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If The Truth Hurts , Go Fuck Yourself

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Argue, Arianna, Bad Dominant, bdsm, Broken Dominant, Cheaters, cheating, Cheating Dominant, commitment, communication, consequences, controlling, Divorce, Domestic Abuse, Dominant, Dominants who suffer from depression, Ed Wolf facebook, Ex wife, exposing bad dominants, Fake Dominants, http://ekidon.wordpress.com/, Humiliation, Master And Slave, non caring, non-consensual, self centered, Self Inflicting, Self Pity, slave, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , , , , , , , , on October 4, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Last night I was on Facebook just minding my own business , playing Pawn Stars which is really boring by the way, and I get a private message.
Hey Vile you should see what is going on with this blog, so I look and I do not see anything, so I ask again, Ohhh on Facebook okay let me check it out.

Now before I go on, I want everyone to know I never use any ones name on here. One I know most people want their privacy , and two I never bash any one individual.

So for those of you who do not know me, I have never claimed to be politically correct. I tell it as I see it, but one thing you should know is I live by the truth , the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

Something else I would like to bring up , I have never claimed to know everything in the BDSM world or the lifestyle, but what I am sharing is more than 20 years of my life in the community.

Also I would like to point out those who do not know me, may think I have an ego problem, and that is so far from the truth, I am just very confident, and there is a huge difference.
I have made it clear many times there is no room in the lifestyle for an ego. Ego’s kill relationships.

So I go and check out the Facebook page, and I am reading.

I want to Blast Vile Woods so bad, but I know when to take the high road.

I start thinking and I do not even know this dude, why in the fuck is he bashing me? What the fuck did I do to him?

As it turns out I did nothing to him at all, he is angry because his submissive , well I think she is his submissive reads and likes my blog.

I would also like to point out, what I write is strictly my own opinion, and nothing more.
I am sharing my life experience’s with everyone. As you have seen 90% of my blog is about abuse, what to look for when meeting a new Dominant? Questions to ask when meeting a new Dominant.

I have a very successful M’s relationship and I want to show others it can happen, and you can be happy.
While my way may not work for you, you can take bits and pieces , and maybe put a plan together.

So I send Ed Wolf a Message, I would not normally use anyone’s name but he did blast my name for everyone to see, so now I return the favor. I am not going to get drawn up in all the drama by the way, so after this post it will be done..

Vile

Mr Wolf

If you have a problem with me, you should come to me.
As far as I know I have done nothing to you, maybe I have and did not realize at any rate I am not sure what blasting on FB does.

Vile

Ed Wolf

As I said have strong feelings but wouldn’t result to sniping on social media

Vile

what the fuck are you talking about

Vile

Have you got the right dude?

Ed Wolf

Yes never mind. I regret that I commented at all. Sorry

Vile

Um I’ve never said anything about you on social media

Vile

you have never even crossed my mind

Vile

If I am going to talk about you I will use your name

Vile

Dude really you should know me.
Which he does not, even though I guess he follows my blog, he has liked several post in the past.

Ed Wolf

No I shouldn’t. I have enough on my plate without dealing with another egomaniac.

vile

well okay I am not sure what got you all in an up roar but I am good dude, if I was going to talk about you I would of used your name.

Vile

I am not an egomaniac by the way I have no reason to be.

Vile
My life is good dude

Vile
Believe what you want but you were never a topic on my blog

Vile
I do not know enough about you to blog anything

Vile
dude I know nothing about you nor do I wish to

Vile
I don’t know if your single married, divorced kids nothing at all

I do know now he is divorced, and his submissive is still married.

Ed Wolf
I know you weren’t specific or talking about me. Im worried about someone else who considers your opinions as fact. Biting my tongue sorry I said anything. My apologies

Ahhh now the cat is out. His submissive reads my blog.

Vile
Well if you have a lot going on in your life you should fix it.
Sounds like a lot of drama.
chill out , come up with a plan and do it.
Staying calm and cool is the best path

Ed Wolf
Lol
That was Mr Wolf’s final answer.

So while I am not going to speak bad about the submissive, out of respect.
I will tell Mr Wolf he should leave married women alone and get his own woman.

Far be it for me to spread rumors but word on the street is Mr Wolf has stock in Jack Daniels. Alcohol and BDSM do not mix any Dominant should know that.

Rumor on the street has it Mr Wolf also has a bad temper, again a bad temper does not mix well in a BDSM relationship, or any relationship for that matter.

If Mr Wolf has a drinking and temper problem, how is that going to effect his newly found relationship.
I am sure is played a huge part in his divorce as well.

