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My Story The Breaking Of Sabrina. Breaking A Slave

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Adapt, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Breaking a Slave, commitment, communication, control, controlling, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, emotional, Emotions, FaceBook Vile Woods, Humiliation, Humiliation Training, Master, Master And Slave, owning a slave, Pain, relationships, sex slaves, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, submissive blank canvas, Young Dominant with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on September 29, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

In the past just in general conversation, I have had Dominants who were friends of mine who had spoken of wanting to break a slave.
Why do you want to break a slave? Because I want to, I want that control.

The truth is you can have that control, and probably more control without Breaking a Slave.

Although The Breaking Of Sabrina had some fiction in it, some of it was real, and things like I spoke about do happen on a daily basis.

There was a Dominant who came to a munch a couple of years ago, who said he ran a Slave camp in Ocala Florida, after talking for a while I was invited, but I declined.

That is not the way I roll, and if I see nothing I know nothing.

Even today I would not want to take on such a task, nor would I want that kind of responsibility

The Breaking Of Sabrina is about a man who wanted something he knew nothing about. He thought he wanted what Vile had, but once he had it he did not know what to do with her, and in the end she left her husband, and Sabrina and Vile are still together, in the book anyway.

There are two ways to Break a Slave, consensual , and non-consensual.
I have seen the consensual side of Breaking, by a Dominant I know who lives local here, and through the weeks I clearly saw the transformation the slave went through. I suppose being willing to be broken play a Hugh part in the process, but I also suppose being with a Dominant you care about and want to stay but putting up a resistance would make things more difficult. It would depend on how far you want to go, and how much your willing to give up.

Breaking a slave does not have to be physical, although I am sure that is what some of the steps that are taking during the process.

Breaking one would be more of a mental thing, and the unknowing. Getting inside your head and playing with your brain like putty.

I had mentioned before about a Slave camp here where I live, does it really exist ? I am not really sure, it may because I would not of been invited to something that was not real.

One does not have to be extreme in order to be abusive, even minor abuse to me is extreme.

To Break a slave means you have to bring them back up. More importantly you must have the ability to bring the slave back up, and the want as well as the dedication.

Although I could, that is not again a responsibility or task I would even think of taking on.

If you are thinking about taking on such a task, you the Dominant needs to insure you are in the relationship for the long haul. Anything short lived could have bad effects on the slave, and may have trouble even functioning , or you could even cause a severe breakdown.

You have to think, why would you need to try and break someone’s will? What are you going to get out of it ? What do you plan on accomplishing ? What is the slave going to get out of this type of training ?

Before you begin your training, you should already know what steps you are going to take.

The one advantage you have over your slave or submissive, while your training, they will be spending much of their time trying to figure you out. Trying to figure out the Dominant is not a shirt term task either, so it is very important the Dominant keeps changing things up.

Breaking someone’s will can take less than 48 hours, up to about 6 weeks. Do you really want to spend that much time? If you do not live together it will be impossible to reach that point. Breaking someone is not something you can do on the weekends.

Also there should be no physical abuse, that will just blow up in your face. There should be no abuse at all.
Breaking a slave is Mental, it is getting deep in their mind.

Humiliation will play a huge part in this type of training. Everyone’s definition of humiliation is different, so the Dominant will have to explore, and see which avenue he will want to take..

The Training of a Slave is a form of breaking. It is actually a form of mind modification, you are reprogrammed. You are now told how to do task you did on a daily basis, but now you are being shown a different way. You must adapt to your surroundings.
What most do not understand is the training really never ends, because the Master is making sure everything stays in check.
I myself may add something or take away something, the last thing I want to do is cause an overload.

The breaking of a slave can be said the Master is causing a complete breakdown, and starting with a blank canvas. It can also get to a point where they slave cannot even think for their selves any longer.

The story The Breaking of Sabrina was about a greedy man who wanted something someone else had, but once he got it, he did not know what to do or how to handle. Yea not having instructions can be bad.

You cannot beat someone into submission, you can however beat someone into fear, and fear is all you have, with fear there is no relationship you have a puppet who is scared of you.

This is where the trust factor comes into play. It has to be a Dominant that you know and you are willing to just turn your life over to.
If you think about it that is a huge decision and one that should be giving a lot of thought.

As I stated it would have to be something the Dominant would be able to devote a lot of time.

Everyone’s definition of Breaking a slave will be different, but I am a firm believer it can be done and should be done without pain.

