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Vile And Arianna

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, A Slave Is High Maintenance, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, An Owned Slave, Anger Issues, Argue, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Be who you are, Being fucked, being used, Cheaters, cheating, Cheating Dominant, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Discipline, Disrespect, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, Dominant Switch, Dominants, emotional, Fake Dominants, fifty shades of grey, fuck hole, fucking, Married Dominant, Master And Slave, Protocol, punish, Punishment, sex, sex slaves, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive on June 1, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

train62 Someone had made the comment that some did not agree with our relationship. I am going to assume that you do not agree because you do not understand, maybe you do not want to understand, but you still look down on such a relationship. That being said , it just means you do not have a full understanding of BDSM, or maybe your just that closed minded.

There are many things I do not understand, for one I do not understand the male switch, how he can be dominant, then submit to someone else in front of his submissive , or how a Master could submit to someone else in front of his slave, that is one. Two I do not understand how married men go behind their wife and fuck someone else. Three I do not understand how a single female could see a man who is married and not care about wrecking what she has worked so hard to build. Four I do not understand how so many can allow so much drama into their life and complain about it on a daily basis but still live it. Five I do not understand men who abuse women verbally , mentally , and physically maybe its because it makes them feel more like a man…  So there are many things I do not understand, nor am I able to comprehend. One thing I do though is speak my mind. One thing I do is share the truth.

I am not a man who has to hide my relationship, nor do I have the need to search out other women to get gratification , nor do I have to search for women to abuse. I do not need more flavor in my life, nor do I have to live behind a lie, sneak around watching behind my back. Having to delete my text messages.

So Arianna had been looking for a Master, not a Dominant or a Daddy but a Master. I myself had been looking for a slave, not a submissive or a Baby Girl. A Slave.

Arianna had met two who claimed to be Masters, one left her bruised for almost three weeks, badly bruised, and went back for seconds hoping things would get better. She saw another Master who abused her both physically and mentally, playing head games, losing his temper yelling at her making threats. That is noway to live and be happy.

We met and we talked and Arianna expressed her needs, not wants. She explained she needed micromanagement , she explained she needed a relationship with no rights, only the rights she was giving, she explained she needed all freedom taken away, she explained she needed to give up full control. Arianna explained she needed rules and protocols to be in place and enforced. She explained she needed structure and trust. Yea it was a pretty deep conversation.

Although I wanted a long term relationship, and I was looking for a slave. I was looking for someone who was very docile, an introvert. Someone who would follow a few rules, a fuck toy, a piece of ass. Someone to use when I wanted to. Then kinda like putting them away in a closet. That is what I was looking for and nothing more.

So it was I who had to decide if I wanted the type of relationship Arianna wanted, it was I who had to decide if I wanted to take on that much responsibility , it was I who had to think if I wanted to be that consistent , enforcing rules, and protocols.  It was I who had to decide if I wanted that much responsibility.

Now unlike many Arianna does have one right, and that is the right to question me if she feels things are not going right. One thing she has the right to is to insure I have her best interest in mind. Many of you are not allowed that type of communication, or your just simply told what ever to appease you at that moment and time. Many are not allowed to question your relationship status, or many of you fear asking afraid of being dumped. Many of you are afraid your Dominant is not going to leave his wife. Many of you are told his wife does not care what he does, but you are only hearing one side of the story. Many of you go days at a time with out hearing from your Dom, many of you spend your birthdays alone and do not even receive gifts.

So many of you think Arianna has it so so bad, many of you think she is abused, or not treated well, or fairly, or treated with the respect she deserves.

We are Master and Slave, we are not Dominant and Submissive or Daddy and Baby girl.  We live a true M’s relationship and our way has worked for over two years and it continues to get better as each day passes.

There are very few relationships like the way we live I know this, there are very few who could life a true M’s relationship, there are even fewer who would want such a relationship.

I am totally against any type of abuse when it comes to women. Many of you are in non consensual relationships, because your partner is married. You only consent because you are willing to settle for less. When you settle for less that is exactly what you get so you have no reason to complain, or sit around and pout because you have not heard from your married Dom, who cannot even control his own house, because if he could he would not be fucking you.

