I have said in the past that BDSM has truly changed so much in the past 10 years or so, and for those of you who have been in the lifestyle any length of time knows exactly what I am talking about.
Sex is good, fucking is even better, making love I am not so sure I can even go there any longer, maybe the way I fuck is my way of making love. I have the need to be rough, spank while having sex, at times slap, or choke. This is a need for me not a want. Maybe sometime ago something just clicked.
In today’s times more so the younger generation, when you bring up the word BDSM one or two things come to mind first abuse, second sex. I think even more so the older generation is more out to judge. I truly do not understand why people judge something and they do not have a clue when it comes to a certain subject.
Don’t get me wrong I love sex, I love everything about sex. There is nothing better that will relieve a stressful day, than taking a nice long hot shower, then laying back and enjoying some slow head, WOW.
I love anal sex, sometimes I do get carried away while in the doggy style position and I look down and I am thinking yea here we go, just one quick move and I am in, oops no lube. I do have a ass fetish that goes way beyond this world. I enjoy being rimmed and rimming, on my part I have to really be into you or be my partner. To me anal sex is total submission on the subs or slaves part. The most private thing one could possibly give, and in some cases humiliating.
I have noticed though that there are a lot of those who are submissive or a slave who think that the only way of pleasing their Dominant is by offering their body, be it a blow job or just being fucked. I think there is a huge misconception when it comes to a D’s or M’s relationship. I believe the sub or slave thinks sex is the main part of the relationship, when in fact in my eyes this is not true.
This is something I have been trying to break Arianna of. that although sex is good, it is not what serving means or being in service as a slave. Being in service should not just be about sex, communication, great conversation, just being there. Doing things you know your dominant likes or enjoys, sitting at my feet while watching TV. I suppose with every couple the situation is different.
Don’t get me wrong sex does play a part in any relationship. I think the knowing is more of a high, knowing I am able to get what I want when I want, no questions asked. That to me is a total rush, knowing I can just snap my fingers and BAM instant head. Knowing the word no or I cant never comes out of her mouth.
Arianna has a foot fetish, while watching TV she lays at my feet and services me, yes truly relaxing, but most of the time it does lead to a good fucking. Head I love head and I try to just lay there and enjoy, but all to often I just have to grab her by the head and start face fucking, yea pretty much uncontrollable.
I do enjoy being asked if there is anything she can do for me, again this is sexual. I am glad that she really cares enough to want to please.
This is a misconception when it comes to a D’s or M’s relationship, even more so if someone is new to the lifestyle, and their first dominant is just using them as a fuck toy. You can give a false impression and it seems like you in control and giving out rules, but at the end of the day they are just a piece of ass.
I do love this pic