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A Dominants Protocol

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Apologize, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, Collar, Collared Slave, commitment, communication, control, Discipline, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, fetlife,, MAST, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, MATT9999 on fetlife, Protocol, Protocol public, punish, Punishment, relationships, serve, slave, submissive, Total Submission, TPE on February 8, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

We are suppose to be held to higher standards. We are looked at differently in our small community. We are suppose to carry ourselves differently.More so we treat our women different.

I am not sure about other Dominants you probably have experienced the same thing when out at an event, a munch or a dungeon. When greeted by another Slave or Submissive. Hello Sir, and a gentle bow, and a warm smile.

While it is not in our protocol for Arianna to address another Dominant as Sir, those who are single or allowed to do so.

If we are shown this type of respect, it is only fair we return the same curiosity. It is only fair we treat the Slaves and submissive’s with nothing but total respect.

Now we have the social networks such as Fetlife. To many of those who are a Slave or Submissive this is meant to be a safe haven. A place to meet friends, read different post in different groups, maybe even post yourself.

Arianna at times receives friend request , and this is all good but when you have nothing but total disrespect from someone who is suppose to be a Dominant in this case was a 30 year old male switch. He sent a MSG requesting she kick him in his nuts that is how he got off. MATT9999.

Okay lets set aside Arianna is my Slave, lets set aside Arianna is my property. Arianna is my wife, my spouse, with whom I live with, and her profile clearly states she is not only owned, collard, but married.

So I sent Matty a note I was very respectful I did not get angry. I just wanted to know why he would do such a thing? Why would you send a request to someones wife, not slave, not property, but someones wife.

Well instead of answering me, instead of telling me to fuck off or go to hell, MATT9999 simply blocked me Which is all good, it just shows me that MATT9999 is more of a pussy than a man. I guess is MATT9999 from Deland Florida knew I was blowing him up on my blog he might be a little upset.

Now others in the past have sent rude comments, and I have addressed then and ever time I have gotten an apology. Stating they did not know she was married. Okay apology accepted.

So how would someone like MATT9999 act if for some earth shaken moment he had a partner, how would MATT9999 feel about someone talking to his Domme like that. I would think he would get pretty upset.

So I have run across this a couple of times and it truly has a deep meaning. It explains what a Dominant is suppose to be.

A Master Creed who wrote it is unknown. That does not matter who wrote it, what matters is it lays down the ground work for all Dominants. It states who we are and who we are suppose to be.

A Masters Creed – Author Unknown

As it is often important and often even necessary for one human being to have certainty and a clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations, and needs of another, I offer this testimony in trust and sincerity.

I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel more intelligent or wiser.

I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body.

I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.

Yet, to you I am Master.

I am your Master only after earning your trust and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind, and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept the responsibility and honor. You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend, and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt.

Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We complement each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfill our needs.

You are sure, strong, and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned your trust. Because I have opened my heart and soul to you. Because I have listened to your word with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. And because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life; you have given me dominance over you. What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.

I recognize it is your body, mind, and soul. I dominate you only because you have allowed me to, and when I see your body kneel before me in my mind and heart, you are raised above all other women and all the treasures of the earth.

Within the bounds of our relationship…it is my duty to protect you, and that you will know, that under my care; NO harm will come to you as a result of actions taken by Me..or you. That is my responsibility, to protect you..from yourself if necessary. What you give freely cannot in reality be bought.

Those are really some very heavy words. Those words make you stop and think.

It makes me think not only who and what I am, but what can I do to improve myself. What can I do to be a better Dominant, owner, master.

What can I do to improve my slaves life, her surroundings? What can I do to show my slave I care more about her thoughts and feelings?  What can I do to show more support?  What can I do to improve her insecurities? What can I do to show my devoted love ? What can I do to show my slave, my wife she is my world my universe ?  What can I do to show my slave she is my last thought before I sleep and my first breath when I wake? What can I do ?

That my friends is what a Masters Creed should make you feel. It should make you want to feel. It should make you have the need to feel. It should make you be.

To have one kneel before you, in total submission, there is no greater gift in the world. To have one kneel because they have that need to show their submission there is no greater gift. To have one say use me as you see fit. Again there is no greater gift one could ever receive.

My Avatar here on my profile. WHAT IF ?  That all rolls back to the Masters Creed all of the above I have spoken about. It is all about the What’s.

What can we do for our slave? What can we do for our Submissive ?

Let me tell you something the next time you go to yell at yours, slap yours or punish because of something she may have forgotten stop and think of that one word. What. One word or even WHAT IF.

Wow that is some deep shit there. Much love to all.

Go on pass the word make others think the What’s and the Whats If’s



I Am Not Better Than Your Dominant

Posted in abuse, Advice, Apologize, Arianna, bdsm, blog, cocky, Dominants, I Am Not Better Than Your Dominant, Master, slave, submissive on December 5, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I know at times I come off pretty cocky, maybe I seem a little arrogant, but that is far from the truth. At times I am very humble. When I wake in the morning and I roll over and Arianna is sleeping I am very proud. As I am preparing our coffee for the morning I am thinking what our conversation will be, I am hoping she has a good day at work. I am humble when I stand outside of our home and see what we have built together.

I am not trying to out do anyone , nor am I trying to make anyone look bad. The base of my blog is about abuse in the lifestyle and out of the lifestyle. I am against abuse of any type, be it verbal, physical or mental.

I am not better than your Master, owner or Dom I am just me. I share my life with you, I share my opinion with you, and yes it is just my opinion. Just like any blog you read that another Dominant wrote.

You will never hear me say your Dominant is wrong or he is a fake, or he does not know what he is doing. Every Dominant and owner is different, we think different and we live different.

My life story what I have written is the truth and nothing but the truth. There are something I refuse to share because I am not proud of some of the things I have done. I can say I have never hurt anyone well physically anyway. Mental I cannot say so much. I have grown over the years and I have learned from my mistakes. So I started this blog to try and make somethings right.

I have contacted subs and slaves from the past and tried to make things right, apologizing for any harm I may have caused or hurt. You can never take anything back but you can try and make things right.

I feel like it seems I am putting other Dominant down here on my blog and that is so far from the truth.  I was just scanning over some of my post in the near future I will hit 700 blogs as I was reading I was thinking man this really could sound fucked up to another Dominant.  So if i come across as such I do apologize.

I started my blog to help others find the right path, to insure they knew what to look out for, and what danger signs to look for. Today I looked and I have 236 followers not near as many as most, but it truly means a lot. If I have reached out to a few and made some sort of difference then I have done well.

I have had many ask me for advice, and I offered my opinion some took it and some just blew me off. I am okay with that. I have seen many come and go on wordpress, but I encourage all of you who are submissive or a slave to blog. Blogging is a way to express your feelings and thoughts. You can look back and see where you were and where you are today.

Thank all of you and much love.


I want to Apologize

Posted in Apologize, bdsm, Wordpress Awards on December 4, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Here recently I was nominated for several awards. I am honored to even think, that people think that highly of me.

I did not follow through with the requirements to except the awards, I have been really busy here lately, and a lot of things going on I had to handle.

If giving another chance I shall follow through..