Archive for the blog Category

The Fake Fifty Shades of Grey

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Anal Training, Argue, Arianna, ass fucking, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Definitions, being used, blog, blow job, cock sucking, Commit, commitment, communication, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Disrespect, Dominant, Dominants, Drama, FaceBook Vile Woods, Fake Dominants, fifty shades of grey, Humiliation, Married Dominant, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, punish, Punishment, relationships, Rules, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on April 29, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

2011 year of the Dominant. 50 shades of grey was published. The book sold some 70 million worldwide and blindfold sales increased as well.

 

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
  (Redirected from Fifty Shades Of Grey)

Fifty Shades of Grey is a 2011 erotic romance novel by British author E. L. James. It is the first installment in the Fifty Shades trilogy that traces the deepening relationship between a college graduate, Anastasia Steele, and a young business magnate, Christian Grey. It is notable for its explicitly erotic scenes featuring elements of sexual practices involving bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism (BDSM). Originally self-published as an ebook and a print-on-demand,[1][2] publishing rights were acquired by Vintage Books in March 2012.[3][4]

There is much that has been left out. I read a little bit of the first book, and if your into reading a fantasy book then good, but it seems to many have taking it from a fantasy to reality, and not really having a clue.

The physical contact when it comes to BDSM is only about 5%, the other 95% is mental.  To be able I want to word this correctly  , to be able to be a Dominant you have to be able to get into the submissive’s or slaves head. You have to be able to stimulate their mind.We have to get to know the submissive or slave inside out. We need to know what truly makes them tick. We need to understand their emotions, we need to understand when they are having a bad day, we need to understand that when they are not communicating we need to communicate to put the submissive at ease. We need to make the submissive know we as Dominants will make everything alright.

I am not sure where or how the depression aspect plays a part, but I do know from my past experience most who are slaves or submissive suffer from some type of depression. I could not make this statement if I had only met two or three slaves , I could not make this statement if I had only met 9 or 10 submissive’s  Over the past twenty years or so I have met hundreds. Most were very dear friends. Then there were the handful that I used, even then I knew something was not right but I did not care enough to even think that something maybe wrong.

Image

To really get to know the submissive we have to take a walk, we have to be able to get into the brain, we so to speak. We have to be able to open every door at each section and have a full understanding of what makes the submissive tick. We have to know what makes them think the way they do, what makes the submissive like or dislike the things they do. We have to understand their limits , we also have to understand when it is time to stop.

Most who are looking for the one, will bend over backwards to please. Most will take what ever you have to dish out just to please, but if your not inside their head you have no idea the amount of damage you may be doing, and they may have no idea either, until the after. I believe this is when sub-drop is most noticeable. I believe this is when the depression really kicks in. For the most I myself believe sub-drop is preventable through proper care. Most of the time when sub-drop is present it is because the two do not live together, or the submissive is not getting the attention they need. Sub-drop does not always occur after play, you can experience sub-drop even if your alone.

If you meet a submissive who is on medication for depression or any other illness it is very important to find out why they are taking it, what its for, then you research the different meds they are taking.

I know for instance Arianna has limitations when it comes to play, so I stay away from those gray areas. I know exactly how far I can push and I know exactly when to stop. We as dominants never want to push one to that limit.

So its like you knock on the forehead you open the door and you begin your travels, your going to walk through many doors, and your going to spend a lot of time in each room, so you are able to gain information, you will want to know what makes each room tick, what makes them think the way they do.

This is why I preach to those who are new to the lifestyle if you start out having sex then that is all you have. If you do not live together you are not grasping the true means of living a D’s or M’s lifestyle. Your getting a couple of hours a week or month in a motel room, or the dominant is coming over to your apartment. You are experiencing the sexual side and nothing more. The truth is there is still another 95% you have not touched.

Being a Dominant is not about barking orders, it is not about suck my cock or get on your back, it is not about anal training while your on your webcam , or sending video with your phone. That is not BDSM

Breaking down the four letters BDSM which you probably already know but many are missing the one word that means the most. B= Bondage. Sado= someone who enjoy giving pain, someone who enjoys humiliation. Humiliation comes in many shapes and forms. Someone who many times will push your linits to far and not really care as long as they get off. Masochism = someone who enjoys receiving pain someone who enjoys humiliation, someone who enjoys being used and pushed past their limits. I am sure there are things I left out but the one word I left out, is the one thing you are or most are missing out on D = Discipline

Disciple also comes in many forms and again it is not about barking orders, it is not about making up rules as you go, it is not about punishing, in fact if you the Dominant are in full control, punishment is far and few. The last thing a submissive or slave wants to do is break a rule, or disappoint you. That is the greatest humiliation they can experience.

D= Discipline does not have to mean punishing you, because you rolled his socks up wrong, or you forgot to send a video of your anal training, or fucking your ass with a dildo so he can jack off. D= Discipline means the Dominant is in full control. He is in control and not controlling. He is in full control of his daily life, he is drama free, he is problem free. If the Dominant is not in full control of his life, how in the fuck can he control you. Telling you to suck his cock, or prepare your ass to be fucked is not Discipline.