A Dominant is in full control of his life, a Dominant does not have a temper problem, after all we are leaders.
Then you add the drinking problem, which probably stems from a childhood trauma, who knows, maybe just stressed and he cannot handle everything thrown at him.

Then I look at Mr Wolf’s blog, there are a few post but nothing he has written. His whole blog is just re-blogs, which shows he really has no real interest.

This will make my 990th blog and maybe I have re-blogged a 100 maybe less.

Here is Mr Wolfs Blog

http://ekidon.wordpress.com/

BDSM -Ties That Bind or Break Us
ekidon.wordpress.com

You know if you had a problem with me, you should of come to me instead of blasting it out over the net, but just like your last comment Lol it shows your colors.

A true Dominant would not of acted out as you have, a true Dominant would not of gotten angry at his so called submissive, with who you do not live with, and I will share with you how that is going to play out here in a minute.

you the Dominant are now running around and apologizing to others you have offended. Speaking to other submissive’s in a rude way, which again a true Dominant would of never done.

Mr Ed Wolf let me tell you just how things are going to play out, so you can prepare.

You are going to lose, and you are going to lose with your actions, your childish behavior , you are going to lose because of the anger issues you have. You Mr Ed Wolf are a abuser, you were in your first marriage and you will be to whom ever your lucky enough to lure in.

You will lose the married submissive you have now, as well as the friendship. Your actions are causing her great distress, your actions are causing her to be depressed, your actions are making her confused, your actions are making her cry.

Mr wolf only cares about Mr Wolf, it is all about Mr Wolf, and no one else.

I feel deep pity for you, I do not feel sorry, but pity

Shame on you, what gave you the right to go to another mans house and try to claim his wife? Who the fuck are you?

This is why you lose friends, and again you cannot see it, because it is all about Mr Ed Wolf.

If what your submissive is saying to you is the truth you have no reason to get upset. My guess is your upset because your cover has been blown.
She is married you should leave her alone and find your own woman.
Someone who likes Jack Daniels?

Do not ever bring my name up and try to get me mixed in with your garbage.
I am unforgiving so I do not accept your apology..

Arianna wanted me to say nothing to you, and I understand because your full of drama, but you never should of called me out in public among my friends when I did nothing you.
You should of been a man and came to me, but instead you laughed.

If you cannot control yourself, your anger, your emotions, how can you possibly control someone else?

hate

Vile

When I Was A Daddy Dom

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Arianna, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Collar, Change, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Divorce, Dominant, fuck hole, fuck meat, fucking, hoe, Humiliation, Humiliation Training, kinkster, kinky, Loyal, Manipulation, masochist, Master And Slave, Mentor, mistakes, Pain Slut, punish, Punishment, pussy, Rough Sex, Rules, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, session, slave, slut, Structure, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , on July 13, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I actually met Bea online about 6 months before my life pretty much fell apart, we did not meet in person until about a month before I moved out.

I had already confessed to my then wife who I was and what my needs were. I also knew there was no turning back I had already reveled way to much information.
Then came the divorce, I had stayed at the house because of guilt, but the day the divorce was final, out the door I walked.
I let behind my 1976 Fiat Spider,my 1955 chevy that I had before we married, but the judge felt she needed it, and the 160.000 dollars we had in the bank account.
I left with a duffel bag and my Yamaha 750 Seca. It had about 77.000 miles on it, and I had about 1600 dollars on me.
Bea and I had met at an apartment I was going to rent. It was beach side in Daytona Beach. A nice 4 unit building, 2 upstairs and 2 down stairs. I opted for the top floor.
Two weeks later bea moved in as my submissive. It was some 6 months later I collared her. We had drove up to St Augustine for sunrise and I collared her by the old Spanish fort.

At that time I was going through some serious changes in life, I still had a huge guilty feeling concerning the Divorce. I had a young son as well, but instead of the 85.00 a week I was suppose to pay in child support, I paid 600 a month sometimes up to a 1000.00 dollars.

During this time I decided to drive a cab locally, who would of thought you could make a 1000.00 dollars a week driving a cab. I also drove a limo as well kinda like an on call thing.
Bea was working part time at a day care but wanted to be a teacher. So I set that as a goal. During our relationship I set many goals for her, because I wanted her to succeed in life, I also knew being her first daddy it would not last.
It is not to often the Baby Girl stays with their first Daddy and I knew that. I was 37 and Bea Had not been 18 very long, yea I was robbing the cradle. Her mom and dad came unglued. It was not very pretty at all, but they more less wanted her out of their hair anyway.

Bea was a cutter, she was a bad cutter, she could no longer wear short sleeves or shorts that were very short. There were times she would just cry for no reason.

