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BDSM And Mental Health

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, anxiety, Argue, Arianna, BBW, BDSM Hypnosis, Collar, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Depression, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, FaceBook Vile Woods, Fake Dominants, Honesty, Humiliation, Hypnosis, Lie, predators, Protocol, Rules, sadist, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, submissive or slave has rights, sucking cock, sucking dick on July 4, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

While it is true there are many who are Slave and Submissive’s in the lifestyle who do not suffer from any type of depression, anxiety, or anything else. It has been my experience over the past two decades that well over half of those I have met have falling under what I am going to speak about.

Before Arianna met me she had been with a couple of Dominants who were abusive, one more physical than the other. The one who was the oldest was more mental abuse, screaming yelling, keeping her up for hours at a time. While the other was more mental, he was the one I called the Hypno Dom.

He is local and uses hypnosis to lure his victims in. Now Hypnosis does not work with everyone, I know because I went to see one once before to try and stop smoking

On the other hand hypnosis does work on some, if the mindset is right. Picking those who are submissive and knowing one could have problems, or maybe even show signs of being lonely. I even consulted a couple of well known Dominants in the area, and it was pretty much Wow that sucks huh.
Well when it comes to rape, or really hurting someone physically to me is a huge deal. Arianna had taking a couple of good beatings from him before she caught on.

I mentor a submissive who lives in another country, and she has improved 1000 times over since we first met, and it was mainly just staying in touch and giving advice when she asked.
So she emailed me about this Dominant who was into mental sadism , I was thinking like wow really? Okay so I contacted him, and I asked if he knew she suffered from anxiety and depression? His answer was no.
So he was going to session with her not knowing anything about her or her mental state..

It is no secret that Arianna had a break down not long after we had met, it was something that was a long time coming, and things were just piling up, and it was like a Volcano.

I do try and make all of Arianna’s appt with her, and yesterday was one, and as the Doctor walked out to welcome Arianna, she looked and said oh your here. Yes I am I thought.
So there were a few changes, and I asked a thousand questions. I wanted to know why, how, what for, and why again. Yea she loves me.

Her doctor knows of our lifestyle as well, we had never come right out and said anything but I am sure she knows what the collar is around Ariannas neck.
I forget what was said but she made the comment that rules and structure were good to have in a home.

I am not going to go down a long list of medications, but I just want to touch on a few things.
If someone is taking medication for depression you as the Dominant need to know why, the same with Anxiety . How long have they been on medication?
At what age did they start? What was the family upbringing like? What was school like? You need to know the submissive inside out ,and then outside in.

So what if this Mental sadist was to of had a session with this Submissive who is bipolar, suffers from depression, and anxiety, not having a clue about her mental state. Lets say he started off playing some mind fucking games, moving into a little pain, all while she is bound, gagged, and blindfolded.
Do you really think he was going to care about the aftermath . The same with the Hypno Dom, who preys on weak women…

Before I say anything else, not every submissive , or slave suffers from anything, there are those who wake up perfectly normal. There are those who do not need to see doctors. To those I say you are very lucky.

Above is the abuse I have been talking about for so long. If you meet a Dominant and he is not asking these question, you are not going to volunteer any information in fear of rejection. If he is not asking questions wanting to know the real you, and he is just interested in your kinks, or demanding you call him Sir. Yea you know.

Although you want to share your life, you do not want to spill your life out in one sitting, this can also make you a target. You should however share information about any medications your on and why you are taking them, how long you have been taking them, and why.

Once I learned about Arianna, I did have a little help as well, that was her journals I read, it took me over 8 hrs to read everything. The training plan I had in mind prior was much more strict , I probably would of seemed more distant in someways. I was not looking to hurt anyone mentally or physically, I was looking for a partner and slave.

When you first meet a Dominant and the first couple of days are just sexual, and he is not trying to get to know you as a person, do you really think he has your best interest in mind?

Here is the number one problem this is to those who are new. You believe anything your told,and you feel you do not have the right to ask questions.