Many of you are punished when there is no reason, because you were not able to send videos of you masturbating so he could jack off, or you did not send nude pics of yourself. Wow

Many of you are in relationships with the fifty shades of grey Dominants who do not have the slightest fucking clue. They see the visual and nothing more. You cannot read a fucking book put it down and say I am a Master it does not work that way.

I Vile am living the dream, and you could be too. I am married to my wife, my slave , my slut and my whore. She is my all and anything I want her to be, but do not think for one minute I do not have to give 150% back, because at times it is much much more.

If you do not understand then ask.

It was Arianna who said. Will you except me as your Slave?

 

Questions You Should Ask A New Dominant

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Be who you are, being used, chat room, Coming Soon Vile Radio, commitment, communication, Discipline, Dominant, FaceBook Vile Woods, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Meeting a new Dominant, Meeting your new Dom/Master, Protocol, Questions You Should Ask A New Dominant, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, slave, submissive on May 10, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

You Leave your house getting ready to meet a Dominant you have met on line. There are a lot of questions that should of been asked prior to meeting but these are best when face to face. You must have direct eye contact. Never let a Dominant tell you that you are not allowed to have any eyes contact. Number one that is just his ego, and two you have not submitted to him as of yet. Never let a Dominant tell you what to wear on the first meeting.

At this point in the meeting it is very important to be yourself , because you are not yourself it will come out in the laundry. Explain if he brings anything up about BDSM that you would like to get to know him as a friend first.

These questions came from

http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/subbie2.html

1 How long have you been in the BDSM Lifestyle ? and what led you to the lifestyle ?

2 Do you plan to have more than one slave or submissive online or offline ?

3 What kind of relationship are you looking for ? Short Term or Long term ?

4 How much time are you willing to devote to training a new submissive ? How much of my time would you require in return ? Would we have daily contact ?

5 Do you indulge in these pleasures with men and women? If so what safety precautions do you take?

6 What type of training have you had to be a Dominant in a relationship ? Have you trained any Submissive who were new to the lifestyle ?

7 What are some of your basic philosophies when it comes to BDSM ?

8 Ahhh What are your rules ? What are your protocols ? What do you require of your slave and yourself ?

9 What kind of structured training do you prefer to use ? What kind of discipline or punishments do you use when rules are broken ?

10 Last and this is the most important. Do you have an references and may I contact them? I can tell you I have references a page long. every Dominant who has been in the lifestyle for any time will have as well.

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I did change up somethings and I left a few out but you can touch base on the link I am going to provide.  These were real questions asked by a submissive.

These are all valid questions, and questions that should be answered face to face, without any hesitation.  If he does not wish to answer your questions simply get up and leave. If he is not real he will play the Dom card on you, and try to put you in your place. Stand firm and do not back down.

You being safe is what matters, you having the relationship you need is what matters. You being happy is what matters.

Now for the good stuff. Vile radio launch date will be between July 1st and the 15th please spread the word I want everyone listening, you will be able to chat and call in. I want to blow the servers up……..

Have kinky fun and be safe Much love to all.

Vile

The BDSM Tree Of Life

Posted in 24/7, Adult Baby, Adult Kitten, Ass, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Be who you are, communication, Consensual, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Dominants, Fetish, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, Kink, kinky, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, poly, Polyamory, Pony Girl, pony play, Rough Sex, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, Slave no rights, Submissive kitten on January 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

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We as a community have branched off in so many directions. We have the only lifestyle where we can be who, and what we need to be.

We have been able to Branch off in every direction to fill our needs and kinks. No matter what your into you can always find a partner, or maybe more than one.

Our lifestyle allows us to be free. We have what many only dream about. We live what others only see in a fantasy. We wake in the am proud of who and what we are.

You can be a Submissive , a Slave, A baby Girl, and Adult Baby if that gets you off. You can be a pony, a puppy, a little kitty and lets not forget the little bratty sub, who is always stirring something up.

You can be a Sadist who has the need and love to inflict pain. The Masochist who crave the feeling of a single tail whip strike your back. You can live your life as a slave, and hand full control over to someone.

You can be as open as you need, you can share your deepest and darkest secrets, with that one special one or like many share on their blogs. You have that second life no one knows about.

No matter what your kink is there is a branch for everyone. Every idea, every thought , need or want, you can find it in our small little world.

The Baby girl who needs a Daddy in their life, to love and guide. The bedroom submissive who only wants to submit when the lights are out. The submissive who is learning a new path of freedom, with her Dominant, or the Slave who wants to surrender all.

