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Dominance Through Intimidation

Posted in abuse, bdsm, Dating, Discipline, Dominance, Dominance Through Intimidation, Dominants, dress, Mini Skirts, No Panties, skirt no panties, slave, submissive, sucking cock on December 5, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

You have been chatting online for sometime , now it is time to meet. What is the shortest skirt you own ? Do you ever go out without wearing panties ? Do you ever go out without a Bra on ? Do you shave ? Do you swallow ? Can you deep throat ? Do you like anal sex ? These are all questions you have heard from prospective Dominants, Masters , Owners. You know how I know ? Because I have asked the same questions.

Most of you had to go out and buy a short enough skirt for the big date the first meeting, because you did not own one that was mid-thigh or higher. A skirt that short is something you would never wear just for the sake of going out, but tonight you will and without panties. Tonight you will do what your told and you do not even have a clue that you will.

Your standing in front of the mirror doing your makeup, your hair everything has to be perfect. You are thinking of everything you have talked about and what you have shared , things that were very personal. You have never shared such things before but this time it is and was different.

Your driving your car to a local restaurant , and you look down and your pussy is almost showing, no panties , you can feel the sweat between your legs, the palms of your hands are sweating, you are so nervous , because this could be the one. The Master you have always been looking for.

Why is it so important that you wear a skirt so short and without panties, after all you are just meeting to see if you both click. Maybe the two of you can build a relationship.

You  pull into the parking lot of the restaurant he picked out, you get out of the car and he greets you. You get this knot in your stomach. He introduces himself shakes your hand and turns around and starts to walk towards the door and you follow. Once inside you both sit down, and now your thinking about what is okay to orders, your thinking maybe a salad, very simple.

You look at him and his eyes are looking right through you, and you ask what is wrong ? Nothing I am just admiring your beauty. You are nervous , your shaking inside, and yes you are intimidated. Is it because of the first meeting, or because he could be your future Master.

He talks about what he expects, his rules, his work how busy he is, but he will make time for you. I will tell you when it is okay to call, you can text me, or email.  His questions can get pretty personal, mostly sexual. You are going through an interview process.  He spends most of the time just looking at you, and he will ask what you are wearing under the skirt you say nothing as he glances down you spread a little.

After dinner and your both walking out the Dominant says we should begin your training now. You may get in his car and blow him or he will want to get a room.

Intimidation is a powerful tool, and it is a tool that works and it works well. If you are not prepared or your not thinking straight you will fall victim every time.

After is the waiting game, will he call or text ? Did you make a good impression ? Were you on your best behavior ? All these questions are running through your mind.

Now you may enjoy dressing up, you may like pleasing, you may have a need to show your submission, but there is a right way and a wrong way. If you are vanilla would you have done the same thing? I would think not.

Maybe you like sucking cock on the first date, or going to a motel on your first date. If that is you and you feel you have to do so, then so be it. It does not make you bad. Submission is a need, and as humans we are looking for things in life. One would be acceptance , two a companion, three to be loved.. Just do not let anyone take advantage of you.

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Noun 1. intimidation - the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do somethingintimidation – the act of intimidating a weaker person to make them do something

aggression – deliberately unfriendly behavior
frightening, terrorisation, terrorization – the act of inspiring with fear
2. intimidation – the feeling of discouragement in the face of someone’s superior fame or wealth or status etc.

discouragement, disheartenment, dismay – the feeling of despair in the face of obstacles
3. intimidation – the feeling of being intimidated; being made to feel afraid or timid

fear, fearfulness, fright – an emotion experienced in anticipation of some specific pain or danger (usually accompanied by a desire to flee or fight)
4. intimidation – a communication that makes you afraid to try something

discouragement – the expression of opposition and disapproval

 

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Vile

Being A Slave Is Hard Or Is It ?

Posted in 24/7, A Masters Creed, abuse, Acceptance, Advice, anger, Argue, Arianna, Ass, ass fucking, bdsm, BDSM Safety, Bipolar, Bond, Breaking Rules, communication, Conform, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Conversation, Depressed, Depression, Discipline, Dominants, dress, emotional, ethics, Fear, Giving Head, Health, Honesty, inhibitions, Lie, Lies, Master, men begging, Molding, molding your slave, No Inhibitions, No Panties, No Rights, oral, oral sex, Patience, Private Protocol, problems, Protocol, Protocol public, punish, Punishment, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, Scared, serve, sex, slave, Spanking, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, sucking dick, Task, Total Slavery, TPE on September 25, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Those who wake with an unknown feeling, a feeling of not being complete, they are not sure where these feelings arrived from or where their thoughts came from. They begin to do a lot of research in hopes of finding answers. Then they stumble across a BDSM site or erotic stories, and things become more clearer.

Then the search Dominant after Dominant until they find the right fit , the right connection, or after being played a couple of times.

I would imagine that giving up 100% of freedom could be a scary thought. Being told what to do, how to act, how to dress, how to speak, what to eat or cook, when to bath, when to go to bed, and then being punished for breaking a rule.

To go from your boyfriend begging for sex or begging to get his dick sucked, to someone just telling you to spread, or get on your knees. Maybe anal sex was off limits now there is no choice, you do it because your now owned.