Humiliation will play a huge roll in the breaking as well as sex, and just being used. Maybe not being allowed to go to the bathroom, not being able to eat, and being talked to in a very humiliating way.
If you are willing with no resistance the time frame would be much shorter than if you did put up any resistance.

Arianna went through a Breaking in process, I would of never taking her down as I have stated above.

The other thing that should be considered is their mental well being, and the medications they are on. You could really hurt someone, if you are not experienced.

I have seen the process, I have seen it in person and I have seen the outcome as well, and in that case it turned out okay.
She did however become fully dependent upon the master.
He then was in his mid 60’s and she had not turned 30, so you have to look at the whole picture. What if something happens to him?

Something I have tried to explain not only to the younger Doms who are in the learning process, but older Doms who are new as well.
While the learning process is not easy, it can be very rewarding.
Then about two weeks into the lifestyle they know everything, and any advice is shunned. When their relationships are not working they want to put all the blame on the slave or submissive.

I find it very funny because even after 20 years or so I am still learning everyday. Everyday is a new day, and we should continue to grow.
Many times however some will let their egos get in the way.
I am in the Dominant in the relationship and I know what I am doing.
I am the Dominant you have no right to question me. I am in charge and you will listen. If you would do what you were told we would not be having these problems.
It just goes on and on.

These are the same Dominants who are not welcome with in the community. These are the same Dominants , that meet those slaves and subs who have been in the lifestyle for sometime, and they will have nothing to do with them….

While they will say it is not their fault, it is indeed they are just to blind to see, what they are doing wrong.

I learned sometime ago there comes a time you have to be humble, you also have to be willing you made a mistake. You have to have a level of respect.
Today there are older Dominants I will address as Sir out of respect.

You have to ask the Dominant what his goals are, what are his intentions, what does he plan to get out of the relationship?
There are so many things we tend to look over because you are in the excitement mode and your mind is going a 100 miles an hour.

Just like my story The Breaking Of Sabrina , he did not know what to do with her once he had her.

I have a much longer version coming out soon, and Sabrina will be helping with the training..

If your going to Break a slave or Submissive, make sure you have the time to dedicate, your willing to be in for the long haul, and you have the right tools and resources available to you..

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Vile

Check Out My New Short Story. The Breaking Of Sabrina.

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Breaking a Slave, masochist, Master And Slave, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, slave, Slave Trainer, Submission, sucking cock with tags , , on July 22, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This is a very short story, it is the first of three more books.
The second one will continue with Sabrina and a few more girls and it will be much longer.
You will get to see what my thoughts are when it comes to breaking a Slave who is unwilling

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sabrina

Yes that is My beautiful wife and slave Arianna.

Much Love

Vile

Breaking In A Slave Or Breaking A Slave

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, Breaking a Slave, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Discipline, Dominant, FaceBook Vile Woods, fucking, Humiliation, Humiliation Training, masochist, Master, Master And Slave, non-consensual, Patience, Protocol, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, sex, sex slaves, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, sucking cock, sucking dick, The slave must adapt on July 16, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

There is clearly two different meanings but both can have the same outcome.

Just did a short story, The Breaking Of Sabrina. A woman who was broken at her husbands request. He lost and the Master won. That is something else we need to look at as well, choices and consequences, after all that is what life is about right ?

Breaking in a Slave is a term that is used once you start the training process, and as with breaking some humiliation is used during this process. The humiliation depends on how stable the Slave is mentally, and that is just one factor that comes into play.

Once you begin your search for a Slave not a Submissive, but a Slave you should have a clear picture of how you see your everyday life. You should already know what your intentions are, and what you expect the outcome to be.

To a novice Master who really has no experience, will really have a difficult time, mainly because he does not have a clue. Although there is a ton of Material out here , what works for one will not work for someone else. If the Master has a lot of drama or problems, the training will not be effective. Most associate a slave as just being sexual but that is so far from the truth, although there are just sex slaves who are just used for pleasure and nothing more.

Humiliation puts the slave in that mindset, you also have to point out you are not equal to them. It sounds worse than it really is, this is a mindset you are trying to achieve. To be a slave you have to feel like a slave.

First however the Slave must be willing , second and the most important factor the Master must be real and serious.

I actually sat down and thought about how my daily life would be if I had a slave living with me 24/7. Everything on my terms including sex. Sex is about me. Sex is about my needs being met, my wants.

I have changed Arianna life she has made a 360 degree turn. Today she does not see how she has changed, she does not see her submission, mainly because she lives it everyday.

