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The Slave

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, A Slave Is High Maintenance, Acceptance, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM 24/7 Relationships, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationship Negotiations, BDSM Rules, Building a BDSM Relationshp, Collar, Collared Slave, commitment, communication, compatibility, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, Dominant, emotional, http://bestslavetraining.com/, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Inservice Slave, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Mental BDSM, Micromanagement, positive reinforcement, Private Protocol, Protocol public, Protocols, Punishment, Slave, Slave Owned Property, Submission, submissive, TPE, Training Arianna, Vile Woods on FaceBook, viledesires62@aol.com on February 22, 2016 by thekinkyworldofvile

I never pressured Arianna to call me Sir or Master , I waited because such an honor is clearly earned.

I loved the steps I took in building a relationship, I loved watching the relationship grow, but I also knew in order for it to be successful I had to be who and what I was.

I wanted Arianna to ask , and I waited for that question. Will you be my Master, I knew then I was on the right path.

Although we spoke of training and what our goals were , yes hers and mine , I did not go into any great detail and only answering questions when they were asked.

By earning ones respect you get so much more than trying to demand submission. You can demand submission but your not getting the whole picture nor are you entering a true relationship with any meaning.

A slave is not weak a slave is strong in mind body and soul, however a Slave does have different needs and goals, along with a different type of structure.

I had a strict 90 day plan in hand and I began training without a word. The one thing that made me stop and think was there was absolutely no resistance this was something I had never experienced. Today our relationship requires only daily maintenance , as with any other relationships just on a different level.

There are many definitions today when we try to define a D’s or M’s relationship we are all different and we have different needs.

Although Arianna may be my wife, best friend and partner she is property first, she wears a collar 24/7 that shows my ownership, I can proudly say it has been over 3 years she she has been collard and it has not been off one time. She wears her collar proudly and yes this includes work. Before entering a relationship that was a strict requirement of mine.

Many today do not take the collar serious , it is worn during play , when out to local functions, or when company comes over that is the only time it has any real meaning. If that is your lifestyle that is fine it fits you…

Although we train and we train to fit our needs  , we also have to take the slave into consideration. We need to set goals, we need to insure our property fully understands what is about to happen. We need to insure their needs are met on all levels, many would like to think it is a one way street but that is so far from the truth.

I myself take the collar very serious , it is a sign of ownership, it is a sign of devotion, it is a sign of submission, again do not take this wrong this is only my opinion.

Master/slave

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

In BDSM, Master/slave or M/s is a relationship in which one individual serves another in an authority-exchange structured relationship. Unlike Dominant/submissive structures found in BDSM in which love is often the core value, service and obedience are often the core values in Master/slave structures.[1] The participants may be of any gender or sexual orientation. The relationship uses the term “slave” because of the association of the term with ownership rights of a master to their slave’s body, as property or chattel. While male “masters” will usually be referred to as “Master,” whether or not female Masters are referred to as “Master” or “Mistress” may depend upon whether they identify as following the “Leather” or BDSM path.[1]:27-30

The Master/slave (or owner/property) relationship is entered into on a consensual basis, without the legal force of historical or modern non-consensual slavery, that is forbidden by the laws of most countries.

Respecting ones limits be it physically or mentally , knowing the limitations , knowing just how far you can go and still remain in control. Fixing problems before they become problems.

The feeling of security , the feeling of being wanted , the feeling of being needed, but most of all the feeling of being able to trust and respect.

In the beginning when the relationship is defined , what is expected , the rules and protocols, once everything is in place we as Masters cannot change things up a year later, many times going back on your word can be a deal breaker. There are times when something may need to be changed but I feel it needs to be explained in detail how it would benefit the home.

Training is changing the thought process , training is changing habit and replacing them. If you sit and think if done right you can create the perfect partner, that is the easy part , the hard part comes with maintaining it.

The training would include verbal , physical , mental, emotional , and at times rituals this is where structure comes into place. In my Master , slave or Owner , Property structure plays a huge part as with rituals , rituals become rules, protocols become rules.

Although I do feel punishment is needed that is not my main focus, I do not sit around and wait on Arianna to break a rule, she knows when she breaks a rule, which I can say has only happened once in 3.5 years. Positive reinforcement and communication plays a huge roll in any relationship.