The pony who want to pull the buggy, or the puppy who wants to be in a cage, the kitty playing on the furniture. The tree is always growing and new branches are born everyday.

You can find the sensual Daddy Dom who will always be easy, or a Dom you likes it rough, there is someone for everyone, no matter what your flavor is.

In the world of BDSM a Dominant or Master can have multiple subs or slaves and at times all living under one roof. Some work out while some do not, to some it was just an experiment . If we do not experiment then how do we learn.

The bad news your going to make mistakes, some mistakes will have a plan and just goes wrong, while some mistakes are due to being careless.

One thing we all look over is we all need to get along. We are small in numbers. We should not judge anyone for their kinks, their needs. We are who we are and nothing is going to change it. We should support each other, give friendly advice, and if your told something keep it to yourself. There is a very heavy trust factor.

Just be who you are, and be free.

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No matter what your flavor is there is someone for you.

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Hey please check out my friend she was just a few hundred of hitting 50.000 visitors she is awesome. and she tells me she writes good books.

http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com

Vile

What Makes You A Submissive

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, Argue, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Be who you are, being used, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Dominance, Dominants, Fake Dominants, fuck meat, Giving Head, Love, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Patience, Respect, rimming, Rules, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, Safe Word, Security, slave, Slave no rights, Structure, submissive, Submissive Brat, sucking cock on January 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

That question should be looked at long and hard. You are going to step into a whole new world. You are going to go places you have never in your life thought of. Your going to be treated like you have never been treated in your life.

There are things you need to think about before taking that step. Reading about BDSM is totally different than living it, or acting out.

What makes you a submissive ? What makes you think your a submissive ? Why do you have the need to serve ? Why do you need rules ? Would you really follow them ? Why do you need structure ?

Those are things that should be thought out before you begin your search. Again here comes the list things all of the above should be on paper and you should be able to answer each and everyone.

Then comes the hard part. Finding the new Dom. That will probably be the hardest task you will ever come across in your life. Because now you are going to spend a great deal of time weeding out the fakes. This will take you at least two or three relationships. Then you have to weed out those who think they are Dominant but they do not have a clue. Then you have to weed out the real ones. You have to pick out the one who fits like a glove.

Maybe your looking for a Daddy Dom , maybe a regular Dominant what ever that maybe, Maybe your looking for a Dominant who is a sadist, or a Dominant who is more into the discipline part of the lifestyle. Maybe your a Masochist, not every Dominant can fill that role,. Maybe your a Brat, again not every Dominant can fill that role.

The above should go on a list as well, and you should be able to answer each and everyone with a clear understanding of what the differences are. What role each Dominant plays.

What type of relationship do you want ? This falls under all of the things above. How do you see yourself living as a submissive on a daily bases ?

What are your limits ? What are some of your limits but in time you may be willing to try ? Never be afraid to express yourself, never be afraid to tell someone what your limits are, and they had better be respected. Never be afraid to tell someone if your limits are crossed you will walk away.

Remember you are a submissive not a slave. You still call the shots. You still have the right to say what will happen and how. You are submissive not a slave.

Make sure your Dominant keeps his word. After all the first thing a Dominant will tell you is to always be honest, and truthful. Why would you not expect the same respect in return.  If you are promised a call, a visit, a text, flowers, a birthday card, then that is what you should get.

Let me get something straight you the submissive are replaceable , that sounds really cruel, but I am sure most of you have been there at some point in your time. You were dumped without notice, no calls, no emails, no text, your calls were ignored. You were replaced.

The same goes for a Dominant he is replaceable as well. Many men fail to look at that side of the picture. When you enter a relationship you need to plant that seed. You were looking when you found him. You need to stand up for yourself, there is nothing wrong with making sure you get what you need and want out of life, and a relationship.

You are a submissive you say when you will submit, and how you will submit. Most who are in a D’s relationship do not even live together. I did not say all I said most. So why would you as a submissive submit to someone who cannot be truthful with you, or they cannot keep their word.

I am giving you a males point of view, because I have been that asshole, I have used, I have abused. Before the mule kicked me in the head, most of the women I saw and fucked were just meat, and nothing more. Most were just cum dumps, with a functioning cock sucker. I could care less what happened once they walked past my front door.