She does not hear the words Master flowing from her mouth, or asking permission to use the bathroom, or to enter the bed. She does not see any of this, because not it comes natural.

That is when you know you as a Master Has reached your goal. You have created you own masterpiece. You have created something very special.

The bond is like no other, somehow it is stronger than love although your in love , it is a much different feeling, really hard to explain.

So from time to time you have to make slight changes, mainly because of the way Arianna feels about her submission.

Even the slightest change can make a huge difference, maybe in just a word someone uses, or the way they sit, the slightest change makes a huge, huge difference.

Breaking A Slave

This can be done willingly or not. I see it as a total breakdown of someones will, you change their whole thought process, and it could get to the point to where they cannot even think for their selves.

When someone ask you to break them, you need to find out what their reasons are, what do they hope to gain out of being broken?
In a short term relationship being broken could have severe effects, and the outcome could be harmful, or being incomplete in the process, meaning the Master is not their to bring back up.

So you take a Blank canvas , you strip the slave of everything, clothes, makeup, the ability to shave, they eat what you put in front of them.

You control their speech, their posture, how they dress, where they can sit, what if anything they wear.
This needs to be done on a daily basis, house rules are put in place. You limit where they can be in the house, when they can use the bathroom, shower, TV.
What you do, is allow family time, to speak on the phone, for 10 to 15 minutes, in front of you, checking emails in front of you. Not being allowed to close the bathroom door, you take away any privacy they want or need.

You use on a regular basis, showing no compassion or love. Be it just sucking your dick or crawling on top dumping your load and getting off walking out of the room leaving her there. That in its self is a form of humiliation, You have to use on a daily basis, without asking or explaining what your going to do. You want to keep their mind wondering. Trust me it works.

More sever would be extreme humiliation, physical beatings, calling names, such as whore, and slut, your worthless, who in the fuck would want you, you get the idea..

So I suppose in a way Arianna was broken, and here we are today, her feelings grow everyday, her submission continues to grow. She has a need to please.
I did just what I explained above leaving out the extreme. I keep a very tight leash on Arianna, I know where she is 24/7. She even had me install a tracker on her phone. I can pick up my phone and locate her within 50 feet.

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Vile

The Breaking Of Sabrina , An Awesome Book Review

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Breaking a Slave, slave, Submission, Thekinkyworldofvile with tags on July 15, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Okay the book could of been longer, it was originally meant as a short story just for my blog.

Sometime ago I met a Slave and she asked me to break her. I declined , mainly because I did not want that kind of responsibility, and I had no feelings towards her, nor did I see us entering a relationship.

There is a huge Difference in a D’s relationship and an M’s relationship.
I am still not sure where the Daddy and the Baby Girl fits in even thought I was part of that lifestyle in the past. At that point I had no idea where I fit in.

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I liked this short story because it was very well told, hot and very erotic. Yet I found it way too short. After turning the last page I had the impression this could have been longer and more deepened out as it offers a least a myriad of story lines.

Much to his credit Vile is an advocate against any type of abuse. Therefore at the end of this eBook an international list of helplines is provided. An initiative I can only applaud.

Also I would like to mention Vile’s blog. thekinkyworldofvile.wordpress.com is worth your visit and your time.

I am looking forward to more of Vile’s writings.

Vile

My Short Story Is Out. The Breaking Of Sabrina

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, Breaking a Slave, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, control, controlling, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominant, FaceBook Vile Woods, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, https://www.facebook.com/lea.barrymire., Humiliation, Humiliation Training, masochist, Master And Slave, non-consensual, Owned Slave, owning a slave, Pain Slut, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, slave, Stockholm syndrome, Submission, submissive with tags , , on July 14, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

One Complaint, to short.

I have been in three TPE relationships over the past twenty something years TPE.
My first Slave Sherri , was a total masochist, and was into deep humiliation, and a total pain slut. The only time I ever seen her cry was the day I told her it was over.

In the beginning the relationship was a lot of fun, but as time went on it grew old, because it became more of a job.

I guess one reason was I never developed any real feelings for Sherri, and I cannot explain why, unless it was her three kids.

My second was Bea who I truly thought I was in love, but I now realize I was not. I cared for Bea but I now know it was not Love..

I know this now because my now wife and Slave, I am deeply in love and I truly cherish her. I hate being away from from her on a daily basis but I know it is only a short time.

The thing I want to point out is each Slave was different, each had a different personality, but most important each had different needs.
So the way each was handled was different, the same rules, or protocols would not of worked for either.