Breaking someone to the point of feeling worthless , constant humiliation , abuse mental and physical , remember if you break it you have to fix it. I am more than sure the end result is not something you would want in a lifetime partner.

Training comes in a few different areas , be it service , sexual,  how to speak in public what to wear , how to talk , how to communicate with people or who not to communicate, who to hug or who you shake hands with ,how much do you want to control? We live a Owner Property relationship , a consensual relationship , consensual being the key word. Make no mistake I run and control everything in my home.

Just make sure who ever you are considering make sure they have your best interest in mind..

 

 

 

Training Is On Going

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, are you submissive, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationship Negotiations, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Slave, BDSM Slave training, BDSM Structure, commitment, communication, compatibility, control, Dominants, Domme, FaceBook Vile Woods, Master And Slave, Rules, slave, Submission, submissive, Train your slave, Training Arianna on October 25, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

You read you hear the word Training on a regular basis. You hear how some have been trained , you hear about those who want to be trained and why they want to be trained.

I have found over the years even though I had a mentor , I had some training I had to go through , more of a self training , things I knew I had to make improvements and different areas ..

At one time I had a very bad temper , it took me years to get it under control, it took me years to learn how to channel anger into positive thoughts. This was a must after all if I could not control myself how was I going to control someone else?

The first thing a Dominant will tell you is he is in full control, then comes the screaming and yelling calling you a stupid bitch, or at times even getting physical.

At times I have to make changes to Arianna’s daily activities , maybe adjust a rule a protocol , I change something up. I may see an area that needs improvement. I make the change many times without even saying anything, or her even knowing, that is how well I know her.

Just as a submissive’s or Slaves training is ongoing our role as a Dominant or Master is ongoing as well. I know on a daily basis there is something I learn, I want to gain more knowledge be it about life in general or about the lifestyle.

There are three major downfalls when it comes to any relationship, the first being communicating, second Trust and third anger issues, and for anyone to Master all three is nearly impossible.

Past relationships can cause your current relationship to crash and burn, if you bring either of these three with you. Being able to freely communicate is so important, the Dominant must allow theirs to openly communicate about anything without fear of retribution, if you cannot then maybe you need to rethink your current relationship.

There are those who crash and burn their relationship on purpose, I have a friend who has told me several she will purposely sabotage the relationship, just because things are going to good… I suppose this stems from past relationships that included abuse.

If I cannot control myself , if I cannot control my emotions , if I cannot control my temper , then how can I control someone else ? If I cannot control my own life, if I cannot make the correct decisions , if I cannot show respect , if I cannot be truthful , if I cannot be honest ? Then how can I expect someone to submit to me ?

The tables turn when it comes to the submissive or slave, you have to be upfront, you have to be able to communicate, you have to be honest , truthful, but most of all you have to want.

I would imagine or I know being Dominant or Submissive without knowing what or who we are can be pretty confusing. I knew early on I was different but until my early 20’s I never gave it much thought. I assumed every woman wanted to be tied up, spanked and fucked in all holes without asking. I saw women as an object to be used just for pleasure, and in some cases even a hobby.

Once you start being able to figure everything out most things begin to fall into place, then meeting people with the same interest. That was the time and point I started to grow , slowly putting the pieces of the puzzle together..

What makes the lifestyle so awesome is we find our own place in life we need to be, it allows us to be who and what we are. It allows us to open up , communicate and share with others. I know for the longest I felt pretty lost not really having anyone to talk to, or sharing my thoughts with anyone.

Even dating It was hard to express my feelings and emotions when I did not even know what was going on inside my head, and there were not many woman who understood me.

What I have learned over the years is to try and understand others, while I may not agree we should take the time to learn when it comes to different kinks and fetishes. Today it seems we are to quick to judge others instead of trying to understand.

It was not until my early 40’s it hit me when thinking how training really hit someone , you actually change someones way of thinking, you change the way one acts, talks, walks and the way one dresses. You take things away and give as you see fit. We guide , we train , we give rules , we give the promise of being there , we communicate and yes at times we punish. This is a lot of responsibility , this is a huge task , and at times staying on task can become a task.

Over the years I made mistakes, I made a lot of mistakes and I made some over and over.  Something I never did though was blame someone else, I knew when things went south it was my fault, but by the time you catch the mistake it is to late to take control again, mainly because the sub as seen that side of you.

