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The BDSM Tree Of Life

Posted in 24/7, Adult Baby, Adult Kitten, Ass, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Be who you are, communication, Consensual, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Dominants, Fetish, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, Kink, kinky, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, poly, Polyamory, Pony Girl, pony play, Rough Sex, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, Slave no rights, Submissive kitten on January 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

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We as a community have branched off in so many directions. We have the only lifestyle where we can be who, and what we need to be.

We have been able to Branch off in every direction to fill our needs and kinks. No matter what your into you can always find a partner, or maybe more than one.

Our lifestyle allows us to be free. We have what many only dream about. We live what others only see in a fantasy. We wake in the am proud of who and what we are.

You can be a Submissive , a Slave, A baby Girl, and Adult Baby if that gets you off. You can be a pony, a puppy, a little kitty and lets not forget the little bratty sub, who is always stirring something up.

You can be a Sadist who has the need and love to inflict pain. The Masochist who crave the feeling of a single tail whip strike your back. You can live your life as a slave, and hand full control over to someone.

You can be as open as you need, you can share your deepest and darkest secrets, with that one special one or like many share on their blogs. You have that second life no one knows about.

No matter what your kink is there is a branch for everyone. Every idea, every thought , need or want, you can find it in our small little world.

The Baby girl who needs a Daddy in their life, to love and guide. The bedroom submissive who only wants to submit when the lights are out. The submissive who is learning a new path of freedom, with her Dominant, or the Slave who wants to surrender all.

The pony who want to pull the buggy, or the puppy who wants to be in a cage, the kitty playing on the furniture. The tree is always growing and new branches are born everyday.

You can find the sensual Daddy Dom who will always be easy, or a Dom you likes it rough, there is someone for everyone, no matter what your flavor is.

In the world of BDSM a Dominant or Master can have multiple subs or slaves and at times all living under one roof. Some work out while some do not, to some it was just an experiment . If we do not experiment then how do we learn.

The bad news your going to make mistakes, some mistakes will have a plan and just goes wrong, while some mistakes are due to being careless.

One thing we all look over is we all need to get along. We are small in numbers. We should not judge anyone for their kinks, their needs. We are who we are and nothing is going to change it. We should support each other, give friendly advice, and if your told something keep it to yourself. There is a very heavy trust factor.

Just be who you are, and be free.

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No matter what your flavor is there is someone for you.

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Vile

An Email From A Slave

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anal sex, Argue, Arianna, Ass, ass fucking, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, blow job, Cherish, codependent, Collar, collaring ceremony, communication, Consensual, Consistency, control, Discipline, events, Friends, Friendship, Giving Head, Indebted, Manipulation, Marriage ceremony, MAST, Master, munchs, No Rights, oral, oral sex, owning a slave, Patience, Rules, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, Total Power Exchange, Total Slavery, TPE, training your slave on November 17, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

At our last Munch Arianna met a new Slave, new to the lifestyle. She was there to meet Sir E who I have very much respect for.  Although I may not agree with everything he believes in, we are all different so I do try to keep an open mind.

As Dominants we all train different, we all want different things from out Slaves, different goals. How one Dominant trains his Slave is really none of my business, her rules, her task, what ever it is really nothing to me. If I see some type of abuse I may say something but other than that to each their own.

Sir E instructed his new Slave to contact Arianna , I suppose for advice, tips and friendship. She started sending Arianna emails asking questions since she is new to the lifestyle. This is her first Master and Slave relationship, this is also her first poly relationship, so yes there are a ton of questions.

I myself lived in a poly relationship , the second female was mainly my slaves pet we never had sex nor did I want to. If it had been the other way around and all three of us were really close I do not know if I could of giving both the attention that was needed. I think Sir E has 4 or 5 Slaves, but as far as I know only one lives with him.

In my world and my views Slaves are very needy, this is not true will all Slaves but I believe for the most they are. Some slaves can be independent when needed, while some do not want that independence. I prefer the later.

Being a Slave does not make one a Doormat either, being a Slave does not make one weak, being a Slave does not make one Dumb. Slaves are very strong willed.

So Arianna forwarded and email response and was seeking my approval before she sent it. As I was reading the email it really got me to thinking because I had heard all of this before, but maybe I did not listen as well as I should have. Some of it caught me off guard, but the entire email really impressed me.