I walked in the bedroom to let Bea know dinner was ready and when I walked in she was cutting herself. I just looked and said when your done , dinner is ready. That is all I said and nothing more.

Our relationship continued to grow, now Bea was about 5’2 a little chunky, she had the palest skin I had ever seen, Dark black eyes, and black hair that went to her ass, she was really beautiful.

As we continued to grow our communication also grew, and the more we communicated, the more she was able to release.

Now I was going through a lot of changes, prior to getting Married I was a full blow sadist, Sherri was my first slave. I had grown cold, no feelings and I cared about no one even Sherri. Cherri was just a target, nothing more. The whole time we were together for what ever reason I never fucked her, not one time. There was either something about her, or I did not want to become that emotionally close.
She loved being fisted, once my hand was in I would just pound that bitch, fucking her with my arm as hard as I could. I would have her tied down spread eagle on the bed, spanking her pussy with my hand, I would use a belt, and just spank and spank until it was so swollen, it almost looked deformed.

At first I got off on the humiliation, I got off on inflicting pain, I got off on seeing the pain in her eyes, but it soon became a burden, because each session I had to out do the last.

Before getting married I was jumping from one slut to another, but now I was fucking.
Yahoo profiles that was the shit. I could log on and have a date in an hour. I was upfront as well, you are just fuck meat and nothing more. Today or the next couple of days you are my whore.

So I was going through an adjustment, I met an older Dominant his name was Animel, yup that is his real name. He looked like a pissed off Santa Clause, I stayed by his side day in and day out. My mind could not take in enough information. To this day I consider him a mentor, we are not as close as we once were, but he is still here..

Six months into our relationship Bea has just gotten out of the bath, and walked into the living room , and kneel and said Master I want you to have this I do not need it any longer, and she handed me her razor. I took it from her and I said good girl, and I held her for what seemed like hours.

I had to teach her how to cook, she could not boil water, but that was really no task because I love to cook.
At night most of the time I would bath her, and wash her hair, once out we went to the bedroom and I would put lotion on her.

She followed rules and protocols without question. I do believe I was somewhat stricter then than I am now. Once she was home she had a collar and leash she would put on, the chain ran through the whole apartment.

This was about the time I was starting up my internet cigar Business, which was really doing very well. It was almost to the point I was not going to have to work any longer.

I remember one day we walked into a golf store I was seeing about putting cigars in his store, and Bea had stopped at the door and just stood there with her hands in front of her. The clerk asked me what she was doing and I said just what she is suppose to, we are talking, she has nothing to do with this. When I walked out, Bea was two steps behind me.

Bea wanted to lose weight, not that she really needed to, so everyday we would walk 3 miles, down A1A and back, in the evening just as the sun was setting.
It was almost our 5th year together and Bea enrolled in UCF She wanted to become a teacher, she had really come a long way, and I supported her in everything she wanted to do.
After all that is what Daddy’s do, we want our girls to grow, we encourage growth.

It was really amazon because going on 5.5 years and we had not yet had an argument.This was due to us being so open, and the communication we had, but I also had a tight leash on her as well.
I allowed her to have friends in and out of the lifestyle, and once a month she was allowed to have a girls night out..

I came home one evening and Her demeanor was different she was more girly , although she was wearing her collar and chain.
As I started dinner because I did 90% of the cooking she started talking about how her feelings had changed, how she had been talking to other girls about their daddy’s.
I was not sure where all of this was going, but after dinner I helped her with her homework, and once we were ready for bed. She went to the bathroom and came back in and she kneeled and ask for permission to enter the bed, she handed me a bottle , a baby bottle, and she asked me if I would feed her, I was stumped at first but I said sure.
This was the transition from Dominant and submissive to Daddy and baby girl.
If it had been anyone else I do not believe I would of went through such a transition.

To date she had only been punished twice, she walked a straight line, and was very proper inside and out. Friends who would come over always made a comment about how good of a host she was.

Something happened though, and I started to let my feelings get in the way. I no longer wanted to tell her what to do, or what to wear, or what to take out for dinner. I stopped enforcing rules, I let protocols slide.

Once I realized what had happened , I tried to regain control but it was way to late, we even had long conversations about what was going on, because we could feel both of us falling apart.
Once you lose control, there is no way to get it back. Because a different side of you has been seen, that is something a submissive or slave, and baby girl will not forget.

Then I got sick , I got bad sick , one morning I got up and I was in the bathroom choking and I coughed uo this black stuff which was dead blood. so I grabbed my blackberry and I dialed 911. That was the last thing I remember. Seven days later I woke and I was in ICU I had 6 bleeding ulcers, and by this time 3 blood transfusions.