You can only train someone if they want , need and are serious, if the sub is just going through the steps you are wasting your time and neither of you are able to reach your goals. I always started out with small task to see what the frame of mind was. I was and did not intend to go through the motions just to get my kicks, my time was way to valuable..

What type of Dominant are you looking for, maybe a Daddy , a Top a Dominant a Master all of these are things you need to consider. If your a Baby Girl why would you enter a relationship with a Master ? If your a Bottom why would you enter a relationship with a Dominant ?

What makes you a Baby girl ? What makes you a submissive or a slave ? What makes you just a Kinkster ? The Dominant or Domme should ask the same questions , what role does one want to fall into, where is the best fit, how much responsibility or control do you want..

What do you want out of being trained ? What are your goals ? What are your needs ? Has the training process been explained to you ? What does the Dominant want out of your training ?

The question is , What Do You Want To Do With Your One And Only Life ?

viledesires62@aol.com

focused

Vile

 

 

I am working on several post and a new interview is coming

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationships, BDSM TPE Relationships, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, slave, submissive, training your slave on June 12, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have been super busy with work , my hours have changed at work , which really sucks canal water but all is good.

Our second wedding anniversary is coming up here in a couple of days.

I have a new interview I will be doing here pretty soon…

I actually have about 15 drafts waiting to be finished….

I am also going to talk more about Arianna and I still thinking about forming an awesome Triad..

I am also going to cover more about Arianna’s Training

Much love

Vile

Fetlife = Drama

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Structure, communication, Dominant, Dominants Protocol, fetlife, Fetlife Groups, fucking and sucking, kinkster, Master And Slave, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on May 1, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Everybody is wrong , but at the same time everybody is right, everyone has the answer, everyone knows what is best for you or how fucked up you are and you need to just call it quits and stay home and be a hermit.

The only people who know your wrong are those telling you how stupid you are, they all have to be right , right ? Or maybe just maybe they are the ones who are fucked up and your the smart one for asking questions ?

One question was and believe me no question is stupid but one question. How do you maintain your Head space between being a submissive and living in the Vanilla world.
What the fuck these people just started Bashing this girl to no end , Arianna pointed it out to me and I could not believe the remarks I was reading. It is no wonder not only people but those who are new to the lifestyle are scared to even ask what fucking time it is..

Why do some like to swallow ? why do some loving sucking cock? while there are those who refuse. Why do some love anal sex and can cum while being fucked in the ass while there are those who refuse to give up the ass ?
Why do some get off on pain while there are others who want no part of it? Why are some just into kink but not the lifestyle ? Why are some Baby Girls who want Daddy Doms , while others are submissive but only in the bedroom ? Why do some want to be 24/7 while others just want a fuck buddy ? Why do some want to live as a slave and give up total control ?

The list goes on and on and on and on , it is never ending and it will continue to grow. You know I do not understand why someone would want to be a pony but I think it is cool as fuck.

The thing is no one is wrong , you cant do that ? Well who in the fuck are you to tell me what I can and cannot do ? Which bill are you paying this month.
The funny thing is these loud mouth no it all’s are the ones who are single.

What I do not understand I try and learn , instead of putting people down I try to understand which is not always easy. One thing no one can change is we are all different , we all come from different walks of life and we all have different needs.
Sometimes it take some a little time to find their fit , where they belong.

I myself cannot believe the amount of disrespect a lot of subs and slaves show on Fetlife , it makes me wonder if their Dominant , Daddy or Master knows the things that are being said.
The Baby Girl , the Submissive , the Slave is a direct reflection of your owner. The way you act in public , in a chat room , or on a post reflects directly on your owner. It is also a direct reflection of your training if any training at all.

Most of the Doms or Masters who tell others they are wrong or they do not know what they are doing are in fact single. The Internet Kings trying to tell others how someone should be living.

We will never understand everyone , we will never understand others kinks and non kinks , but we can all try to understand and maybe learn from others.
I do try and keep an open mind , I enjoy reading how others live and what they have to share.