Arianna met a Dominant one time and he told her he wanted to go back to his place so he could start her training by sucking his cock. She did decline his most gracious offer.

Those four letters BDSM run so much deeper, those four letters have a definition that never ends, because I do not believe you can ever learn everything or experience everything. The learning aspect of those four letters never end.

Now to all of you 50 shades wannabes or you dudes who just want to abuse and use, or you are married and your wife wont suck your cock so you find someone who will.

I am living the DREAM I live with my Slave, I am served by my slave emotionally and physically. My slave who is my wife is my best friend, we actually communicate. I include the one letter and I am consistent on a daily basis. The letter D= Discipline runs deep.

I seldom drink the same type of coffee in the morning. Arianna keeps a variety for me. Almost two years now when I open the door she is kneeling, her hands extended with a huge grin on her face because she is happy to see me. On the nights I get home late my clothes are laid out for me. When I shower she is kneeling by the tub, once I get out she drys me off. There is not a day that goes by she does not ask me if she can suck my cock. She does not know the words NO or I CANT. She thrives to give up control, she is always thinking of ways to give up control. Arianna has the need to serve. All because of that one letter D= Discipline.

Many of you who are submissive or baby girls the baby girls are the worst. Many of you jump from Dom to Dom, hunting and searching you think sucking cock is your way of finding the rainbow. You think this way because you believe everything you hear , or your just that desperate. Why would you settle for less just to have someone a few hours a week or a month. If you are not living together you are not gaining anything.

Having a plan to make that move is different, even if your long distance and getting to know each other but then you decide okay one of us has to move. That is real , that is how you tell someone really cares about you.

There are very few blogs here on wordpress that are positive. Most is just about bitching or how much they miss their daddy. I did not get a call on my birthday , or I sent a text 3 days ago and have not heard anything. I get to see my daddy and it has been three months. It is really depressing, and I just fucking wonder why you want to put yourself through this, why take this type of mental abuse.

I get up in the morning with Arianna , I turn the coffee pot on and we drink coffee together, but I think many of you get up and you drink a cup of stupid, just to get your day going, a cup of drama extra strong, a cup of drag me through the mud. Let me have a cup of depression to get my day started…

I am not pointing fingers at anyone so do not take it to heart, but why in the fuck would you put yourself through such abuse? Why allow someone to come in and step all over you and walk out while they are throwing you a towel to clean up and say I will see you next month. I really do not get it, because all of you could be living the dream.

Most of you Baby Girls are seeing men who are married, that I do not understand. Because you have a 99.9% chance of him not leaving his wife, you are there because there are things his wife will not do.  Then your only getting his side of the story, maybe you should go see her, give her a call to see if things are so bad, because if they were so bad he would of already left. She is the one who had his children, she has helped him buy the house and cars, she is the one who is cooking for him, she is the one doing his laundry, and yes she is still fucking him. Why would you disrespect her? What has she done to you? Why would you want to destroy what she has worked so hard to build?  It is not a question will you get caught it is when, and I can tell you it wont be pretty, because when you try to destroy her world she will destroy yours. Why put her through his mess, his fuck ups? She has done nothing to you, and you could really care less. If your Dominant or Master or Daddy really cares about you, he could pack up and leave, money or no money, I know because I did it. I lost everything, but in the end left with nothing I was happy.

If he is fucking around on his wife, do not think for one minute you are the only one he is fucking. Do not think if he does leave his wife he will not fuck around on you. Think about that.

I am living the DREAM and if your willing to put just a little effort into your life you can as well. If you 50 shades of grey Doms stop thinking with the wrong head you could as well.

Image

Much Love

Vile

My Blog Is About Kink, Safety and the Love Of My Life Arianna.

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, Advice, anger, Anger Issues, Arianna, ass fucking, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Hypnosis, BDSM Session, Being fucked, being used, blog, Bondage, Cheaters, Cheating Dominant, Christians, Collar, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Domestic Discipline, Dominant, Face Fucking, Facial Abuse, Foot Worship, Hypnosis, Living Poly, Living Triad, married, Married Dominant, Married submissive, Master, Master And Slave, Mind Fuck, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, rimming, Security, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, The World Of BDSM, Thekinkyworldofvile, Total Submission, TPE, Trust, Verbal abuse on March 1, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

It is hard to believe I have reached over 800 post. I truly enjoy blogging it is my own little world. A place I can come to and be myself, be who and what I am. Not that I hide anything out in the vanilla world because I do not, but here I am truly me.

My 800 or so post are mainly about the BDSM lifestyle, safety, what slaves and submissive’s need and should look out for when looking for a new Dominant, Master or Daddy.  The do’s and the Dont’s what to look out for and the questions you need to ask.

To live in a Broken home is not the life you want, to be abused is not the life you want, to be lied to is not the life you want.

You have to remember everything I tell you is from a mans point of view, many of you may not agree with me, I would not expect everyone to agree with me. I can say this I speak the truth. I have been the user, I have been the abuser. I have used just for my pleasure, and tossed to the side. In the past I have fucked women and could not even tell you their name the next morning. I have fucked and when finished they were told to get the fuck out. I have giving out collars on the first meet. What you have to remember the collar is a powerful tool, it can be a tool of deception. It can be used to just to use you, and this has happened to many of you.