These are big changes, these are huge changes.  These are changes you never would of even thought off until a year ago, or maybe they have been thoughts for a long time but you had no idea on how to put things into place.

It is not that the changes are difficult, scary yes difficult no. It is how you are brought through these changes, what actions are taking to get you to the point of where you need to be. I can tell you it is probably harder if not almost impossible if you know you are not truly cared for. Eh it works for a short period of time, but when reality hits you and you discover this dude is a piece of shit, you pack up move on and begin your search again, and maybe again, and again until you get it right.

Two key words come to mind, resistance and consistency. Almost every Slave will put some or a lot of resistance when it comes to submitting. It is not that they do not want to, they are scared and they have every right to be.

Consistency or being consistent this is where most Dominants fail. Why is this ? Because once in a relationship be it a D’s or M’s WOW this is fucking work, I actually have to put forth an effort if this is going to work. Keeping your cool staying calm, keeping your word, showing that you care, you listen, and most of all you communicate. If you as a Dominant miss any of these steps you will fail, and it is no ones fault except yours.

I have seen this time and time again, when it happens it is always the Bitches fault, yea she was a bad submissive, or a bad slave she would not listen or follow rules. Just listen to that last statement. Who’s fault is that now? The blame always goes on the Bitch. No it could never be me I am the almighty Master. It was not long ago I told a Dom he was a piece of shit and he should rethink his place within the lifestyle. We had a couple over for dinner not long ago when they left I told Arianna what the out come of their relationship would be, sure enough they are no longer together.

Be it a Submissive or Slave, we have to be able to get into their heads, we have to know what makes them think, their thought process, and I can tell you if your not true or you do not care it will not happen. Just look at the time you have wasted just because you wanted some pussy.

Resistance equals consistent one giving equals one caring, you cannot just take or demand. You as the Dominant has to earn every step you take. Respect you have to earn it is not something we can demand.

Most who are submissive or a slave are on some type of medication, why is this? I do not have a fucking clue, most who are a Submissive or Slave suffers some type of depression maybe Bi-Polar? Why is this again I do not have a fucking clue.  So we as Dominants cannot just step in balls to the wall, we have to put a plan together because we do not want to bring any harm to ours. Yea okay I look over some things nothing major but I do not just sit around hoping Arianna will break a rule, as a matter of fact she will do everything in her power not to break a rule. I set that Ass on fire one time and that is all it took.

We can never figure out why someone is depressed if you try your just wasting time. So instead we work with them, we try to somewhat understand but we will never fully. Go to doctors appointments with them study their medication. Most of all we do not want to push them over the cliff. I had a counselor tell me not long ago that she agreed with our lifestyle, and the way our home was ran was beneficial  to Arianna, and almost a year it has worked well, we have had a few ups and downs but more ups I can assure you.

Starting a new relationship the Submissive / Slave has a wall in place. What we have to do is take it down one brick at a time, while this is on going we are still hitting this resistance button , the reason that button is still there is the lack of trust. While most would like trust is not built over night. So again the same words, Consistency or being consistent this is where most Dominants fail. Why is this ? Because once in a relationship be it a D’s or M’s WOW this is fucking work, I actually have to put forth an effort if this is going to work. Keeping your cool staying calm, keeping your word, showing that you care, you listen, and most of all you communicate. If you as a Dominant miss any of these steps you will fail, and it is no ones fault except yours.

If you cannot control your Submissive or Slave Don’t put the blame on them, it was not them who failed it was us who failed them. We gave them false statements, we led them to believe something that was not true.

If you fail at communication, it is pretty much over. Most of the time a Slave will not volunteer and information, so we have to be willing to spend the time to communicate, if you really care this comes natural. Set aside 15 minutes a day so you can just sit and talk. Hold conversation over dinner, while driving. Communication is the main key, if your going to wait for them to spill their guts guess what? It will never happen.

There has to be an astronomical amount of fear when a Slave enters a relationship, they have no idea what to expect, more so if it is their first relationship. That is why you need a plan , and you need a back up plan, and another back up plan.

I was lucky when I met Arianna the resistance level was almost zero, even so I knew I had to stay consistent. The first ninety days is the tell , tell of everything. It will tell the slave if they are truly a slave and it will tell the slave if the Dominant is real.

Asking to sit at the Dinner table, not taking a bite of food before I do. Kneeling at the door when I return from work. anticipating my needs, kneeling in the bathroom while I shower, it goes on and on, but again the key word is consistency.

Rules some just fucking kill me, Rule one you must worship my cock. Rule 2 you must masturbate every night before bed while we are talking on the phone. Rule 3 you must send me nude pics everyday. Rule 4 you will never wear panties in my presence. You have seen and heard these rules. Rules are meant to be beneficial to a slave. We take old habits and make new positive ones. Yea some do call it training I have before, I like the word molding. We are molding someone to fit our needs, or training. We are taking someones life and turning it inside out. We are taking someone who once had a resistance factor and taking the word NO or i cant out of their vocabulary. Again this all comes with being consistent and in control.

The bottom line is, if we remain who we say we are, if we prove who we say we are, if we put ours first no matter what, if we take care of ours, if we do not abuse with a bunch of worthless rules, if we remain true and yes consistent then there is only resistance for a short time.