Bea would come and visit me everyday , except for the last week I was in. I spent 31 days in the hospital. On the day I was released I called and all I got was voice mail.
I actually called an escort service because I had to have someone sign me out. I did not have my cell phone so I had no one to call. This hooker looking bitch came up and asked for me, and off I went.
A cab waiting down stairs, I paid the girl a 100 bucks and I fell in the front seat.
Once home the cab driver whom I knew had to help me up the stairs, because I was to weak to walk.
He unlocked the door and when it opened everything was gone. no couch, no TV, no dishes, no bed nothing.

I was not mad or upset, because I knew why she left the way she did, but she took the fucking bed.

It was some 6 months before I was back to normal. My landlord and his wife would bring food over daily.
They furnished the apartment for me. It was some three weeks before I was able to go back to work, and then I was only able to work 4 or 5 hrs a day.

My website had been shut down, well my merchant shut it down , during the month of December I had over 10.000 dollars in charge backs. Shrugs

Today life is good I am in a good place. We all learn from our mistakes. The only bad mistake is the mistake you repeat.

protocols

slaveleash1

Vile

Guest Blogger Today. Husband Abuse vs. submission

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Advice, Argue, bdsm, controlling, Disrespect, Divorce, Domestic Abuse, married, Safe and Sane, self confidence, Submission, submissive, Submissive being used with tags , , , on July 9, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

You know in two years since the start of Thekinkyworldofvile , I have never had a guest blogger, the truth is I had never really given it much thought.

Much of my blog is about abuse,I am against any type of abuse be it verbal, physical, or mental, and yes to the almighty married men who cannot run their own home.

Recently My dear friend Franco Bolli here on wordpress and several other men brought up the subject about men being abused , and I have witnessed it first hand but never gave it much thought..

I was in the car business I worked as a salesman, and now that I look back on the last couple of years.
I was selling a Dodge Ram Pickup to a man , he was like 10k upside down, looking at a 47.000 truck. Well I said what kind of payments are you looking at ?
He then said I want the truck for 38.000 out the door, god I hate stupid people. So where did you come up with that number ? He said that is just a number I had in my head. I said well I am guessing there are more numbers in your head somewhere.
So I asked do you have a payment goal ? Yes I do 450 a month. so I said even if I could do 38.000 out the door, if you divide 38.000 by 72, that is about 527 a month and you have not even added interest.
So I get up I go into the tower and I come back and I sit down. Okay your truck is worth 29500 and you still owe 39000.
Well Kelly Blue book says its worth 36000, I said fine call kelly blue book and get them to cut you a check.
so when it was all said and done, his payments were going to be around 850 a month.

His wife blew the fuck up. I told you, you stupid mother fucker, you are so fucking ignorant, I never should of married you, it went on and on and on, then she slapped him in the head.
So he comes back in and says hey I am sorry my wife blows up every now and then. I was like man don’t tell me your sorry, your the one sleeping with her.
That was something that happened often, and I just shake my head.

So anyway Mel contacted me and told me what she had witnessed first hand, and that she had written a story about it. So I asked her if she would like to be a guest Blogger, I am not sure where that came from, but hey it is a good idea.
Here is her wordpress a lot of interesting things, you will enjoy.

http://pushingourlimits.wordpress.com/tag/pussy-spanking/

Yea I started off on the page about pussy spanking, so enjoy.

Husband Abuse vs. submission

I witnessed an arguement between a couple recently in the grocery store parking lot. With my son.

They were in the space next to the one I chose with their windows rolled down, and I was unfortunate enough to hear some of the worst verbal abuse I’ve ever heard. If I’d still been in the drivers seat when I heard it, I would’ve started my car and moved spaces. Though, it was a great teaching moment for my little man.

As we were walking in, the man got out of the car, calling the woman a few bad names, and slamming the door. He then stood outside of the car, hitting the roof and roaring, wordlessly at her.

There were plenty of other patrons staring, and as I ushered my almost first grader into the store, I felt so sorry… Not for that woman, but for him. And for all of the other people around me who didn’t understand the REAL abuse that happened prior to his outburst.

Before his shouting and her tears, before almost anyone noticed them, that woman beat down her man with the vicious skill of a practiced abuser. She pummeled him with quiet, but scathing words until he simply could not sit and take it any longer.

When I opened my car door, I heard her say she was glad she’d cheated on him and that she would do it again. Since he wouldn’t fuck her, she found someone who would. Then, methodically, she went over all the reasons he deserved it. She jabbed him about his weight, seared him about his job, mocked him for his social skills, and just before we were out of earshot, she harassed him again about his lack of desire for her.