800 post almost 200.000 visitors, and over 4000 comments, and a few friends so things are not to bad. People who read my blog are from all over the world. The middle East, the US, Asia , Africa, the UK , I will post the different countries tomorrow the numbers are astonishing

There are many who visit and do not comment, I am assuming that since most who follow me are women, it is the same with the readers. Most wish to remain anonymous and just read my thoughts, and my opinions, and that is fine.

There are those I am sure who read who only wish of such a life, or maybe there are those who cannot believe that there is even such a life. There are those who want to fully submit, but cannot communicate with their partner.

There are things from my early years I do not wish to share. There are things I am not proud of, and as I look back there are things I would not of done.

I can say this and I say this with great truth, I have never hurt anyone physically , I have always honored a safe word and I have never done anything that was not asked for, or that was not communicated

So in my kinky world I come down hard on married men, these are men who cannot run their house. Their wife will not take it up the ass so they find someone who will. They find someone they can use.

I point out the fake Doms, Masters and Daddy’s who want to be a leader so bad but they do not have a clue because again they do not know how to run their home, or they see submission as a weakness.

I have talked about Domestic Discipline and how I believe there is abuse within the home, not all but for the most. I say this because I have talked and chatted with women who live in a DD home, this is not just something I pulled out of my ass.

I have talked about the dangers of impact play, and how you can get hurt. I have blogged about where it is okay to hit and where not to. You can get hurt.

I have blogged about bondage, and yes you can get hurt if not properly tied. You can damage muscles and tendons if you do not know what your doing.

I have blogged about how communication is a must during play, and the need to know what is going through their minds.

I have blogged about the power of mind fucks, and how it can benefit the relationship, or even carry you to the point of sub-space. A good mind fuck can be very erotic.

I have blogged about a topic I truly enjoy, Sexually Broken. Being tied up to the point you cannot move, and being used in every hole. Moving from the mouth to the pussy, then to the ass. I call it three hole golf.

I have talked about how I run my house, my rules, my protocols. My love for total control, and having the ability to control my property, my own. Living with and being married to my wife, my slave and my property.

I have blogged a great deal about hypnosis and the benefits it could have in a relationship, and this is a subject I am still pursuing. We have invited someone over to teach, only to find out he thought he was going to get some pussy. No one fucks my slave but me.

I have blogged about my love for Anal sex, and how I believe it is the most submissive act a woman can take part in. You are invading the most private part of a female body.

I have blogged about my love for face fucking, this falls under the control factor. Most of the time when I am getting head I don’t even want to cum , it just feels so fucking good, I want it to last for ever. When I do want to cum. I grab a hand full of hair and I control the rhythm.

I have blogged about the love of my life, Arianna, my first breath when I wake and my last thought before I fall a sleep. My universe, my world. She is truly my drive in life.

Our relationship is micromanaged, I invest a great deal of time making sure our relationship runs smoothly. Being a Dominant is not a 9 to 5 job it is 24/7 365. Although I do put a great deal of time and effort into our relationship, the rewards I receive come back 100 times over.

I have blogged about our new journey into the world of poly. How I believe it would benefit Arianna. As many of you have noticed, I have not said anything about how such a relationship would benefit me. That is because I am not thinking about me.

Then after a great deal of thought I moved to the idea of a Triad, moving away from the poly idea, because most who are poly are not loyal to just a home, or two.

If you have noticed the subject of sex within a triad has not come up, mainly because that is not my train of thought. Because my main focus is on Arianna, but here is my thoughts. In time with in a Triad sex would come up. My way of thinking would be to find someone who was not open to things that Arianna is. Such as Anal sex, or rimming, or a foot fetish like Arianna has.  These would be things exclusive to Arianna. She would be the only one who could offer these things.

I am not looking for another Slave, we are looking for a submissive, someone to be Arianna’s best friend, to do things with. She wants to take art classes, while I have no interest I would go and take part in. Events they have downtown on the weekends, to help out around the home. While I do help when I am off, it would be nice to have someone around to help.

So my train of thought has nothing to do with the sexual aspect of how we would live with a third. If you are wanting to bring someone into your home with the thought of your getting more pussy, it will never work.

I believe if you do bring a third in , there are things that should be kept exclusive to Arianna. This is what separates the two relationships, it separates the Slave and Submissive.

My standards are very high, if you have seen Arianna or read her blog you would know this, and I refuse to lower them.

We are still in the talking stages trying to piece things together.  I can say this in the end Arianna has the final say, and I will go with what ever she says.

A D’s home an M’s home if ran correctly and the Dom or Master follows through with his word, can be a very loving home, a well structured home.

The Dominant or Master not only have to implement but he has to follow through. He must remain consistent and remain consistent on a hourly basis, a daily and weekly basis. Then and only then will the home grow.

It has been almost two years since the Kinky World Of Vile was born, and I shall continue for sometime. I will continue to give advice, talk about abuse, and most of all My life with the love of my life Arianna.

