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It Has Been A Very Busy Week

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, Busy, communication, Dominant, https://www.facebook.com/vile62, Looking for apartments, New Job, slave, Submission, submissive on September 8, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

It has been a very long time since I have been in a classroom of any kind. I never was an A student anyway, and most of you can tell by my awesome writing skills. English or Grammar was never on the top of my list.

I turned 17 on the 14th of October, and on the 19th of October I was getting my hair shaved off at Fort Dix New Jersey.
Shuffled into a classroom at 4am there were 50 or so who took our GED test and of course we all passed.

At the age of 17 I was very street smart, and it was hard to bullshit me, I had done it and seen it. I was wearing the Tee shirt the other guys were just doing re-runs.

Then off to Aberdeen proving grounds in Maryland, and it was fucking cold, but the only thing that saved me was my first Titty bar. Yea I loved women, the bar was called Suzies I do believe, and it was a weekend hangout for me. Aberdeen was where uncle sam sent me to school or as the army calls it AIT.

Okay I got off track, so I started a new job, and it is really cool, I will be working from home, which is like the coolest thing. 8 hours of class for 2.5 weeks and at the end of the day my brain is fried.

Then yesterday we spent the day looking at apartments downtown Orlando. We love where we are living, the house was built in the late 40’s nice hardwood floors, it is just really nice.
Arianna commutes an hour to work then an hour home so being closer would be nice.
Then you factor in the rent which is really cheap here, but you add the power bill for an older home and lawn maintenance , cable we could live in a nice condo downtown Orlando.
Yea I do not mow the lawn. I am a member and president of a group called the MAML. Men Against Manual Labor.

So one of the places I really liked but Arianna did not really care for because of the amount of units. I believe there was a little over 700 apartments. I liked because of the floors and the fireplace.
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So we have just been really busy, but I am guessing after next week I should be back on track.

We have a lot going on and I still have some things planned.
Vile radio is still in the works. That is a project I really feel passionate about, and it will be a lot of fun…

Much love to everyone, I really appreciate those of you who stop by. I really love interacting with everyone, and it is really interesting to be able to communicate with people all over the world…

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The Perfect Slave

Posted in bdsm, Bond, Busy, Conversation, emotional, Emotions, Louisiana, Marriage, Master, oral sex, raspberry Chipotle sauce, Rules, sex, slave, Stressed, submissive, The perfect Slave on June 12, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Okay maybe just maybe I am one sided when it comes to Arianna, I myself believe she is the perfect slave. Very polite, well mannered, public or private, and most of all acts and speaks like a woman, but there are other things that stand out.

I am not just speaking of the oral skills or when she is on top, throwing sex aside, although I love to fuck, sex does not make the relationship go around.

You can truly tell when someone really cares about you. Like listening when your talking, really paying attention, just doing little things without being told to. Taking an interest in the things you like, and having the need to please.

Everyday the question comes up, is there anything I can do for you master. The need to please. A couple of months ago I made a comment about how I loved cigars and Jack Daniels. Arriving home after a very hot day at work I sit down, and to my amazement  there was a small bottle of jack and a very dark Arturo Fuente cigar and a small bottle of Jack, pure heaven.

A very dear friend of Arianna’s went to Louisiana a while back, do not quote me but there is a Tabasco sauce plant there I believe that is where her friend went, anyway she gave up a bottle of raspberry Chipotle sauce. Out of this fucking world, I put it on everything, eggs , burgers, hot dogs, everything. I suppose I will have to take a trip to Louisiana so I can pick up a case, I cannot find it here in Florida.

So this am Arianna is at work I have to be at work at noon, so I decided to make a couple of sandwiches, I open the fridge, and the chicken is sliced chicken with Chipotle flavor, I grab the cheese and the cheese is Chipotle as well.

I did not even have to ask, this is what I mean about caring, you can tell, again setting sex aside, it is the small things that add up to large things.

Every morning I wake, the coffee pot is ready, my cup sitting next to the pot with a spoon, and sugar, everything is prepared.

Now it works both ways, we as Dominants have to take care of ours, we take the extra mile if you will. There are some vanilla relationship with the same quality’s not many but there are some.

We are there when they need us, to talk, listen, through good times and bad times. We are there when times are hard, when they are emotional. The Slave or Submissive knows they have someone to turn to.

Arianna does not do well with praise, but I do on a daily basis, I make sure I mention the small things that are done. Everyday a list is made out that she has to complete, I do check by the way. I praise her positive reinforcement You cannot just take and take and make it one sided at times it has to go both ways.

