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Our Search For A Third , Our Bubble Our World

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Arianna, ass fucking, Baby Girl, bdsm, blow job, Bondage, cage, Change, Commit, commitment, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominant, Emotions, FaceBook Vile Woods, Living Poly, Living Triad, MAST, Master, Master And Slave, Masters And Slaves Together, micromanage, Micromanagement, No Rights, Poly couple, poly slaves, Polyamory, Protocol, Rules, sex, Sister Slaves, slave, Submission, sucking cock, Task on April 26, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

First I want to say I have been cigarette free since January 1st, okay sort of, I am still using the ecig thing. Second I have to wait until October for the Walking Dead to come back on. I am addicted to that show. Now I have to wait almost seven months, and it is killing me.

 

Well it is almost 6am eastern time , I am up as I am every morning. I wake at 3.40 am with Arianna we sit in the dinning room and have our morning coffee and we talk. Then around 4.30am I walk her out to the car and see her off to work, then our morning drive talk. Sometimes we talk about nothing, then at times like this am we have a deep conversation, and the conversation did get pretty deep and personal, mainly about our life.

The one word that comes to mind is simplified , our life is very simple, but I have made it that way. I have made our life simple and drama free, not a worry in the world, why or how is that ? Vile has made it that way. We live in a very controlled environment. It is almost like walking into a clean room in a hospital, you dawn your little paper suit, your paper boots and your mask, then you enter Vile and Arianna’s bubble our own little world.

The world of a Slave, the surroundings of a Slave, the thoughts of a Slave. What I have done it taken someone and I have molded them , I had a perception of what I needed out of a Slave. I had a picture of my own little bubble, I had a clear picture of how I saw my life.

When I first met Arianna she was way out of control, her life was in total shambles, a life with no direction. This was not her fault not in any way. Once she found out who and what she was she needed guidance she needed a teacher, someone to step in that really cared about her well being. What she found was men who thought they were Dominants or who thought they were Masters who were controlling and lived their life with their cocks. One thing on their mind and one thing only PUSSY.

The sad part is many of you out there have been through the same thing and many still are but you feel you have no place to go, or you think okay I am here I just might as well stick it out, better to have someone than have no one.

Now this can be a little scary and some will think there is no way, but when I say train a Slave that is just what I mean. Having this ability does not come over night, nor does it always work. One you have to be true to yourself, two you have to have the need to own, three you have to be willing to step up to the plate, four you have to have someone who is in need and also willing. It is kinda like okay my way is not working you do what you need to do.

So I open my world, you can step into my bubble , I will share what is so precious to me. In my world you will find no problems, you will find no stress, you will find no drama. Welcome to Vile’s world.

I am very much in control of my life and I let very few people into my world. When I invite someone over which is very seldom, even then I do not allow them into my bubble, I unzip and I step out, once they are gone I step back in.

Arianna was talking about how much she has changed, and how she missed somethings, it was like she did not care about anything or anyone any more.

Then I began to explain, I talked about the local news the other day she said I want to change this it is so depressing. The thing is none of that effects us. The problems around the world does not effect us, the cost of food going up, the price of gas going up, the problems the people next door have, all of the killing going on around us the everyday problems around us, none of that effects us, because I do not allow it to. Mainly because of our own little bubble. I handle things before they become problems, many times I handle things without Arianna even knowing. She will bring something up and I will say its already done. There was a problem from her past that came up and it had a huge effect on her. All along I told her I had a plan and when the time came I would take care of it, and sure enough I did. It is not something that will happen over night there are steps we have to take, but I am doing the stepping, Arianna just has to follow. It was a huge load off of her shoulders, and once it is finished there will be a great relief.

The bottom line is I will not let anyone or anything disrupt our way of life, our bubble our world. I am in full control and I will continue to be in control. Sure even I have rules, I have rules that come with daily life. I may or may not like them but they are there, sometimes they have a meaning and sometimes they do not but they are there, I follow the process because I do not want to disrupt what I have.