You have to be able to open ones mind so to speak and take a walk around in their brain.

Sherri was not hard because I was told what and how to do something . I understand more today than I did then.

Bea was a little more of a struggle. Once I knew her, then I had to figure out how she thought, what made her tick, what made her want to cut herself, once I was able to communicate with her on her level and the more I understood her, the less of cutting there was until it stopped all together.

Arianna was a task in the beginning , it was not until I had access to her journals did I grow to have a clear understanding of what made her tick..

So each and everyone of us is different, every Dominant, and Master, every Submissive and Slave. It is finding the one who fits your needs.
If you rush without really looking at the whole picture you could fall prey.

Which now brings me to my short story, being a sadist at one time, I was able to clear my mind and take a walk. I actually viewed myself in the book, the only difference is I would of never trained Sabrina for someone else she would of been for my own use.

Which Brings us to The Subject of Stockholm Syndrome. A human can be broke in as little as 48 hours under the right conditions.
Now everyone who is taken captive does not suffer from Stockholm. Some are stronger than others.
In the case one does, it is because they develop feelings for their capture, they develop feelings for the one who is abusing them, I know its weird. No one really knows what sets that timer off.

I saw myself, how would I break someone if I was going to take that type of path. Starting out with pure fear, and humiliation, then moving to a more caring individual. Those steps I believe may have to be repeated it would depend on who you were trying to break….

So here is the link it is a very short story, but at the end you should see the purpose of the book..

There is one more coming out sometime in November I do believe, it will be much longer, and it will be Non-Fiction. It will be about the life of a master and slave, and the safety steps you should take when looking for a relationship.

Much love to everyone who has stopped by over the last two years.
As always feel free to drop me an email
viledesires62@aol.com

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I want to thank Arianna for giving us such a great cover. Lea Barrymire did finish it up for us…

If you do make a purchase please leave a review, good or bad, but keep an open mind when reading it.

Vile

My First Book Will Be Released In About 48 hours. The Breaking Of Sabrina

Posted in abuse, Arianna, Breaking a Slave, human trafficking, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , on July 11, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Although The Breaking Of Sabrina is fiction , this type of activity does take place and often.
Something I never have understood, is why a Slave would want to be broken, or a Master would want that much responsibility on his shoulders..

The breaking of a slave can be consensual or non-consensual , I would assume it may start out consensual, but move to the later very fast.

I was asked to write a fiction on breaking a Slave, so I thought about how I would proceed if I was going to do such a thing. How long it would take, and what steps I would take.

The Stockholm Syndrome is alive and well. A human can be broke in as little as 48 hours under the right conditions, and it could take as long as 90 days. I would suppose how strong willed the individual was.

To break a slave , you would actually take them to the lowest level of life possible, total degradation, total humiliation , and you would remain consistent for what ever period of time it took to get the results you needed.
You would physically use , in a sexual sense that is. You would use every hole, just total humiliation..

You could even reach a point , where you could take someone outside with you, shopping and so on.

In the past I have been asked by a slave to break her. First although I probably could, I am not wired like that, nor would I want the responsibility of bringing the slave back up, if you were even able to.

The breaking of a slave also falls under human trafficking each year thousands of people are sold into slavery, and the numbers are increasing every year. In some cases a slave can be bought for as little as 300 us dollar. I am sure the breaking starts way before one is sold.

Human Trafficking is not only for work, but most are sold as sex slaves, and used for prostitutes. Very few are lucky enough to ever see freedom again.

I myself am against any type of abuse, if it is non consensual it is abuse. We do not see the lasting effects of abuse, or maybe we do see the effects once a name hits the paper.

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Your Submissive Or Slave Is Not Compliant

Posted in 128 Basic rules, 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, Adapt, Advice, anal sex, and Respect, Argue, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Breaking a Slave, Change, codependent, Collar, Collared Slave, communication, Conform, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominance, Dominants, Drama, emotional, Emotions, Fake Slaves, Fake submissive, fucking, Honesty, Humiliation, Kink, kinky, Master, needy, problems, punish, Punishment, Respect, Rules, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive Brat, sucking cock, sucking dick, Train your slave, training your slave, Your Submissive Or Slave Is Not Compliant on December 6, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

This happens all the time, I also here this all the time. The last was maybe I am not the Master for her or she needs more and I cannot give more.