Social groups would be much more enjoyable and a lot less drama if people would jut try to understand.

gene

vile

Master And Slave Behavior modification

Posted in 24/7, Adapt, adapting, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationship Negotiations, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Slave training, BDSM Structure, BDSM TPE Relationships, Behavior Modification, cock sucking, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominants Protocol, FaceBook Vile Woods, Giving Head, Gorean Portocol, https://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2015/02/10/life/, Manipulation, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, owning a slave, provocative, Rules, Self-Discipline, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, Total Power Exchange, Total Submission, Train your slave, Training Arianna, training your slave, Training your submissive on April 25, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have covered this before , but I would like to go into a little more detail. I am not by any means an expert , nor do I have a PHD. What I do have though is almost 25 years experience in the BDSM lifestyle. I have played many different roles , the only thing I have not done and never will is be in the submissive role.
Some will argue you have to be submissive before you can be a Dominant and I find that statement to be complete hog wash. I have filled the Sadist role, I have been a Daddy Dom , A Dominant and a Master , owner of Property. Each role is very different , each role needs different care , but what they all have in common is they all require communication and honesty.

I have done years and years of research, met thousands of people in the lifestyle some good and some bad , some real and some fake. The one thing that is for sure you have to take your relationship serious. You have to know without a doubt what type of relationship you need , not want.

Behavior modification
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
For the journal, see Behavior Modification (journal).

Behavior modification is the traditional term for the use of empirically demonstrated behavior change techniques to increase or decrease the frequency of behaviors, such as altering an individual’s behaviors and reactions to stimuli through positive and negative reinforcement of adaptive behavior and/or the reduction of behavior through its extinction, punishment and/or satiation. It is similar to operant conditioning but with the absence of the antecedent. Behavior modification is now known as Applied behavior analysis (ABA) which is more analytical than it used to be..

http://www.livestrong.com/article/234171-examples-of-behavior-modification-plans/

Basics

Behavior modifications plans will vary depending on the individual and the behavior or behaviors that need to be changed. Behavior modification plans will include reinforcers, which are consequences that increase the behavior, and/or punishments, which are consequences that reduce the behavior.

Here comes a word I bring up in just about every post, can you spot it ?

Consistency

When developing any type of behavior modification plan, it is important to keep in mind the ease of use. For behavior modification plans to be effective, they must be followed with consistency . Therefore, if the plan is hard to use, the likelihood that it will be effective will decrease because there will be inconsistent follow through. Okay maybe you missed it ? consistently , Consistence.

During any training the key is consistency if you the Dom or Master are not consistent you will fail and it will be your fault.

No matter your degree of submission you are going to go through some type of behavior modification.

Okay so BDSM is not medical and we certainly not shrinks by any means , but we are not only Dominants Masters or Daddy Doms , we are giving the responsibility and have agreed to take care of someone.

Now you the Dominant if you have any plans at all , in introducing any type of Behavior modification during your training this is something you should cover during your negotiations.

Adaption is a form of Behavior Modification , submission is a form , or just in general your employer.

When you speak in terms of BDSM your life takes a 100 degree turn, the way you talk, act , walk , speak, dress and in most cases even your hair color. Speaking of sex you will go through a few changes , now the sex is on your owners terms, the way you fuck , the way you suck cock, the way you lay , and at times when your allowed to cum.
Sex is on my terms , many men think with their dick and some would crawl naked through broken glass if they thought they were going to get a blow job, that is a true sign of being weak , and weak minded.

We train to fit our needs and wants , we train to fit your needs. Training can only be successful through positive reinforcement. Positive reinforcement is a reward , you have done well, you are doing good thank you for all of your effort, you will make me a good slave. I really appreciate the effort you have been putting into our relationship.

I have covered in great detail about Arianna’s training and today it is on going. It is funny when I first met Arianna I asked her, how do you see your self as a salve? Her reply was she did not know. I asked her if she had any ideas about what she wanted out of training and her answer was no.
I then explained as we grew together and we learned each other she would have questions and things she would want to try and today that statement proved me right. Arianna is always trying to come up with ways to deepen her submission. The truth is she would rather be chained 24/7 and just used for pleasure and service.

