going right. One thing she has the right to is to insure I have her best interest in mind. Many of you are not allowed that type of communication, or your just simply told what ever to appease you at that moment and time. Many are not allowed to question your relationship status, or many of you fear asking afraid of being dumped. Many of you are afraid your Dominant is not going to leave his wife. Many of you are told his wife does not care what he does, but you are only hearing one side of the story. Many of you go days at a time with out hearing from your Dom, many of you spend your birthdays alone and do not even receive gifts.

So many of you think Arianna has it so so bad, many of you think she is abused, or not treated well, or fairly, or treated with the respect she deserves.

We are Master and Slave, we are not Dominant and Submissive or Daddy and Baby girl.  We live a true M’s relationship and our way has worked for over two years and it continues to get better as each day passes.

There are very few relationships like the way we live I know this, there are very few who could life a true M’s relationship, there are even fewer who would want such a relationship.

I am totally against any type of abuse when it comes to women. Many of you are in non consensual relationships, because your partner is married. You only consent because you are willing to settle for less. When you settle for less that is exactly what you get so you have no reason to complain, or sit around and pout because you have not heard from your married Dom, who cannot even control his own house, because if he could he would not be fucking you.

Many of you are punished when there is no reason, because you were not able to send videos of you masturbating so he could jack off, or you did not send nude pics of yourself. Wow

Many of you are in relationships with the fifty shades of grey Dominants who do not have the slightest fucking clue. They see the visual and nothing more. You cannot read a fucking book put it down and say I am a Master it does not work that way.

I Vile am living the dream, and you could be too. I am married to my wife, my slave , my slut and my whore. She is my all and anything I want her to be, but do not think for one minute I do not have to give 150% back, because at times it is much much more.

If you do not understand then ask.

It was Arianna who said. Will you except me as your Slave?

 

A Slave Is A Pet

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Adapt, An Owned Slave, Arianna, bdsm, Bond, cage, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, Depression, Dominants, Human Pet, Kink, kinky, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Mind Fuck, owning a slave, Pet, Rules, slave, submissive on January 25, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This will be my seven hundred and one post today. Wow a year and a half has really flown by. I am going to guess out of 701, I probably have 25 that were re-blogs from others who caught my eye.

What started out as something for me to do, maybe a hobby, something to spend some time on, turned into a message I wanted to send out to as many people as I could reach.

Hoping to share the hidden dangers out in a world that can be very deep and dark. A world you can get hurt in, be it mental or physical. A world were if your not in the right hands you can suffer from abuse. There are those out there who get off on a life long mind fuck. There are those who are just looking for a piece of ass and they see submission as a weakness.  When in fact they could have the greatest gift they have ever had.

Many who are in the beginning stages while searching out their submission will often mistake abuse from caring. If your new and you do not have a clue you really don’t know what to expect.

90% of my blog is about safety , some of you have listened , while some have not. It would make more since if you listen to a Dom who has walked in the very shoes I speak about.

I share with you what is said in the male huddles, I share what others have told me, and I share what I have done in the past. If you think about it I have no reason to lie to you. Someone lies if they have something to gain. I gain nothing from sharing with you. Nothing at all. What I could gain out of my sharing is you listen to some of what I have to say, and use parts, and you would see that it could save you a lot of trouble and heartache.

Thank you all for reading what I have to blab about, if nothing else you get a good laugh. or you may not wake up alone black and blue.

Today I hooked up the DVD player I had promised to do it sometime ago, but I am on Viles time. We rearranged the bedroom as well so we could put a TV in the bedroom which I am accustomed to. I also had another job interview, that had to be the longest in my life but I truly enjoyed it. I am taking a new job Monday , but it never hurts to cover all bases, or maybe a better opportunity come up.

Anyway once the DVD player was hooked up Arianna wanted to make sure it was working so she put in the movie THE PET which is a truly interesting film about the love an owner has for his pet. The slave was willing to go through changes in her life and showed total devotion, towards her owner. The love between the two was just unreal. The part that got to me was when the owner was playing fetch with the Slave, and Arianna laughed , I said what the fuck are you laughing at I will take you outside and make you play fetch, yea it got quite.

The movie was suppose to be BDSM based but it was really about the world of slave trade which is alive and running even today. There are some 28 million people who are sold as slaves every year.

When we think of a slave, we think of someone who is very humble, and docile. Someone who seeks someone they can turn total control over to someone else. This is a great deal of responsibility for the Master, and it can be an easy task or it can be one that drags out for months depending on which form of training one chooses to put into place.