The Slave already knows who and what they are, they already know who they want to be, we just have to take one brick down at a time, brush our hands off and take their hand and walk with them.

We as a Master are expected to live by certain standards we have a creed we must follow, we must always be truthful when speaking. We must earn what we get.

The rewards for both are just amazing, it can be the most loving relationship you have ever known. The Master will want for nothing at all. The out come is what you make of it.

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Vile

Is Old Guard Real ?

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, Alt.com, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, Breaking Rules, Collar, Collarme.com, communication, control, controlling, Conversation, Discipline, Dominants, dress, Dress Protocol, Ego, etiquette, events, Gorean lifestyle, Gorean Master, Gorean Portocol, Honesty, Kink, kinkster, kinky, Leather Guard, Master, Masters, morals, munchs, Old Guard, Old Leather Guard, older Dominants, Open Minded, Private Protocol, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, Self-Discipline, slave, submissive, TPE on July 24, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Many of the new today will argue that Old Guard is just a Myth, it never was and never will be. When in fact I do believe and have spoken to elders who were a part of Old Guard, in the late 60’s through the early 80’s

Old Guard refers to the leather community mainly the gay community. I myself am not into the leather scene, nor am I a part of any leather family since most have blown the protocol way out of text. In my eyes a lack of respect of what use to be.

Most of the Leather Family’s today are known as pansexual , you can google that. Unlike Old Guard, today’s Leather family’s welcome most anyone, without even really knowing anything about them. In the Old Guard days there were strict rules and Protocols to be followed. The Old Guard was a closed community and you had to become a member. Before membership was allowed one had to learn all rules and protocols and follow them, if not you got the boot.

Over the years we have strayed, we have lost the meaning of BDSM and it has falling more into just a kink, a past time, weekend warriors, bedroom only. Which is okay but the problem is everyone is right, no one is wrong. When someone hears how a slave or submissive lives they are just blown away and cannot believe they would allow someone to treat them a certain way.

It is not that a slave or submissive in today’s times are part of or believe in Old Guard, they just fall into their Dominants ways of doing things. Being strict, having rules, even protocols both public and private is perfectly okay, when there is no physical or mental abuse involved.

It is not that we take the lifestyle differently some are just more serious than others when it comes to the world of D’s and M’s. How Master Joe runs his house is on him, I do not and will not judge.

Back in the day a Dominant had to make his way through the ranks, there were steps that had to be taking. If a submissive or bottom had more experience than the Dom the sub out ranked the Dom, yea sounds weird. The problem is today’s Dominants want to start out as president they are right and everyone else is wrong.

Unlike today back in the Old Leather Guard there were dress codes, and they were enforced. Arianna and I have attended some local groups and I cannot believe they way some of the sub/slaves come dressed, more so the way their master allows them out of the house. Arianna has pointed out how mouthy some are, how she cannot believe how some disrespect their Doms.

Today it would be almost impossible to put together an exclusive group for meetings or teachings because of how BDSM  has branched out. Most groups come and go because of a dictatorship or just huge egos. Most people today are close minded when it comes to how others live as well

Old Guard when in a social setting it was the Dominant with the most experience who led the conversation, on the other side if the bottom had more experience they led the conversation, if equal the Dom was giving the go ahead.

When walking the submissive walked one or two steps behind, remember you are not equal in a sense. A Dominant would never think of hugging or shaking the hand of a submissive, nor would the submissive make direct eye contact, though the Dominant would. A Dominant would never think of touching another who was owned and collard, there was a respect thing.

Protocols is a lost art today, but what I expect if out in public a Dominant or Submissive should not assume anything. A Dominant should not just walk up to a submissive and strike up a conversation, they same with a submissive. It is however proper and okay to ask. Some couples have no protocols at all, nor do they wish to, this is where the lack of respect comes into play when it comes to what others believe. I have had people say they could never live like Arianna nor would they want to. What we have as a Master and Slave is very unique and special.

Old Guard when a Dominant was being served there were two ways, one palm out and flat drink on palm, the other the sub would kneel head down and arms extended making the offering. Depending on the protocol the sub could either leave or had to ask permission.

Those who play on the internet who belong to sites such as Collarme.com Alt.com BDSM.com and so on generally stay on those sites with very little real in person interaction, those who get lucky enough to find a submissive or Slave generally fuck it up because they have no real clue what a in person interaction is. It does not take long for the Submissive to realize they have been played. The so called Dominant will generally put the blame of the submissive when it comes to the relationship not working.

When I speak about myself at times I mention old school, and not old guard. Old School just means I hold certain values when it comes to the lifestyle, I give and expect respect. I set my life to a certain standard as I do with my Slave. I expect when out my slave is giving the up most respect and she will do the same in return.

So in closing I think we should all get back to the basics when it comes to the lifestyle. Yes we do need rules, yes we do need guidelines, yes we do need dress codes, yes we do need protocols. More so we do need to respect others.

