We all need someone the key is to find someone who fits our need. To find someone who is willing to take the time to understand us and where we are coming from. Someone who enjoys doing the same things we do, places, movies, food, vacations. Then yes the almighty Kink, the Bondage, play time, pleasing and being pleased. It is not a one way street.
To be successful in any relationship we need to have more than one thing in common. If sex is the only thing in common your relationship will be short lived, and who is going to take the blame? The submissive will, the submissive is always the reason why the relationship did not work. She was a fake, not real, did not want to put the time or effort into the relationship. I was not the right Dominant for her.
Remember a submissive will adapt to your way of life, your surroundings without question. So it is only fair we put in the time that is needed.
In a relationship a D’s relationship a Submissive does not ask for much, in fact probably less than the Vanilla girl next door, or your wife. Yea I had to throw that in, I despise married men who cheat. Total scum.
A Submissive is looking for acceptance someone who will take them as they are. Someone who will except them not only for them but for the kinks that lay deep inside, someone they can communicate with on all levels.
Someone who is truthful , someone who respects what he has, someone who is there at the drop of a hat. Someone who will communicate on all levels.
Someone who can control his temper, someone who does not have anger issues , someone who is drama free. Someone who is not abusive, verbal, mental, or physical.
We as Dominants all have pet names, My Bitch is my favorite, my pet, baby girl, my whore, the list goes on and on. If you have these little pet names and you get angry you should never use these names in anger. A black eye will go away words do not. Words cut much deeper and they almost never heal.
The above is what is needed and what is not wanted. It is really a pretty simple process if the Dominant is willing to devote the time to insure the relationship works.
So what does the Dominant get in return, well anything and everything. You have a submissive who has giving you everything. Mind and body some say soul I just find that hard to chew.
The submissive really does not ask for much nor do they need much. We put our arm around them and walk. We walk them through life, we guide them, feed them, we nourish them with love and respect. There love and devotion will grow and continue to grow. The more they grow the more they love, respect and then comes the trust.
You can take a submissive and mold them into pretty much anything you want, and they will follow. It is not a hard task.
Love what you have and the love will be returned many many times over.