So I met Arianna and we hit it off , but after we had met I had a lot of thinking to do because it was really the first someone had laid out to me what they fully needed. It was now me who had to decide if I wanted that much responsibility. If I wanted to take on such a task. The I had to stop and think wait a minute you are Vile, there is nothing you cannot do. The one thing I learned long ago is, you never tell someone you cannot do something even if you do not know how, you say yes I can then you learn how to do it.

Okay so Arianna needs this and this and this, Arianna needs to be micromanaged, she needs daily structure, she needs rules, she gets pleasure out of being used, so I just had to come up with a plan. I was about to venture a total new training process. I called several Doms who I consider friends not close friends but friends, and everyone gave me the same answer. DUDE FUCK THAT, THAT IS WAY TO MUCH WORK. I can tell you the first time I walked Arianna into a munch and I saw Jaws dropping open, I was thinking yea mother fucker eat your hearts out, this is my bitch. You can look and then go home and jack off thinking about her.

So I had a plan it was a plan I had to sit down and put on paper, and once I was done I knew I had to stick to it. Although she was a slave and she had needs it was her who had to adapt to my ways, she had to adapt to my way of living, my thoughts and needs, it was her who would crawl to me.

A month into the training, I remember eating Dinner,Arianna was chained to the kitchen table and I was feeding her, I knew then the Adapting process was well underway, or when I chained her to the couch. Then when she asked for permission to go to the bathroom, I knew I was on the right path.

So our search for a third, it has been on and it has been off. The need for another Slave was not something I brought up, it was Arianna who brought up the subject. This was after attending a few MasT meetings and then we had a Dom invite us to lunch because he wanted to drill us about our life and how it worked. We get that a lot people want a peak into our little world, people seem so amazed when we talk about the way we live. We are really no different I do not think. Either you are Master and Slave or your not.

I am very protective of Arianna , I keep a close eye on her, while at home and even while at work. While I am in control, while she is my slave, it is her who comes first. I make sure her needs are met before mine. Why? Because she gives so much, even when she does not see what she gives. She does not see how she has changed mainly because she lives her life daily, I keep everything in check. I keep the two of us in our own little world…

So in the past couple of months I have emailed, spoke with and text several slaves, and I have nixed all of them with the exception of one we have been in contact with now for about a month. We talk on the phone and Arianna and her are in consistent contact with each other during the day, and soon she will fly out to visit.

When her and I first started talking I explained to her that is was not me she had to win over it was Arianna. Her and Arianna had to become friends, because well on my end, I know everything would just fall into place.

There are things that have to be understood and after reading this she may very well change her mind, but I cannot bend from our way of life. It is the Slave who will have to adapt to our way of life, my rules, my protocols , then she may enter our world our bubble.

The third will not be micromanaged which is obvious , I have no room for that. She will not have to follow the same rules Arianna does, she will not have the same task Arianna does. She will have to understand Arianna’s way, the way she is treated, she will have to understand her rules, her protocols, and be willing to except them. Arianna does have a cage, it is Ariannas cage and only her cage. That is her special place, she goes there to let everything go, to relax, she feels safe from the outside world. The slave will have to adapt to our way of life, our surroundings. The slave will have to fulfill our needs. Although Arianna does not fit into that normal Alpha position the third will still have to be the beta. The slave is there for Arianna.The slave will serve the home, the slave will help with the upkeep of the home. The slave will become part of the family, and except the way things are ran.

My first thoughts when thinking of adding a third was someone who is docile, and introvert, someone who is quite. This slave is some of those things but I think will be able to adapt.

We had thought about a Baby Girl in the recent past but I decided against that  because it would disrupt our process, it would disrupt our way of living. I think Arianna might be willing to except someone with one child, we spoke a little about it the other day and she said something about needing a three bedroom, that was the end of the conversation.

The slave the third would have different rules as I have stated, different task, but most important be willing to except Ariannas way of life, and not make any judgements one way or the other. Arianna is in a very happy place right now, Arianna is in a very safe place right now.

I have not brought up the extra flavor yet. This is what most Doms or Master say their reason is for needing another Slave. You know I get everything I need from Arianna. The word no has never come out of her mouth. I get my cock sucked when ever I want, I fuck when I want, I get the ass when ever I want. Sometime I just pull out of her pussy and slide it right into her ass without a though. I can do pretty much anything I want . Arianna does really not have any limits, that in itself is not easy to find, with the only exception she is not into pain.

