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Training And Online Dominants

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I use to perv the internet a lot, as a matter of fact back in the day, yahoo had one of the best profile search engines on the net. You could go to profiles and just type in a word of interest. Submissive , Slave , Slut , Whore, and one of my favorites Humiliation. Aol had something close to yahoo but yahoo was the place to hunt pussy.

I would pour a big ass glass of Tea , crack my knuckles and go to work.  You could search all over the world, by state , county and city. It was just a total fuck search, maybe that is why yahoo shut it down…

Your looking to enter the lifestyle and your looking for a Dominant, today the first place to look is your PC or Laptop. It is easy a cup of coffee and Google.

Online training is noneffective and has no meaning. Most online Dominants are married and spend spare time when the wifey is not home sitting behind his computer jacking off.

It does not take long until the submissive finds out they are being used. Rules are just sexual self pleasure acts, sending pictures and lots of phone sex. Having you drive someplace in public and Masturbating, or told not to wear panties out in public.

The first thing your told to do is keep a journal, a journal the dominant will never read. A journal of your daily activity’s which to you have very little meaning because there was no explanation on why you should keep such a thing…

The self punishment for not sending nude pics on time, or taking to long to respond to a text…. Self punishment , spanking your pussy until you cry while on the phone with your dominant, clothespins on pussy lips or nipples for long periods of time.
Then you end up spending money you do not have on toys, dildo’s and vibrators , nipple clamps , ohhh and butt plug for anal training.

While the Dominant does have control , that control is very short lived, 30 , 60 maybe 90 days and at times a little longer or until that deep loneliness kicks in..

I have done all of the above. I have used and manipulated , and I have shared pictures with friends that were sent to me. I have told stories how some bitch double fucked herself with two bottles.

I can say Ive never sat in front of my computer and jacked off, I mean its okay but nothing like the real thing…

The Dominant thinks he is in charge but in reality he is just barking orders that have no meaning, and your gullible to follow them until you figure out he is just an ass..

I am not going to say that all online training is not effective because at times , and there are some online relationships that do work and last for years.
Those relationships are those where the dominant has put a plan in place, and works on getting you to him, or him to you. Then again this can fail as well. If you are not the one painting the picture, you never see the finished product until you get to your new home.. Someone can paint a pretty picture and fill your mind with what you need, but you need to know all and have proof before you decide to move 1500 miles..

Over the past ten years or so I have gone through some Major changes. Changes in what type of relationship I wanted, what I wanted in the future, and most important how I saw myself living in a M’s relationship…

Online Dominants are just that, very few have ever had a D’s Or M’s relationship, and chances are they never will… These are men or women who cannot control their own life much less others.

The Topping from the Bottom I spoke about this topic last week, it can be fun , or it can be the death of a relationship.. Someone had contacted me not long ago while I was talking about BDSM and depression. I truly believe a Dominant who suffers from depression , he has no business trying to enter a D’s relationship. Someone who suffers from depression even on medication can only handle so much…

If you are a submissive who is trying to convince a man who suffers from depression you are doing more damage than good, and yes you are Topping from the bottom..

Many online Dominants have anger issues, many use humiliation as a way to control, they feed off of your problems they feed off of your self pity, and your low self esteem. Kinda like a Leech , until you have no blood left , nothing left to give and your left out in the dark alone…

The reason online training cannot work in the long term is because a D’s or M;s relationship is so personal. The Intimacy is so deep , the eye to eye contact, the communication, and last but not least the physical contact.

Many have tried and tried and tried with the results being the same, making the same mistakes thinking the next will be different…

You the submissive has to set ground rules. I email you answer, I ask a direct question, I want a direct answer. I text you I want a text back, I call you answer, providing your not at work. Those are not unrealistic demands.

Vile

The Fake Fifty Shades of Grey

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2011 year of the Dominant. 50 shades of grey was published. The book sold some 70 million worldwide and blindfold sales increased as well.

 

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Fifty Shades of Grey is a 2011 erotic romance novel by British author E. L. James. It is the first installment in the Fifty Shades trilogy that traces the deepening relationship between a college graduate, Anastasia Steele, and a young business magnate, Christian Grey. It is notable for its explicitly erotic scenes featuring elements of sexual practices involving bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism (BDSM). Originally self-published as an ebook and a print-on-demand,[1][2] publishing rights were acquired by Vintage Books in March 2012.[3][4]

There is much that has been left out. I read a little bit of the first book, and if your into reading a fantasy book then good, but it seems to many have taking it from a fantasy to reality, and not really having a clue.