Every Submissive is different , every Slave is different. Their minds, their thoughts , their needs, their actions. Each has a different level of needs. Some are real emotional , some are very needy, some become fully dependent on their Master, while others function very well outside of the home. Some need 24 hour care while some do not. Some need stricter rules, guidelines, protocols, while others do not.

Some act bratty , while most are very docile. Most are very quite and some are very out spoken.  Most are very Compliant , while some need a little more work.

Men who do not have a clue think owning a slave is about her sucking cock or just spreading her legs. Tying the slave up and just beating her ass until she cannot walk, and to a new submissive or slave these actions are exceptable. no questions asked until they start talking to other slave.

The key is getting to know the slave, knowing them as a person not just in the lifestyle. Knowing about their interest, hobby’s, the movies they enjoy, music. The foods they like. The Dominant should know the slave inside out.

Once this is achieved then you move on to different levels speaking about the lifestyle, a week or maybe more may of gone by before you should get into the kinks.

Let me tell you something, if you meet someone on line and after 20 minutes or so it turns to sex, he wants one thing and one thing only. That is your mouth or what is between your legs, and nothing more. The New Dom may hang on to you for eh 3 months 6 months but he will grow tired of you pretty fast. You will find out you will spend 90% of your time on your knees sucking dick, another 5% texting, and the other 5% being ignored

When another Dominant complains about how his slave is not compliant I just shake my head. If this is the case his game plan was way off from the start.

What rules you gave your last slave may not be the rules your new slave needs, or guideline as well as protocols. That is why it is very important to get to know your slave as a person , you have to become best friends. Because you are about to enter uncharted waters.

We as Dominants are looked up to, we are suppose to be leaders, we guide we share tons of information, but most we have to earn and gain the trust of the slave. We as Dominants should be able to adapt to most situations. Sometimes we may have to bend a little if we think a slave may be compatible in most areas that interest us.

The Slave will adapt to their new home, and most will adapt freely without question. We need to only provide a few things. Honesty , be truthful, teach and train , communication, and security. The slave will adapt.

Rules are put into place for improvement, rules are for the betterment of the slave. If more than half of your rules as a slave are about sex, what is it you are getting out of it ? How is you must worship my cock for the betterment of you ?

It is not that the slave is not compliant, the Dominant did not go into the relations with the right game plan, by the time you start to argue, yell call each other names it is way to late. You the Dominant has lost the game, pick up your duffel bag and move on.

You also hear it is the slaves fault , that bitch would not listen, I had no control over her. Ha that one word CONTROL I had no control over her. Now whose fault is that, certainly not the slaves, who was in charge? Who was the leader the Slave?

Another factor is if a slave enters a new relationship but she is afraid to end it, she will do things just to upset the dom, not follow rules back talk, act up, until the Dom has taken all he can. Still the slave is not to blame. I do suppose some could be just total bitches and give you a run for your money, push your buttons to see how far they can go. It is still up to the Dominant to remain in control, and stay in control.

If you have a bad temper, you scream, yell degrade when angry , how does that look to your slave. After all when you first met you painted a picture of total bliss, an island of peace, a paradise.

Some Slaves want to be broking , taken down to the lowest level of life and brought back up. I can tell you 10 years ago I may have been up to such a task but today nah not a chance. Before I met Arianna I was posed that question. I want you to break me. That is a great deal of responsibility  and I was not up to the task nor did I want to.

So when I hear the words I cannot control my slave or she is not compliant, I start asking questions, I get the same old answers, she is not real, she is just into head games , she is a joke to the lifestyle. Well it is not the slaves fault.

You the Dominants needs to be in control from the minute you speak your first words. You the Dominant sets the pace, you set the rules.

You cannot meet a slave on the first date and give her the almighty 128 rules and a collar. I see some old Doms using the 128 rules that some kid wrote 25 years ago, You must worship my cock, PLEASE.

Let me tell you something Arianna has 25 rules, she adds little things to her list frequently not rules but task. Every night when she ask permission to enter the bed she reads her rules then we talk, we talk about anything and everything. Last night was different we were laying in bed and I asked her what was on her mind. She said I thought we would go over the rules together, I looked kinda of confused and she handed me her phone, that is where her rules are. I said the first word of a rule and she was able to speak the whole rule without reading, and I just went down the line.

I have never told her she had to remember each one but to look at as a reference to read daily. That is how much she truly cares 25 rules recited almost word for word. Some of the rules are a paragraph long. In the rules I gave I explained everyone, I went into great detail about each rule, and she could recite each and everyone. I was in total shock, but I was proud.

If your Slave or Submissive is not compliant, look at your game.

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