So while sex would come up , that is not our main reason for adding a third. The third has to bring something to the home, the third has to be able to add to the home and to help continue to build a solid foundation.

Another thing I have to keep in mind Arianna will pretty much go along with anything, so I have to be careful with some decisions I make, things I do, again it is her who will need to benefit from such a relationship.

With the right Slave a Third could be good.

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Vile

 

A Slave Is A Pet

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Adapt, An Owned Slave, Arianna, bdsm, Bond, cage, communication, Consistency, consistent, control, Depression, Dominants, Human Pet, Kink, kinky, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Mind Fuck, owning a slave, Pet, Rules, slave, submissive on January 25, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

This will be my seven hundred and one post today. Wow a year and a half has really flown by. I am going to guess out of 701, I probably have 25 that were re-blogs from others who caught my eye.

What started out as something for me to do, maybe a hobby, something to spend some time on, turned into a message I wanted to send out to as many people as I could reach.

Hoping to share the hidden dangers out in a world that can be very deep and dark. A world you can get hurt in, be it mental or physical. A world were if your not in the right hands you can suffer from abuse. There are those out there who get off on a life long mind fuck. There are those who are just looking for a piece of ass and they see submission as a weakness.  When in fact they could have the greatest gift they have ever had.

Many who are in the beginning stages while searching out their submission will often mistake abuse from caring. If your new and you do not have a clue you really don’t know what to expect.

90% of my blog is about safety , some of you have listened , while some have not. It would make more since if you listen to a Dom who has walked in the very shoes I speak about.

I share with you what is said in the male huddles, I share what others have told me, and I share what I have done in the past. If you think about it I have no reason to lie to you. Someone lies if they have something to gain. I gain nothing from sharing with you. Nothing at all. What I could gain out of my sharing is you listen to some of what I have to say, and use parts, and you would see that it could save you a lot of trouble and heartache.

Thank you all for reading what I have to blab about, if nothing else you get a good laugh. or you may not wake up alone black and blue.

Today I hooked up the DVD player I had promised to do it sometime ago, but I am on Viles time. We rearranged the bedroom as well so we could put a TV in the bedroom which I am accustomed to. I also had another job interview, that had to be the longest in my life but I truly enjoyed it. I am taking a new job Monday , but it never hurts to cover all bases, or maybe a better opportunity come up.

Anyway once the DVD player was hooked up Arianna wanted to make sure it was working so she put in the movie THE PET which is a truly interesting film about the love an owner has for his pet. The slave was willing to go through changes in her life and showed total devotion, towards her owner. The love between the two was just unreal. The part that got to me was when the owner was playing fetch with the Slave, and Arianna laughed , I said what the fuck are you laughing at I will take you outside and make you play fetch, yea it got quite.

The movie was suppose to be BDSM based but it was really about the world of slave trade which is alive and running even today. There are some 28 million people who are sold as slaves every year.

When we think of a slave, we think of someone who is very humble, and docile. Someone who seeks someone they can turn total control over to someone else. This is a great deal of responsibility for the Master, and it can be an easy task or it can be one that drags out for months depending on which form of training one chooses to put into place.

The training can only begin once the Master has gotten to know his slave inside and out. This goes the same for the Dominant and submissive. To train the Dominant or Master, or maybe owner has to really know you. Your habits, your thoughts, any types of medication your on. The medications if your on any could have an effect on any hard limits you may have. I am speaking as far as any type of depression you might have going on, anxiety you might have going on. So any training process must be giving great thought. Most of us do not have a PHD , but most of us do have common sense.

We take care of ours, we cherish, we guide, and for the most we take a huge weight off of their shoulders. We promise to make everything alright.

There is a saying I like to say. Come and let me hold you so I can take all of your pain away. When you hold someone tight enough you can truly feel. You can feel the good and bad, but you can feel the lost as well. Just like the KISS the KISS tells everything, you can tell if it is real, you can feel feelings. Hugging someone that tells as well. You can feel from the hug, you can tell if its real or if it is fake.