The physical contact when it comes to BDSM is only about 5%, the other 95% is mental.  To be able I want to word this correctly  , to be able to be a Dominant you have to be able to get into the submissive’s or slaves head. You have to be able to stimulate their mind.We have to get to know the submissive or slave inside out. We need to know what truly makes them tick. We need to understand their emotions, we need to understand when they are having a bad day, we need to understand that when they are not communicating we need to communicate to put the submissive at ease. We need to make the submissive know we as Dominants will make everything alright.

I am not sure where or how the depression aspect plays a part, but I do know from my past experience most who are slaves or submissive suffer from some type of depression. I could not make this statement if I had only met two or three slaves , I could not make this statement if I had only met 9 or 10 submissive’s  Over the past twenty years or so I have met hundreds. Most were very dear friends. Then there were the handful that I used, even then I knew something was not right but I did not care enough to even think that something maybe wrong.

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To really get to know the submissive we have to take a walk, we have to be able to get into the brain, we so to speak. We have to be able to open every door at each section and have a full understanding of what makes the submissive tick. We have to know what makes them think the way they do, what makes the submissive like or dislike the things they do. We have to understand their limits , we also have to understand when it is time to stop.

Most who are looking for the one, will bend over backwards to please. Most will take what ever you have to dish out just to please, but if your not inside their head you have no idea the amount of damage you may be doing, and they may have no idea either, until the after. I believe this is when sub-drop is most noticeable. I believe this is when the depression really kicks in. For the most I myself believe sub-drop is preventable through proper care. Most of the time when sub-drop is present it is because the two do not live together, or the submissive is not getting the attention they need. Sub-drop does not always occur after play, you can experience sub-drop even if your alone.

If you meet a submissive who is on medication for depression or any other illness it is very important to find out why they are taking it, what its for, then you research the different meds they are taking.

I know for instance Arianna has limitations when it comes to play, so I stay away from those gray areas. I know exactly how far I can push and I know exactly when to stop. We as dominants never want to push one to that limit.

So its like you knock on the forehead you open the door and you begin your travels, your going to walk through many doors, and your going to spend a lot of time in each room, so you are able to gain information, you will want to know what makes each room tick, what makes them think the way they do.

This is why I preach to those who are new to the lifestyle if you start out having sex then that is all you have. If you do not live together you are not grasping the true means of living a D’s or M’s lifestyle. Your getting a couple of hours a week or month in a motel room, or the dominant is coming over to your apartment. You are experiencing the sexual side and nothing more. The truth is there is still another 95% you have not touched.

Being a Dominant is not about barking orders, it is not about suck my cock or get on your back, it is not about anal training while your on your webcam , or sending video with your phone. That is not BDSM

Breaking down the four letters BDSM which you probably already know but many are missing the one word that means the most. B= Bondage. Sado= someone who enjoy giving pain, someone who enjoys humiliation. Humiliation comes in many shapes and forms. Someone who many times will push your linits to far and not really care as long as they get off. Masochism = someone who enjoys receiving pain someone who enjoys humiliation, someone who enjoys being used and pushed past their limits. I am sure there are things I left out but the one word I left out, is the one thing you are or most are missing out on D = Discipline

Disciple also comes in many forms and again it is not about barking orders, it is not about making up rules as you go, it is not about punishing, in fact if you the Dominant are in full control, punishment is far and few. The last thing a submissive or slave wants to do is break a rule, or disappoint you. That is the greatest humiliation they can experience.

D= Discipline does not have to mean punishing you, because you rolled his socks up wrong, or you forgot to send a video of your anal training, or fucking your ass with a dildo so he can jack off. D= Discipline means the Dominant is in full control. He is in control and not controlling. He is in full control of his daily life, he is drama free, he is problem free. If the Dominant is not in full control of his life, how in the fuck can he control you. Telling you to suck his cock, or prepare your ass to be fucked is not Discipline.

Arianna met a Dominant one time and he told her he wanted to go back to his place so he could start her training by sucking his cock. She did decline his most gracious offer.

Those four letters BDSM run so much deeper, those four letters have a definition that never ends, because I do not believe you can ever learn everything or experience everything. The learning aspect of those four letters never end.