We all seek perfection, in a D’s relationship a Slave will strive for perfection, and the worse punishment there is, is when the slave has done something wrong. I cannot imagine the feeling. I know if I make a mistake, or do something wrong I just shrug it off, and keep on walking. I am not an emotional man.

Even when stressed I do not show it. We have had a lot going on this past month, and I had a feeling things were not going to work out with somethings that had popped up, so I arrived home getting ready to take a shower, and I was broke out in hives, very bad, and I stayed broke out for almost two weeks. I did not even realize how stressed I was. I just stayed on what I thought was the correct path, and everything just fell into place.

That is what I try to tell people, if your doing something, do it by the book, if you try to take shortcuts it will fuck you up every time, then you blame someone else for your own blunder.

Arianna is the perfect partner, best friend, soon to be wife, and last but not least the perfect Slave. She gives 100% without question. She gives without being asked or told, she does truly listen, and most of all she cares.

I will be posting wedding pictures on my Face Book sometime next week, so those who are members of the BDSM Corner will be able to see.

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Much Love To All

Vile

We Have Been Out Of Town

Posted in Arianna, bdsm, Busy, No Inhibitions, sex, slave, submissive on May 5, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Arianna and I took a trip up to Tennessee, my dad is getting up there and he is not doing so well.  We stayed with my brother, we have never really gotten along, but we manage to be sociable. We are so different it is not even funny. He is a full blown conservative, while I am a bone grinding Liberal. The truth is I do bend on somethings. Very pleasant drive up, 584 miles. What use to take me 8 hours now take 9.5. Maybe the math has changed since my last drive. Although my family does know of my lifestyle it is not something we talk about. I do know my Stepmother does look down on it, but I could really careless. Her and I have never gotten along. In my eyes she is a self-centered pig. She does not cook, nor does she clean house. Anyway Arianna was great, everyone loved her, and loved being around her. There were a few weird looks when she asked for permission to eat or go to the bathroom. Her protocol was right on target. Arianna is a true sign of perfection. Nothing was said about her collar, I do know there were those who wanted to say something but did not. I could really careless what anyone thinks. I am living for me, it is my life. Let people judge or make comments when your back is turned, what do you really care.Here is the thing. I hear on a daily basis where a Dominant and submissive or slave argue, yell at each other, and there is no reason.If you the Dominant are in full control, and you show on a consistent basis you are in total control the Submissive will follow without question.  You as the Dominant can pretty much have or do anything you want without question.If you take care of your she will follow you around like a puppy. Okay maybe not a good example, but you get the picture.

Okay I am a very lucky man. To be with, to have, to own , to have a partner , a Slave such as Arianna, life is good. I have said this many times she is HOT, she is BEAUTIFUL, SMART, Highly INTELLIGENT. Probably one of the most compliant Slaves I have ever met. The word no is not part of her vocabulary. She has no sexual inhibitions, with the exception of being shared. When it comes to sex or play I get anything I need or want.

So in any relationship we take the bad with the good and the good with the bad. I believe everyone has problems, be it physical, or mental, and at times it can be a handful. The thing that makes it different is when one see’s that the other really does care, now that makes a world of difference.

Things are still good between us, life is good. We fit like a nice pair of leather gloves. You know you can tell when someone really cares, by the way they hold you, kiss, hold your hand, knowing they are listening. You can tell.

Arianna is very compliant , very giving, loving, and truly wants and needs to be a slave. Sometime ago I had said I would never be in another micromanaged relationship, but this time it is much different. Maybe the feelings are different, the relationship is different, the communication, as well as the openness.

Life is Good.

Vile

Dominants Live Separate Lives

Posted in 24/7, abuse, anger, bdsm, Bond, Busy, Cherish, communication, control, Discipline, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fantasy, Friends, Love, Master, Micromanagement, Open Minded, owning a slave, relationships, Respect, sharing, slave, Spanking, submissive, Text on January 28, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

It is true Dominants for the most live separate lives. When in general conversation with lets say someone who is vanilla, and I try to explain my lifestyle, most are like do you know anyone, do you know a slave or single submissive?

Yea they think it is fun and games, until I explain everything, and owning a Slave, and they are like fuck that shit, way to much work for me.

Even like the dumb ass who is staying with me, I have been trying to teach him for months, how to control his temper. I have even said  would you not want a relationship that is stress free, no arguing, no fighting. He said no>

Now many of you are probably thinking , no arguing, really? When I say no arguing that is what I mean. We Dominants should be in full control at all times. There are times when my fuse runs short, at times I do get angry, but I rarely show it. I never show in front of my property. Here is why, if we show we are not in full control, then how can our sub or slave expect us to be in control of them?

