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The Truth About Daddy Dominants

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Acceptance, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Relationships, BDSM Rules, BDSM Structure, BDSM TPE Relationships, Cheating Dominant, Collar, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Daddy's Baby Girl, Discipline, Dominance, Dominant, Dominants, Dominants Protocol, Fake Dominants, fuck buddy, kinky, Local events, MAST, Master And Slave, Masters And Slaves Together, Rules, slave, Submission, submissive with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 9, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

First I am not speaking about every Daddy Dominant in the lifestyle , I am however speaking about 98% or higher .
Baby Girls in the lifestyle for the most are really different than those who are submissive or even a Slave. Most Baby Girls do not live with their Daddy Dominants, while I am not sure what the numbers are the percentage is very high.

Most Daddy Dominants are married and cheating , most Baby Girls do not care that they could be responsible for ripping a family apart because they are selfish. Selfish enough to try and separate the father from his children. In those cases I look down on both and I have zero respect for either.

Baby Girls first coming into the lifestyle are very vulnerable, all are really clueless when it comes to the lifestyle. Most if not all are clueless when it comes to finding a good Dominant.

So A week or so ago I was speaking with a Baby Girl who mentioned the same thing I am speaking about , how the Doms wanted a relationship but they did not want the responsibility.

So while chatting with this Baby girl she told me she had been talking to a Daddy Dom or maybe just a Dom , but when I asked if he was married she said luckily no , she too has had the same problem with married Dominants.

Again I am not speaking about all Daddy Doms , there are some good ones out there who have their baby girls best interest at heart.

You know I spent almost 7 years in a Daddy Dom role , I will also be the first to admit that was a bad turning point in my relationship but I did it because it was a need for the slave, little did I know she saw that as a weakness in me , because I was willing to change who I was.

My role was not an easy one , I set goals for her , and I made sure they were followed through with. I had rules , and protocols that were followed. Again the weakness was me changing who I was.

Once your Baby girl , submissive or slave spots a weakness they will prey on that to see how far they can push you.

While our relationship is strictly an M’s , it is based more on structure , rules and protocols. I have never left a mark on Arianna , the key word here being NEVER. One I know her limits and I respect them , two I care to much for her.

This statement is going to hit some nerves. The term Daddy Dom is somewhat new to the lifestyle. Another for the most I do not even think in a Daddy baby girl relationship the term BDSM should even be used. The main reason being many do not have rules , many do not have protocols , nor any type of structure. The final the only time a collar is put on is during play.
While at a MasT meeting sometime ago a Daddy Dom called me aside and told me I was abusing Arianna, I should not even be in the lifestyle because I did not know what I was doing. He said I was to strict, and I did not give her any freedom.
I thought for a second and I asked his what was he even doing at a MasT meeting. MasT means Masters And Slaves Together.
I have been approached by Dominants who have asked me basically the same thing. These are people who do not have a true understanding of what the dynamics of a M’s relationship is really about.
Again this is not my thoughts to all Daddys Doms within the lifestyle.
However there is a reason why you do not see many Daddy , Baby girl relationships active in the local community, who knows?

Books are an excellent reference , and you can obtain a great deal of information from books , good and bad , but you cannot live your life according to what someone else has written it will not work. We as humans have different needs , different kinks , we need different structure , and rules. Books can give you an out line but in the end your just reading someones opinion, just like my blog.

Most Daddy Doms do not collar their property, well the first meeting but after that the collar is not brought up except during play.

We need to learn to accept everyone for who they are , and what would help is maybe learning to understand our friends a lot more. The more we understand the more we grow, the more we grow , then we are open to more ideas.

I have a very dear friend Master R , him and I live total different separate lives , we both have total different views on how a M’s relationship should be ran, how a house should be ran, but we are open enough to understand we both have different needs. We also know we can depend on each other , and today in the lifestyle that is really hard.

That is why when you first meet someone being able to clearly communicate is so important, being able to understand where each other is coming from. Knowing what is expected of each other. How you see yourself in a relationship , be it Daddy Dom Baby Girl , Dominant , and Submissive or Master and Slave.

I have said this before , my way is not the only way, and just with any book , after reading some 1000 post maybe you can lay the ground work to something awesome…

Again there are a few Daddy Dominants I respect but for the most man I cant even say.

Many who call themselves Daddy Doms are married and want a piece of ass on the side. So you sit and wait and wait and wait for that call or text and then you get a couple of hours alone, then you wait another two weeks or a month and in some cases longer. You are an object and if you are happy being an object then so be it I am happy for you.