If you think I am the only one who thinks in this manner if you have dyed your hair blonde, you need to run to sally’s and dye it again and fast

So I sit here almost on a daily basis, giving advice. I am giving good advice. You can call me stupid, you can say I do not know what I am talking about, shrugs I could really careless what someone thinks of me.

It is not impossible to find the right one, it just may take a little more time than your willing to invest, but if your willing to invest more time, it would cut out a lot of heartache , and drama that you do not need.

Limits are very important. You have limits in place for a reason. Maybe you don’t like anal sex and you don’t care to try it. Maybe you refuse to RIM, maybe you don’t swallow , no matter the case you need to share your limits and explain that they will not be crossed. Why because they are replaceable.

The Slave factor is a total different story. Arianna is not into pain. Being a sadist at one time, I still have those tendencies, but I respect her way to much to hurt. That is a limit I have, hurting my toy. With the exception of pain and a few others that are normal, Arianna has no limits. That was something that was discussed when we first met. I covered each and everything in great detail so there were no questions. The only answers giving were Yes Or No. Apparently she answered more yes’s than no’s because she is still here , and will be for many years to come.

If your in a relationship and you have to step outside of your circle to ask for advice. Guess what? Your in the wrong relationship. You do not have the communication within your circle to make it work. That means you never had the freedom to express yourself, or your feelings. Now comes the replace part.

You can ask Arianna about the past Dominants she has met, more so the ones she has met while with me. She can see a clear difference. She will tell you how many times her ass was beat and left black and blue, the pain she endured. So there is more than just you who are having or have had problems. Guess what ? Arianna replaced them. You can do the same.

If you are not getting the attention you deserve, the communication, the play time you need. The you need to open the dictionary and look up the word replace.

You can make your search very simple, or you can drag your life through the mud. You can be relaxed, or your life can be full of drama. You have to decide what side of the fence you want or need to be on. Your the one dealing the cards.

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Vile

30 Days Of Submission

Posted in 24/7, 30 Days Of Submission, abuse, Adapt, anticipation, Arianna, bdsm, Be who you are, communication, Dominance, Dominants, Master, Meeting a new Dominant, Patience, Protocol, relationships, Respect, Rules, Self-Discipline, skirt no panties, slave, Submission, submissive on January 18, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This is where you write your own book. Your 30 days of submission. This should be giving a great deal of thought before you even enter your relationship.

How do you see yourself as a submissive? How do you see yourself living as a submissive ? How deep do you want to submit ? Do you just want to submit in the bedroom only ? Do you want to submit outside of the bedroom ? Do you want 24/7 submission ?

If is up to you for the most part keeping yourself in that submissive mode. What rituals would you like to implement on a daily basis, rules for yourself to keep you in check. What protocols do you want to put into place ?

Remember once you enter a relationship and you have a plan, you this submissive will have to adapt to the Dominants way, his surroundings, his needs and wants. You are there to follow.

At times you do not feel submissive and staying in that frame of mind is not always an easy task, so putting a game plan into action can make all the difference in the world. You in a way can put your life as you see it into place.

Once you enter a relationship or lets say your in the process of entering a relationship you should go over everything with your potential Dominant. How you see yourself in a relationship, and what it is you want out of the relationship. Remember everything you do effects not only your Dominant but you as well. You have to get just as much out of the relationship as your new Dominant.

Most how ever do not think about the 30 days of submission until they have already entered the relationship. Sometimes that works but for the most it does not and if it does it turns out to be a one way street, and this is not fair to you the submissive. If you just give and give and get nothing in return, what do you really gain?

Your 30 days of submission should never have to stop at just 30 days. You go 30 , 60 , 90 , 120. It is a never ending story, it is your story, it is your life.

If you choose to only submit in the bedroom, why would you try to connect with someone who wants a 24/7 ? If you want a 24/7 why would you try to connect to someone who only wants the bedroom.

This is where your 30 days of submission begins. You have a clear plan and you stick to that plan. Share your thoughts, and get answers for everything.

The world of submission and Dominance can be a very beautiful thing. The ability to be as open as you want, the open communication like you have never had before. The Bond you have never felt. Yes all of this is in your hands. You control the level of submission.