I know when I first meet someone I want to know them inside out, because if you dont and you have a real intense session, and the Dominant dose something to cause a break down, the first words out of his mouth is , Well I didn’t know.. You did not tell him, or he did not ask, there is the lack of communication maybe on both parts, it is not always the Doms fault.

A submissive told me the other day she had suffered from depression but no longer took her meds, she said she was cured and no longer needed them. She came to this conclusion on her own, and the Dominant who I take is a Doctor agreed with her. If he was not a doctor he would of taking different steps I would think. You cannot play with someones well being, you cannot play with someones mind, or their emotions.

All it really takes is you sharing very important information, you the submissive has the right to say no I am not going to do that, or you are not going to do that to me. You have that right. You have the right to have what was promised, you have the right to walk away when you are being abused or lied to.

If the Dominant your with does not care about your safety , then he is not the one for you. If the Dominant does not care about your well being then he is not the one for you.

Move on…

love

Vile

My Blog Is About Kink, Safety and the Love Of My Life Arianna.

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It is hard to believe I have reached over 800 post. I truly enjoy blogging it is my own little world. A place I can come to and be myself, be who and what I am. Not that I hide anything out in the vanilla world because I do not, but here I am truly me.

My 800 or so post are mainly about the BDSM lifestyle, safety, what slaves and submissive’s need and should look out for when looking for a new Dominant, Master or Daddy.  The do’s and the Dont’s what to look out for and the questions you need to ask.

To live in a Broken home is not the life you want, to be abused is not the life you want, to be lied to is not the life you want.

You have to remember everything I tell you is from a mans point of view, many of you may not agree with me, I would not expect everyone to agree with me. I can say this I speak the truth. I have been the user, I have been the abuser. I have used just for my pleasure, and tossed to the side. In the past I have fucked women and could not even tell you their name the next morning. I have fucked and when finished they were told to get the fuck out. I have giving out collars on the first meet. What you have to remember the collar is a powerful tool, it can be a tool of deception. It can be used to just to use you, and this has happened to many of you.

800 post almost 200.000 visitors, and over 4000 comments, and a few friends so things are not to bad. People who read my blog are from all over the world. The middle East, the US, Asia , Africa, the UK , I will post the different countries tomorrow the numbers are astonishing

There are many who visit and do not comment, I am assuming that since most who follow me are women, it is the same with the readers. Most wish to remain anonymous and just read my thoughts, and my opinions, and that is fine.

There are those I am sure who read who only wish of such a life, or maybe there are those who cannot believe that there is even such a life. There are those who want to fully submit, but cannot communicate with their partner.

There are things from my early years I do not wish to share. There are things I am not proud of, and as I look back there are things I would not of done.

I can say this and I say this with great truth, I have never hurt anyone physically , I have always honored a safe word and I have never done anything that was not asked for, or that was not communicated

So in my kinky world I come down hard on married men, these are men who cannot run their house. Their wife will not take it up the ass so they find someone who will. They find someone they can use.

I point out the fake Doms, Masters and Daddy’s who want to be a leader so bad but they do not have a clue because again they do not know how to run their home, or they see submission as a weakness.

I have talked about Domestic Discipline and how I believe there is abuse within the home, not all but for the most. I say this because I have talked and chatted with women who live in a DD home, this is not just something I pulled out of my ass.

I have talked about the dangers of impact play, and how you can get hurt. I have blogged about where it is okay to hit and where not to. You can get hurt.

I have blogged about bondage, and yes you can get hurt if not properly tied. You can damage muscles and tendons if you do not know what your doing.

I have blogged about how communication is a must during play, and the need to know what is going through their minds.

I have blogged about the power of mind fucks, and how it can benefit the relationship, or even carry you to the point of sub-space. A good mind fuck can be very erotic.

I have blogged about a topic I truly enjoy, Sexually Broken. Being tied up to the point you cannot move, and being used in every hole. Moving from the mouth to the pussy, then to the ass. I call it three hole golf.