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Vile

I Can’t Feel Sorry For You

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, bdsm, BDSM 101, Cheating Dominant, Commit, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Daddy's Baby Girl, Dominant, Dominants, Fake Dominants, Giving Head, Married Dominant, Master & Slave, Protocol, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used, sucking cock on September 16, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I do try and give advice, the advice I give it from a males point of view. I am not here to lie to you , nor do I have a reason to lie. People lie because they have something to gain.
I do not even know you, so if you think about it I have zero anything to gain. Did that make sense ?
Why do I share with you? Because I do not want you to go through some of the things women have gone through with me in the past.
I have been on the predators side, I have been on the hunt for easy prey. I knew who and what to look for. I would use and use until I grew tired of you, or maybe I would just get tired of you being fucking needy, or your whining got on my nerves. Maybe I fed off of your self pity to get what I wanted, nah I did, but you can only eat so much, and the same old food gets tiring.
Just because I fucked you did not mean I liked you, just because I fucked you did not mean I wanted you around.

This is why it is important to ask questions, this is why there are people out here that will give you advice and good advice. It is up to you to decide if your going to listen, or your just going to take the ball and run.

What hurts is being lied to, what hurts more is being led on to believe something that will never happen or come to light.

You know when your sitting across the table talking if you are being lied to or not, or being fed a bunch of bull shit, you know this but there is something in your head that pushes the ignore button.

I blog because I want to share, I blog because it is an outlet, it is my place to come when I just want to get away. No one has ever seen me post anything that is negative about the way my life is going, or how fucked up my day is, or how fucked up my life is.

So why would you want to get on here and blog about how fucked up things are, after you have been told ? You asked others for their opinion, you asked for advice on what you should do, you did not listen, and then here we go with the poor me blog.

Everyone of you are better than that, everyone of you are smarter than that. Most of you have made some good friends on here, I know I have.

While it is true we want to know how your day is going, we want the awesome.

The reason Arianna never watches the news anymore is just because all there is , is bad news very little good.

You know what you want out of life, and you are all to good to settle for less.

BDSM in a D’s or M’s relationship for the most is a mind thing, getting in your head, once that happens, man it is so hard to break away.

I lost a good friend last month to suicide, very young a whole lot of life ahead of her, but for her it was easier to check out.

Hook up with a good friend stay with them and in a time of need pick up that phone. This is no game, and it is unfortunate there are those out there that do not care, if your here tomorrow or not.

Game plan you have to have a game plan going into a D’s or M’s relationship, if you do not have a plan, or any expectations you will fail. The question is how many years do you want to waste, how much time do you want to throw away on something your not sure about.

If you ask for advice, and most of the time you ask more than one person, because your first answer is not what you want to hear so you move from one to another hoping someone will say what you want to hear. The bad news is if they tell you what you want to hear, it may be bad advice..

If your in a bad relationship, you need to communicate, you also need to put your foot down and tell them you want a time limit on when things are going to be fixed, because if they are not, you are walking.

You have to ask yourself a few questions. Why am I doing thing? Why am I allowing me to put myself through this mess? Why am I allowing someone to use me?

You have to want to stand up for yourself, you have to have a need and a goal in life..

You Baby Girls out there. You should have goals, and your Daddy should be helping you reach those goals, that is what a Daddy Dom does.
He should support you no matter what you want to do. He should set goals for you, and make sure you stay on task.
Your Daddy is there to support you, not bring you down.

The problem that most of you have is your Daddy is married. I am not sure why this is the trend today. In the last 5 years or so there has been an explosion of Daddy Doms.

The bad news is, if your Daddy is a Doctor and he is married to a doctor, and you work at Wendy’s guess what? Yea you already know.
If your Daddy works at Wendy’s with you then your chances are good.

This is the game plan I was speaking about, Baby Girl, Submissive, or Slave, you got to have a plan, and you cannot get off track.
If you give in anything that you have hoped for in the future will be gone, and the ball is no longer in your court.

99% of our problems are self inflicting, the other 1% is shit that falls from the sky.
You have your plan and you stick to it. I cannot express enough how important it is to do things by the book no matter how much it sucks, by the book. You do what your suppose to and that 99% will begin to drop, until everything is going your way. I promise the math will work out.

Make sure your Dominant has a plan as well, and do not be afraid to ask what the plan is. It is very important you know everything up front….

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Vile

Interview With A Baby Girl, Cinnamon

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Little, Collar, commitment, communication, Consensual, control, Daddy Dom, Daddy's Baby Girl, Dominant, Giving Head, http://cinnamonandsparkles.wordpress.com/, Spanking, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on September 14, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

It has really been a busy three weeks, and believe it or not I do get stressed.
A couple of days ago I was talking to Arianna and I was explaining how stressed I was, and she said she could not tell.
When I get stressed my mind travels a thousand miles and hour, and I have to separate everything so I can keep things straight. I tend to get real quite and I may seem somewhat distant, that is just me clearing everything out. I suppose it is kinda like defragging your computer.