If you invade my home I will shoot you, and in the end I would take a bullet for Arianna, I am her sole protector. If she needed a heart to survive she has one right here, because I would give without question

This is the kind of home and love I want everybody to experience. I can tell you when I hold Arianna I can feel our souls embracing , I can feel the warmth, most of all I can feel the love.

Submission is the greatest gift of all do not abuse what is giving.

Much Love to all and those around the world.

Image Submission is the gift that will keep on giving.

Vile

The Difference Between A Master And A Dominant

Posted in 24/7, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Behavior Modification, being used, Bestslavetraining.com, blog, Collar, Collared Slave, Collars, communication, Consensual, consistent, control, Dominance, Dominants, extreme, Flogger, Franco Bolli, Local events, Master, Masters, Molding, owning a slave, Pansexual, Protocol, punish, Punishment, serve, session, slave, Slave no rights, submissive, The Difference Between A Master And A Dominant, Top and Bottom, Vile on December 25, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I ran across an Article this am I found on a website I hope you enjoy.

http://www.denversub.com/labels.html

I suppose you could debate the two, who is who and what is what, but if you really think about the difference , the two are only similar in a small aspect of the lifestyle. While Both are Dominant 95% of the time the two live in two totally different worlds.

I will also cover the difference between a slave, submissive and a bottom. All three are very different and all three have different needs.

A Master Is certainly a Dominant , but not all Dominants are Master, within the local community. The term Master is usually those who live with a slave on a 24/7 basis. The title if we were giving one is mostly giving to those who are highly recognized within the community . I do believe that the Master and Slave is wired much different than lets say a Dominant and his submissive. I am not saying one is better than the other, or one has an advantage over the other, our lifestyle are just different.

The Dominant and Submissive. The Submissive , only submits when they choose, the play sessions are talked over before play, The Submissive will say what is allowed and what is not. The submissive will follow some rules but usually in the bedroom only. Once out of the bedroom there is still a Dominance and submissive feeling but not as noticeable as it was during play.

A Master / Slave relationship the Slave Submits once and only once giving up full control over their life. The only rights are those giving to them by there owner or Master, again the is mostly in a 24/7 relationship. The slave gets pleasure from serving their owner, be it helping with the shower, undressing , cooking, cleaning, and yes sexually. Sex between Master and Slave the Slave is more concerned with their owner receiving pleasure than their self, knowing their Master is pleased, is what brings on the feelings they are seeking.

Last night I logged onto FaceBook and I started chatting with another Dominant who also has a blog on wordpress. Franco Bolli. We were talking about the Holidays and he brought this subject up to me, he said.

For me there is a difference between a Master and a Dom, like there is a fundamental difference between a slave and a sub.

Yes he is correct, but those of you who are submissive and new to the lifestyle you really do not have a clue, or maybe you do but your afraid to speak up.You the submissive has the right to submit on your terms, when and where, and how. You have the right to follow what rules you want.

The word Dominant in the lifestyle is relatively new, , or calling someone their Dominant is relatively new going back some 15 years or so, when the pansexual revelation came about.. When BDSM started breaking off into separate groups

So the terms would be Master and Slave, Dominant and Submissive or Top and Bottom, Now the Top and Bottom really differ from the other two, and here is how.

The Bottom will dictate the entire scene , the Bottom will instruct the top , what they can do and what they cannot do, right down to how many times they can be spanked with a belt or flogger. The Bottom can refuse to do certain sex acts or bondage.

Again it is not that anyone is better than the other our lives are just very different. I know even here in the local community some Dominants are called Masters by their Submissive’s, and there is nothing wrong with that, it is what makes your relationship. It is what puts you the submissive in that frame of mind.

Remember the difference between a Slave and a Submissive. Many who are Submissive do not understand how a Slave could live such a life, While a Slave cannot understand how one could only submit at their will. Arianna does not understand those who are submissive, but she respects them. She does not understand how a submissive could talk back to their Dominant, or even argue with them. Arianna knows there would be great consequences if she were to question me, but this is the relationship we have.

Remember the above is just my opinion and nothing more. I have included an article that was written some several years ago That I would like to share, and it speaks about the same subject.

The biggest difference is the COLLAR Like Arianna since she excepted my Collar it has not been off one time. She even wears it to work without question. A Submissive will determine when and where she will wear her collar, if she wears one at all.

One of the best sites out there for information more so those who are new to the lifestyle is Bestslavetraining.com

There is a ton of information it will take you a week to read everything. It will also give you the submissive or slave some ideas on how your Dominant or Master should be,. Read you will truly enjoy.

The slave also goes through what some would call a Behavior Modification process, this happens during training. The way the slave talks, walks, how they act in public, around their owners friends, and yes even sex.

What really got me thinking was what Franco Bolli had said to me about how a Dominant was different than a Master in his eyes or thoughts. You can find him here   http://francobolli666.wordpress.com/

So here is the Article have fun reading maybe it was explained a little better and more detail than I was able to.

The last words are so right, Lets all be kind to each other we Deserve it.