I have talked about how I run my house, my rules, my protocols. My love for total control, and having the ability to control my property, my own. Living with and being married to my wife, my slave and my property.

I have blogged a great deal about hypnosis and the benefits it could have in a relationship, and this is a subject I am still pursuing. We have invited someone over to teach, only to find out he thought he was going to get some pussy. No one fucks my slave but me.

I have blogged about my love for Anal sex, and how I believe it is the most submissive act a woman can take part in. You are invading the most private part of a female body.

I have blogged about my love for face fucking, this falls under the control factor. Most of the time when I am getting head I don’t even want to cum , it just feels so fucking good, I want it to last for ever. When I do want to cum. I grab a hand full of hair and I control the rhythm.

I have blogged about the love of my life, Arianna, my first breath when I wake and my last thought before I fall a sleep. My universe, my world. She is truly my drive in life.

Our relationship is micromanaged, I invest a great deal of time making sure our relationship runs smoothly. Being a Dominant is not a 9 to 5 job it is 24/7 365. Although I do put a great deal of time and effort into our relationship, the rewards I receive come back 100 times over.

I have blogged about our new journey into the world of poly. How I believe it would benefit Arianna. As many of you have noticed, I have not said anything about how such a relationship would benefit me. That is because I am not thinking about me.

Then after a great deal of thought I moved to the idea of a Triad, moving away from the poly idea, because most who are poly are not loyal to just a home, or two.

If you have noticed the subject of sex within a triad has not come up, mainly because that is not my train of thought. Because my main focus is on Arianna, but here is my thoughts. In time with in a Triad sex would come up. My way of thinking would be to find someone who was not open to things that Arianna is. Such as Anal sex, or rimming, or a foot fetish like Arianna has.  These would be things exclusive to Arianna. She would be the only one who could offer these things.

I am not looking for another Slave, we are looking for a submissive, someone to be Arianna’s best friend, to do things with. She wants to take art classes, while I have no interest I would go and take part in. Events they have downtown on the weekends, to help out around the home. While I do help when I am off, it would be nice to have someone around to help.

So my train of thought has nothing to do with the sexual aspect of how we would live with a third. If you are wanting to bring someone into your home with the thought of your getting more pussy, it will never work.

I believe if you do bring a third in , there are things that should be kept exclusive to Arianna. This is what separates the two relationships, it separates the Slave and Submissive.

My standards are very high, if you have seen Arianna or read her blog you would know this, and I refuse to lower them.

We are still in the talking stages trying to piece things together.  I can say this in the end Arianna has the final say, and I will go with what ever she says.

A D’s home an M’s home if ran correctly and the Dom or Master follows through with his word, can be a very loving home, a well structured home.

The Dominant or Master not only have to implement but he has to follow through. He must remain consistent and remain consistent on a hourly basis, a daily and weekly basis. Then and only then will the home grow.

It has been almost two years since the Kinky World Of Vile was born, and I shall continue for sometime. I will continue to give advice, talk about abuse, and most of all My life with the love of my life Arianna.

If you invade my home I will shoot you, and in the end I would take a bullet for Arianna, I am her sole protector. If she needed a heart to survive she has one right here, because I would give without question

This is the kind of home and love I want everybody to experience. I can tell you when I hold Arianna I can feel our souls embracing , I can feel the warmth, most of all I can feel the love.

Submission is the greatest gift of all do not abuse what is giving.

Much Love to all and those around the world.

Image Submission is the gift that will keep on giving.

Vile

A New Slave Has Come To Light

Posted in 128 Basic rules, abuse, Baggage, bdsm, BDSM Hypnosis, controlling, Discipline, Drama, Fake Dominants, Health, life, molding your slave, Protocol, Rules, slave, submissive on December 4, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

I told everyone not long ago I was seeing someone. The relationship is really starting to take off. Things are going well. She comes with no Drama, really no baggage , very smart, a nice career , takes good care of herself, very beautiful, inside and out, and incredible to be around.