I will tell you what it is like in my mind. I am in a very deep hole and it is dark, there are small steps in the hole but being dark you have to feel around to find the steps. The steps are not in line so you have to feel all around to find them.. Once your able to see a little light, you know your on the right track. Well!!! I am about to pull myself out and what a relief it is.

If you set your mind to something and you stay on your game, you can do anything , as long as you stay on track and stay true to yourself.

So I love these interviews , it gives us an inside peak into someone’s life. Although everyone here blogs we may find something they have not touched on. This also gives a personal side of someone…

So today we have Cinnamon , also known as cinnamon sparkles, who I have known for sometime although we have never met in person you just never know what life may bring us….

Here is her link as well so lets enjoy…

http://cinnamonandsparkles.wordpress.com/

1. So lets get started here. How long have you been in the lifestyle as you know this can happen before you even know the name of lets say Submissive, Slave or Baby Girl? When did you first notice you had such feelings?

My very first serious boyfriend ( early twenties- late bloomer ) was a D/s relationship without the labels. He led, I followed. He used to comment that he loved how submissive I was, but at the time I didn’t really understand what that meant. I just knew he was happy and that was enough.

So, I guess it’s always been who I am and my relationships. Now as far as realizing it was an actual label and lifestyle…that was in the last three years only.

2. What if any mistakes did you make once you tried to enter the lifestyle ?

Frenzy, Frenzy, Frenzy. I had to know.. I had to try. I was all in and unaware of the dangers. I didn’t take the time to educate myself properly. I had no mentor.

I didn’t listen to my instinct. HUGE mistake

I put D/s and kink ahead of building the vanilla aspects of a relationship first and THEN adding to it.

3. What have you done to correct the mistakes you made during your travels?

I learned to listen to my instinct. If a voice says something feels wrong, it is best to listen to it. If I think someone doesn’t have my best interests at heart, they don’t.

Also, I am not afraid to ask questions…. challenge people… research them. If someone wants to be my Dom, they should have no problem giving me whatever I need to be comfortable.

I have relationships with fellow submissives and dominants that I can trust.

Even my blog, and the blogging community has been a huge help in my personal growth… in almost every area of my life.

4. You speak about being a Little, why don’t you fill everyone in on what a little is.

A little is someone who even as an adult, retains a child like aspect(s) of themselves. I’m 45 years old, but I have several children’s books in my home and no children. I have several rubber duckies. I have a Hello Kitty watch… notebook…stickers… most everyone knows I am obsessed with things that sparkle. 🙂

I like a Dominant man who takes care of me. This in NO WAY means that I don’t absolutely do everything in my power to take care of him… because I am a big pleaser. It just means that I like things like being put to bed, bathed, hair brushed, read to… etc…

I don’t do age play. I don’t pretend. This just happens to be part of who I am. A really big part.

5. We have all read your blog or most have, what is your current relationship status?

I am in a monogamous relationship with a man that I am over the moon crazy about. We are still 99% vanilla, and building a relationship before trying to incorporate D/s. That said, his natural personality and desires are those of a Daddy.

Charming is the man I’ve waited my whole life to meet.

6. We are all different when it comes to the lifestyle, do you wear a collar, if not what is the reason?

I do not wear a collar, but I would like to one day. However– I believe that equals a wedding ring, and my personal desire is to get both at the same time.

Also, being a babygirl, it needs to be super girlie and pretty 🙂

7. Do you as a little have rules to follow?

As we are not at that point in my current relationship, I will give you examples of some rules I have had previously….

Bedtime- by 9 pm weekdays and 12 pm weekends

Must text anytime leaving or arriving from somewhere so they know where I am at all times and safe

No cussing

Yes Sir Daddy or No Sir Daddy

Never put myself down

No lying

For me, rules and structure make me feel safe and loved. Discipline makes me feel loved. If my man does not care enough to give me rules and discipline around them, I can’t believe they love me.

8. Are you active in the local community if not why? Have you ever attended a munch or an event?

I am not active in the community. I am actually very shy in real life. I don’t like drawing attention to myself.

I did go to a munch once, and it was painful but only for that reason. Everyone was very nice and it was held in a very vanilla venue…. perhaps if I went with a Daddy I might be more comfortable.

9. How do you see yourself let say in five years from now?

I don’t know but I love the direction that my life is going in.

My fairy tale dream- to be married again. Have a family, even if it be just us two… or maybe his kids… I’d love to have a house.. the white picket fence and a special playroom for us grownups.

If I’m really dreaming, I don’t have to work. 🙂

10. What are a few of the kinks you enjoy?

I am a huge spanko. Huge. Obsessed

I also love bondage.

Other than that, can I count BJs as a kink? Cause that’s my favorite 🙂

Thanks so much Vile for including me in your interview lineup. I’m truly honored and hope that I don’t disappoint 🙂

Cinn

This was just awesome as a matter of fact it was incredible.

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As usual Vile