The Slave is a pet. A pet who will happily lay at your feet, and will do so without question. The slave will follow without question, trusting you. The slave will walk hand in hand without question.

Very few truly understand how deep an M’s relationship is. Most who are submissive do not understand how someone could willingly give so much. Many who are submissive do not understand how someone could live as a slave and be happy.  The slave does not understand how one can just be submissive, and only submit at their choice of time. Although there are those who wish to take their submission to deeper levels.

I also believe there are those who are a slave but are afraid to cross that line, so the word submissive comes out. The thought of giving yourself over to someone, and them having full control over you. It is pretty scary. If you connect with the right Dominant, Master and Owner you would then see it is not that hard.

The first time I saw the movie THE PET it really got me to thinking. What would life be like if I were to own a human pet. The pet much like a slave wants for nothing. The pet like the slave has nothing to worry about, everything is done for them. The Slave like the movie THE PET is obedient very docile, non confronting. The Slave like the movie THE PET does not wish to argue or question their owner. At times they have questions in their mind, they may worry about something that comes up, but it soon passes once they see everything is handled.

You have to let your Slave speak their mind if something comes up. Something happened not long ago that upset Arianna, and we talked about it. I did allow her to voice her opinion, to kinda get it off her chest, but if we did not allow this, that is where a communication breakdown could happen.

We are each our own, we all live how we want to live. We have different ways, different kinks, and needs.

Most Slaves are very needy, I did not say all but most. Arianna needs constant direction, that is where the consistency part comes in, at time I need to add a little then at times I take a little away that is to make an even balance.

Arianna has also added to her rules, things that she believes should be in place. Her rules are read daily. By reading them it gives her a sense of security. She knows she is loved, she knows she is cared for. In return I get anything I want, that I know will not harm her.

To own a pet it would be neat just not for me. Well at this point and time in my life.

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ImageI May play with this idea some.

Vile

Punishing

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, bdsm, cage, caged for punishment, punish, Punishment, Spanking, Speaking In Thirds on December 26, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

All punishments should be talked about before hand. I believe before any type of punishment there should be a cooling off period.

When the Dominant is going to punish it must be made clear why he is going to punish, and what the consequences are for the rule that was broken.

If I want to get my point across or punish I have had Arianna speak in thirds, this really made her think.

Some forms of punishment can range from spanking, to humiliation, cage confinement. You can take something away for a period of time, or the almighty silent treatment which I do not use myself.

The punishment must be talked about, why you are punishing and what you expect in the future, more important what the submissive is going to do to correct the problem. Maybe the Dominant can help in the future as well.

Here is a quote from the Denversubmissive  the post comes from http://www.denversub.com/bdsm.html

Few Dominants are willing to invest the emotional psychological commitment needed for punishment to help the submissive work through the cause of the disobedience and the intense aftermath.   Real punishment belongs within the context of a strong relationship whether that be a close friend or lover/spouse.   Punishment does not occur with a stranger.   For many submissives/slaves, a D/s relationship without real accountability and punishment is not a real D/s relationship.

I love that quote I love it even more coming from another submissive. So this is just not my opinion but the opinion of a submissive as well.

I hope You learn something.

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Vile

Sub-Drop

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Aftercare, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Safety, BDSM Session, Beatings, Bipolar, blindfold, Bondage, cage, Cherish, communication, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, Depression, Dominants, Fear, Humiliation, masochist, Master, Masters, Mental illness, Pain, positive reinforcement, Praise, Safe, Safe and Sane, Scared, session, slave, Stressed, Sub Drop, submissive on July 17, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Sub-drop is something that has to be dealt with right after a session, or rough play. I firmly believe that sub-drop can be prevented with the right care.  While some may disagree I am speaking from over 20 years of experience in the lifestyle. I am not some dude who got out of bed Friday and said I am a Dom on your knees bitch.

You spend a couple of hours in a session, playing rough, not making love but just raw, sweaty hard fucking. Last weekend Arianna and I spent about 3 hours in play from being bound in the cage, tied to the bed spread eagle, blindfolded not knowing what was going on, not a clue. I cannot even imagine that feeling. Being able to hear but you cannot see.

