Our relationship is much like a game of chess. We think each and every move, and the wrong move could bring great hardship.
We as Dominants are the King our Slave or Submissive , both are the Queen. If you are a single Dominant this is something to think about. Once in a relationship we now have the Queen, the Queen should be our main focus we should do what we need to do to protect. Okay maybe this may not be totally true in the Game because the King is the weakest, only being able to move one way and one block at a time, but it is more about the strategy , the thinking before we make that move. As the king we have to be able to control our every move and know there are consequences to each move.
Life is a Chess game every move we make can affect us good or bad.
When it comes to training it is almost like setting up the board , you sit back and think about your first move..
Several months ago a Dom contacted me wanting advice , my first words were you need a plan , you need a goal, you have to know what direction you need to go , not want.
Your Chess game must benefit both not just one, because if you try to play both sides alone there is no clear winner.