Image I love this position

The article I found below is what I came across this am. All credit goes to.

http://www.denversub.com/labels.html

Master or Dom? / slave or sub?

Labels… we use them… we abuse them.  Disclaimer: this is only one person’s opinion.  You may find it helpful… if not, you may ignore it… Probably the most difficult thing to explain (and some would say impossible) is the difference between the labels we use to define us.  The most common argument occurs with the labels Dominant, Master, slave and submissive.  This page will include opinions… some mine, some borrowed from other sources.  I will attempt to credit those sources where I am able.  If you visit this webpage and see something that was originally yours, please email denversubmissive@aol.com and I will either credit you or remove it, as you wish.

“To be thrilled at the touch of leather, aroused by the sound of harsh words, or satisfied by the security of rigid bondage is the mark of a lover. To be thrilled at the opportunity to provide useful service, aroused by a pleased nod, and satisfied by the proverbial job well done is the mark of a slave.”
The Marketplace, Chapter 7, by Laura Antoniou writing as Sara Adamson

Well, that’s not very sensual or erotic, is it?  But it is a good definition of the term “slave“, and one that is used in our lifestyle quite often to describe a voluntary submission of one’s will completely to another.  In truth, very few “slaves” would apply this definition to themselves, if they are honest with themselves about what they require to be fulfilled in the role.  Most of us (at least part of the time), want the thrill of leather, the arousal and satisfaction provided by the role, and would be less than satisfied with simply service.  So, we modify the definition a bit.

Another common distinction between “slave” and “submissive” is that a slave submits only once, and that given her submission to her Master, she no longer negotiates anything with him.  A “sub”, by contrast, negotiates each scene, or changes in the limits of the relationship as time goes on.

A popular debate takes place over the difference between a submissive and a bottom (meaning the noun).  I think this one is solved fairly easily.  A submissive is a bottom who submits to the will of the Dominant in a scene, within the pre-negotiated limits they agree upon.  She does not direct the scene in any way and it is his choice which of those negotiated items he will incorporate into any particular scene.  By contrast, a bottom often negotiates precisely what will happen in a particular scene, down to how many strokes with a particular toy.  She does not submit her will to that of the Dominant or Top, and there is no exchange of power… simply a planned scene.  The verb form, to “bottom” can apply to either a bottom or a submissive, describing the activity of being the recipient of the Dominant’s actions.

I often tell those I mentor that you can picture it on a scale of 1 to 5.. with the submissive being 1 (“whatever pleases you, Sir”) and the bottom being 5 (“This is the way we are going to do the scene”).  We fall all along the scale, rather than at one end or the other.  This is what makes labeling impossible.  There is no right or wrong way to bottom… everyone should find the place that gives them the most satisfaction.

A similar scale exists for “Dominants” and “Tops”. The Top in a scene is the person giving the sensation or pain.  Picture the scale with the “Service Top” at 1 (“My pleasure comes from giving the bottom exactly what she wants to be completely satisfied”) and the Dominant at 5 (“Now that we have negotiated what is allowable, I will choose what pleases me”).  Again, we fall all along the scale… there is no right or wrong way to top someone.  I believe that most 5’s on the scale are hard-core sadists who derive their primary pleasure from the infliction of pain, and playing with one of these sadists can be a heady experience… they *enjoy* it so much!

Now we come to the most difficult: Master and Dominant.  Obviously all Masters are Dominants, but certainly all Doms are not Masters!  At least not in the generally accepted use of the term, which is someone who owns a slave and controls her life completely.  In some communities, the term “Master” is reserved for highly qualified Dominants who have proven themselves to be of excellent character and skill.  The community itself reserves the right to bestow this title and does so sparingly.  For others, it is simply a condition of the mind… the thought processes that a Dominant entertains as he tops… and some believe that the “Master” truly feels the ownership and responsibility of the slave under his control in ways the Dominant does not.  I tend to believe in “slave” wiring and “Master” wiring myself, and don’t consider them better, just very different.

The most important point I hope to make with all this is that we should avoid using labels to rate someone’s skill or dedication to our lifestyle.  Labels are beneficial in helping others understand us… but statements like “oh.. she’s just a bottom” or “he’s only a Service Top” do an injustice to us all.  Whether someone likes a lot of pain or none at all; total surrender or neatly negotiated play; absolute control or a part time play experience… we all have a right to pursue our fantasies and desires, and deserve better than to be labeled by the very people who should understand the most clearly how diversified we all are.

Let’s be kind to each other… we deserve it!

Vile

You Will Not Disrespect My Bitch

Posted in abuse, Arianna, bdsm, blog, Disrespect, slave on December 23, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

It is no secret that within the lifestyle I pick and choose arianna’s friends. Outside of the lifestyle she has friends and I do not pry or get in the way of her friends.

Within the lifestyle I have the say, and I will continue to have the say, but in the future that will probably change. Being somewhat new to the lifestyle, living with her first real Dominant, it is very important not to let anyone pollute her mind. It is not to say she cannot talk to others because she can, I just keep her away from the nuts or so I thought.