The man was not more than a few pounds overweight, and honestly, I was surprised when I saw her inside later, because she truly had no room to comment on his weight. They were in a very new car and both had on lovely clothes, so I cannot imagine his job was that terrible. I can’t attest to his social skills, but I’m quite sure that any social awkwardness he had was only amplified by her negativity.

And I certainly could understand not wanting to get intimate with a woman who emasculates you constantly.

Honestly, I can’t imagine this was a random occurrence. He followed her around the store looking like a beaten puppy. And while it sickens me that any man would put up with that, I also feel sorry for him. Because it truly is a form of abuse.

I know women do this. I know they believe they are justified in tearing their men apart because they aren’t perfect. I understand the draw to hurt the person whose inability to meet her needs, hurts her. Calling him names, showing him all the ways he fails, listing all the things he is already insecure about… In an effort to prove to him that he needs to change… Never once thinking about the damage these insults cause and how they never work to improve or enlighten…

It is so sad.

Yes, men do the same. And it’s considered verbal or mental abuse. But, for some reason, it is rarely considered abuse when women do it.

She’s a nag. She just complaining. She belittles him, but it’s ok, because she does it under the guise of wanting to help him. Or the worst, he deserves it.

People feel sorry for her.

And so this man gets the double whammy of not only being abused, but is looked upon as the abuser.

I’ve been guilty of emasculating my man in this way. I’m not a horrible nag, in fact, I’m really easy to please and demand very little. But, at the beginning of this journey toward submission, I basically dropped my unhappiness in my husband’s lap and told him to fix it. I believed he needed to change and laid responsibility on him to do so.

I recognized, after a lifetime of denying it, that I truly wanted my husband to rule our home, including my life and body. I no longer had any desire to lead, and felt that he should simply grab the reins.

Had I not spent a decade taking away every decision and bending him to MY will, he may have easily done so. I recognize the irony in my own arrogance, that I could somehow dominate him into dominating me. I realize how little I actually understood about my OWN submissive desires back then. I see how it must’ve felt and sounded to a man who was happy with his marriage and life, and honestly did not have a clue that his wife wasn’t.

When he couldn’t or wouldn’t “step up” and “take over”, I belittled him to no end… just not to his face. On my blog, in my mind, to his mother, my sisters, anyone who would listen. And though I struggle to use my voice with him directly, that is all still a form of abuse. Surely, he could feel that venom of my resentment, even if I never openly spoke those biting words to him. It was certainly present in my attitude and demeanor.

Then, some things changed this year. I enjoyed a clear glimpse of what praise, adoration and respect could do for a man. I find it easy to build people up, and wondered what would happen if I tried to do that with my husband. Would he respond the same as others have? Could I set aside my expectation and just submit?

I’ve read a lot about marriage, submission and ridding oneself of resentment (cited at the bottom of this post). I’ve pushed myself to communicate more (though I’m still horrible at it). I’ve gained clear perspective of how my submission actually enhances my husband’s natural dominance. I work every day to take what he says literally and never over-analyze his actions (he’s a simple man, he says what he means and does what he says).

I no longer feel unloved, unwanted or unimportant. He is stronger and much more in control. He sees how it affects me which only feeds it. He sees me. Like he’s never seen me before. Because I don’t hide behind “wearing the pants”. Because I need him him to wear them.

And he is. He is taking care of me.

Suddenly, my marriage feels safe and comfortable. No, it is not perfect. But it will probably take a long time to undo what I “trained” him to be. It is a process.

It is like healing abuse.

There are lots of ways women abuse men. Vile’s recent post about Gold Digging was a great example. My testimony above of the verbal abuse I witnessed is probably the most common. Some are far more subtle. But they cause pain or discomfort, and most are clearly intentional.

Withholding sex, denial of other basic needs, ignoring or refusing to communicate, intimidation, threatening false accusations, making false accusations… I could go on. Basically all the tools women use to control men, they are, in fact abusive. The fact that men “shouldn’t put up with that shit” doesn’t change that.

Women react to any sort of stress with fear, it is our predetermined go to emotional response. The matching male response is shame. And the two can feed off each other, creating stress upon stress, forever.

The interesting thing is, the fear response is easier to control. In my personal experience, and through the books I have read (which I will cite below), it is evident that when a women actively prevents herself from contributing to the stress that causes her husband (or any man) to feel shame, her own fear is dampened and sometimes eliminated.

We are sort of programmed to make others feel good, it’s in our chemical makeup, we get a hormonal high off of it. That high makes us feel safe. Even before there is any sort of response from our man.

When you abuse a man, contribute to his shame in any way, his chemical makeup responds with aggression. Abuse leads to abuse.

No abuse is acceptable.

But certainly, lashing out against your abuser is understandable.