No one can tell you that you are submissive, more so do not let anyone twist your thoughts around telling you that your more of a submissive. Maybe your told you are a slave, when in fact your not , but you will go along with what ever because you feel this is the right Dominant. Never allow yourself to be pushed into a corner, and if you are speak your mind.

This is probably one of the most important things you need to learn. If you are asked a DIRECT question you need to give a DIRECT answer. You need to give a truthful answer, you need to share your feelings. If you are not allowed to speak your mind, or share your thoughts and feelings, then you have the wrong Dominant.

Maybe instead of 30 days of Submission, you should think about doing 30 days of Interviewing , while your sharing your 30 days of submission. Because until you commit to such a relationship you are the one who says yes I can or no I cannot. It does not matter what is said prior to entering a relationship. You should be able to speak your mind.

Another good thing to do is write, not on a daily basis, or hourly but when you feel like it. This book should be yours and only yours. This is your private get away place, your own little world.

The book would be called The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly . Picture a piece of paper with three lines going down. one is the good, one is the Bad, and last the Ugly. This will help you see things more clearly, and it just may help you understand your own little world. If your filling up the two last then something is wrong, and then and only then should you start to question yourself. Then and only then should you share your concerns. After all you are submissive, you are not a Slave.

The difference between the two is a huge difference. You as the submissive has the right to speak up when things are not going as planned. You have the right to say hey wait a minute we did not agree to this. You do have that right, just as you have the right to open and honest communication.

You the submissive before entering a relationship should already have a list of rules in your mind that you would like to follow. What is going to help you thrive? What rules are going to benefit you you as a submissive ? What rules are going to help you in daily life ? Share these ideas with your new Dominant.

Protocols , when that word comes up most people just shrug their shoulders. Why do I need protocols ? Protocols are stupid. Well Protocols help keep you in that mindset , they help with your submission. Depending on the protocols you have depends on your state of submission. These are some of the things that should be in your plan when meeting someone new.

Listen to me , because when you first meet someone and you already have your plan in place. The new Dominant will know you are not a push over. He will know you know what your talking about, and your not going to be an easy target.

When asking questions make direct contact with his eyes, and make sure you get direct contact with yours. If his eyes are drifting or looking around, that is not a good sign.

Now most will say before you meet, there will be no eye contact, you will address me as Sir. Wear a skirt with no panties, high heels. Again this is not the case because you do not know if this Dominant is for you. Addressing someone as Sir is earned, it is not giving.

The Good, The Bad , and The Ugly your own book, write it and stick to it. Do not I repeat do not use an eraser. Once you have your thoughts and ideas down stick to it.

I can assure you if you stick to your plan things will work out to your advantage. It may not work out in the time line you want, but it will work. Having a plan before hand will make a huge difference. White writing your book before entering a relationship you can make changes, because as you are writing you will grow inside, you will grow daily, weekly and monthly. It is okay to make changes, but before entering a relationship have your book finished. Most of all make sure your new partner is willing to follow your ideas as well as you follow his. The two of you need to work together.

I am not speaking about a Slave although a Slave should have a game plan as well in the type of Master they are seeking, but a Slave is looking for total submission. A Slave wants a master to take full control, so please do not confuse the two.

If you think for a minute you may be a Slave you need to do some hard soul searching because once you cross that line it is real hard to walk backwards.

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Vile

So You Really Want To Be A Slave

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, anger, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, Be who you are, being used, Conform, Consensual, control, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Dominance, Dominants, Fantasy, Master, Master And Slave, Masters, Pet, Security, serve, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, The World Of BDSM, Total Slavery, TPE on January 13, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Being truly owned , being an owned Slave , giving yourself 100%. Having the need to submit. You feel lost but your not sure why. Something in your life is missing but you cannot put your finger on it.

Bdsm we think of all the kink , the spankings , being Daddy’s little girl, , maybe your a puppy but you have never been able to express yourself, maybe your a kitten but it has always been just a fantasy.

Most of you who are submissive has had these and other thoughts from a very early age, while growing up you knew your way of thinking was different from your other friends, or maybe you shared some, with those you knew you could talk to. Then some of you well just made it your own little secret.

So now your a grown woman, but the feelings run much deeper, your thoughts are running wild, but now you dare not share anything, mainly because not many would understand or care to have you try and explain it. The search is on. You have to find yourself but most important you have to find someone who will not only understand you, but except you. Except you for the person you are and need to be.