Coming in at the top of those who truly live the lifestyle with the fullest respect are those of the Gorean lifestyle. If you should ever have the honor of meeting a Gorean Master or Slave you would be truly amazed. Old Leather Guard probably not since the lifestyle is based on a line of books, but the lifestyle is very strict and respected by many. I am not saying everyone should live the Gorean way, but if you study up on it, it will give you a way different out look and perspective of their lifestyle.

We should all come together as one, and set standards, keep the lifestyle proud, keep the fakers out. It could be done.

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Vile

Is Old Leather Guard Just A Myth ?

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Advice, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, blow job, Cherish, Consensual, control, controlling, Conversation, cum, Dominants, dress, Dress Protocol, Fake Dominants, Fake submissive, Giving Head, Health, Honesty, Kink, kinkster, kinky, Loyal, Master, Masters, molding your slave, munchs, Myth, Old Leather Guard, oral, oral sex, Patience, pleasure, Private Protocol, Protocol, Protocol public, pussy, Safe and Sane, sex, sex slaves, sharing, slave, submissive, sucking dick, Task, Total Slavery, TPE, training your slave on March 17, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Arianna and I attended a New Munch yesterday, in hopes of finding a permanent group, both of us were really disappointed. Although the people were really nice and welcomed us with open arms, it is just not what we are looking for. We may give it another chance but I truly doubt it. The munchs we attend are solely for Arianna. I myself believe it is very important for ones slave to interact with others alike. I also believe it is very important for the Master or Owner to insure there is growth within the relationship. Just my opinion.

Every time we have left an event Arianna has made the comment. I cannot believe the way the other slaves acted, or the way they talked back to their Master. Well she is correct, I go back to what I call Old Guard. There was Honor, Respect, and yes again Protocol.

Although I am a smoker, there was never smoking allowed in a Dungeon , or drinking before play. Most of all a Slave would never make rude comments to her Master even jokingly.

Arianna is always dressed very nice. A comment was made from another submissive we had met, on how good Arianna always looked. This is the truth, I dress her. I tell her what to wear, how I want her hair, and makeup, and what shoes to wear.

Last month we left a munch and another Dominant made the comment, maybe I should just find a slave I could dehumanize. Wow really I knew the comment was made towards me. While I did not take offense to the comment, I found it to be somewhat expected coming from him.

Okay maybe just maybe I am somewhat unorthodox , in the way I believe a house should be ran, maybe I am a little to strict, maybe I expect my slave to excel, no matter what she is doing. Maybe I do control every movement, right down to what she eats and how much. Maybe just maybe sex is on my terms. Last night I allowed her to come, I am guessing it had been a little over two weeks. I made her masturbate while giving me head. I could tell she was in heat, so I allowed her to get on top. It took her all of thirty seconds to cum. Then afterwards I heard a very soft , Thank You.

Old Leather Guard started off within the Gay community in the early seventy’s and quickly spread through out the community. Why? the respect, honor and protocol.

I would also like to say I am not a suck my cock Dominant, my cock does not run my life, although Arianna does have awesome skills when it comes to oral. Getting my cock sucked is not my only thought.

The truth is, it is about me, and only me, and I will explain. Being a Dominant is not just a game. A male cannot wake up one morning and say I am a master, or just because you are in a D’s relationship does not make you a master. If your a master and your with a submissive or slave and your her first dominant or she thinks your a dominant , but your just using her to get your rocks off, eh not so much of one.

The care that goes into owning a slave is a great responsibility, my day does not end until after I have tucked Arianna into bed for the night. The last thing she does before going to sleep is the reading of my rules. Then I can relax for the night. That is my down time kick my feet up, and maybe watch a little TV. In the morning I wake , I turn the coffee pot on, my cup and the bowl of sugar is sitting next to the pot.  Once Arianna wakes she makes the request to get up. I then make her a cup of coffee and we set and we talk, about her dreams or we plan out the day. I keep Arianna busy with small task through out the day as well.

Today everyone is more interested in getting what someone else has. I have been asked numerous times if I share, and the answer is no I do not share, nor will I ever. What is mine is just that mine.

Where is the respect factor when it comes to other Dominants. Okay so Dominants my age are a breed who is slowly dieing out. I have been turned away from munchs by a twenty year old Dom because I was to old for the group. Again where is the respect. It is not like I was showing up for a piece of ass. Where is the protocol? All of the above is gone right out of the window.

Okay your a twenty year old Dominant a master. What are you a master of. What could you of possibly learned in such a short period that has taking me twenty years to learn, and the truth is I am still learning. Everyday I learn something new. To be turned away by a twenty year old, WOW.

Am I unorthodox in my way of thinking. I will tell you the answer is no. I will say this I have gone through a line of subs and so called slaves to find the right connection. The right Slave who could fit my needs. See yes in the end it is about me.

Old Leather Guard. At one time Dominants were very close, Masters and Owners. Information was passed along , great conversation, even a warning list of fake dominants. There was no criticizing on how another dom did not know what he was doing. After all we each have our own way of training. At one time Dominants really got along. Respect to this day you will hear me address an older Dominant as Sir. I am not submitting I am being respectful.

Am I unorthodox ? When I met Arianna she handed me a book, the book was about her. She told me to write another one, she wanted everything erased. The book would be based on how I see a slave. So I grabbed an eraser , and I began to edit Arianna. The process only takes about a month. This is just a start, you begin by taking old habits away and introducing new ones. This cannot be done if you are not 24/7 or you do not see someone on a daily basis.