It is really hard to find someone you are compatible with in the lifestyle. Some will bend or even give up some of the things they cherish when it comes to needs. We all know this does not work.We have to be who we are, and be with someone who excepts us for who we are.

I will be the first to admit I am not the easiest man or Dominant to live with. It is not that I set up for failure, that is far from the case. I want a slave to excel , I want her to be all she can be. I want to support her in anything she wants to do.

There are many slaves more so those new to the lifestyle who are led down a road of destruction, those who are just used and abused,and when they are no longer useful, they are tossed out like a bag of garbage. Waiting to be used by the next, because the slave knows no better.

I can imagine it must be pretty confusing to a slave who cannot find normal ground to stand on, and thinking there has to be more to what I need.

I am very positive this will work. I have looked for over a year, for the right one. The one I click with. The one I can have conversation with, the one who enjoys having the right to open communication. A slave who was able o sit down, and express her needs.

I have told everyone I am old school, a lot of younger Dominants do not agree with me on a lot of things. Times change, people change. I am not a man of change. I refuse to be someone I am not.

Many subs or slaves that follow me here, most think I am out of touch. I was chatting with Gemini the other day, and just from reading my blog she had me pegged, on who I was and what I needed in a relationship.

When a slave enters a relationship she is looking for certain things to make her complete. Number one is structure. Two someone who is honest. Three someone who truly cares for them. Four. someone who is not abusive, be it physical , mental, or verbal. Five Consistency, stay one track be who and what we say we are.   A slave or submissive never really ask for a lot. So we as Dominants should be able to step up to the plate.

I remember first entering the lifestyle, young and dumb. Full of ego. When I spoke to a slave she asked what rules would be in place, not knowing any better, I would copy and past the basic 128 rules. Those who had been in the lifestyle anytime , they knew I did not have a clue. Those rules have been a joke for years.

Well it seems today their are those Dominants out there that are still using these rules. Tish’s last Dom used them, who had been in the lifestyle for 20 years. Married to his slave of course. Took away a few and added a few of his.

How in the fuck is a slave suppose to remember 128 rules, and not break one. In my opinion rules are meant to be about positive reinforcement, to help, to guide, not to set up for failure.

Then the almighty Hypno Dom, I posted about yesterday. He preys on new subs and slaves because they do not know any better.  This is not the slaves fault, it happens.

So the slave continues to seek out the one who meets her needs. It may take a few mistakes before making that connection. The end result is truly life changing, when you find the right one.

 

Vile

BDSM Hypnosis

Posted in bdsm, BDSM Hypnosis, Hypnosis, Self Hypnosis on August 13, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

This has always interested me, for many reasons, not just using for sex but for self improvement. Being able to change ones habits, for the better, self improvement, to just down right kinky. I ran across this article and wanted to share.

I have been looking for someone to teach me how to use Hypnosis, as with anything it is extremely hard to find someone real or reputable. It could be used for a lot of good.

There is also self Hypnosis I have been studying. I meditate daily, but self Hypnosis, I believe you could take yourself to great places, as well as self improvement…

Hypnosis and BDSM do go together, if only for it to be used as a training tool or part of a scene between consensual adults. Before we go any further, what exactly is hypnosis? There are several definitions that I would like to share with you to show the wealth of diversity in how people view hypnosis.

Wikipedia defines it as follows:

Often thought to be “a trance-like state that resembles sleep but is induced by a person whose suggestions are readily accepted by the subject.”

Other definitions are:

  1. The by-pass of the critical factor of the conscious mind and the establishment of acceptable selective thinking.
  2. A state of mind that allows the subject to more easily accept suggestions.
  3. A way to communicate with the subconscious mind.

Source: “The Handbook of Brief psychotherapy and Hypnoanalysis” written by John A. Scott, Ph.D and other opinions given by people trained in hypnotherapy.