In my opinion, I think a very solid majority of failing marriages could be saved by some level of submission by the wife. I know there are lots of relationships out there with a submissive husband and Dominant wife, and I don’t belittle those relationships at all, I know they work and those couples are very happy.

I’m simply using this equation because, in my research, our familial roles are set by our gender. Chemically, biologically and historically.

When a woman decides not to refuse her husband sex, praises him for his successes and achievements instead of demeaning him for his failures, respects his decision making abilities and even relies on them, consistently, and actively gives, pleases and appreciates, effectively submitting to his leadership, guidance and natural role as the “Head of Household”, these changes within her create significant changes within him.

I’m at the front of this process, deciding within the last two months to truly surrender to my husband, instead of expecting him to exert his dominance over me. It has been enlightening. My submission blooms within me, every day. And in turn, he has truly begun taking care of me. As I slather on the praise and adoration, the more he steps up to the plate.

I am a masochist and he is definitely no sadist, but the more I accept what he can offer, appreciate it and revel in it, he seems to delve just a bit deeper and push his own limits without the demands and pleading that I wasted the last year filling his mind with. (Though I do still beg a lot… just in a different context).

Submission means letting go of expectations. Submission means allowing your path to be carved out by someone else. Submission means handing over control.

Surrender means abandoning oneself completely. It’s not about you. It’s about him.

But trust me when I say, when you make it about him, he’ll make it about you… times 100.

Remember what I said about women being programmed to make others feel good? Well, when you succumb to that and do it regularly, his natural response will be taking care of YOU. That will become his top priority.

At least that is how it’s worked out for me, so far. And it is Really. Very. Nice.

The books that I’ve read and am reading that helped me figure out a lot of the things I discussed above:

The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking about It
Becoming the Woman of His Dreams

Vile & Mel

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Sex When I want It, And On My Terms

Posted in 24/7, abuse, anal sex, Arianna, Ass, ass fucking, ass play, bdsm, blow job, Collarme.com, communication, control, controlling, cum, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Deception, Divorce, Dominants, dress, Eating Pussy, emotional, Emotions, ethics, fetlife, foreplay, fucking, Giving Head, Honesty, infidelity, Law, Lies, life, Married Dominant, Married submissive, Master, Masters, men begging, morals, needy, No Rights, non caring, oral, oral sex, owning a slave, Patience, pleasure, positive reinforcement, Private Protocol, Protocol, Protocol public, pussy, Respect, Rough Sex, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, serve, sex, sex slaves, slave, submissive, sucking dick, The word NO, TPE, Trust, Viles House on February 26, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am not sure if sex is one of the advantages of being a Dominant has anything to do with this topic, but I hear a lot of vanilla guys talking about how their women cut them off, or they wont suck dick, and how their girlfriends refuse to have anal sex.

The truth be known many vanilla men are pussy’s. In many cases the female holds sex hostage, to use at their advantage, usually to get what they want. I remember hearing my aunt talking yo my uncle when I was very young, how he had better watch his mouth because it was not Thursday yet, which was payday for him. She may of been playing but now that I look back on it maybe she was serious. My uncle was an average looking guy nothing special. My aunt had always dated rich men she was catered to. My uncle was a union carpenter at that time he made like 14 an hr, back in the early 70’s I guess that was considered good money. I remember hearing my aunt saying how my uncle was not much to look at, but he treated her like a princess, but still she held sex hostage.

I got a lot of flake off of a post I wrote several months ago about how women were put here to serve.Well in most cases I still stand firm on my beliefs. There are those exceptions where the woman runs the house. There are those exceptions where the woman controls the man, and the man just bows down. I would imagine some are happy, but then again there are those men who lost their control early on, and had no idea how to regain it, or maybe just to afraid to grab their balls and step up to the plate, in fear of what? Yup not getting pussy, their weekly reward, get on and get off and leave me alone until next Thursday.

Some men just cower down like a beat puppy. This really in many ways makes me sick to my stomach , I cringe when I hear those almighty words YES DEAR. Wow really are you serious? Your really going to take that. Your going to put your head down turn around and run off to the little man cave she allows you to have so you are out of her hair. All because you are pussy whipped.

Those were the choices you made before getting married, or moving in with your girlfriend. I have a friend named matt, who lives with a girl, and he can only get on collarme or fetlife when she is not home. Now at one time he was a Daddy Dom or I thought he was, but like many people who are willing to settle for less until the next best thing comes along. So yea he is pussy whipped to the max, his penis runs his life. Matt is not allowed to come over to my house because his girlfriend thinks I am a bad influence on him. Me a bad influence on someone well it is possible I suppose.