We Dominants or for the most do live separate lives. We live our everyday life for those who do not want anyone to know about their lifestyle, but anyone who knows me knows about me. Then we have to be in control of our property, on a daily basis. Then we have to stay consistent daily with rules and guidelines. We have to maintain an open line of communication, we have to be available, at a text or call. We have to not only solve our problems, but at times we have to handle our property’s problems, and in a timely manner.

I do not find this to be true if you are not 24/7. I know a Master and Slave who live together but they are not 24/7, I am not sure how that works, but it works for them.

Tish / Arianna and I are 24/7 and I am here to tell you it is not an easy task, not that I am complaining, because for one, I enjoy who I am I truly love me. The lifestyle is me and has been for as long as I can remember. The lifestyle is something I need. It is not a want, if it was a want, well I would not be here right now.

Sometimes at the end of the night, after I put Tish / Arianna to bed, that is my time to relax. I am up at 3.30am with her and she goes to bed around 7.00pm. We are in contact through out the day. When she is off sometimes she is up a little later. So at times at the end of the day, I am not physically tired but mentally. I guess what ever brain I have left is pretty tired.

I am not complaining do not get me wrong, I do care a great deal for Tish / Arianna, and I would change nothing in my life right now. I am on a level playing field right now. Life is good, and it will continue to get better I know without a doubt.

I believe it is a lot different with a submissive as a matter of fact I know it is. A submissive submits when she wants to, most of the time it is not 24/7.A slave you have to keep a tight leash on so to speak. Tish / Arianna are more Micromanagement, which is really not as difficult as one would think as long as I stay on top of everything. If you fall behind it is like trying to catch your house payment up, it is almost impossible.

Many of my friends in the lifestyle do not agree with my point of view when it comes to D’s or M’s. Many find me to be um kinda of unorthodox when it comes to the lifestyle, but it works for me. I am not going to change who I am. Many do not understand why I do not share, or why I do not want another slave. I suppose in many ways I am possessive when it comes to my property. I am not one to lay back and watch some dude fuck my slave or watch her blow someone, although she would if I told her to, but she would only to please me.

There is a breaking point, and somethings can cause more damage to a sub or slave than it can good. Many will step outside of there bubbles just to please, but later it can bring on great emotional stress or even a breakdown. Us as Dominants are not here for that, we are here for support and to build up, a shoulder to cry on when needed, hold, love and cherish.

I did something the other day I was totally against. I had to punish Tish / Arianna. One thing I said I never would do is spank as a form of punishment, but that is what I felt I had to do for the situation. To make it worse she had to complete a task while she was being spanked, and I did not stop until her task was completed. I cannot remember when I really felt as bad as I did at that moment and time, but I believe I got the point across and it will not happen again.

We as Dominants do live separate lives, I just hope that you submissive’s and Slaves know just how much we have to put into a relationship.

Much Love to all of those who visit, and to those who follow, I really appreciate all of you.

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Vile

Why a Slave and not a Submissive

Posted in 24/7, bdsm, Bestslavetraining.com, Bond, Busy, chain, Change, codependent, Collars, Consensual, control, Conversation, Discipline, discussion group, Dominants, emotional, events, Friends, life, Master, Masters, molding your slave, munchs, needy, Open Minded, Protocol, relationships, Respect, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, Sane, slave, Task, Text, TPE, training your slave on January 8, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

 