Many of the people we meet in the lifestyle do not really understand how our relationship works. This sounds funny coming from Master’s and Slave’s

Just like at the Last MAST the first question I was asked is how do we argue? My answer was we do not argue we never have. When I make this statement and I have several times in a group. THERE HAS TO BE A BITCH IN THE HOUSE. As I am looking around I see the Jaws drop, mostly from Slaves and Submissive’s I live by those words, and I stick to them on a daily basis. Why would a Slave argue with their Master, more so why would a Master stand for it. If the two argue is it truly a M’s relationship?

I treat Arianna very well, as you will read from her email. I have the up most respect for Arianna as you will read. There is no abuse in our relationship as you will read. One thing I want to point out is you will see that we are a true Master and Slave, we live in a TPE Total Power Exchange relationship.

There has been a few emails from this other Slave but I am going to share one, and then Arianna’s response.

On Nov 16, 2013, at 10:48 AM, @aol.com> wrote:

OKAY!!!! you win. Just thought i got lost in that social calendar of yours……lol

my real name just for “us” not munchers ……:-0

 

is E some people call me LAINEY…….nowadays i seem to answer to alot of things……..lol

 

 

MASTER did not approve of slave name list so i am back to ground zero

 

i won’t be seeing him this week either    bummer all the way around.

 

 

So, what’s on your agenda for Thanksgiving i forgot  if you told me. do you cook? bake? Do you spoil your Sir? Does he spoil you?

 

Do you have vaniila family? DO they know? approve? Is it separate? mine would commit me…i couldn’t even explain.

 

 

i am a fabulous cook and baker . BUT since losing weight i don’t No temptation  for me. I seem to be a two note prson i want something in my mouth either or seems to do the trick.  so i’m not doing food anymore…….haha

 

 

No more discussion about the positions “Just keep practicing” i’m told. This is like the CIA need to know basis .

 

 

it’s the POLY part i guess cause you know how we women are …has to be difficult to keep evryone happy im sure its easy to keep everyone in line  but Happy ? that’s probably different. ???????? very  different. i like different  so this is all about trying new and living  for now and seeing everything i missed being a good little wifey……….

 

 

What does your day include ? Does your Master give you assignments? Do you ever meet him for sexy lunches?

 

Do you ever start things to surprise him? Does he have total power over that? What if you wanted to,  but he hadn’t initiated it?

 

What if he said  NO?  Would he make you beg? Could you seduce him into changing his mind?  Yes, i have been reading again? just curious……if too personal don’t answer. I am curious about some things that are involving slave Master things if i ask and you dont want to reply just say no comment E  go read. i won’t be offended i’m just trying to see if this is normal or weird? of course who can really judge what’s normal for one is weird for another but i guess i mean is it usual in the “life”.

 

but for the record i have no say in anything so far i just show up when told it’s 100% surrender of power. at this point i can have some passes on some things i’m scared of “still never done yet”-we discussed but once collared that goes away.

 

is that normal? slave/ MASTER stuff?

 

 

It looks like a day to be outside so i’m leaving now…..have a good one  take care beauty! from J, E, Rebekah,Jamsine,

 

Cassandra, ect ect ect……..OH the KING and i……….

 

 

As you can see there are a ton of questions. I suppose Master E instructed the Slave to write Arianna, because for one she is experienced , two Master E knows we are a true Master and Slave, three he knows Arianna will not cross any boundary’s. four Master E knows Arianna will be truthful.

 

Here is Arianna’s response.

 

 