It has taking a year for other Dominants to stop asking if they could fuck Arianna, yep you heard right. I have also been asked if we could trade slaves for the weekend. Um no I have no interest in your slave. it seems everyone wants what others have.

A prime example , at a Christmas party a co-worker calls another guys girl off to the side her Boyfriend walks into the conversation and this dude is begging for a chance telling her to dump her Boyfriend and be with him, right in front of his face. Wow.

So I introduced Arianna to two different slaves who I thought would be okay, well one was just full of so much drama, and the other wanted friendship on what I call her terms.

Arianna enjoys emailing and Susan and Arianna would exchange emails several times a week. I knew Susan was getting a little nutty, her relationship was falling a part, her health is getting bad, losing her house. So yes I can see when things go a little south.

Now I offered to step in, and help with her home taking her to the right people to insure she was able to keep her house. I laid out a plan which her Dominant should of been doing from the start but he was to interested in finding another slave to move in, mean while his house is falling apart at the seams.

So Arianna would make a comment to me that she had not heard from her friend in a week , a couple of days. Arianna did not know but she will now, I stepped in I made contact and within hours Arianna would have mail. I have a way with people.

So she meets this couple about two hours away and just goes gaga nuts over. I called Susan and said you are fixing to make a huge mistake, and one you will regret. We spoke on the phone for a good several minutes, but it went in one ear and out the other.

The Dom she had is new to the lifestyle he says 10 years I say 10 months give or take a few weeks. He is not into pain, but she is. So I offered to let him bring her over and I would session with her. I talked to Arianna about it and she was okay with the thought. Being a former Sadist I was more than happy to step in.

Okay I am getting to what I wanted to say. Arianna about a month ago emailed susan and waited and waited and waited. So Being me I stepped in and sent an email, her daughter sent me an email stating she had been in the hospital, but would return my email the next day. That never happened the next day she jumps in her car and runs down south to this couple, where she is a cook and house keeper and life is good. So I emailed and told her, that Arianna would no longer have permission to correspond with her because of the amount of disrespect. Arianna deserved better. To top it off her daughter never answered my email.

This am we both receive an email from the one and only begging for forgiveness, and now the couple she was seeing is not working out, and they will not answer her emails, Wow imagine that.

I replied but I sent it to Lizzy by mistake, I am glad she told me because I would of been more pissed off when I got no answer.

Yea I am just ranting here so bare with me

So now that everything is falling apart just like I told her it would she now needs a friend,and I will not stand by and watch Arianna be used, that will not happen. It is my house my rules.

The email I sent was not rude but it was very blunt and straight to the point.

I am not controlling nor am I possessive , I am very protective nothing more. Arianna is my sole responsibility.

I encouraged Arianna to start a new blog a way for her to express herself, she is a very private person so for her to do so was a huge step. I want her to have friends, learn and continue to grow, but if I do not disrespect her no one else is going to either.

I will go out of my way to help someone and ask for nothing in return, just do not disrespect me in the process.

We stand by ours, we protect, we insure things run smoothly. Arianna will tell you she does not even know most of what goes on. All she knows is that I take care of everything. If something comes up on her side I either tell her how to handle it or I take over.

That is what we do best.

Vile

I Am Me

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, blog, Bondage, Collar, communication, Consensual, control, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, events, Giving Head, Humiliation, Impact play, Kink, kinky, Lie, Lies, Love, Loyal, Master, Masters, munchs, needy, oral sex, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, sex, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on December 6, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

In he past I have posted a little about who I am but I never have gone into any great detail. I have been into the lifestyle for longer than I can remember this dates back into my teens, before I even knew what BDSM was all about. Even in my teens I had the need to be in control.

I grew up in a very small town in Northern Georgia my 8th grade class had 23 people in our graduation. Going into high school it was somewhat bigger but total 9th 10th 11th and 12th only had about a thousand kids so compared to today’s school it was small. I played baseball in elementary and high school. I was a relief pitcher. I was only good for 2 or 3 innings though due to my side arm throw. At the age of 16 I was throwing 86 MPH so after a few innings my elbow would swell.

I was popular with most of the guys, but I cannot say the same about the girls , due to my sexual behavior. At that age I enjoyed bondage, face fucking, anal I was game for pretty much anything. It was a control things.

I caught onto life pretty fast I grew up in an abusive home, and both parents were addicted to pain medications, and of course alcohol. The one thing I learned on a daily basis is I was not going to be like them. To this day I could never figure out why they argued. My real mother has since past but my father is still living and we have somewhat of a good relationship. I have one brother who just turned 46 I am 51 by the way. Him and I talk often but have only seen each other maybe 3 or 4 times in the past 15 years.

I have never really been into drugs although as a teen I tried to smoke all the pot in the world but they just grew more so I lost that battle, I have never done any hard drugs such as cocaine , I am not big on pills , but I do have a drink from time to time. Every now and then I will get sideways but that is far and few.

I learned about the lifestyle shortly after I joined the Army and was stationed in Korea, and even then I just happen to stumble into it. I was introduced to an old man named Kim who lived with 5 slaves.

There is a huge difference in the lifestyle than in the US. In Korea a Slave would have nothing to do with a Dominant or Master unless she knew who trained you. Since the lifestyle in Asia is so underground it is probably still the same.

