I loved the lifestyle even before I knew there was a name. I have always love the kink, I have always loved spanking. At an early age I got into bondage, I loved tying girls up. I loved rough sex.
My Dad had those little paper back books, the cheap ones. How I Fucked My Babysitter. The dude always had a huge 14 in cock and was ripping her apart. I found a Hustler Mag I was like 14, that had bondage pictures in it and from there it was game on.
In high school the only girls who would have anything to do with me were the Known sluts of the school, they were just passed around, but I was able to get my kink on. I fisited a girl at 15, the most incredible feeling I had ever felt.
Then my brothers babysitter Mildred a 28 yr old skinny redhead. Her husband went to prison because he beat her up so bad she almost died. I saw her for almost 2 yrs, then I joined the Army. Mildred taught me about spanking. Where to spank, how hard. Once I got the hang of it she could cum just from spanking.
Then Korea I have spoken of this before, you know I was thinking we were talking about sex, and I was trying to come up with a number of how many women I had been with from the age of 17 til about 22, and I could not. That I know is very Sad.
I slowed down once in Germany where I met Gretchen , I should of married that girl, but I was young, and Dumb. She was like wow just incredible about 5 years older than I was. More so she liked me for me, in some ways more kinky than I was.
I love Bondage. If I am with someone new, I take extra care. It is important they feel safe at all times. Constant communication is needed. Once the session is over I tell her to get up, she says I cant I am tied up, sure you can move your leg or arm, the ropes just about fall off. The look is total shock.
It took me the longest to learn, that although I enjoyed Bondage, it was more for the submissive, the feeling of helplessness , the feeling of not being in control. Knowing one can do anything they want to and she cannot fight back.
Safeword I do not use a safeword, why would I, I am a sadist, but let me explain first before you flip out. This lifestyle is not something I just got into. Many many years. Most of my relationships have been long term. All of my relationships have been none abusive. I have never hurt anyone, and never will. Although as I age I am calming down a bit.I cannot stress communication enough, during a session I am in constant contact, I am talking, I am listening, and more so watching her eyes. Even if she does not act like she has had enough most of the time I can tell and I stop. The submissive is not there to abuse or hurt. I never break my toys.
After care is the most important part of playing. I have met one submissive who wanted to be left alone for like an hour. This gave her tome to think about everything that happened, Then she wanted aftercare. You as a dominant know how important this role is for us when it comes after playing. We hold and talk to each other ask how she is feeling? What her thoughts are? Was there anything she liked or did not like? Or maybe we could do something a different way. I like when she is curled up in a chair in my lap, I can hear her breath, as I pull her closer, you can feel her heart beat. Sitting there telling her how well she did.
We as Dominants are in control, that is what attracts submissive women to us , we are confident, but not arrogant. We do not yell at ours, we cherish our submissive, I like to think she can do no wrong. A true sign of perfection. We as Dominants can set back after 6 months or so into a relationship, and say look what I have done. A real awesome feeling. I cannot think of a time or the last time I raised my voice to a submissive even if slightly agitated not angry agitated. If something is wrong we sit and talk things out.
I talk to Vanilla guys who are sexually frustrated, because they have been cut off, or his wife wont go down south or anal is out of the question. Or the lack of foreplay I love foreplay, foreplay does not even have to be touching. Foreplay can be a look through out the day, or the way you brush her hair back, or small comments. Don’t take me wrong I do enjoy a quickie at time.
I love laying in bed while getting head, most of the time I love it slow, just so I can lay back and relax.
Then at times I love face fucking, just something about the control. I think this is probably one of the most submissive acts besides anal sex a submissive can perform .this is an act she has giving up total control.
I love anal sex, this is another area I consider an act that is very submissive, for a female, it is the most private part on her body. Although anal is one of my favorite things it has to be done right, you have to go slow, prepare. If I am going to be doing anal play I like to give a warm enema, the area should be very clean. Tons of lube. You just don’t want to get up behind her and shove it in, not that I haven’t. I am at the age now, I want the submissive to gain as my pleasure as I do. Nice and slow to start out with, I will usually start out with over my lap spanking pouring a little lube and start to finger her ass a little, while spanking with the other. Once I am able to work two fingers in without hurting she is primed and ready.
I love eating pussy, that is my second fetish, tie her down I can go for hours. Eating pussy is an art as well, just like spanking. I like to take my time. Using a pump on the clit helps increase the feeling for her. Yea the snake bite kit I blogged about works perfect on the clit, it will make it swell 3 times its normal size. Also using the tens unit, while going down on her will blow her mind…
This is some of the things I love about the lifestyle, more so the control, but being able to be open, talk openly, without fear of being judged. We can be who we want to be even if just behind closed doors.
The two should set time aside everyday and just talk, about anything, just good conversation. You will grow so much more. If I am sleeping and one has the need to talk, get up make a pot of coffee bring me a cup, wake me up. That is what we as dominants are for.
Being a sadist, I enjoy inflicting pain. I have set many a days and tried to figure out what makes me tick. I cannot come up with one reason. I have cum before during a session, even spanking.