My response is first. Her email is second.
This is unsent. Waiting for your approval. Master
Dear E,
Well E was one of my guesses so you have to give me credit there.
I’ll try and answer most of your questions. Forgive me if I miss a couple.
Thanksgiving- my mom, stepdad, adopted baby brother (he’s 11) and his friend are coming over to our house for dinner. My mom and stepdad know about my lifestyle although my mom doesn’t like hearing about it. She knows that our wedding and collaring ceremony was rolled into one and did not want to attend. That was fine because it would have made it awkward. Lol
Other than my parents, no one else in my family is aware although I wear my collar 24/7.
I do most of the cooking lately. Mainly because Master works more than me. He does spoil me though with surf and turf dinners and all the fixings sometimes. He enjoys cooking but just doesn’t have the time. Although he is the grill god. We grill at least once a week. My baking consists of boxed cakes and brownies. Hehe
My day…  Well when I get home from work, I must shower before Master gets home so I am all clean and ready for use if he so chooses. I have responsibilities of keeping the house, I do 95% of the shopping and cleaning and laundry. It’s not a big deal though. I think woman in general like to keep a clean house.
Each morning when Master and I have our coffee together I write a to do list which either gets approved, added to, or items vetoed. Master does not like me to get too tired and realizes that with me working full time that some things on the list may not get done. He will asterisk the important things.
Master wakes up with me at 3:40am on my work days. Everyday without fail. He will also talk to me in the phone during my hour commute. This is before he himself works a 9-11 hour day.
I am open to initiate serving him sexually. He likes when I ask to service him but sometimes the answer is no. He has total control over that. Most of the time it’s about him but if I ask I sometimes can play too.  I do not, seduce him. It’s really not an option because he is in control at all times. So if it happens then he so chooses whether I am putting on a show or not. He is the first man I met that doesnt think with his dick.  His no means no.
I also would be hard pressed to define what is “normal” in the lifestyle because there are so many variations.
I know that, for my Master and I, the collar means a commitment similar to a marriage. It a consensual agreement for me to be a servant to his wants and needs. I gave myself to him and trust that he will not push hard enough to break me. He does not want to harm his property but takes great care to make sure that I have my needs met. The wants, maybe. But my needs definitely are met.
That is the basis of our commitment to each other. I take care of his wants and needs and he gives me what he decides I need for ultimately he knows me best. He gives me structure and purpose. A guided hand to lead the way. Most of the information about our issues are on a need to know basis. He does not involve me in some things because he handles everything. I gave all my rights to him and I only have the rights that he allows me to have.
I ask for permission to use the restroom, and sit on furniture when we are together. When we are apart I can use the restroom at will but still not allowed on our furniture at the house except for the dining room table. Permission is needed to sit on soft things.  Lol
Permission is needed to enter and exit the bed. My Master controls my sleep, when I go to bed and if I get a nap. And When I shower.
Some of our rituals include me keeping journals of my activities. For example. When I leave the house I write down time and mileage in a book. He wants to know when I arrive some place and when I’m leaving. Permission is needed for any stop that I make if it’s not planned ahead of time.
I also keep a log of my activities when I am home alone. This includes times of things I do. For example, log how long it took to wash dishes, take a shower, when I put laundry in, clean the bird cage, vacuum, make the bed, etc.
I am considered micromanaged which isn’t for everyone. Most masters don’t want to be bothered with the details like that but it works for us.
There are things that I do without being asked. I greet Master at the door usually naked and in a kneeling/head to the floor. Arms stretched out position.
Sometimes when he leaves the room, I wait in a kneeling position for his return. I dry him off once he is out of the shower and kneel next to the tub when he’s in the shower. I help undress him after he gets home from work and lay out his clothes. I normally will pick his clothes out for him to wear out. He has full say over what I wear out although I get to give him options which he can overrule at any time.
He has say over the color of my nails and hair.
I wear a bracelet engraved WWVD- what would Vile do
This reminds me that my actions both public and private reflect my submission.
He has access to my phone which includes all texts, contacts, and emails. Basically he has full control.
Our communication though is like no other. He listens. Really listens and remembers every thought. He is inquisitive about how I’m feeling and what’s going on in my mind. I feel totally indebted to him and respect him galore.
Anyways…. I was kind of all over the place but hope that gave you an insight Into my slavehood. But this is only my own experience. Yours could be totally different.
Sincerely
Arianna.
When I read this I was just blown away. I am going to print it and save it, so when we are out at other functions and people ask, I will just say here read.
I do not think with my cock. I did that when I was a teen in my early 20’s maybe even very early 30’s ….. I run my house, I have the final say. This does not mean I never ask for advice or Arianna’s opinion because I do. Just like she stated most everything is on a need to know basis.
Arianna spoke the truth. I do get serviced anytime I wish but she does ask several times a day if she can service me. That is how you can tell if someone truly cares. Yes most of the time it is about me. I want to fuck bust a nut and go about what I was doing.  Her Body and mind belong to me. The same with her mouth pussy and ass, which I use when I wish, and I use how I want to. As you read I give a lot back, I just do not take. Arianna gives 150% while I give 200% that is on a daily basis.
Much Love to everyone who has stopped by. It is you the readers that keeps me going. I will have a website up pretty soon, so I can be more open, more so with the picture thing, but everything will be from my WordPress.
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Vile

 

You Want Something For Nothing

Posted in 24/7, Ass, bdsm, control, controlling, pussy, sex, slave, submissive, sucking cock, Testosterone on November 11, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Every Dominant in the lifestyle is different, we all think different, we all act different, we all have different needs and wants. We all expect our Slave to act a certain way.