Welcome to the world of BDSM This is where your wildest dreams, and fantasies , thoughts and desires can come true. It is like opening a door and walking through to a whole new dimension, another world, almost like time travel, because in this world anything and everything is possible.

This is a place where you can be you and you will not be judged , you will not be looked down on. All of those hidden thoughts can now come true.

It all seems very easy, if you think it you can do it, and if you want it bad enough you fight until you get what you need. No one said the path is easy, or that we are not going to make mistakes, because we all make mistakes. The key is to learn from our mistakes and move on to bigger and better things. You can now look back and think man what a dumb ass, but now I am here.

Finding acceptance means everything, finding someone who will understand you, someone who cares about your feelings and thoughts. Someone who is willing to take control, and take the lead.

Being a Daddy’s girl is a very special relationship, the Daddy is so loving and understanding. Being a baby girl makes you feel special, and as you should. Being able to be a pet, and just be lazy around the house, or acting crazy like a little puppy would. In this world you can be who and what ever you want, and you will find someone who wants the same thing. We should be able to be who and what we are, when and where we want.

Being a submissive , you crave the feeling to be able to kneel in front of someone. You crave the feeling of being able to submit, to give yourself, but on your term. The submissive sets the pace of the relationship. This is what many do not understand, this submissive is just that. The submissive is not a slave. You as the submissive set the guidelines, and it is you who decides just how far you want to take your submission. You decide what rules you want to follow. A D’s relationship is very special just like a Daddy’s girl, or a puppy , a kitten, or a pony. You are all very special in your own way. You each have something special to offer.

You may find someone right away or it may take time, it is important you find that fit. The one your compatible with, the one you can trust, and tell your deepest inner secrets. Then you are free.

The Slave, the Slave wants to give up full control. The Slave says here is my life do with it as you see fit, but please take care of me, that is all I ask. The Slave you can use me when ever you want the word no will never come out of my mouth. Please just take care of me. I will suck your cock at the snap of a finger, I will spread my legs with just a glance, I will proudly kneel waiting for you to arrive home. I will take care of you the way you need to be taking care of, just please take care of me. The Slave I will adapt to your way of life. I will serve you, I will submit at all times, I will follow your rules your protocols, I will sit at your feet proudly. Just please take care of me.

The above is really deep and it is true for many. An M’s relationship is a very special one, the relationship runs deep, and the bond is like no other.

D’s or M’s these are two different meanings. Dominant and submissive , Master and Slave. Tow totally different lifestyles but we should all respects each others needs. We should not judge we should all be family, not in a sense of living together but in a sense of being there for someone, being able to talk even if we do not understand.

I asked Arianna why do you want to be a slave? How do you see yourself living as a Slave on a day by day basis? How do you want to be treated ? How do you want to serve ? Most important what do you expect to get out of such a relationship?

I want to give up full control, I want to be micromanaged , I want to be in full submission. All of these things I had to consider. Did I want the same? Did I want that much responsibility ? Did I want that much control over someones life ?

After spending much time together and I found out we had a lot in common, I decided to give it a go. This was something that was new to me as well. So I had to put a plan together, not only for me, not only for Arianna, but for both of us.

How do I know your really a Slave or want to be a Slave ? How do I know its just not a fantasy? How do I know its just not a phase your going through ? How do I know your real ? How do I know you truly have these feelings ?

Arianna made the comment yesterday she needed to feel more submissive, she wanted to be able to give more. She needed to give up more control.

I said your already there, you are giving everything, you have giving everything. You do not see it because you live it everyday. Everything has just come natural. You are where you are suppose to be, I just have to keep it in check.

The words come up again Behavior Modification it is real. Arianna’s life has taking a 360 degree turn and she does not even see it. Unless she looks back at where she was a year and a half ago, two years ago, 15 years, 20 years. Then and only then can she see the difference. Everything just fell into place, and it was not hard because she is where she has always wanted to be, and she is able to be who she wants and needs to be a Slave.

I did cut her hair, I almost shaved the right side of her head. Why ? Because I could, because I wanted to see just how much control I had, but more so to see how much control she wanted to give. Okay so it was a test, maybe not a very good one, but it was a test, and she passed. Now her hair has grown back out.