Once back in the states I was still young and dumb, but I had a couple of things on my side. I no longer had a temper, I was very calm, and I knew how to get into someones head. All of the sex, face fucking, ass fucking meant nothing but now I had a weapon that was very effective.

So for many years I spent most of my time just using, I would get what I wanted and just toss to the side and look for the next. This went on for a number of years. To me a long term relationship was a three day weekend, much more past that I was just bored.

One thing I did learn and it can be good and bad, I learned from an early age to speak my mind, If I thought it I said it. Another thing I learned was to observe people, I am a people watcher. What I learned from watching people is how I did not want to live.

So I have had several long term relationships, but have only been in what I would call love maybe 3 times in my 51 years. That is not a very good track record. In between up until a couple of years ago there were a couple of times I settled for less that what I needed and wanted, knowing it was not going to work, but I am human.

How you see me on here is me, once I log on and I start a new post I do not change. I am the same at home, in public, at work or at a local munch, I am me. I never try to be someone I am not.

I remember several years ago and this is what hit me, I was at a Chinese buffet with a friend and another friend showed up with a date, and when he said hey Vile whats up I asked them to sit down and join us and his date was just starring at me, and finely asked if I use to live in these apartments and I said yes. She actually started trembling and told her date she wanted to leave. She was truly scared of me. On my way home Animel and I were laughing at her, but once home I mixed a jack and coke and I was standing outside on the river bank and I started thinking. Wow if she was scared of me just how many more feel the same way. Then it hit me being feared is nothing to be proud of, that is not how I wanted to be known as.

So I put a plan together, I was going on a Vile clean up campaign. I was going to be my own public relations manger. I was going to clean the story of Vile up.

I became more active in the community. I started doing a lot of speaking, dating more, changing up my way of playing, putting my sadistic nature to the side, and before I knew it I was back in the game, I was back in the hunt. I was no longer feared I was very respected in the community, today even more so.  So a year later standing outside looking over the river drinking a jack and coke, I thought to myself well done Vile you did the impossible.

I was still missing something though and I could not put my finger on it, then I was at Bush Gardens one day and I saw all of these family’s walking by with kids and I said that is it man you need a wife and a kid. So off I went 3 months later I was married and a short time after she was pregnant. We lost our first son to a heart transplant he was 18 days old. By this time I had enough of the vanilla life and I had to get back to being me, and wow she was pregnant again. So I stuck it out for another 3.5 years then I had to come clean about who and what I was.

Now I was married for nine years to the most vanilla woman in the world, the sex was horrible, she could not suck a dick to save her life, and no ass fucking. I said you are killing me here. So after I came clean she agreed to let me move a Slave in, yea baby , but she was only an in service slave, NO SEX. My ex-wife was a horrible house keeper, she could not cook, and clutter everywhere. So I moved this bitch in and she went to work. A week later spotless house, meals cooked every night, my lunch packed kids off to school, picked up this was the life. So my ex gets jealous and says you both have to go. Let me think okay I am out of here. I told the salve hey its been nice love ya go back home.

I have a very good relationship with my Ex wife, there is no drama, Arianna and her get along good, my son likes Arianna. So now life is good.

So when I log onto wordpress I am me, this is who I am. If I were to try and be something different what would people who read here think of me. I tell the truth , I live by the truth.

Many have asked for advice and when I tell them what they do not want to hear, most get mad. If I told everyone what they wanted to hear where would that get you ?

I do not want you to agree with everything I post, or the way I believe, the way I think. My post are to make you think, my post are meant to be objective.

Much of my blog is about safety okay so Ive had a change of heart over the past several years. I speak on safety because you as a submissive or slave can get fucked up, you can get hurt and hurt bad. Most do not think before entering a relationship. More so the new who are entering the lifestyle. You do not listen until it is to late. You want what you want and you want it now. It does not work that way

So the next morning when you wake up and your bruised from head to toe, or something is broken, you can think back, yea Vile told me, and I did not listen. Bondage is no game and if you get some dude that does not have a clue to what he is doing, you just may not wake up the next morning.

Most new Doms are into hard impact play, again if he does not know what he is doing he could break sometime, or even worse while spanking and he hits to high and to hard, you could lose a kidney. BDSM is not a game you can get fucked up. Bondage there are many no’s. You can damage tendons if tied to tight. Remember that when you meet a Dom for the first time and he brings his little travel bag and he is totally clueless about what he is going to do. Yea take his word when he says oh I have been in the lifestyle for 20 years. Are you really going to take his word ?

The first thing I did when Arianna and I agreed to enter a relationship was to introduce her to people I knew in the lifestyle people I had known for years. There is nothing like the feeling of being safe.

Keeping your girls safe is what the majority of my blog is about, it is up to you if you listen or not. Again why do you think that over 95% of the 236 followers are women and there are so few men ?

I am not here to put other Doms or Masters down. I am not here to say I am better than your Master, because I am not we all have our own way of living.