Something I have learned over the years is every Dominant is right , and every Dominant is wrong, pretty confusing. You put five Doms in a room together and they will not agree on anything. The good news is most of us do get along and like me I have several who are close acquaintances, and a couple who are what I would call a friend.

While we are all different in many ways, in one aspect we are the same, we need the control, not just control over a slave but in life in general, our surroundings be it at home or out in public.  I can tell you if you have five Dominants in a room together you have more Testosterone than an Arnold Schwarzenegger convention , yes it is true.

You want to be the Dominant , you want to own a submissive or Slave, and along with that comes responsibility. It is never a one way street, the street does go both ways.  It does not take a Slave long to figure out that something is not right.

You want the Pussy, you want your Cock sucked, you want a cook, a house keeper, someone to do your laundry, but your not willing to put any effort back in to what your getting.

I have met a Dom just like this not long ago. Him and His baby girl are going through a break up. He is now trying to meet other slaves, and she is seeing a couple now. The biggest bitch he had when she left was who was going to do his laundry and cook for him.  Those two things were his main concern.

It takes a lot of work to keep a D’s or M’s relationship going, any relationship for that matter, if one is just taking and never giving it will not last.

The bottom line is pretty soon your wants no longer matter, live and learn, if not get out of the kitchen.

Vile

Our fetishes

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Adult Baby, Alt.com, Arianna, Ass, Baby Girl, bdsm, Collarme.com, communication, control, controlling, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Dominants, FaceBook, Fake Dominants, Fake submissive, Fetish, fetlife, Foot Fetish, Foot Worship, Honesty, Kink, kinky, Master, Mini Skirts, Old Guard, Old Leather Guard, Pony Girl, pony play, puppy play, pussy, rimming, self confidence, Self-Discipline, sex, slave, Spanking, Submission, submissive on November 5, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We all have our own fetishes, even if we do not admit it. We all get off on certain things, and at times our minds are more kinkier than we want to act out.

In our lifestyle we should never look down on someone because of their kinks or fetishes, we may not understand them, but it goes the other way as well someone else may not understand us.

When first meeting someone, there are somethings that are not best to share to soon. You should be careful with what information you give. One it could blow the whole thing, or two it could be used as ammunition later down the road when things go bad.

I have a bad ass fetish , I love to look, touch grab. Most of all I love anal sex, to me anal sex is the most submissive act there is, the most private part on the female body.

I have a short skirt fetish, I have almost broke my neck turning to fast to catch another glimpse. I am also a leg man I love a nice pair of legs, although they do look better on my shoulders.

The BDSM community has grown so much over the past 10 years or so, finely there was a place where people could be excepted and not be judged, or is that statement true ?

If you travel back in time to the late 60’s 70’s the Leather Guard Master And Slave, there were no Submissive. Then in the late 80’s and 90’s there was an explosion, the internet was a game changer people came to life, we could finely be who we needed to be.

Now you have puppy play , pony play , Daddy Dom and Baby Girl . Rubber fetishes , the list just goes on and on. We can be free and not be judged or is that statement really true ?

We are judged by the same people who live our lifestyle , we are judged by the ones who do not want to be judged. Why is this ? Because everyone has to be right.

That Master does not know what he is doing, or that Master is a FAKE , that Master cannot control his Slave, Or the best one is that Master cannot be real because he will not share.  Yea Ive heard that one before.

So when you first meet someone a Master meeting a new Submissive or Slave, a Submissive or Slave meeting a new Master you have to lay everything out on the table, but wait. Yes there is a BUT. These things should not be shared on the first meeting eh maybe even the second meeting. You should want to become friends first and for most.  Even when chatting and getting to know each other the topic of BDSM or limits or sex should not come up. If this does ladies you are just a piece of ass, and nothing more. I want to know you as a person, I want to become your best friend. Once you have got past that stage, then you lay your cards out, because if you do not, 3 months 6 months down the road these so called fetishes comes to light and guess what your partner is not game.

We as Dominant are suppose to be a different breed of men. We are secure by nature, we are not controlling by nature, we are self sufficient by nature, we are calm by nature. We indeed are a different breed. So if this is the case why do we not except others for who they are.  Every Dominant is different we all train different we all expect different things out of our relationship, we all have different goals, we all have different needs. .

Okay now there are a few good books out there for the BDSM lifestyle Master and Slave, but these books are one mans opinion, or a Slaves opinion. I am not to say what they believe is wrong or right, what they do works just fine for them. What I do works for me and Arianna.