Being a Slave does not make you weak, being a slave does not make you a doormat , your not a house keeper, or just a cook. I myself help out when I can. I do laundry from time to time, I cook when I am able to. On my days off I do want Arianna wants to do, I go where she wants to go. Because her being happy is my only need and concern.

I do use Arianna and on a regular basis. I use her as I see fit, I use her for my pleasure, but the difference is I give back. I give back way more than I take. I am there 24/7.

There is no yelling, there is no fighting, there is no arguing. The other day we had a very deep conversation. I had done somethings she was not happy with. She was able to express your feelings, she let me know she was hurt, and I listened. I really could not explain myself because I had messed up. We did not argue or yell at each other. Then we spoke as husband and wife. Now I have to make sure I do not make the same mistake again.

Your submissive or slave, baby girl, who ever you are. You should be allowed to express yourself. You have that need it is not a want. You should be able to communicate on any level, without being scared of talking. You should be able to question your dominant, your daddy or master when something is not going right, or you feel you have been mistreated.

Am I mean ? Am I cruel ? Am I an ass ? Am I unfair ? Do I abuse Arianna ? I can say being very truthful I am none of those. I am the Master that Arianna told me she needed and nothing more. Many of you do not understand. I am sure many never will, unless you are willing to take that step.

In order to be happy we have to be who and what we are. If we live our life for someone else then we will never be happy.

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Vile

I Could Of Fucked Her

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BDSM has changed as well, the people, the respect everything. More so the younger generation. I just googled BDSM clicked on images and nothing but pain and torture. People are visual,it does not matter what you read , who you talk to, its all about being visual.

I remember the first time I left Sherri’s house I was scared to death, she was black and blue from the neck down from and back. She got off while I was just terrified. After that day though something clicked, the more control I had, the more pain I could inflict the harder I got. During sessions I am talking sessions that lasted hours, there had been times I had actually came, and came hard, just off of impact play.Seven years and she did not cry one time, until the day came and I said goodbye.In that relationship Humiliation was a huge part of her kicks, at first mine but as time went by it was more like a job, I had to out do each session.That is the past, maybe at times we reflect on the past to much and it does not allow us to move forward.

We all have thoughts, and it is good to have memories , but that is what they are just memories, some were good some were bad.Over the years the Sadist part of me seemed to slip away, or maybe I just truly wanted more out of a relationship. I can tell you the vanilla mistake I made, was just that a mistake. What was the hardest was having to live two different lives. Although I remained loyal during that ever so shocking adventure, and it was so not me. Because there were times I just wanted to let loose, but I would of never disrespected her in that manner.

Going from using a Masochist to a vanilla marriage puts one in shock. What the fuck did I just do, and I knew it was a mistake. I knew from the first time I went to her house and it was trashed. I refused to live in a dirty home, it was not like filthy it was just cluttered papers piled everywhere just fucking cluttered.What else is odd is to be in a relationship for seven years and never fucking, that was while with sherri. Unless face fucking counts, that was almost daily. I think if we would of had sex that would of put me on a much different emotional playing field and I did not want to be that close. While she did have rules I seldom enforced them . I did not care because I was getting off. The Fisting part is what was incredible, she was my first.I remember the first time I laid her on the coffee table and told her to spread and my hand just slipped in, I closed my fist and I just started pounding her. I could open my hand and feel all around and I could make her stomach move.Today I enjoy fisting but it is not a need like it was then. Then it was a new experience , it was taboo to me, everything with her was taboo.

As I grew older the more control I needed, as I grew older the more in control I was. As I grew older I became aware of my surroundings. I started observing people more, and trying to figure them out. Wondering what their home life was about. Wondering if they harbored a deep secret like I did.When out I felt kinda like a freak show, because of being so different. While at the mall in the food court eating I would look at different women, and imagine different ways of tying them up, and using every hole. Or what it would be like to face fuck them, to humiliate them, to take them down as low as I could, get my nut and just walk away as if nothing had happened.

I was the guy who would walk up to the women other men were afraid to, being afraid I mean being rejected. I have always had standards , and I always set them high, because I refused to fuck someone I did not want to wake up next to. So I suppose when it came to fucking someone I never settled for less.