First and foremost the Slave not only has to be true, but willing. The slave has to truly want the change. It is like I have tried it on my own and it does not work, so here I am.

I run an old Leather Guard style home. To most I am to strict. Arianna has no say so in anything. There is one exception here and only one, and I have made this perfectly clear. If Arianna sees that I am about to make a mistake, which is unlikely to happen, but in the event of me making a mistake, Arianna does have to right to voice her opinion. At that time it is up to me to listen to her. I do value her opinion.

Our relationship is based on respect, our relationship is based on the truth, and nothing but the truth. Our relationship is based on communication. Our relationship is based on the desire to make the relationship work.

Do I get tired? Sure I do mentally tired, not overwhelmed though because I do enjoy the lifestyle and the relationship I am in.

So we are talking a month to get the basics down. I am not talking about handing out a handful of rules that will cause a crash. The first thirty days tells everything, will the slave be able to stick it out or will she run for cover, and find another dominant who is not so strict, or one who does not expect so much.

I have been asked if the Old Leather Guard is real. My answer would be yes, although there are many who would disagree.

If the Master truly cares for his. He will take the time out to teach his way. If the Master truly cares he will listen, he will find the slaves needs. He will care about the slaves emotions. He will want to hold her, and talk and listen.

The rewards at the end of the rainbow are truly there, it is a lot of work but it is there.

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Vile

Sex When I want It, And On My Terms

Posted in 24/7, abuse, anal sex, Arianna, Ass, ass fucking, ass play, bdsm, blow job, Collarme.com, communication, control, controlling, cum, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Deception, Divorce, Dominants, dress, Eating Pussy, emotional, Emotions, ethics, fetlife, foreplay, fucking, Giving Head, Honesty, infidelity, Law, Lies, life, Married Dominant, Married submissive, Master, Masters, men begging, morals, needy, No Rights, non caring, oral, oral sex, owning a slave, Patience, pleasure, positive reinforcement, Private Protocol, Protocol, Protocol public, pussy, Respect, Rough Sex, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, serve, sex, sex slaves, slave, submissive, sucking dick, The word NO, TPE, Trust, Viles House on February 26, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I am not sure if sex is one of the advantages of being a Dominant has anything to do with this topic, but I hear a lot of vanilla guys talking about how their women cut them off, or they wont suck dick, and how their girlfriends refuse to have anal sex.

The truth be known many vanilla men are pussy’s. In many cases the female holds sex hostage, to use at their advantage, usually to get what they want. I remember hearing my aunt talking yo my uncle when I was very young, how he had better watch his mouth because it was not Thursday yet, which was payday for him. She may of been playing but now that I look back on it maybe she was serious. My uncle was an average looking guy nothing special. My aunt had always dated rich men she was catered to. My uncle was a union carpenter at that time he made like 14 an hr, back in the early 70’s I guess that was considered good money. I remember hearing my aunt saying how my uncle was not much to look at, but he treated her like a princess, but still she held sex hostage.

I got a lot of flake off of a post I wrote several months ago about how women were put here to serve.Well in most cases I still stand firm on my beliefs. There are those exceptions where the woman runs the house. There are those exceptions where the woman controls the man, and the man just bows down. I would imagine some are happy, but then again there are those men who lost their control early on, and had no idea how to regain it, or maybe just to afraid to grab their balls and step up to the plate, in fear of what? Yup not getting pussy, their weekly reward, get on and get off and leave me alone until next Thursday.

Some men just cower down like a beat puppy. This really in many ways makes me sick to my stomach , I cringe when I hear those almighty words YES DEAR. Wow really are you serious? Your really going to take that. Your going to put your head down turn around and run off to the little man cave she allows you to have so you are out of her hair. All because you are pussy whipped.

Those were the choices you made before getting married, or moving in with your girlfriend. I have a friend named matt, who lives with a girl, and he can only get on collarme or fetlife when she is not home. Now at one time he was a Daddy Dom or I thought he was, but like many people who are willing to settle for less until the next best thing comes along. So yea he is pussy whipped to the max, his penis runs his life. Matt is not allowed to come over to my house because his girlfriend thinks I am a bad influence on him. Me a bad influence on someone well it is possible I suppose.

Another friend Fred, I am not allowed over at his place anymore because of the same thing yea a bad influence. Fred pays a hooker 10.00 dollars twice a week to give him a blow job, I have never seen her but 10.00 bucks really, I can just imagine what she looks like. This has been going on for about five years same girl. Why? because his wife refuses to give head, or do anal, but he knew this before getting married.

So him and I are standing in the kitchen, I really hated going over to his place, they have 7 cats, and as many birds but the litter boxes are over running, the bird cages are dirty, and the smell is just well, like a land field. His wife stays home all day playing games on the computer. She does not cook very often, most of the time he picks up a pizza before coming home. So we are talking about this bitch he pays to suck his dick. He is paying roughly a thousand dollars a yr for head, plus keeping his wife up. That is just crazy, more so it is uncalled for. So I told him go in the living room drop your pants and tell her to give you head. Well her being the nosy bitch she is over heard me, here she comes running in the kitchen. Excuse me what did you say? I told fred to go in the living room drop his pants and tell you to give him head, if you did that he would not be paying a bitch to suck his dick. Okay she did not know about the hooker, my bad. He knew before he married the cow she did not suck dick or take it up the ass. He should man up and except his own stupidity. He made the choice he dug his own grave so suck it up.