I will tell you ladies something if you want to meet a real Slave meet mine Arianna, She can give you the definition of what living a Slaves life is all about. The one thing is we had an agreement prior to entering a relationship. She showed me her card I showed mine, there was no Bullshit. I will tell you this I do not negotiate, it is my way and my way only.  This does not mean I do not ask her for her opinion because I do. If there are any major decisions to be made we talk. Arianna is not a Doormat , nor is she stupid.

Be honest and upfront if someone does not like what you have to say, or they say no way would I think about doing that do not give in stand your ground. Be who you are and who you need to be.

Today we have a large number of BDSM site’s Collarme.com. More of a spam site, ALT.com use to because now you can only find Nigerian  slaves , you have FaceBook which can be awesome, and who could forget FetLife, every fucking kink in the world and you are not Bombed with spam.

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Vile

The Difference Between DD And BDSM

Posted in abuse, Advice, anal sex, anger, Argue, Arianna, Ass, bdsm, blow job, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Discipline, Dominants, Master, Mentor, Religion, slave, Submission, submissive on October 27, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

This week I have been raising some eyebrows with my post on a DD relationship and the abuse within. I am not saying every DD house is abusive but from the comments from some of my readers present and past abuse seems to run higher in a DD home Verses a D’s or M’s ran home.

Being a Dominant can take years to Master if you will, we just do not wake up one morning and say I am a Dominant, most of us know we are different at a very young age, just as a submissive does.

Another key element I would like to point out a younger Dominant will seek out a mentor most of the time, someone they can learn from, more so when it comes to any type of hands on play. It also took me years to Master the control I have and learn the difference between being in control and being controlling. It took me years to Master my anger, to think before I spoke. The words that come out of your mouth can do much harm.

There is no reason for a Man and Woman to stand toe to toe and argue, I look down on men who do so. That does not show any control. Remember we are suppose to be leaders, we are suppose to guide, give advice when needed.The Submissive has to gain trust before they will follow, and we must be able to maintain that trust.

In a years time I have punished Arianna one time and one time only. Why is this ? It breaks a submissive’s heart to know they have done wrong. There is no more pain a submissive could endure knowing they have messed up. A submissive or Slave strives to be the best they can be, they need to be the best at anything they do. Yesterday we had a conversaionI let it go back and forth a couple of times to see how far it would go and I just finely put my foot down in a nice calm manner and it was added to her rules. At her request.

I am not saying there are not some fucked up Dominants because there are, these are the ego driven  men, the fakes I speak about all to often. The ones who prey on those who are submissive because they see an easy piece of ass. So yes there are some fucked up Dominants.

I was not here to Bash and men who live a DD life, but if your going to stand and argue with your mate, something is really wrong.

I myself to not use spanking as a form of punishment, I have one time and that was just to get a point across and it worked.  If the one who is submissive enjoys being spanked why would you use that as a form of punishment. If you spank during play and you use it for punishment, this can and will confuse the submissive, not being able to separate the two.

Most DD homes are christian based while most BDSM homes are not, although I do know people in the lifestyle who do attend church on a regular basis.

I also believe that if you are raised in a DD home the male or female learns from the parents, and they will carry this over into their own relationship. So if they grew up in an abusive home the abuse will carry over. If the home was not abusive and full of love then what they have learned is carried over.

I believe a Dominant has a great deal of more responsibility within his home, we manage everything, some more than others and some more. As everyone knows Arianna and I live in a micromanaged home. I might point out this was at her request.

I do not believe all males in a DD home have the final say, I am not saying all do not, but I believe for the most they do not. I believe the woman plays a greater role when it comes to making decisions, so far I have only had one female respond to one of my DD blogs.

There is a huge difference when it comes to these types of relationships, more so when it comes to the kink. Although sex is not the main objective in our lifestyle it does play a role. I know in my relationship when it comes to sex the word no or I do not feel good does not come out of Arianna’s mouth. I can tell when she does not feel well and I leave her be. I can say there is not one day that passes that she ask if she can give me head, or my favorite was last night she asked if I wanted to finish in her ass, that drives me crazy.

I do believe in most cases Dominants in the BDSM lifestyle are in far more control.

Here is a comment one of my reader posted last night I have much respect for Gemini and her Dominant Joseph.

Dear Vile,

I find it hard to understand DD at times as I know myself and my Dominant are so in tune with each other that I can’t imagine him feeling the need to seriously administer corporal punishment for doing something so wrong that needed correcting. Even as a strong minded and principled individual I am also very placid and compliant with him and really could never see myself defying him to such a degree.