I love using sexually, it is like mini golf I want to play all three holes and then start over. Sometimes I don’t even want to cum because I don’t want to lose that feeling.

I love face fucking, to me face fucking making her gag is one of the most humiliating things a man can do to a woman. I love feeling the throat muscles wrap around my cock feeling that gagging sensation. WOW.

Sub-Drop there are a couple of different definitions. one being, Physical Sub Drop the other being Mental

Physical Sub-Drop during a hard play session where a lot of impact play is going on, your body see’s this as more of a trauma. So naturally the body goes into the defense mode, pulling most of the blood to the to the torso area to protect the organs, yes think about this for a second, your mind is one place, but your body is in another.  While you are enjoying the play your body is going what the fuck.

Then comes the Mental part of Sub-Drop Mental Sub-Drop is much harder to see, It varies in such a great degree from person to person but usually takes the forms of guilt, anxiety,depression, and or agitation. This can happen right after a session or it can take up to several days for Sub-Drop to kick in.

There are several things we have to look at before any type of hard play. Things should be talked about like types of medications they are taking, mind altering , for depression or any other mental illness. If someone is suffering from Bi-polar then you have to adjust your play and not push to far.  If the Dominant does not know the submissive inside out there are things that should be considered. It is up to the Dominant to look out for the Submissive, we are to insure their safety.

Normally after a session the submissive has a feeling of being relaxed, not caring, very much at home feeling, and very tired the submissive will be mentally drained. Let them rest take a nice hot bath, bath them talk to them.

Aftercare is very important, if you just spent an hour beating a submissive and you untie and just walk away then you are not a good Dominant, I use the word beating loosely by the way.

While it is true after a session some do want to be left alone for a while so their mind can process everything that just happened. During a session you should be in constant communication with the Submissive insuring they are in fact okay. Again you the Dominant are responsible for their safety.

Give them some time alone if they need, let them curl up in a ball and process everything, even take a nap.

After you should step in, hold and pet, talk to about everything that happened. Praise the Submissive for doing so well. Talk about any limits that were tested or pushed.

Even if there was no real impact play , and everything was mainly mental the impact on the body can still be devastating.

That is why I myself believe Aftercare should be Proactive, and not just used after play, more so if the submissive is a masochist.

Certain medications and hard impact play do not go well together. If your submissive suffers from any type of depression and is taking mind altering drugs then there must be communication. You as the Dominant may decide there is a better approach to playing or you may decide not to play at all. Again we are to look out for ours.

I am going to pass on a link that I think everyone should read and maybe it will explain a little more about your feelings after play.

http://subshelpingsubs.tripod.com/articles/subdrop.html

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Much Love

Vile

Slaves And Cages

Posted in bdsm, Bondage, Bound, cage, punish, Punishment, slave, Spanking, submissive on July 3, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Okay I am not joking when I say cage. We own a huge cage you can actually get in and sit down, and almost lay down stretched out.

Every Submissive or Slave needs away time, down time. Being confined in someways gives one a very inner peaceful feeling. Really not having to think of anything.

Some years ago I had a female who would come over on the weekends. Strip, shower, and enter the cage. She was there from Friday evening until Sunday afternoon. Only let out to go to the bathroom. I would open the door and hand her food. Before you start thinking wild shit, there was no sex, notta, not even head. Once she finished school she went to work for an airline, yup a pilot.

Even being tied down and left alone for a while, not leaving the house but just closing the door, gives one a feeling of comfort, being able to let the mind go from the days or weeks activities a sense of security.

The cage can be used as punishment, although I have not as of yet. When I punish, which has only been once, I prefer corner time, or taking something away. I do not believe in spanking because most subs or slaves get off on spanking away.

When I did punish Arianna, I did spank but it is one she will remember for a very long time. Monday night we went out, when Arianna got home she showered and went straight to the cage for a nap , again a sense of security, being able to let go. While out I let her drink, I did not drink anything but tea and coke. I do not drink and drive, next time I can drink. We had a lot of fun, Arianna even did karaoke, a very nice pleasing voice.