Another friend Fred, I am not allowed over at his place anymore because of the same thing yea a bad influence. Fred pays a hooker 10.00 dollars twice a week to give him a blow job, I have never seen her but 10.00 bucks really, I can just imagine what she looks like. This has been going on for about five years same girl. Why? because his wife refuses to give head, or do anal, but he knew this before getting married.

So him and I are standing in the kitchen, I really hated going over to his place, they have 7 cats, and as many birds but the litter boxes are over running, the bird cages are dirty, and the smell is just well, like a land field. His wife stays home all day playing games on the computer. She does not cook very often, most of the time he picks up a pizza before coming home. So we are talking about this bitch he pays to suck his dick. He is paying roughly a thousand dollars a yr for head, plus keeping his wife up. That is just crazy, more so it is uncalled for. So I told him go in the living room drop your pants and tell her to give you head. Well her being the nosy bitch she is over heard me, here she comes running in the kitchen. Excuse me what did you say? I told fred to go in the living room drop his pants and tell you to give him head, if you did that he would not be paying a bitch to suck his dick. Okay she did not know about the hooker, my bad. He knew before he married the cow she did not suck dick or take it up the ass. He should man up and except his own stupidity. He made the choice he dug his own grave so suck it up.

We all know how I feel about infidelity ,I feel once in a relationship the two should remain monogamous, unless, and I do mean unless, the couple has made arrangements. The problem with cheating, you really do not know someone you just met, and the odds of taking something home are really great. How much guilt would that carry? Would your marriage be reparable ? Is it worth putting your family through such an ordeal when you get caught, because you will get caught, it is not how, it is when.. I have absolutely no respect for a dominant who steps out of his marriage because his wife wont take it up the ass. So he finds a bitch who will, knowing he will never leave his wife, kids and lose his home, on top of all the money he will end up paying out. Now the submissive is thinking different, and it will take about a year of ass fucking for her to figure that out.

A Dominant who is married, and steps out of his marriage is a punk ass pussy. Your a fake hiding behind a title you do not deserve. While you have some bitch tied to a bed, your loving wife is home cooking dinner and helping the kids with their home work. Fuck I get worked up over this bullshit. Your a pussy and I will tell you to your face.

Here is the thing, I have a friend who is a Dominant, he is seeing a married woman, he is married as well but separated. The married submissive can only have sex with her husband when she is given permission. Are you kidding me? Her husband puts food on the table, pays her bills, a roof over her head, and a car to drive, but she is not allowed to have sex with him. Get the fuck out. The same goes for a female if your not happy, cut the rope and get the fuck out, be who you need to be, you do not have to drag your whole family down with you.

Maybe being a Dominant and owner does have its advantages, but I have met other Dom’s who have the same problem, they are pussy whipped, the first time a submissive says no , the dominant blows up then he wants to exert his authority. I am your Master Bitch you will do as I say. Come on now you have heard it as well, or the Dom will start pouting, or even worse he will pull the guilt trip out of his box of tricks.

The word NO is not in Arianna’s vocabulary, the word NO never comes out of her mouth. I will admit she still does hesitate at somethings, but she is slowly learning , I have her best interest in mind.

Sex I love sex, I love to fuck, I love getting my dick sucked, I love eating pussy, and if I am really into you I will even rim. Last night I rubbed lotion on Arianna, maybe not a full massage but close. Then I just got the urge to go down on her, so down south I went, for a good ten minutes or so, just loving life. I did not want anything in return, I just love eating pussy. So without saying a word I pulled the covers down I opened her thighs and went to town, I did not ask or say a word. The same with getting head, if I am in the mood laying in bed, I will just grab her by her hair and pull her down to my cock.

Yesterday I got the urge to fuck, I told Arianna to strip and get on her back, she did as instructed, I crawled on top busted a nut, and got off of her, I was done. Now most of the time I spend a lot of time when it comes to sex, I love hearing and seeing a woman get off, so I try to make sure I take care of her, but at times it is just about me.

I run my house, I control my house, it is my way and only my way, no questions asked. This was the agreement we had before entering a relationship. Sex when I want, how I want, where I want, be it oral, pussy or anal, it is about me. If you settle for less, you will never be happy, and I refuse to end up being the cheating Dom having to rent a motel room. I refuse to pay for pussy.

Being a Dominant, a Master and owner means a great deal of responsibility, A Dominant should be able to give 100% and no less to his property. We must be available 24/7. Because if you are not, she will find someone who will be, it make take a little time but she will dump your sorry ass.

Sex is on my terms. Now if Arianna is not feeling well. I am considerate enough to wait. Again on my terms.

When out I do not dress Arianna like a slut, although she would wear what she was told to wear. When going out I instruct her on what she will be wearing. In the afternoon, I have clothes laid out, she knows to come in, pull her shoes off at the door, pick up her clothes and shower, no questions asked.