If there was something I disagreed with or vice versa, then we would have a discussion around that and come to some agreement and because I respect him and his views so much it is very likely I would comply. To me that is big part of being submissive in a D/s relationship.

I think I would feel as though our relationship would be failing if I was going against him and breaking rules so bad that corporal punishment was needed. In any case, I enjoy being spanked too much to make it part of our relationship to be dreaded because of my misbehavior. I also love and respect him too much to upset him to such a degree.

On the other hand, I do not see anything wrong in role playing DD and being taken in hand for being Master’s naughty little girl.

Thanks for the last couple of post Vile. I found them very interesting and thought provoking.

Gemini Xx

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I am done with this topic

Vile

I Own You

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Arianna, Ass, bdsm, Bestslavetraining.com, communication, Conform, Dominants, fucking, Honesty, Kink, kinky, Master, molding your slave, relationships, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on October 14, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I suppose our relationship within the lifestyle is viewed much different. In the vanilla world, your my girl, your my girlfriend , my main squeeze.

In the lifestyle you are my Slave, you are my Submissive. You are my Property. I own you. You are an object for my pleasure, and yes you are my bitch.

We all have pet names for our property, and there is nothing wrong with that, unless you ever use any of those names out of anger. I cannot imagine raising my voice to Arianna, for one it would be a total lack of respect, two it would show who is really in control, three it would be abusive. I have said this before if your a Dominant and your going to stand toe to toe and argue with a Submissive or Slave you own, someone you have collard then you need to rethink your position within the lifestyle. We are suppose to be in control. Losing your temper shows weakness, a total lack of control.

A Daddy Dom was talking to me about a week ago telling me how much his Baby girl and him argued , screaming at each other, and he was looking at me like I was suppose to give advice. I was dumb founded because I could not relate to him, I could not even imagine what the two were going through. I just told him to move out.

Sex is on my terms and my terms only. I fuck when I want. It is not to say I do not enjoy pleasing because at times I do, but when it comes to sex most of the time it is about me. There is not a day that goes by, that I am asked can I suck your Dick, not a day.  That in its self makes me feel good knowing she really cares, knowing she just wants to please.

A M’s relationship can be very rewarding, if we do not take advantage of what we have, if we do not abuse what we have. If we Dominants keep our word the rewards are great. The rewards continue and always will.

You the Dominant, you lay the ground work, you lay out your rules, your guidelines and you still to them, because if you lead they will follow, and as long as you keep your word, and you never do anything to break their trust they will always follow.

You the Dominant cannot carry any baggage, you cannot bring any drama into your D’s or M;s relationship. You cannot let your Ex run your life. Yea I have seen that all that I have just mentioned. .

I have a very good friend who is a Submissive, with a Daddy Dom I guess. We kinda had a falling out because I always put him down when we talked, so I stopped, not because I had to mind you, but because I could tell she was getting defensive. He entered the relationship with Baggage and Drama,. Even On Fetlife he would not acknowledge they were together nor would he even add her as a friend because of what his Ex might say or do. Not that Fetlife even matters, I know people who have to put their status up, and mention every time it is changed. Why would you enter a relationship with all of this shit piled up on your shoulders, why would you want to drag someone else through your troubles, why would you want to make their live just as miserable as you are, and expect them to stick around.

Before you say those three words. I OWN YOU, make sure you have your shit together, there is nothing worse than a whining little bitch of a Dom. If you cannot control your own life, how in the fuck can you control someone else.

When Arianna and I attend local functions like a Munch or a Mast. MASTERS AND SLAVES TOGETHER. People are amazed at how our relationship is, they are amazed at how we function as a team. At the last MAST it was about Slavery in the Roman times, and after the opening, I was asked to speak to share my opinion. I do speak up a lot, and during a break I get hammered with questions, these are people who have been in the lifestyle for a long time.

How do you do it ? That is the question I always get, once I start to explain and it seems like it is to much work or effort they lose interest very fast.

The Dominant runs his house his Slave Follows, you set your house rules. Up until about a week or so ago Arianna was not even allowed on the fucking furniture. Now most of you probably do not understand, and I will explain some of it.

While in training you have to limit the slaves space within the home, designated area’s in which the Slave is permitted to sit. This is part of giving them that Slave feeling. This is where some of your control comes in. Maybe you feel bad your sitting at the table eating and your Slave is sitting on the floor eating, maybe some Slaves or Submissives will disagree with me, and I am okay with that. We all have different ways, we are all different. There are many different levels of submission. Each submissive or slave has different needs.