We all know how I feel about infidelity ,I feel once in a relationship the two should remain monogamous, unless, and I do mean unless, the couple has made arrangements. The problem with cheating, you really do not know someone you just met, and the odds of taking something home are really great. How much guilt would that carry? Would your marriage be reparable ? Is it worth putting your family through such an ordeal when you get caught, because you will get caught, it is not how, it is when.. I have absolutely no respect for a dominant who steps out of his marriage because his wife wont take it up the ass. So he finds a bitch who will, knowing he will never leave his wife, kids and lose his home, on top of all the money he will end up paying out. Now the submissive is thinking different, and it will take about a year of ass fucking for her to figure that out.

A Dominant who is married, and steps out of his marriage is a punk ass pussy. Your a fake hiding behind a title you do not deserve. While you have some bitch tied to a bed, your loving wife is home cooking dinner and helping the kids with their home work. Fuck I get worked up over this bullshit. Your a pussy and I will tell you to your face.

Here is the thing, I have a friend who is a Dominant, he is seeing a married woman, he is married as well but separated. The married submissive can only have sex with her husband when she is given permission. Are you kidding me? Her husband puts food on the table, pays her bills, a roof over her head, and a car to drive, but she is not allowed to have sex with him. Get the fuck out. The same goes for a female if your not happy, cut the rope and get the fuck out, be who you need to be, you do not have to drag your whole family down with you.

Maybe being a Dominant and owner does have its advantages, but I have met other Dom’s who have the same problem, they are pussy whipped, the first time a submissive says no , the dominant blows up then he wants to exert his authority. I am your Master Bitch you will do as I say. Come on now you have heard it as well, or the Dom will start pouting, or even worse he will pull the guilt trip out of his box of tricks.

The word NO is not in Arianna’s vocabulary, the word NO never comes out of her mouth. I will admit she still does hesitate at somethings, but she is slowly learning , I have her best interest in mind.

Sex I love sex, I love to fuck, I love getting my dick sucked, I love eating pussy, and if I am really into you I will even rim. Last night I rubbed lotion on Arianna, maybe not a full massage but close. Then I just got the urge to go down on her, so down south I went, for a good ten minutes or so, just loving life. I did not want anything in return, I just love eating pussy. So without saying a word I pulled the covers down I opened her thighs and went to town, I did not ask or say a word. The same with getting head, if I am in the mood laying in bed, I will just grab her by her hair and pull her down to my cock.

Yesterday I got the urge to fuck, I told Arianna to strip and get on her back, she did as instructed, I crawled on top busted a nut, and got off of her, I was done. Now most of the time I spend a lot of time when it comes to sex, I love hearing and seeing a woman get off, so I try to make sure I take care of her, but at times it is just about me.

I run my house, I control my house, it is my way and only my way, no questions asked. This was the agreement we had before entering a relationship. Sex when I want, how I want, where I want, be it oral, pussy or anal, it is about me. If you settle for less, you will never be happy, and I refuse to end up being the cheating Dom having to rent a motel room. I refuse to pay for pussy.

Being a Dominant, a Master and owner means a great deal of responsibility, A Dominant should be able to give 100% and no less to his property. We must be available 24/7. Because if you are not, she will find someone who will be, it make take a little time but she will dump your sorry ass.

Sex is on my terms. Now if Arianna is not feeling well. I am considerate enough to wait. Again on my terms.

When out I do not dress Arianna like a slut, although she would wear what she was told to wear. When going out I instruct her on what she will be wearing. In the afternoon, I have clothes laid out, she knows to come in, pull her shoes off at the door, pick up her clothes and shower, no questions asked.

Arianna does not have options the only options are those I allow her. I do not talk much about our business, I generally just handle things, Arianna has enough on her plate now, so I do not bother her with the little stuff. The other day she asked about something, then she made the comment, well I guess it is on a need to know basis. My reply was your correct. If I feel I need to asked her for advice I will, but until then it is on a need to know.

Arianna comes first, no matter what. She knows she can wake me at 2am if she needs to, if she feels she needs to talk. She does however wake me to request to go to the bathroom, then permission to re-enter the bed. I am good with that. She was told early on about getting up or entering the bed.

Most would think our relationship is one way, but that is far from the course, most think my way of running a house is somewhat unorthodox , some think I am to strict. Well they do not pay my bills, nor does anyone put food on my table. How I run my house is my business. As long as Arianna is happy that is all that matters to me.

Arianna is by far the most compliant slave I have ever met. She enjoys task, she loves structure. She loves being limited to where she is allowed to sit. I do not believe Arianna could ever be replaced.

Sex on my terms, and only my terms. You guys need to think about those words instead of paying for a motel room, so you can have it on your terms. Go home to your wife.