Now to all of you 50 shades wannabes or you dudes who just want to abuse and use, or you are married and your wife wont suck your cock so you find someone who will.

I am living the DREAM I live with my Slave, I am served by my slave emotionally and physically. My slave who is my wife is my best friend, we actually communicate. I include the one letter and I am consistent on a daily basis. The letter D= Discipline runs deep.

I seldom drink the same type of coffee in the morning. Arianna keeps a variety for me. Almost two years now when I open the door she is kneeling, her hands extended with a huge grin on her face because she is happy to see me. On the nights I get home late my clothes are laid out for me. When I shower she is kneeling by the tub, once I get out she drys me off. There is not a day that goes by she does not ask me if she can suck my cock. She does not know the words NO or I CANT. She thrives to give up control, she is always thinking of ways to give up control. Arianna has the need to serve. All because of that one letter D= Discipline.

Many of you who are submissive or baby girls the baby girls are the worst. Many of you jump from Dom to Dom, hunting and searching you think sucking cock is your way of finding the rainbow. You think this way because you believe everything you hear , or your just that desperate. Why would you settle for less just to have someone a few hours a week or a month. If you are not living together you are not gaining anything.

Having a plan to make that move is different, even if your long distance and getting to know each other but then you decide okay one of us has to move. That is real , that is how you tell someone really cares about you.

There are very few blogs here on wordpress that are positive. Most is just about bitching or how much they miss their daddy. I did not get a call on my birthday , or I sent a text 3 days ago and have not heard anything. I get to see my daddy and it has been three months. It is really depressing, and I just fucking wonder why you want to put yourself through this, why take this type of mental abuse.

I get up in the morning with Arianna , I turn the coffee pot on and we drink coffee together, but I think many of you get up and you drink a cup of stupid, just to get your day going, a cup of drama extra strong, a cup of drag me through the mud. Let me have a cup of depression to get my day started…

I am not pointing fingers at anyone so do not take it to heart, but why in the fuck would you put yourself through such abuse? Why allow someone to come in and step all over you and walk out while they are throwing you a towel to clean up and say I will see you next month. I really do not get it, because all of you could be living the dream.

Most of you Baby Girls are seeing men who are married, that I do not understand. Because you have a 99.9% chance of him not leaving his wife, you are there because there are things his wife will not do.  Then your only getting his side of the story, maybe you should go see her, give her a call to see if things are so bad, because if they were so bad he would of already left. She is the one who had his children, she has helped him buy the house and cars, she is the one who is cooking for him, she is the one doing his laundry, and yes she is still fucking him. Why would you disrespect her? What has she done to you? Why would you want to destroy what she has worked so hard to build?  It is not a question will you get caught it is when, and I can tell you it wont be pretty, because when you try to destroy her world she will destroy yours. Why put her through his mess, his fuck ups? She has done nothing to you, and you could really care less. If your Dominant or Master or Daddy really cares about you, he could pack up and leave, money or no money, I know because I did it. I lost everything, but in the end left with nothing I was happy.

If he is fucking around on his wife, do not think for one minute you are the only one he is fucking. Do not think if he does leave his wife he will not fuck around on you. Think about that.

I am living the DREAM and if your willing to put just a little effort into your life you can as well. If you 50 shades of grey Doms stop thinking with the wrong head you could as well.

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Much Love

Vile

Do We Really Train A Slave

Posted in 24/7, Anal Training, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, blow job, communication, Consensual, control, Dominants, Giving Head, molding your slave, munchs, oral, oral sex, owning a slave, Pain, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, sadist, serve, sex, slave, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick on October 6, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We always hear I am in training, or this is the way I train my Slave, but is training the correct word. Do we really train someone? Is the word train really correct?

Arianna and I attended the monthly MAST meeting, Masters And Slaves Together. Friday night. We do not get to attend often due to my work schedule so we jumped at the chance. I also believe it is good for Arianna to interact with others those being Submissive and Slaves.

So we meet a new potential partner, hoping to start a new long lasting relationship. If you look at the over all population, we in the lifestyle are really small in numbers. So finding that one can take time. Being careful in searching for the one, making sure we have all the right connections, and not settling for less.

The topic at MAST Friday night was Masters and Slaves during the Roman Empire and what the difference was then and today. I find the topic to be very interesting and everyone took part in the conversation.