Once I fully recovered from my break up with Bea, I began to search yet again for the one. The one who was suppose to fill that void. The one who was suppose to be my best friend and submissive.
It is funny to a submissive I am very strict, almost unbearable, no breathing room. To a slave I am not strict enough. A week ago I posted about my daily life. How many of those who are submissive could endure a daily life as such. To a slave at times I am not in control of enough, and at times I am not strict enough.
Being a Dominant over a slave is much more in depth than a Dominant over a submissive, the control is much different, and I do believe the bond runs much deeper.
The training, every time I bring up the word train it sounds out of place, but in fact that is what we as Dominants are doing. It even runs as deep as making some behavioral modifications. We control time, we control almost every movement, we control food, bath, sleep, and dress. We who are in a relationship with a slave, are in control nearly 24/7.
Yesterday I gave Tish some down time, to relax, her own space. I saw that it was much needed, even before yesterday. To do what ever she wanted, listen to music, her journal, or sleep which she has no problem with, Tish is like cat when it comes to sleep.
So the training process, every Slave is different, every slave has different needs. I had implemented many things. I had taking control of almost her daily life. Even to to point of cutting her spending down.  This was her needs, this is what she told me she needed, so I had to sit down and come up with a workable plan, so that she would still be able to function in everyday life. It is almost like upgrading windows in your computer. The one thing you have to make certain is, every step you take, you have to insure everything is about the slave, everything is about the betterment of the slave.  Just as the rules and guidelines should be.
It really kills me to see a submissive show me a copy of their rules, and yes I do get rules emailed to me. The rules state you must worship your master cock. You must worship your masters body. You will suck my cock on demand.
The truth is for those of you who are not spending 24/7 together , the submissive spends more time sucking cock than having actual sex, so at least you know where you stand in the relationship. Do not even say its not true, because I am guilty of having subs do the same thing back in the day. We go a couple of months without seeing you, then I wake and think man I need some good head.
Tish and I attended our first munch Friday night, another Dom had stopped by and picked us up. Tish was really nervous about going and being around other people. I was not nervous but the last time I had seen the Dom who was hosting the munch we were almost nose to nose in a heated argument. I must say things were much different, both of us were very welcomed, E and I got along very well. Tish did relax and was able to give her input into a couple of different topics that were covered.
On the way to the munch Tish was somewhat nervous, it was her first, and did not know what to expect. So I get a text from Tish who is sitting in the back seat, and Rob ask me if she just text me. I answered yea why. Robs reply was I was enabling her. Well while I did not answer her, this is an agreement Tish and I have about open communication, and she felt what she had to say was only for me, and I fully understood.
So the training process is off to a good start, I know I get off track at times. The fact is a Master/ Slave relationship is well and alive today. It is hard for some of the submissives to see that type of a relationship in a visual sense. Or even a submissive living such a life.
The Slave is the one who ask the Master if he will take her as his slave. The slave lays out the ground work of how she see’s an M’s relationship in her eyes. She tells the master what she needs out of the relationship. Then the Master either agrees he can or he cannot.

Tish is not difficult, we are at a Micromanagement type relationship. What rights does she have? Only the rights I allow.Now before anyone jumps to any conclusion all of this has been discussed in great detail. The relationship is about the slaves needs, not wants but needs. The idea situation is to slowly implement rules, or as I call guidelines. Doing so slowly but being consistent does not overwhelm the slave. A slow gradual process  so nothing is really noticed, or if it is noticed, it is not enough to bring on any stress.

So during the munch we were all talking about 24/7 TPE Total Power Exchange. E made the comment that if were really in a TPE I would have control over Tish’s bank account. My reply was as a matter of fact I do have complete control over her bank account, and she is held accountable for everything she spends. The conversation ended there. Although I do have control, I do not touch her money. Her money is just that. Again this is control she wanted to give up.

To me a TPE is an ideal relationship for me anyway. The thing that is almost impossible is to find a Dominant who is not going to take advantage of the slave, not only on an emotional level, but mental as well.

Being with a slave is not just fun and games like most think. I hear men all the time, make statements on how they would love to have a relationship like mine, but when I explain all the details, they just look at me.

I do not have a book or an manual to go by, I do not have a check list I go by, everything is stashed away upstairs. Now what I have to do is remember everything, and stay consistent in the relationship. Another important factor is our life is not surrounded by just BDSM , we are best friends, we talk and laugh. We play cards together. Then the most important part is our nightly talks face to face on the bed, before I allow her to sleep. Once she enters the bed , she picks up her chain and I lock it around her neck, then our conversation begins. I prefer a chain to lets say leather cuffs or a leather collar because a chain gives her a greater piece of mind, she feels more owned. I will say she sleeps very peaceful.

I have tried relationships with those who are submissive, and it never works. I need the control, it is a 24/7 need. I do not have a switch I can turn on and off. The above is why I needed to be in a relationship with a slave and not a submissive..

One site I have found to be very helpful over the years. is called Best Slave Training. I truly recommend this to all Dominants. It is not to be used word for word, but to read and understand, and implement your own style of training.

http://bestslavetraining.com/

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Vile

I have been busy

Posted in bdsm, Busy, Lie, munchs on January 6, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I will catch everyone up tomorrow on things that have been going on. Everything is all god, and getting better each day.

It is a shame we wait a lifetime for something to happen, but then out of the blue something or someone just falls from the sky.

I have been devoting much of my time to Tish. We went to our first munch Friday night, she was nervous at first, but finely came around and was even able to make a few comments.

Take care much love to everyone.

Vile.