All subs and Slaves are different, I do not judge anyone when it comes to how someone lives their life, or the way they want to be treated, or the rules their Doms have in place, if you ask I will give you my opinion, but it is just that my opinion.

A cage can be a good place to get away, a place to rest and relax. Some find it as a form of humiliation, and I could see how, but we as Dominants tend to think different, I know my mind is constantly thinking of new ideas, yes lifestyle, and sexual, my pleasure and hers.

We do have to give a little, and without judgement , remember the sub or slave is suppose to be able to come to us and speak openly about anything, no matter how weird it may sound or how out of this world it may sound, we have to keep a clear and open mind.

So if a cage or being bound, even closet time is brought up. Ask questions, why is this a need? What do you plan on getting out of this? What made you think of this? Asking questions about anything gives us Dominants the understanding we need. We want to know what ours is thinking, or you should care.

 

 

Vile

The Feelings Of A Slave

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Arianna, bdsm, Beatings, cage, Fear, Fetish, Humiliation, Master, molding your slave, owning a slave, Pain, punish, Punishment, slave, submissive on June 24, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Having a Slave is one thing, but making one feel like a slave is a different story. Although it is almost impossible to keep that mindset 24/7 there are things that can be done as constant reminders.

I have blogged about some of this before, but when I get a random thought I like to share.

One way is to limit the slaves space within the home, when and where they can sit. Arianna is not allowed on the furniture unless permission is giving. I know your shaking your head, but to be a slave you want that feeling inside and out. The mind is a very powerful machine.So you plant the seed. You limit the slaves space. While home you limit what one wears, how they sit, eat, drink, bathroom. The owner controls everything.

These tactics do not go over so well with those who are submissive, and there may be some slaves who are like what the fuck. The truth is there are so many different levels of BDSM , so many Levels of being a submissive, or slave. Everyone is different, everyone has different needs, kinks and fetishes.

So if out and I hear something that sounds kind of wacky to me, I just think hey it is their kink. So when hearing about others in the lifestyle don’t be so quick to judge. What you like someone else may not. There are many things I do not understand, but I ask questions so I can see where the other is coming from, sometimes I understand and sometimes I do not.

At times Arianna will get relaxed, Hmm maybe snippy, I have Slave positions I use to put her back in that frame of mind, I have never came right out and told her this but she will know here in a few, but I use these positions as a reminder of who the bitch is in the relationship. These positions put her back in that slave frame of mind.

The first 30 days is the hardest when entering a new relationship. The first 30 days is the make it or break it time period. If the Slave is true and has the heart things just fall into place. We as Dominants take bad habits and replace with good habits. It is a very slow process. I believe when entering a M’s relationship it takes about a year for the slave to adjust. It takes that long for the slave to truly know her owner and what is expected.

Everything Arianna does she needs permission, with the exception of being at work, even then when lunch time comes around I get a text with food choices and I decide.

You want to do what ever it takes to keep the slave in that frame of mind. When it comes times to punish I seldom spank. I have had to punish Arianna one time in about 7 months, now she has that fear of messing up. Fear is not always a bad thing, it keeps the slave thinking.  A couple of good punishment Ideas besides spanking.  Pour a cup of rice on the floor and have the slave kneel on it. Ginger root is very effective when inserted anal, I hear it burns really bad. Corner time works very well this gives the slave time to think, corner time nude. Beating is not always the answer, more so if the sub or slave enjoys pain. I myself find slave positions to be way more effective. On knees bent over hands on ass spreading apart everything is exposed. I have been told it is very humiliating.

Ask permission to enter the bed, before entering strip, besides that time of the month. Why nude? I may get that urge to just roll over and hit it. Sleeping nude or keeping one nude while at home keeps the slave humble, in most cases not all, it depends on the slaves personality.

We have a huge Dog crate, that I am going to start using tomorrow. Big enough to sit in and turn around in. Even big enough to lay down in curled up.

Owning a Slave is one thing but keeping them in that frame of mind is another more so if you live M’s 24/7. A lot of work in the beginning but after about 3 months or so things just start to fall into place. What was hard for the slave has now became a habit, it is not even a thought any longer.

So in the cage, hands tied above head, and gagged. I am sure I could find something to do for about an hour.

 

Vile