 

Vile

Do you as a Submissive or Slave Please To Much

Posted in abuse, and Respect, bdsm, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, blindfold, blog, control, controlling, Conversation, Dominants, dress, Dress Protocol, events, foreplay, Health, married, morals, munchs, Pain, Patience, Respect, Rules, sadist, Safe, Safe and Sane, serve, session, sex, short shorts, slave, Spanking, submissive, The word NO on December 20, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

This really happens a lot, more so when a submissive or slave is just entering their first relationship. It is almost like a craving, a drug, but it can be a bad drug.

Just entering the lifestyle a sub/slave will take just about anything that is thrown their way. Lack of communication, being yelled at, humiliated, and even told you are to take pain. Told how to dress, send pictures, video, nude on the webcam.  The last three I not only find childish, but really meaningless. During a session, when Tish is blindfolded I will take a few pics to show her what she looked like, then I delete. I do not save one for myself.

The first thing a lot of Dominants want to do is drop a ton of rules on you, making you feel overwhelmed and stressed. The rules, it took me about a week to implement any rules when it came to Tish. Number one I did not know her, number two I did not know what her needs were, and the type of structure she was needing.

The rules should not be of a sexual nature, I sent Tish 25 total rules, and I believe one was about masturbation, that is only because I like to watch, but none of the rules were based on sex.

Pain. All subs or slaves are not wired the same. Never let anyone tell you that you can be trained to take pain. I find that to be the biggest load of fucking horse shit in the world. I was with sherry for almost seven year, a true masochist, a masochist like I have ever known.  To this day I still cannot figure out what made her clock tick. At times when I would leave her house or her mine, I would be scared from all the bruising, and marks. On the other side of the story she would not of been happy in a regular D’s relationship, the pain was a release for her . A slave told me not long ago Her Dominant had her watch an S&M video, and the slave was laughing as he was hitting her. The thing is he was not really hitting her that hard, and she probably made 3K for the day.  If you are not into pain, then make it clear you are not, nor will you stand for it. You do not have to take anything just to please, if you are told that, I would reevaluate the situation.

I do love sex, as a matter of fact I am more of a pleaser when it comes to any type of sexual contact, although there will be times when it is just about me. For the most though, I make sure my slave reaches that point before I do. If you start your relationship out based on sex that is all you have. You are lucky if what you think you have will last a year.

Being told what to wear, wow I remember when I was in my mid twenty’s. She had to wear a short skirt with no panties. Yea I was thinking with my dick. Today I am much different, although 99% of the time I choose the clothes, I do not dress Tish like a slut, pretty much covered, and is seldom nude at home, or even sleeping. While in bed it just depends on my mood. Going to a munch I may have her wear a skirt, but nothing that will make her feel ashamed or out of place. We as Dominants have to grow up sometime.

I control the house, what to eat how much, bath time, and even bed time. I want to make this clear though, everything I named off is what Tish told me her needs were. I made an agreement, so the key now is for me to stay Consistent, if I ever lose that grip, it is almost impossible to regain control.

One thing I try to explain about a new relationship, when asked what is it like? How will our relationship be? My answer is everything will fall into place like dominoes , if the two of you click, it just happens.

When I am talking about rules or protocol, I go over everything, then I retract and go over each one and explain in detail, once I am fished, I ask if she has any questions. Tish told me know because I explained everything step by step.

You as a submissive or slave do not need 128 rules, out of the 25 I gave Tish probably only five or six were actual rules the rest were guidelines. I did not tell her she had to memorize each one. I told her to look at them at least once daily. The other day she forgot, so she got to stand in the corner and read them off to me. Then I sat her down and asked her to tell me which one really stuck out in her mind.

If you are not wired for pain, you do not have to take it. If you are not wired for humiliation, you do not have to take it. If you feel uncomfortable about how your Dom wants you to dress you have the right to question.

Okay so I do not know everything, this is true. While it is true I make all the decisions in our everyday life, I do from time to time make mistakes. I explained this to Tish as well, I want her to speak up, I want to hear her ideas. I am not that close minded, she may have a better or faster way of doing things.

I am a huge advocate when it comes to abuse, mental, physical, what ever the case. It makes me sick when two are in a long distance relationship, or my ball breaker someone who is married.To tell his sub or slave he was to busy to text, call, or drop an email. If your dominant tells you this, well you can see how far up the list your rank. A submissive or slave is number one and always should be.

After my post yesterday not one married Dominant made a comment, so I see where the back bone lays. I had very few comments, so I guess I hit a nerve with a lot of people.

There have been a few who have emailed Tish, she is somewhat shy but will answer, she just ask that nothing be posted on her blog, due to the nature of her blog and followers.

Do not take more than you can handle, you will not get use to it, nor can you be trained to accept pain and enjoy it.

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Are You Really Submissive ? Are You Really Ready ?

Posted in 24/7, abuse, bdsm, blow job, Bond, Change, Collars, control, controlling, Discipline, Dominants, dress, Dress Protocol, events, Friends, Honesty, Kink, kinky, married, Married Dominant, Master, Molding, oral sex, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, Safe, Safe and Sane, self confidence, Self-Discipline, serve, sex, slave, submissive, training your slave on November 25, 2012 by thekinkyworldofvile

Being a submissive or slave is not an easy task. Just as being a Dominant, one thinks a Dominant is someone who just barks orders and gets his cock sucked on demand. That is not the case. Being a Dominant or submissive runs much deeper. The truth is, it really takes two very special people, who are dedicated to the lifestyle.