The training can only begin once the Master has gotten to know his slave inside and out. This goes the same for the Dominant and submissive. To train the Dominant or Master, or maybe owner has to really know you. Your habits, your thoughts, any types of medication your on. The medications if your on any could have an effect on any hard limits you may have. I am speaking as far as any type of depression you might have going on, anxiety you might have going on. So any training process must be giving great thought. Most of us do not have a PHD , but most of us do have common sense.

We take care of ours, we cherish, we guide, and for the most we take a huge weight off of their shoulders. We promise to make everything alright.

There is a saying I like to say. Come and let me hold you so I can take all of your pain away. When you hold someone tight enough you can truly feel. You can feel the good and bad, but you can feel the lost as well. Just like the KISS the KISS tells everything, you can tell if it is real, you can feel feelings. Hugging someone that tells as well. You can feel from the hug, you can tell if its real or if it is fake.

The Slave is a pet. A pet who will happily lay at your feet, and will do so without question. The slave will follow without question, trusting you. The slave will walk hand in hand without question.

Very few truly understand how deep an M’s relationship is. Most who are submissive do not understand how someone could willingly give so much. Many who are submissive do not understand how someone could live as a slave and be happy.  The slave does not understand how one can just be submissive, and only submit at their choice of time. Although there are those who wish to take their submission to deeper levels.

I also believe there are those who are a slave but are afraid to cross that line, so the word submissive comes out. The thought of giving yourself over to someone, and them having full control over you. It is pretty scary. If you connect with the right Dominant, Master and Owner you would then see it is not that hard.

The first time I saw the movie THE PET it really got me to thinking. What would life be like if I were to own a human pet. The pet much like a slave wants for nothing. The pet like the slave has nothing to worry about, everything is done for them. The Slave like the movie THE PET is obedient very docile, non confronting. The Slave like the movie THE PET does not wish to argue or question their owner. At times they have questions in their mind, they may worry about something that comes up, but it soon passes once they see everything is handled.

You have to let your Slave speak their mind if something comes up. Something happened not long ago that upset Arianna, and we talked about it. I did allow her to voice her opinion, to kinda get it off her chest, but if we did not allow this, that is where a communication breakdown could happen.

We are each our own, we all live how we want to live. We have different ways, different kinks, and needs.

Most Slaves are very needy, I did not say all but most. Arianna needs constant direction, that is where the consistency part comes in, at time I need to add a little then at times I take a little away that is to make an even balance.

Arianna has also added to her rules, things that she believes should be in place. Her rules are read daily. By reading them it gives her a sense of security. She knows she is loved, she knows she is cared for. In return I get anything I want, that I know will not harm her.

To own a pet it would be neat just not for me. Well at this point and time in my life.

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Vile

Our Relationship Has Taking A Turn

Posted in 24/7, A slaves passwords, Adapt, An Owned Slave, Arianna, bdsm, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominants, fetlife, fucking, journal, Master, Master And Slave, Masters, micromanage, owning a slave, Patience, Rules, slave, Slave no rights, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, Total Slavery, Total Submission, TPE on January 22, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Living as Master and Slave is really not as difficult as most think. It really depends on how much the Slave wants to Submit and how much the Master wants to give in return.

While I was searching , I knew what type of Slave I was looking for, I knew the qualities I was looking for, I knew the demeanor I was looking for in a Slave and the personality. I had in six months compiled several list and narrowed everything down to one. I took a little from each list and made one. I knew exactly what I was looking for, and I would not except anything less.

After meeting Arianna for the first time I was just in total awe, I cannot even begin to explain the next steps I was going to take and more so how I was going to proceed.

I remember my friend Kelly telling me after Arianna left, she said dude there is no way your going to pull that off. Kelly said she is the hottest female I have seen in a long time, there is no way. I looked at Kelly and said bet me, bet me anything.

After an hour and I heard nothing, I was thinking I just may lose this bet, then my phone beeped . I want to see you again tomorrow. I knew right then I was in like flint

So now I had to really think after learning just what type of relationship Arianna wanted, I had to decide if I was up to the task or not. Just the thought of a Micromanaged relationship put heavy thoughts on my shoulders. It is not that I could not do it, the question was did I want to invest that much time in a relationship.

Over a years time I had met with some 50 or so Slaves or who wanted to be a slave and I had no interest in any one. So for six months I just chilled. No looking, I had no interest. I needed to take a break and gather my thoughts. Maybe just maybe I had set my expectations to high. Maybe the slave I was looking for was not or could not be real. Maybe it was time to lower my standards a little, maybe I expected to much from one person. Maybe poly was the way to go. Nah fuck that at this point and time it was just a waiting game.

