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The Baby Girl Syndrome

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, abuse, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Rules, cheating, Cheating Dominant, commitment, communication, controlling, Depressed, Discipline, Dominance Through Intimidation, FaceBook, fetlife, https://www.facebook.com/vile62, Keeping submissive Isolated, Submission, submissive with tags on July 12, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

I know everyone believes I have it out for baby girls , the truth is I feel for many of you, and this is just by reading different blogs and those I have met in real life.

I myself was a Daddy Dom for seven years, but I was not married and I lived with my Baby Girl. She did not even put gas in her own car, that was my job.

I know of One Daddy Dom and Baby Girl who are in a true committed relationship, and that would be SouthernSir and Kayla Lords. They found each other and made that move. They both made a commitment.. I do believe I left out the Powerful Batman and Bat woman who is in the process of having triplets I think it is.

If you think about it , when most of you met your Daddy, he told you that you were a baby girl, he told you that you were a little, and he gave you reasons why. This is not the case with all, but for the most it is true.

Now why would one want to label you as a baby Girl, or a little ? Why would a Daddy Dom want to use those terms, and go into explaining why you are?

There is less responsibility , you have very few rules if any, you have no protocols, and your giving no structure. Many men would fine this to be the perfect way to go, because he has no responsibility.

So one the upside for him, he gets to see you once or twice a month, most of the time in a Motel room if your lucky you will spend the night with your Daddy, or you may just get a couple of hours, of just fucking, then he is on his way again.

You do get a few text a day, very seldom an email. You are not on any of his social sites, like FaceBook, Fetlife, Twitter, so no one knows about you except him, and your other Baby Girls you bitch to.

Here we go again , most Daddy Doms are married. He is seeing you because there is something you will do his wife will not. Maybe they have lost that communication, it can be a number of things, going through his Mid-Life Crisis..

Maybe the midlife crisis has drawn the new Daddy into kink , maybe he has a few buddies who told him about the lifestyle.

The truth is many men do not know how to communicate with their wife, or they feel ashamed to put their wife through such kink, or they may not even know how to approach the subject.

If your Daddy is Married , you are being used. He is not going to leave his wife and kids, he is not going to lose his home being middle aged. If you think he is going to start his life over, you have a lot of thinking to do.
If your friends are telling you the same thing your reading then you are not in the right place.

The Fake Daddy Dom will play on your feelings, he will tell you he understands, he will tall you he will make everything better, but in fact he does not. He will drag you along as long as you are willing, until you have figured out you have been had.

You are just for use nothing more, your a piece of ass, if he is even fucking you. More than likely you spend more time on your knees sucking cock.

Then he starts to Isolate you, making you drop your friends, your family,
He wants access to all of your accounts, your email, facebook, twitter, everything. Once your are completely Isolated he then can tell you anything and you only have his words to go by.

If you are not getting the full experience of what a Daddy, Baby Girl relationship is suppose to be about, you are missing out on so much.
You are young you have your whole life in front of you, why waste it?

Do you not think it is funny not one has stepped up to the plate to defend himself, not one. I find that odd.

The outcome just depends on how much of your life do you want to waste.

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Vile

My Training Techniques Do Work

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, Acceptance, Adapt, Arianna, bdsm, Behavior Modification, Collar, Collars, commitment, communication, Consensual, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Dominant, Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook., FaceBook, FaceBook Vile Woods, fifty shades of grey, gullible submissive, http://housemakai.wordpress.com/, Listen in at http://tobtr.com/s/6300283. ‪#‎BDSM‬ ‪#‎DSRADIO‬ ‪#‎MIKEMAKAI‬, molding your slave, Rules, slave, Structure, Submission, submissive on May 15, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Ive spoke about how the submissive and slave should have a plan going into a relationship. How they should know what they want, and the questions to ask.

A Dominant should have a clear plan when it comes to training. The Dominant should know what he wants out of the relationship. I had a picture in my mind, a very clear picture of how I saw myself living everyday with a slave. I could picture the slave I wanted to live with. The hair the eyes, the body type.

I had the mold set in my mind. I already had my rules that I intended to implement , I had my protocols. I could see the structure within the home. I had a very clear picture of my everyday life and I was not going to settle for less. Now rules do differ from submissive to submissive and slave to slave, but you should have a general idea.