Being a Submissive or Slave is not about being on your hands and knees scrubbing the floor, doing laundry , cooking or cleaning house. Being a Slave is not about being passed around like a dog, unless that is your kink, if so then go with the flow. Being a Slave does not mean your stupid, or you cannot think on your own. You are human, but a Human with different needs.

Slaves are needy for the most as with those who are submissive. You should not have to change who you are. I like needy myself, I like my Bitch to hang all over me. If your Master excepted you the way you were then he should not try and change you.

I share things because I want you to see what kind of relationship you can have, a relationship filled with love and respect. A relationship where you are cared for. A relationship filled with communication, then you add all of the kink.

You do not have to put up with drama, you do not have to put up with lies , you do not have to put up with abuse, arguing the list goes on and on. Before a Slave or Submissive you are human, you have feelings, you have needs and they should be met. If they are not speak your mind and if things do not change, fucking leave.

Why would a Master argue with his Slave ? Who is in charge at this point ? Why would you allow a Master to Slap you around ? degrade you, humiliate you in anger, call you names out of anger. Why would you allow such things ?

You as a slave or submissive has the right to be happy treated with respect, you do not needs someones drama brought into your life nor should you bring your drama with you.

I put a lot of work into my relationship 25 hours a day 8 days a week 366 days a year. I take care of mine and only mine. I am there through good and bad. I am there when Arianna gets emotional . My time is dedicated to her and only her. I am not looking to add to my house. Because I get anything I want when I want.  She would never think of saying NO. Be it sucking my cock, fucking , anal anything. Why ? Because I go above and beyond to insure she is taking care of. She knows that not matter what she comes first. That is the way it should be.

Be who and what you are, and make sure your Master does the same.

Image

Vile

I Am Not Better Than Your Dominant

Posted in abuse, Advice, Apologize, Arianna, bdsm, blog, cocky, Dominants, I Am Not Better Than Your Dominant, Master, slave, submissive on December 5, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I know at times I come off pretty cocky, maybe I seem a little arrogant, but that is far from the truth. At times I am very humble. When I wake in the morning and I roll over and Arianna is sleeping I am very proud. As I am preparing our coffee for the morning I am thinking what our conversation will be, I am hoping she has a good day at work. I am humble when I stand outside of our home and see what we have built together.

I am not trying to out do anyone , nor am I trying to make anyone look bad. The base of my blog is about abuse in the lifestyle and out of the lifestyle. I am against abuse of any type, be it verbal, physical or mental.

I am not better than your Master, owner or Dom I am just me. I share my life with you, I share my opinion with you, and yes it is just my opinion. Just like any blog you read that another Dominant wrote.

You will never hear me say your Dominant is wrong or he is a fake, or he does not know what he is doing. Every Dominant and owner is different, we think different and we live different.

My life story what I have written is the truth and nothing but the truth. There are something I refuse to share because I am not proud of some of the things I have done. I can say I have never hurt anyone well physically anyway. Mental I cannot say so much. I have grown over the years and I have learned from my mistakes. So I started this blog to try and make somethings right.

I have contacted subs and slaves from the past and tried to make things right, apologizing for any harm I may have caused or hurt. You can never take anything back but you can try and make things right.

I feel like it seems I am putting other Dominant down here on my blog and that is so far from the truth.  I was just scanning over some of my post in the near future I will hit 700 blogs as I was reading I was thinking man this really could sound fucked up to another Dominant.  So if i come across as such I do apologize.

I started my blog to help others find the right path, to insure they knew what to look out for, and what danger signs to look for. Today I looked and I have 236 followers not near as many as most, but it truly means a lot. If I have reached out to a few and made some sort of difference then I have done well.

I have had many ask me for advice, and I offered my opinion some took it and some just blew me off. I am okay with that. I have seen many come and go on wordpress, but I encourage all of you who are submissive or a slave to blog. Blogging is a way to express your feelings and thoughts. You can look back and see where you were and where you are today.

Thank all of you and much love.

Vile

Arianna Has A New Blog

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, blog, slave on December 1, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Arianna informed me a couple of weeks ago that she would like to start a new blog. She does have a blog already and there are many who follow me that are following her. She has not posted anything in sometime , reason being she has to be in that mood, that frame of mind. Her post tend to be much deeper than mine, and as of now very vanilla.

I am not sure what gave her the idea to start a new one but I more than welcome her thoughts and answers. I am not going to expect something daily or weekly she has more than enough on her plate now. That would be me.

This will be the chance to ask her questions, and get answers on the other side of the story. She is very open and she does enjoying sharing.

There are a few Slaves who follow my bog who email me asking questions or wanting advice. Yes Arianna knows about everything, she even takes part in the answering questions. This is not something I expect her to do, but I believe she does enjoy helping.

I do not mind other Dominants posting on her blog or asking questions, but we will keep it respectful and non-personal. Arianna is not as open as I am. As a matter of fact we are two totally opposites. Arianna is more of a calm peaceful woman, while I am at times loud and very out spoken.

So her new blog is called

vilesarianna

I do not believe you can leave a comment or follow as of yet, she will finish setting it up in the next day or so. Once finished feel free to stop in and say hello.

Image

Vile