Both in the relationship have needs, these needs are to be met on a daily basis.First comes communication, both expressing ones needs. Then comes the agreement, this allows things to move forward. Then you begin laying the foundation, the training, the structure, remolding, rules or guidelines which ever you prefer.

I recently had a slave come to me, this is the truth. She wanted like a mini boot camp, and I agreed. She agreed to stay with me, then she got sick once settled in, she had a cough before arriving. Well the second, and third day she was running a fever, so I let her rest. Well I did not meet her expectations. I was not going to do anything while she did not feel well. So the process came to an abrupt end.

It is the submissive or slave who picks her Dominant, not the other way around. So she is calling the shots until both have come to an agreement.

A couple of months ago I posted on a topic about slave positions I received a lot of bad feed back, because most thought they were not necessary, not needed. To each their own, but yes they are needed, maybe not all but there are a few I use on a daily basis.

There are exceptions , one as we grow older, we are not able to bend or sit as we did when younger. Hip replacements, bad knees. If that is the case things can be changed up.

Discipline plays a huge role with in the D’s relationship. I am not speaking about punishment, spanking or corner time. I am speaking about Self-Discipline, the want and the need to become a collard submissive or slave. The first month will tell everything.If your Dominant is true, and consistent. Consistency with your new Dominant is very important. You expect him to be just what he told you

Lets take sex out of the equation forget about it for now. Because if you fuck or suck cock on the first meet, that is what your relationship is based on. SEX. Nothing more. A Dominant would never expect sex on the first meet, nor the second or third. You have to take the steps to get to know each other. You have to become friends. You the submissive should have a million question. If some of the answers are not clear, ask to clarify , make sure you understand the answer. Do not be afraid to ask. Most will just shrug it off and move onto the next question.

I am me, I am not going to change or bend for anyone. I am not going to change or bend my guidelines, my protocol, or my expectations. I make this perfectly clear from the start. I have a list I present to one, I hand it over with a pen, as one reads each topic is checked, this is the time to ask questions. If something on the list bothers you, or you feel like you cannot comply with something. The conversation is over. You have made a new friend. If I change or bend, I am no longer me. If you change or bend you are no longer you.

I will ask in depth question some very personal. Medication, health problems. Have you ever been on the most wanted list? What are you looking for? What do you expect to get out of the relationship? How far do you want to take your submission? What is your temperament like? Your work history? You get the picture. So in a matter of an hour, I know more about you than most of your friends, and in most cases your family.

Self Discipline, many do not have the ability or the want. This is the ice breaker. I as a Dominant am going to put you through many changes, from the way you dress, walk, eat, speak, and in some cases your hair, your makeup if you wear. Most of the time I prefer my slave to be fully covered, this included arms , to the neck line, and legs. Her body is for my eyes only. Now if we are going to an event, such as a munch, or a Dungeon, I may pick something to fit the event.

I speak about protocol often, many disagree with me on this subject, but I come from old school, and again I am not going to change. Protocol falls under Self- Discipline, you have to have the want and need to follow. The slave positions to me are very important, this keeps you in the submissive frame of mind. There is noway someone could use every position on a daily basis. You would spend your whole day directing orders. Again you have to be willing to give up control, and let someone fully mold you to fit ones needs.

Everything a Dominant shares with you or teaches you. In time you will use something he has taught you in your normal everyday life.

The relationship is about positive reinforcement having the ability to praise no matter how small the task was. Telling one how much they are appreciated goes a very long way.

You also have to have the ability to be best friends, you cannot live master and slave 24/7. Although I have been told by a slave she did not want anything to do with a vanilla life. This could be achieved but it would take time, it will not happen over night.

Married couples most of the above does not apply. Most are only Dom and sub in the bedroom. Once they open the door all is forgotten. In many ways this spices things up for them, like a release, just being able to let go. I believe there are a few couples on here who live such a life, if it works, and you both found your middle ground, that is awesome.

While in what we call training, the submissive is totally focused on one thing her new Dominant. She looks up to him, admires him. The sub or slaves thinks he can do no wrong.He is in full control, of not only himself , but his property. The only thing that can change this, is if she sees behavior she does not agree with, losing his temper, acting childish is a huge killer, not being consistent. Maybe taking advantage of his authority in front of others.

Many find once in a relationship, that BDSM is really not their bag of tea, it was more of a fantasy. The truth is there are really very few true Dominants and submissive’s or slaves. Then it just falls into kink, which is fine if that is the type of relationship you want, but chances are one or the other is going to be displeased.

After you have been giving or told what the new Dominant expects, take sometime to think. Your not going to give your answer right then. Take a week or two. Think about every step the Dom has explained.

If you find somethings you have problems with or maybe something you do not wish to do, meet, talk , and see if he may be willing to adjust a little, maybe there is another way. You have to speak up, communication.

Are You Really Submissive ? Are You Really Ready ?

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