When a Slave meets a new Dom, he explains he is going to train her to fit his needs, I have used the same words, but recently I have been thinking, is the word Train really the correct word.  The first ninety Days are the tell , tell of the relationship, the first ninety days will tell if you the Slave really desires such a relationship.

One thing that just kills me is when I hear a sub or a slave say they have been instructed to do anal training while alone. Most of the time the Dominant wants pics or a video, I am guessing he just wants to jack-off. I know in some twenty years I have never made such a request. Maybe it is because I am a hands on Man.

Something else that kills me is when I hear another Dom say I can train you to like pain. Get the fuck out. There are some who are Masochist, but if you are not into receiving pain today, the odds are it is not going to change tomorrow, or the next day. Some will take pain if they know it is pleasing, taking the bad with the good trying to see if the good out weighs the bad. You cannot train someone to like pain.

Just as I told Arianna all you have to do for the first ninety days is Listen, watch, and observe. Take in as much information as you can. So in reality the slave is Adapting to their new life. The Slave is adapting to their new Masters ways, their rules and protocols.

So is the word training really the proper word. Could the word adjusting be right ? The Slave does adapt to their Masters ways of life, the Slave does Adjust to their Masters way of life. On the other side I could see training as well. This is not something I just thought of, I have been thinking on this for a long while.

So do you train your Slave to suck cock? Nah you can tell her how and what you like. Do you train your Slave to fuck ? Nah you may express a certain way you like to fuck but it is really not training.

Maybe it is training, after all we are taking their life and changing them into someone we need. Be it communication , fucking, sucking cock, the way they dress, walk, sit. All of this becomes a habit.

So do we really train?

 

Vile

Anal Training Really ?

Posted in 24/7, Anal Training, bdsm, Dominants, Master, Masters, slave, submissive on March 29, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am a hands on man, I am a in person visual man. I do have an ass fetish, be it anal sex, or rimming. To rim I really have to be into you. Pictures do nothing for me, although Arianna has sent me a few from work, that I did not mind it was not a request from me. Video’s to nothing for me. Now I do take in a porn flick from time to time, but it is not a need. I do no take pictures of Arianna nor do I take videos. Why should I she lives with me?

There is also a respect factor, a man not a dom I did say a man, because a real Dominant would never ask for such a thing. He would not put his submissive or slave in a mind altering position. If she does agree to such a request she is only doing it to please, nothing more. She gets nothing out of it. I could not date anyone who would allow to me to spank, or tie her up, if she got nothing out of it. If the man really cared for his sub / slave he would not make such request to begin with.

This is a pet peeve of mine, and every time I hear the words ANAL TRAINING I just shake my head.

So you get a call from your Master, and he tells you he wants to talk about something, or maybe he sends an email.

We are going to begin your training, and we are going to start with anal training. Your going to buy a dildo and every night your going to fuck your ass with it. I also want pictures, if you can make a video that would be better.

Really? Really? Really? Are you serious? Where did one come up with this type of training? Is it really needed? Is there a purpose for it?

None of the above. Ladies, those who are submissive, and slaves. The Anal Training is a joke.

Now is this a bad thing, in my eyes yes, but just my opinion. There are those who need to please and will go through great links to do so. Okay some are just slutty enough, some enjoy anal, cant get enough.

The truth is your mater is not the only one who is going to see the pics or the video, all his buddies while at the bar drinking some beers are going to see everything.

Dominants who have no experience , or fakes use this technique, as a way to show authority , as a way to prove who is in charge. A real Dominant would never ask a submissive or slave to do such a thing. Think about those two words ANAL TRAINING. Just like the Dominant that uses the 128 rules. WOW. How do I know all of this, well at one time I was young and inexperienced, and yea Anal Training popped into my mind.

Training is not meant to be sexual, training is meant to be towards self improvement. Training benefits the submissive/slave. Why would you as a Dominant want to use and exploit  your submissive / slave? Why would you want to put them through that kind of stress.

I can agree that if one is not use to anal sex it may take some time for them to get use to it. I would think one would want to do this in person. The two of you working together. Show you care. I love anal sex, I will be the first to admit I get rough at times does Arianna enjoy it, I would say no. She does love anal sex if I take my time.

I have made Arianna insert a butt plug but again I was hear, all hands on.

If you have a Dominant making such request, you need to rethink your relationship. I am speaking as a man and Dominant. Do not think you are the only ones seeing the pictures you take, or the videos you send.

 

Vile