I remember one time I was at a convenience store visiting a friend, and this woman walked in, I was like fuck me , she was fucking hot, maybe 5.0ft even ,long dark brown hair, fakes tits. She was wanting to know if we knew anyone who sold pot, she said her husband was in their truck past out. As we were talking I told her I might know someone but I had to call in private so I walked in the stock room and she followed. I made a call , I hung up and I put my flip phone back in my pocket and I just looked at her. I walked closer to her  and she was backing up I did not say a word I just looked into her eyes. Once she was against the wall, I wrapped my hand around her throat and kissed her for what seemed like for ever. While kissing my other hand was down her shorts banging her pussy with my hand three fingers deep. After I finished kissing her , I pushed her down to her knees and I took my cock out and it slipped into her mouth and I just started fucking, it took all of a minute for me to blow my load. Once finished she got up and said in this little country accent, No man has ever treated my that way. I gave her the number to my friend and told her when her husband woke up show him what you like.To stop everything all she would of had to say is no or stop, and I would of apologized, but I could read her from the second she walked in. I didn’t want to fuck her I just wanted or needed that control.

Then the stuck up bitches , until 5 or 6 years ago I would work at a shell station during events to help out and make some extra cash Arianna has met the owner of the store before. Anyway This girl Sarah would come in every night and buy one beer Coors. Then a week went by and she did not come in. The following week Sarah came back in and I greeted her, then I said there is something different about you. I said ahhh you got a boob job, she made the comment I was not to worry I would never get the chance to touch them. So I closed my eyes and I started moaning, then I stopped. She said what the fuck are you doing. Well Sarah I have a very vivid imagination and I just fucked you and you were by far the worst piece of ass I had ever had, so I do not want to touch them. I never saw her again.That was how open I was, and yes those are true story’s.

Being a Dominant for any period of time it is so easy to spot the submissive women. I have point out a few to Arianna but she just laughs, little does she know.As I grew older I needed more. I needed more control but there were very few who could give up the control I needed. BDSM is much like a drug, the more you learn about it, the more you take part, the more you converse about it the more you need.There was never a shortage of pussy, it was finding women who did not use it as a tool , so they could get their way.

I wanted to have it my way.A year and a half before I met Arianna, I got up at 3.30 am, turned on the coffee pot waited, poured a cup went back to the bedroom, I was watching the morning news and I started thinking, Vile what the fuck are you doing. You are 48 years old and your waking up alone, that is fucked up. You come home to two dingy roommates . What kind of life is that?So while at work I began to put a list together, A list of what I wanted out of a relationship. The type of slave I wanted to have a life with. A slave who would want to follow. A slave who had no rights. A slave who would want to drop to their knees because it was a need, or spread because it was a need to please. A slave who wanted to communicate,

A slave who was smart, beautiful and intelligent. A list I was not going to give in, just so I could get some pussy.So I met Arianna, we talked for hours, even after I told her what I needed she did not flinch. I had pretty much figured out what she needed, but I was thinking what the fuck she has needs to, do I really want to do this. Just by talking to her and with out her giving out to much information. I had figured out she was being used, your whole life was out of control, she needed micromanagement, she needed someone to take her by the neck and say stop. Did I really want to invest that much time? I had to think about it for a day or so.Okay she is beautiful, her smile is one to kill for, she has a body built for sin, an ass to die for, each cheek just fits in the palm of my hand, small but firm breast, just fucking wow. The first time she got out of her car, blood rushed down to my cock so fast I got dizzy.There had to be more to the relationship than just sex, I needed so much more. I was in the process of moving to the Philippines , I had already made up my mind. I had a job lined up. I was going to start over.
I was going to start fresh, but something inside me clicked, just like the first click in my life. I was thinking maybe just maybe this will work, but I will have to put a long term plan together, a plan that I had to stick to, and I knew I had to remain consistent or I would loose.The first time she wrapped her lips around my cock I knew I had her, more so the first time I crawled between her legs, and I wrapped my hand around her throat, and I started to fuck her, I looked in her eyes and said I am going to own you. That statement proved to be correct, because I did everything in my power, my years of knowledge, and experience I had gained within the lifestyle, everything that I had learned, and for once I was putting it towards good use. I was finely using what I had learned over the years. I can tell you this believe it or not. If I want something bad enough, Vile always wins. If your just a passing thought that is what you are or were a passing thought. I never lose.

Image The key is to give back as much as you take, sometimes you as the Dominant has to give back much more. In the end though you can have anything you want, without question.

Vile