Micromanagement , you are taking control over someones life. You are taking full control over someones life. You are making there decisions , what to wear, how to talk, how to walk, when to eat, what to eat, There whole life is balled up and laying in your hands. When to sit, when to stand, when to go to bed, when to get up. How I wanted my cock sucked, how I liked to fuck. Wow that is a lot of responsibility .

At this point to add anything to our routine would not be like adding anything at all. Once you form a D’s or M’s relationship and the two are on the same page things just fall into place.

Arianna had brought something up about a week ago. She had stated that she did not feel her submission as much. I explained she does not see or feel as much because she lives it everyday. Everything she does on a daily basis comes natural.

In the past I have brought things up that I am truly against when it comes to any relationship. The first being a Dom or Master demanding all of the subs or slaves passwords to all of their accounts. Even in the world of BDSM everyone needs their own privacy, not to mention you are giving private information to someone you hardly even know. The second thing I am against is access to your cell phone, again a privacy thing, and third your computer. Most Dominants or Masters who demand such a thing are ego driven, and insecure. Trying to throw their authority around, and you give it to them because you think you have to. Your trying to prove your submissive.

Okay where am I going with this ? Last week Arianna and I met with another Dom who is single. We met in St Augustine, had lunch at a small Irish pub very nice, the setting was much better than the food. Arianna and I were drilled for maybe two hours, being drilled I mean a lot of questions about how we maintain our relationship. How we maintain the M’s side on a daily basis. How we stay Master and Slave. How is it we never argue.

Arianna was asked a question I believe it was about trust, she made the comment that she would be more than willing to give all of her passwords as well as being monitored by a GPS tracking device. The topic had nothing really to do with trust, coming from her, it was about giving up more control. She explained how she loved to be restrained on a daily basis, caged more. As I am listening I am taking all of this in, and I am thinking would any more that I decided to put in place add more to my bag, not at all because we are at the level of truly knowing each other.

Now the key to my part I have said a thousand times is me being and remaining consistent, and being consistent on a daily basis. Consistency makes the world of D’s or M’s run smoothly, the Slave just falls into place, and will follow without question.

I get up every morning with Arianna at 3.40am . I go into the kitchen and turn the coffee pot on while she is getting ready. When she comes out her coffee is poured and we talk. A couple of times a week I only get about 4.5 hrs sleep, but I still feel the need to get up with her. Then on her way to work she calls like clock work, and we talk more. The other day we were talking about our visit and she brought up the subject that she needed to give more, and wanted me to take more control.

She keeps two daily journals now. One in the car, time and mileage to and from home, work and where ever she stops in between , then once home she has a journal she writes in of all her task, even when she just wants to sit and relax. I know everything she does and what time.

So now I had to figure out a way to take more control. So I mentioned a App for a GPS tracker which she found one downloaded it and sent me the link. It is called Life360 , it sends me updates every time she is on the move. I know exactly where she is at. . I now have all of her passwords to all of her email accounts, as well as her wordpress and fetlife, not that I will ever use them, but I do have that ability.

I in noway demanded any of these things, nor have I ever brought the subject up. This was all of Arianna’s idea. This was her way of giving up more control. This is what she needed as a Slave.

In the past with the rules I have in place, not only does she follow my rules, but she has added a few on her own as daily reminders, which I thought was awesome. She added these rules because she felt she had a need.

To take without the other wanting to give is very wrong, to take when offered makes you feel good, knowing they have that need to give and they want to give.

It is wrong when you first enter a relationship and your passwords and other information is demanded. You as the submissive has the right to say no thank you, unless your new Dominant is going to give you the same access. Ask him for his passwords and see how far that gets you.

The more the Master keeps their word or Dominant the more you as a submissive or slave will want to give. After all that is what your looking for, you want to give all , you do not want to hold anything back.

Arianna’s perfect setting as a Slave would be total solitude, and confinement , then she would be truly happy.

Everything I have spoke about is all about trust. Trust will get you everywhere and everything, without full trust you really have nothing.

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Vile

Arianna’s Post Permission

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If you read Arianna’s blog about permission that is what I was speaking about the first ninety days of training. Going through a reprogramming , so to speak.

You take everything away that someone was use to having on a daily basis , and slowly return some. I never at one time explained to Arianna what I was going to do, or what I plans were. The only thing I assured her of was she would not be hurt.

I would think and we have not talked in great detail about the first ninety days, but my take is there would be a great deal of humiliation. The humiliation factor coming from telling an adult what they can do and what they cannot do.

I took away furniture, I took away clothes, if people visited she could dress but it was minimal. at times she would sit on the floor while I ate dinner in front of other people and I would feed her. At times she was cuffed to the table while eating.

I limited her space within the home, not allowing her to sit on any furniture , or standing next to me. She now was not allowed to pick her clothes besides her work clothes, everything else was picked out for her. She now had to sleep nude, unless that time of the month.