Recently ahh about 3 months ago I required Arianna to speak in thirds , Speaking in thirds is mainly a Gorean protocol , while I am not Gorean I do use many of the lifestyles protocols. Speaking in thirds is a reminder of not only who Arianna is but what her position is in out relationship. Now she never uses the words I or me, it has been replaced with she or your slave. While she had second thoughts about being able to master such a task , Arianna has perfected it.
Did it happen in a week ? Of course not , did it happen in a month ? Again no it did not , did it happen in two months ? Again it did not , did I punish her when she messed up or forgot ? The answer is no I did not punish her. You have to remember I changed her whole thought process as far as speaking and thinking before she speaks. The harder=est part was being able to change her speaking process when around family and friends, I can assure you that is or was not an easy task. Everything is done through Positive Reinforcement

Rules that are attainable not out of reach , unrealistic will break a relationship. To many rules can cause a over load and cause a mental crash. The Dom spends more time waiting on a rule to be broken then training.
Rules are a type of Behavioral modification , your taking bad habits and replacing with good habits and again the is done through positive reinforcement , security , structure, communication , and rules.

You have to determine how far and deep you want to go with your submission. You have to determine how much control you want to hand over , you want to make sure your needs are met because if they are you will have no wants.

One last thing i want to add is , if you do not live together the above is nearly impossible to achieve. The Dominant really has no control over you and you will grow tired of trying to please someone who is not there.

train

Vile

B. E. S. T. slave training.

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, BDSM and The Master, BDSM Communitys, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Slave training, BDSM Structure, Building a BDSM Relationshp, Cheating Dominant, commitment, communication, compatibility, Daddy Doms, gullible submissive, http://bestslavetraining.com/, https://fetlife.com/groups/5290, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, slave, Submission, submissive, Trainer A Slave on April 9, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

It is not often I pimp to many blogs or Web Sites but when I do it is for a good reason. To me it is kinda like recommending someone for a job , or someone asking me to be a reference for someone which I never do.

I learned a very long time ago not to stick my neck out for anyone , with the fall of a well known Gorean Master who got into a lot of trouble and did a little Prison time.
While at a munch last week I was speaking with another Dominant about him , and how he fell from grace. He was very well respected and really had it made. I believe when he got into trouble he was living with nine slaves. So for those reasons I never I mean never put myself out there like that any longer.

Our world the world we cherish because we are allowed to be who we are , we get to live our life the way we need and want to. We get to be us, we get to be real..

So here I am pimping so I guess I am back tracking a little but what I want to share about B.E.S.T. Slave Training is there is a wealth of information there. You can literately spend six months there and never read the same thing.

B.E.S.T. Slave Training also has a Fetlife group as well and is fairly active and Cuffsmaster who owns the group always takes part in the topics.

Many times it seems Dominants or Master who have been in the lifestyle for and length of time , spend way more time telling people who they are and what they have done , instead of reaching out to others , or criticizing the way other Doms live their lives and how wrong they are. There is nothing more irritating than having to listen to someone about all of their accomplishments in life. ME, ME , ME ,ME.

Most of what I blog about is about BDSM relationships , D’s and M’s but most you can even relate to Vanilla relationships as well. Because any relationship has to be about communication. Communication is the down fall of most.

Two things are needed before training begins , A Dominant who is sincere in what he wants and a Submissive or Slave who is sincere in moving forward as she is seeking freedom.

When I was in my early teens I read a book for History class. It was called Bury My Heart At Wounded Knee. It was by far the deepest book I had ever read, and when I was finished I was like What ? So I read it again , and again and still did not fully understand it.

Today when I read something I want it clear and in a language I can understand , now I am not stupid by any means , but I love to open a book and be like Bam.

B.E.S.T. Slave Training going into a lot of information , but it is written very well, easy to follow and understand , and the good thing is you can find just about any topic your interested in.

I always encourage new Dominants to perv the site because of the wealth of information. It also gives you not only a Beginning but a steady flow of information. There is no book that can tell you how to form a D’s Or M’s relationship but you can gain good information. What works for me may not work for another Dominant.

I love sharing my life here , it is more of a place for me to think and vent at the same time. I also enjoy helping other , and at times offering advice.

You read about every ones life, their new path in the D’s lifestyle , you hear the sorrow, the bitching , the complaining, fucking , sucking, and everything in between.

The Grand Daddy of it all is the submissive or Baby Girl who is seeing the so called Married Dominant. His wife knows and does not care if he see’s other people. Do you really believe this ? Are you really that naive ? Second this man or so called man is no way in any form a Dominant. This is a man who cannot even run his own home. He will see you once a week for an hour or so , maybe twice a month or even longer. He fills you will the words of love and he is going to leave his wife when the time is right. Think about it if his life was so bad he would of already left.