Pussy is pussy, a blowjob is a blowjob, it is the connection that makes the difference, it is the feelings you have that makes the difference.

When entering the relationship ship you have to go in with each knowing their place. Dominant Submissive, Master and Slave. You have to keep that frame of mind.  If you the Dominant you start to let your true feelings out, you can and will lose control. I am not saying you do not care about or love, but you entered the relationship with an understanding. I have said it before once you start to lose control you can never regain what you had. This is because the submissive has seen the soft side of you.

Now to all the Fifty Shade Dominants , this is the one who jumps from submissive to submissive. They want the sex but when you add a little responsibility to the picture the relationship is short lived. You read a book, look at some pictures and your ready to collar a submissive.

The Collar is a powerful object when placed around your neck. You are now different, you feel different, you want to be different. This is when you the submissive or slave, this is your weakest time, your really not thinking to clear, meaning your letting your guard down.  Now almost anything is fair game.

There is a lot of good information out there, and there is a lot of bad information out there. Most of what you read in common sense, but if there is not something you understand then ask, I would say ask more than one 3,4,5 and look at all the answers.  Chances are one or two will be the same, it is then up to you to decide what your going to do.

I made a comment not long ago before I was introduced to Mike Makai Who is a Author , I made the statement that there was no book that gave us guidance when it comes to BDSM and I was sent the name of a book Written by Mike Makai it is called

Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Domination-Submission-The-BDSM-Relationship-Handbook/195981700585877

Then Mikes Facebook page is.

https://www.facebook.com/mike.makai.9

Mike also has a radio station on Blogtalk radio once a week.

D/s Radio ,  Listen in at http://tobtr.com/s/6300283. ‪#‎BDSM‬ ‪#‎DSRADIO‬ ‪#‎MIKEMAKAI‬

You can also listen to older shows on YouTube.

I have read his book now and as with anything I agree with a lot of it then there is some I disagree with. I am sure there are many things Mike does not agree with me on, but you know what it is all good. I have never claimed I know everything, but I do know what works for me. The BDSM lifestyle was not something I learned over night, I did not learn from a book, I learned from experiencing and I also had a mentor. To this day some twenty plus years there is still someone I confide in.

It is not often two Dominants will agree on anything. I know when Arianna and I attend different functions such as MasT meetings or munchs, when we walk in together I can smell the ego’s Wow the strongest smell in the world.

Arianna posted something a couple of days ago, about her training . She wrote about her experiences while in training. She also wrote how it helped her.

http://vilesarianna.wordpress.com/2014/05/13/i-am-my-masters-slave-2/

I am my Master’s slave

This title has actually been in my drafts on WordPress since Christmas. I had a few minutes so I’d thought I’d try and see what kind of blog formed out of it.

“I am my Master’s Slave. “

That is so true if you think about it. If you were anything like me when I met Master Vile I was a bit of a blubbering mess. Spewing every aspect of my crazy life to Him in the hopes that He would accept me,  faults and all.  To my amazement,  He listened to my inner workings,  thoughts and fears.  His response to me was pretty much that I needed to be wiped clean.  I needed to forget what I had learned up to that point and allow Him to mold me into something more.

You can continue reading from her post it goes into more detail, but you will see how my training helped her.

I was speaking to a Dom not long ago, I do not usually use names but his name is Mark , and he had used one Submissive until she was drained, and went through several others, until he was able to leach onto her.  He told me he was going to train her, I said cool man what type of training. Mark said the usual stuff, I said yea I use the usual stuff too. So I said what are some of the things you are going to incorporate and again the usual stuff. So in reality he did not have a clue. Mark really has no concept of the lifestyle. He also made it clear when meeting a new submissive she was going to fuck on their first meeting or she was not submissive, yea Arianna heard this as well.

So as Arianna explained on her blog she was indeed a complete mess, but not as bad as she thought but she was clearly headed down a dirt road of destruction.

So I began to take things away, more so freedom, I have spoken about this before. I implemented new habits. I limited her space within the home. Where she could sit, where she could stand, how she spoke to people, I implemented protocols . To change bad habits and make new habits you have to stay consistent on a daily basis. Once everything is in place, you cannot change anything up or at least I do not. My rules were not sexual. Rules are meant to change habits, in my eyes anyway. I brought structure into the home, we had no Drama, we had zero problems and to this day it remains the same. Once you complete your what I call bubble, it is very important to make sure nothing penetrates it disrupting what you have worked so hard on building.