Slave dress I bought two of the ugliest cotton dresses that went almost to the floor, when she was not nude she had to wear what I had bought. I had even had her wear in public a couple of times while going to the store. .

Although I did not take her money I did take full control of it. Arianna now had to account for every penny she spent. She had to keep a daily log two of them as a matter of fact. One in the car and one for home. Before leaving the house she had to write time and mileage, once home she had to account for just about every minute. She could no longer just go to the bathroom, she had to have permission, she had to ask even if people were present, it is the same with taking a shower.

Sex she would be clean and available , if I wanted to fuck she would lay and spread at times no foreplay at all. I would just stick my cock in blow my load and walk away. If I want my cock sucked I snapped my fingers.

Behavioral modification you take someones life and turn it inside out. The key to everything was consistency and being consistent was a huge part I had to play, making sure I did not bend or give in.

Now many of you are probably thinking , what the fuck, how could you treat someone in this manner ? Or how could someone live as she does.

The micromanage part is something she needed, and she needed on a daily basis, and hourly basis. So it was something that was discussed prior to us entering a relationship.

When I first met Arianna she was totally out of control, work, home life everything about her was just a mess. At that time she was seeing a couple who were being abusive towards her, not so much the wife but the husband.

Those of you who are submissive or a slave you know how easy it is to get out of control. It does not mean anything bad, it means there is something lacking. Someone to guide you, take care of emotionally, the lack of structure.

Before I met Arianna I had been searching for over a year, but I was looking for a sex slave, a long term relationship but someone I could just use when I had the need, still a D’s ran home just not as strict. I was not looking for a maid, I cleaned my own house, I was not looking for a cook, I enjoy cooking, I did my own laundry. I was looking for a Sex Slave, someone I could just pump when I wanted, someone to suck my cock when I wanted, anal sex when I wanted and bondage.

The first time I met Arianna and she got out of her car I almost spit my coffee out, I was thinking look at this fine Bitch here, WOW. We spent a couple of hours talking and the next day she came back over. The second visit I knew she was had.

When she began explaining her needs I just sit there thinking, do I want to invest all that time, fuck I am 50 years old. Really all I was looking for was a fuck toy, nothing more. As we talked I realized we had more in common so I had to give it a great deal of thought.

As I said about the first ninety days being the breaking point that goes for the Dom as well. The time spent is just as hard on the Dom as it is the slave, both are giving and taking. Although the slave gives up much more. The slave gives up their whole life.

A year later and nothing has changed, we are still growing closer to each other, life is good. All the work paid off in more ways than one.

Arianna also made the statement I enjoy helping other slaves and submissive’s that was true before I met her. Today I still offer advice. I have a huge heart when it comes to women, more so those in the lifestyle. I have taken women in and helped get back on their feet, and I expected nothing in return. With the exception of paying their way. No sex ,no sucking cock notta I treated with full respect. The thing is You cannot fix someone they have to want it, they have to need it, if not it is just time wasted.

Today I am not so sure I could offer in person, because Arianna requires so much care, I am not complaining but there is just not enough of me to go around.

So now before you think how could anyone live like Arianna does and be happy. Every Slave is different, every slave has different needs. Every slave requires different care. We are talking about a slave not a submissive. A submissive may submit on their terms and after play or a session, they return to their normal lives. That is true in most cases, although a submissive enjoys serving, the submissive can impose limits. A slave has no limits, the only limits are those that are giving to by their owner.

I am a Husband , I am a Dominant but I am also an owner, Arianna is my property. This relationship is purely consensual . It was and is a consensual  agreement before entering the relationship. I put all the cards out on the table. If I agreed to be the Dominant she needed Arianna had to be the slave I needed, and I told her I refuse to bend. If you want to be my Bitch, you live in my house , my rules no questions asked.

In the lifestyle every Dominant could have the same type of relationship we do, maybe not as in depth but the same service, no arguing, no drama. The thing is it is so fucking simple, sure I get tired from working 55 hours a week, I get stressed I just hold it better than most, but at the end of the day I made an agreement, no matter how tired or stressed I am, I still have a responsibility and in the end it does pay off.

You cannot want to be a slave, you have to need it, you have to have a burning desire. You have to crave it, crave the control. TPE Total Power Exchange.

A slave has no control. A slave is owned property who obeys…period. She may respectfully discuss and share her feelings with her Master, but he makes the final decision, and she must abide by it. If she doesn’t , then she is dealt with harshly.

We must respect one another, we must respect how others want to live and be treated, we must be open minded enough so we can try to understand others. The one thing we must bot do is judge people because of their needs.

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