I have Blogged before and have told many new Dominants one of your best sources of training is from a site called Best Slave Training, there is a huge amount of information, you can follow what he writes, take in everything, or mix a little of your own.

http://bestslavetraining.com/

A lot of awesome information , much of what is written I do agree with. I recommend this site to many new Dominants , submissive’s and slaves.

One thing I get asked about all the time is how do I do it ? My answer is always the same be true to yourself, and be who you are, and do not try to be someone you are not. Just like when you first meet someone new, most people are acting their best, yea putting up somewhat of a front. The bad thing is it does not take very long for the true colors to start coming out.

If your just looking for sex, and your just into the kink and getting pussy, be upfront about it. There is no need to lead someone on. If you get the pussy all is good, just don’t come running with the head games in the end you look stupid. If your just interested in getting some ass, say so. You never know she may let you hit it, honesty goes a long way. Be who you are, and be true to yourself, most of all keep your word.

Being a Dominant is no easy task it is a 24/7 365 gig, there are no days off, there are no time outs. If your just entering the lifestyle get the pussy out of your head, don’t get me wrong I love sex, just as much as the next. If your just in it for the ass you are missing out on so fucking much, the levels you are your partner can reach I cannot even describe.

My name is Vile I own my Slave. My Slave Happens to be my wife.  I am not even sure if I could begin to explain how our relationship work, but I would not trade places with anyone.

I am who I am, I do not bend or change who I am. Yes it is my way and only my way. This does not mean I do not value what Arianna has to say because I do. I will be the first to admit I do not have all the answers, far from it. I will be the first to admit when I make a mistake, and yes I have even apologized, not to many times but I have.

I do have it made, life is good, and I try and share my experience so others can have the same. It does not matter if you are a D’s couple or an M’s couple.

I can tell you this it is hard enough to find a good woman, what is really hard is finding a good submissive and slave. No one wants to end up alone. Just be true, be who your are, and stay honest. That is all you have to do nothing more.

If a Dominant finds someone he is interested in, if he has been in the lifestyle for any length of time, he should be able to adapt. He should be able to step in and take control. It is not hard it really is not. You being someone your not that makes it hard, that brings on your problems, that bring on the drama. It is so wrong to drag someone through your mud.

The one thing I fucking hate is when I hear a Dom tell me, well maybe I am not the one for her. The one thing I hear most of the time is I cannot control her. Well then you need to rethink your position within the lifestyle.

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Being A Slave Is Hard Or Is It ?

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Those who wake with an unknown feeling, a feeling of not being complete, they are not sure where these feelings arrived from or where their thoughts came from. They begin to do a lot of research in hopes of finding answers. Then they stumble across a BDSM site or erotic stories, and things become more clearer.

Then the search Dominant after Dominant until they find the right fit , the right connection, or after being played a couple of times.

I would imagine that giving up 100% of freedom could be a scary thought. Being told what to do, how to act, how to dress, how to speak, what to eat or cook, when to bath, when to go to bed, and then being punished for breaking a rule.

To go from your boyfriend begging for sex or begging to get his dick sucked, to someone just telling you to spread, or get on your knees. Maybe anal sex was off limits now there is no choice, you do it because your now owned.

These are big changes, these are huge changes.  These are changes you never would of even thought off until a year ago, or maybe they have been thoughts for a long time but you had no idea on how to put things into place.

It is not that the changes are difficult, scary yes difficult no. It is how you are brought through these changes, what actions are taking to get you to the point of where you need to be. I can tell you it is probably harder if not almost impossible if you know you are not truly cared for. Eh it works for a short period of time, but when reality hits you and you discover this dude is a piece of shit, you pack up move on and begin your search again, and maybe again, and again until you get it right.

Two key words come to mind, resistance and consistency. Almost every Slave will put some or a lot of resistance when it comes to submitting. It is not that they do not want to, they are scared and they have every right to be.

Consistency or being consistent this is where most Dominants fail. Why is this ? Because once in a relationship be it a D’s or M’s WOW this is fucking work, I actually have to put forth an effort if this is going to work. Keeping your cool staying calm, keeping your word, showing that you care, you listen, and most of all you communicate. If you as a Dominant miss any of these steps you will fail, and it is no ones fault except yours.