Arianna does not have options the only options are those I allow her. I do not talk much about our business, I generally just handle things, Arianna has enough on her plate now, so I do not bother her with the little stuff. The other day she asked about something, then she made the comment, well I guess it is on a need to know basis. My reply was your correct. If I feel I need to asked her for advice I will, but until then it is on a need to know.

Arianna comes first, no matter what. She knows she can wake me at 2am if she needs to, if she feels she needs to talk. She does however wake me to request to go to the bathroom, then permission to re-enter the bed. I am good with that. She was told early on about getting up or entering the bed.

Most would think our relationship is one way, but that is far from the course, most think my way of running a house is somewhat unorthodox , some think I am to strict. Well they do not pay my bills, nor does anyone put food on my table. How I run my house is my business. As long as Arianna is happy that is all that matters to me.

Arianna is by far the most compliant slave I have ever met. She enjoys task, she loves structure. She loves being limited to where she is allowed to sit. I do not believe Arianna could ever be replaced.

Sex on my terms, and only my terms. You guys need to think about those words instead of paying for a motel room, so you can have it on your terms. Go home to your wife.

 

Vile

I Have No Respect For Married Dominants

Posted in anger, ass fucking, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Beatings, betrayed, blow job, caught, Cheat, Cheaters, cheating, Cheating Dominant, controlling, Divorce, Dominants, Fake Dominants, fucking, Health, Hospital, http://thelionresurrected.wordpress.com, Kink, kinky, married, Married Dominant, Master, Masters, morals, oral, oral sex, relationships, sex, slave, submissive, sucking dick on December 19, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have posted about this before, it just really gets to me I think Married Dominants are nothing but mere cowards.

I have a very dear friend who was seeing a married Dominant who is now in the hospital, at the hands of his wife, after being beat with a baseball bat. Now she did not know he was married until she got out of the car at home after leaving the motel.

The married Dominant knew when you took your vows, for better or worse, that your new loving bride was not into BDSM, you knew she did not suck dick, or took it up the ass.. So instead you hunt for another bitch that will fill your wants, and  your control issues.

What really pisses me off is every time I post something about some dick who is married, he does not have the balls to say anything, or can give a rational reason why he has to step out on his wife and children while they wait at home for daddy.

You the submissive, or slave, never get a Christmas, birthday, Easter, vacations nothing. You have to settle for an over night stay at the motel 6. and most of the time the subs pays half, because the Weak Dominant cannot afford to pay on his own, because he still has a family to support.

So we have a mother of two, who is in ICU because the Married Dom did not have the guts to come clean with his vanilla bride, who cleans his house, cooks dinner, works, takes care of the kids, and spreads from time to time. What a piece of shit.

My hat goes off to http://thelionresurrected.wordpress.com. Who had the balls to come clean about his lifestyle. Who divorced his wife because she could not be what he needed. JD is the first besides myself in twenty years to have enough balls. To stand up and say this is who I am and I cannot change.

When I divorced I owned a 250.000 dollar house on the beach. After my divorce I walked out of my house with a fucking duffel bag, and a beat up pickup truck. I lost a 1957 chevy, a 1976 Fiat Spider, a 1962 Corvette. Oh and 50K in cash I had to fork over. I lost all of my possessions. In the end I was happy, I could now be who I was and needed to be.

Not one of you married Dominants can give me a justified reason why you have to cheat, or if your not happy to get a divorce. Do not say it is for the children, I had a child and Lion has two.

If you think for one minute you will not get caught you will, no matter how slick you are, or sneaky you will get caught. Then your going to put the blame on your wife because she wont suck dick.

You are a disgrace to the Community, and you want some bitch to call you master. The first words out of your mouth is TRUST , ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH. Then you want the sub to follow your rules when you cannot even follow your own.

Why don’t you all stand up and be the man you say you are. You married the one, suck it up, it was your mistake, but your willing to take a chance and when you get caught you bring your whole family down.

There are exceptions, there are those who know. There are those who are poly and are willing to except other partners. To each their own, I do not share my pussy is just that my pussy.

Now you turn the table, and I have seen it before, if your wife was spreading for another man you the almighty dominant would come unglued you would have a fucking heart attack, you would beat the mans ass. For what fucking your wife.

Before I entered a relationship with Tish I made it perfectly clear what my needs were, I put all my cards on the table, she agreed, and I agreed to meet her needs. The fact is, I am here for her 24/7. I am available no matter what. I have no need to look somewhere else, I get everything I need from one.

Be a real Dominant , be who you say you are.

Get a fucking life.

Vile