To you subs or Baby girls who see married men and your trying to rip a home apart because you cant find your own man, that is all good because youa re used merchandise and nothing more , I would doubt anyone else would even want you..

Now over the past two years or so , since I began my journey of blogging , I have for what ever reason opened up my life to everyone. The good , the bad and the ugly.

I have also shared my extensive training process with my slave, my property , my wife and best friend. I explained in such detail it would of been almost like you were there watching.

Many new Dominants who come to me for advice , I point them in the direction of B.E.S.T. Slave Training. Much of what I use today comes from there. Training is not something that takes place in a one week period , four weeks or three months. Training is continuous, there is not a day that goes by I do not learn something.

new Dominant coming into the lifestyle looking for a Submissive or a slave you have to have the right tools. Even when giving the right tools if you do not use them and you decide to go on your own way because now you know everything , you will crash and burn.

I have brought most of this up before , but here lately I have had several new Dominants contact me, and what I am sharing is the best tools available today. Your not going to use everything , but you will be able to put a solid plan together.

B.E.S.T. Slave Training Fetlife
https://fetlife.com/groups/5290

http://bestslavetraining.com/

This will not work

shades

You Both Should Adapt

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Adapt, adapting, anger, anticipation, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Protocols, BDSM Relationship, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, Bond, commitment, communication, compatibility, Consistency, consistent, Dominants, Fantasy, Humiliation, Inservice Slave, Master And Slave, Master and slave relationship, Protocols, Rules, sex slave, slave, Submission, submissive on March 14, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

Let the negotiations begin. Every relationship be it Vanilla , D’s ms’ Baby girl has negotiations. This is the time you spend getting to know each other, feeling each other out , likes and dislikes. favorite foods , movies , music , hobbies is any , work habits good and bad.

In a D’s or M’s it is just slightly different because the relationship is more in depth, there is much more involved in the relationship. Now we have safe words , now we limits. Now we have rules , protocols , some Dominants are strict while others are not.

How are you going to be used in a D’s or M’s relationship, maybe in service , maybe just for sex , there are several different factors you need to look at.

I have stressed many times before it is very important to become friends first before you speak about anything that pertains to BDSM. Are you into bondage, humiliation , pain is a biggy? Are you into following strict rules ? Maybe you don’t swallow , or do anal , all of these are Negotiations , and these are things that have to be worked out prior to entering a relationship.

If there is enough in common or the Dominant feels there is enough in common he may wish to move forward even if the submissive or slave has certain limits they are against. In time limits can be renegotiated , but more so a good Dominant does not change he can simply adapt to somethings in a new relationship.

I believe a huge misunderstanding is about the 24/7 relationships , new relationships. It is the submissive or slave who has to adapt to the new ways. It is the submissive or slave who has to adapt to their new surroundings.

The negotiations should continue until both have agreed to enter a D’s Or M’s relationship….

Limits should be pushed but respected, Limits are part of the Negotiations and the submissive or slave should stand by theirs. If you are totally against something or something makes you feel uncomfortable then speak your mind. One thing you should never agree to something in fear of the relationship not working out. The good thing is I can assure you once in a stable relationship some of your limits will pass. You will want to explore that sense of freedom.

You will never change a Dominant , in some cases he may change his way of thinking , when it comes to training, and putting rules in place but a total make over will never happen. At times he may adapt to certain situations if he feels the relationship is moving forward in a positive direction as well.

Many times in any relationship we tend to take other for granted , we tend to forget the small things and we begin to just expect everything, the small things are no longer appreciated. This is when the communication break down begins and the relationship starts to fall apart and if not caught in time it will fail and both are to blame.

Stress brought on by those who think they are submissive , but in reality it is just a fantasy , those putting up resistance during training , not following rules because they think it is a joke or not taking the relationship serious. You may like the Dominant but not the lifestyle and you expect him to change , and that is not going to happen. The relationship fails and all the blame goes on him, while all along it was you who caused the break down.

Bruce Lee once said. If you want to learn to swim jump in the water. On dry land no frame of mind is ever going to help you..