I have seen this time and time again, when it happens it is always the Bitches fault, yea she was a bad submissive, or a bad slave she would not listen or follow rules. Just listen to that last statement. Who’s fault is that now? The blame always goes on the Bitch. No it could never be me I am the almighty Master. It was not long ago I told a Dom he was a piece of shit and he should rethink his place within the lifestyle. We had a couple over for dinner not long ago when they left I told Arianna what the out come of their relationship would be, sure enough they are no longer together.

Be it a Submissive or Slave, we have to be able to get into their heads, we have to know what makes them think, their thought process, and I can tell you if your not true or you do not care it will not happen. Just look at the time you have wasted just because you wanted some pussy.

Resistance equals consistent one giving equals one caring, you cannot just take or demand. You as the Dominant has to earn every step you take. Respect you have to earn it is not something we can demand.

Most who are submissive or a slave are on some type of medication, why is this? I do not have a fucking clue, most who are a Submissive or Slave suffers some type of depression maybe Bi-Polar? Why is this again I do not have a fucking clue.  So we as Dominants cannot just step in balls to the wall, we have to put a plan together because we do not want to bring any harm to ours. Yea okay I look over some things nothing major but I do not just sit around hoping Arianna will break a rule, as a matter of fact she will do everything in her power not to break a rule. I set that Ass on fire one time and that is all it took.

We can never figure out why someone is depressed if you try your just wasting time. So instead we work with them, we try to somewhat understand but we will never fully. Go to doctors appointments with them study their medication. Most of all we do not want to push them over the cliff. I had a counselor tell me not long ago that she agreed with our lifestyle, and the way our home was ran was beneficial  to Arianna, and almost a year it has worked well, we have had a few ups and downs but more ups I can assure you.

Starting a new relationship the Submissive / Slave has a wall in place. What we have to do is take it down one brick at a time, while this is on going we are still hitting this resistance button , the reason that button is still there is the lack of trust. While most would like trust is not built over night. So again the same words, Consistency or being consistent this is where most Dominants fail. Why is this ? Because once in a relationship be it a D’s or M’s WOW this is fucking work, I actually have to put forth an effort if this is going to work. Keeping your cool staying calm, keeping your word, showing that you care, you listen, and most of all you communicate. If you as a Dominant miss any of these steps you will fail, and it is no ones fault except yours.

If you cannot control your Submissive or Slave Don’t put the blame on them, it was not them who failed it was us who failed them. We gave them false statements, we led them to believe something that was not true.

If you fail at communication, it is pretty much over. Most of the time a Slave will not volunteer and information, so we have to be willing to spend the time to communicate, if you really care this comes natural. Set aside 15 minutes a day so you can just sit and talk. Hold conversation over dinner, while driving. Communication is the main key, if your going to wait for them to spill their guts guess what? It will never happen.

There has to be an astronomical amount of fear when a Slave enters a relationship, they have no idea what to expect, more so if it is their first relationship. That is why you need a plan , and you need a back up plan, and another back up plan.

I was lucky when I met Arianna the resistance level was almost zero, even so I knew I had to stay consistent. The first ninety days is the tell , tell of everything. It will tell the slave if they are truly a slave and it will tell the slave if the Dominant is real.

Asking to sit at the Dinner table, not taking a bite of food before I do. Kneeling at the door when I return from work. anticipating my needs, kneeling in the bathroom while I shower, it goes on and on, but again the key word is consistency.

Rules some just fucking kill me, Rule one you must worship my cock. Rule 2 you must masturbate every night before bed while we are talking on the phone. Rule 3 you must send me nude pics everyday. Rule 4 you will never wear panties in my presence. You have seen and heard these rules. Rules are meant to be beneficial to a slave. We take old habits and make new positive ones. Yea some do call it training I have before, I like the word molding. We are molding someone to fit our needs, or training. We are taking someones life and turning it inside out. We are taking someone who once had a resistance factor and taking the word NO or i cant out of their vocabulary. Again this all comes with being consistent and in control.

The bottom line is, if we remain who we say we are, if we prove who we say we are, if we put ours first no matter what, if we take care of ours, if we do not abuse with a bunch of worthless rules, if we remain true and yes consistent then there is only resistance for a short time.

The Slave already knows who and what they are, they already know who they want to be, we just have to take one brick down at a time, brush our hands off and take their hand and walk with them.

We as a Master are expected to live by certain standards we have a creed we must follow, we must always be truthful when speaking. We must earn what we get.

The rewards for both are just amazing, it can be the most loving relationship you have ever known. The Master will want for nothing at all. The out come is what you make of it.

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