Your mind is divided into two parts. You have a conscious and a subconscious mind. You use your conscious mind actively and this is the part of the mind that helps you to solve problems, judges whether something is right or wrong, will attempt to create change like dietary changes and can be seen as your RAM. Your conscious mind is that part of your mind that houses short term memory and will help you be more effective at all of the above tasks on a daily basis.

You also have the subconscious mind. This is where your “personality” and behavioral patterns and origins are housed. The subconscious mind does not like change and will fight suggestions to the contrary. This is also where your long-term memory is housed. Your emotions are here and will be activated by the conscious mind experiencing an event that would normally trigger a specific emotion. Your habits are housed here since your core beliefs are also here and influence any habits, emotions or judgments you might have. Your subconscious also protects you from any form of danger.

A suggestion like wanting to go on a diet to lose weight is easy to reject because it would have to change habits and emotions and programming would be required to change any of these – that means work, and we have already stated that the subconscious does not like to work.

During hypnosis you are in a trance and you allow yourself to be more susceptible to changes or suggestions to change by the establishment of triggers. You cannot be hypnotized if you do not want to be. There are a few factors that have to be present when hypnosis takes place for it to be successful. These would include trust in the hypnotist, not being afraid of hypnosis and understanding what hypnosis is. I would also add that you would need to know that the person hypnotizing you knows what he or she is doing and has been trained.

Why are people afraid of hypnosis then? What makes them think that it is a sinister thing that they should avoid at all costs? Some think that they will lose control of their mind. This is not possible since your subconscious is so strong and will protect you at all costs. Some think that they won’t get out of the induced trance. The answer to this is that people do come out of a trance since there is a technique to help them achieve this and the subconscious will not allow itself to be pushed too far and will wake you up from the trance should you feel unsafe.

No one can make you do something against your will, since willpower is not stronger than the subconscious mind and you are aware of what is being done to you during hypnosis all the time. You can and do hear every single word during hypnosis unless your subconscious mind has been “told” to “not hear” and only “do”. This requires trust though as mentioned previously and will only happen if you allow it. It is safe when a trained person is hypnotizing you. You will remember what has happened if you have been told to do so during hypnosis and could also find yourself not remembering depending on how deep the trance was.

Will you divulge secrets while under hypnosis? No, you will not reveal anything your subconscious mind does not want to. Now that your fears have been addressed, what can hypnosis be used for in BDSM?

A properly trained dominant can use hypnosis and hypnotherapy to do any of the following:

  1. Change the submissive or slave’s habits
  2. Examine emotions of the slave or submissive
  3. Examine trauma, the origins of emotions, past experiences and offer healing a step at a time
  4. Examine and replace past beliefs that lead to a submissive or slave thinking about something in a way that does not seem rational or logical
  5. Improve a submissive or slave’s behavior by having the person visualize the behavior and the reaction of the dominant to that behavior before visualizing the right behavior and the consequences of that
  6. Reduce stress and other problems
  7. Build self image

All the above is training tools and can help the dominant to help the submissive or slave grow in how they serve and how they relate as human beings. The submissive or slave must want it as well for it to work though.

The dominant can also create a scene while hypnotizing a submissive or slave and can have that submissive do certain things during the scene using suggestions e.g. telling a submissive that he or she is bound tightly when in fact he or she is not in order to create the illusion that bondage is being used when the submissive has problems with longer term bondage because of health problems. Another example is using hypnosis to help alleviate fears about certain types of play like for instance needle play. The needle could be a real fear for a submissive and taking the submissive or slave through several steps of first recognizing where the fear is coming from, then looking at that belief, changing the belief, creating a scene in the mind of the submissive and reinforcing the belief that the needles are not dangerous and are pleasurable. This could take several sessions under hypnosis though.

Dominants could also play with the submissive by suggesting things like having a clitoris in his or her hand and pleasuring the hand by gently stroking it.

Bea Amor, Yahoo! Contributor Network
Sep 18, 2008