Many of us in the lifestyle use Bondage as a form of play, just as we do spanking. Even those who are vanilla dabble in a little kink from time to time.
To me Bondage means so much more, Bondage puts one in a different frame of mind, a since of security, sub-space, and at times the mind is zoning, not really thinking of anything your mind is just blank.
Arianna enjoys Bondage, but to her it is more of a comfort zone, she feels safe, and secure, it puts her mind at peace. I remember not long ago I had her tied up and blindfolded, and it was not long until she just started rambling. What she was saying made no sense at all, a little giggly. She felt safe yet vulnerable, open and exposed.
Arianna loves to be restrained at night, this is done when I want. I do at times when she makes the request, but if I did it every time she made the request who would be in control. I have a very heavy chain that is attached to the bed, then up and around her neck. I do keep the key close at hand in case of an emergency. I also have cuffs that attach to the bed, when cuffed she is fully open.
I seldom have sex while I am tying up, this is her time. This is her release, and at times I tie her down and leave the room and she naps while restrained.
I myself have never been tied up, and I can assure you that will never happen, the thought of being tied up has never crossed my mind, I am not a switch, nor do I desire to be.
Although during bondage sub-space is seldom reached, but you the dominant can help the submissive reach that point once bound and blindfolded, just through peaceful conversation, reminding her of her place. The things you want to do to her. Slightly running your fingers across her body, not touching her breast or vagina.
Great care must be taking during play. Nothing at all around the neck, you would really be surprised at how easy it is to hurt someone. Although I do use a chain at night I leave it lose enough not to cause any choking . We Doms have a Dom-space we go to at times, so it is very important we stay in the right frame of mind. There are times I have to sit down and take a breather because I get so excited, and I need to clear my head.
At times I also use what I call a total mind-fuck bondage. Maybe six or eight months ago I was seeing Lyn the married Jehovah Witness , yea I know go figure. Anyway I had her tied down spread eagle. I was using my flogger on her, and every time I would make contact she would tighten up. We got to the point where it was getting to intense for her, and wanted to be untied. I told her to move her legs and arms towards her, once she did the ropes almost fell off, and she was able to get lose. A total mind fuck.
Bondage can be beautiful, I am not to artistic , I do plan on learning some basic Japanese bondage such as the dragon sleeve, but I am not into the full drop dress stuff, way to time consuming to me.