You will find what works for you, when I first met Arianna I spent about a week putting a plan together, something I thought would work and it did. I started training and she did not have aclue

I do know if you enter the relationship and it is based on sex alone it will not work for very long. If you are with someone who sees your submission as a weakness and he is not looking out for your well being , your clearly not going to get anything out of the relationship, except problems, and the drama..

Now the question is am I right? Maybe not in every ones eyes. Does everybody agree with me probably not ? What I do know what I do works for me it works for us. I do dedicate a lot of time to insure everything runs as it should.

Ive always said have a plan and stick to it, if you remain true to who you are, things will work out. I know doing things my way has worked in the past, and what has failed was on my part, and I have no one to blame except for me. Yes I do take the blame for past relationships not working, but I learned from my mistakes, and Ive grown over the years, maybe my hair turning white so early has made me wiser.

 

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The Collaring Process

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Now before you jump the gun, there were several submissives who contacted me last night who were agreeing with me.

 

Many today are still pretty confused about the collar or how one earns one. There are also many Dominants since the 50 shades of grey has come out that do not have a clue. Since the books have been out Dominants have been popping up like weeds in your yard.

Sometime ago the collaring process could take 2 to 5 years for a submissive or slave to earn their collar. It has only been in the last ten years or so that this has changed. The consideration time, the training time depending on the submissive or the slave could go beyond the 5 year mark.

Today a submissive can earn a collar on the first date, eh maybe 30 days, which seems to be the average.

Just to let everyone know it was eight months before I collared Arianna, it would of been six months but she refused my first offer. I am not sure if everyone knew that or not.

So I had to regroup think things out, figure out what I had missed, I had to do a little restructuring change things up a little. Wow she really told me no. It turned out good though and I would not of changed anything.

So the collaring process this was before the pansexual epidemic hit the world of BDSM everybody fucking everybody. Zero control, open the trash can throw all the structure and protocols in it. Fuck who needs rules we are just going to have sex. You want to fuck my slave sure man have at it. Those of you who do not know what pansexual is.

There you go

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

 

Pansexuality, or omnisexuality,[1] is sexual attraction, sexual desire, romantic love, or emotional attraction toward people of all gender identities and biological sexes.[2][3] Self-identified pansexuals may consider pansexuality a sexual orientation,[3] and refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others.[4] The Oxford Dictionary of English defines pansexuality as, “not limited or inhibited in sexual choice with regard to gender or activity”.[5]

The concept of pansexuality rejects the gender binary, the “notion of two genders and indeed of specific sexual orientations”,[3] as pansexual people are open to relationships with people who do not identify as strictly men or women.

 

So here comes the change , and don’t get me wrong I welcome change to an extent, I am probably the most open minded man on earth you will ever meet. I do have friends who are pansexual dear friends who are pansexual.

That is one of the problems today with poly relationships even when there is a Dominant involved there is no structure , no rules if there are rules there are no consequences if rules are broken, and there are zero protocols, and those of you who have been to BDSM events have seen just what I am talking about.

So yes today you can earn a collar on the first date, but does it really mean anything to you? What did you do to earn it? Because you swallow ? Okay I am not saying everybody sucks cock on the first date. If I dated someone or met someone and I just wanted my cock sucked and it was in the parking lot of Denny’s guess what ? She did not get another call, I lost her number. Okay I am guilty of that I knew there was no chance of a relationship but she may have been hot or I liked the shape of her lips. If you fuck on the first date nah not for me, second yea possible you already have that connection.

You should want to earn a collar, the collar should be very special to you. The meaning of the collar is pure ownership. You have giving yourself, and have agreed to let someone take over your life.

Let me tell you something , 98% of the time if you do not live in a 24/7 setting it does and will not work. It may work for a short time six months to a year, but it will not work. If a Dominant cares enough about you to put a collar around your neck, then he should care enough about you to move you in, or there may be the case where you make more money than he does and it makes more sense for him to move in with you. If he has a job, and a car, and is able to obtain work once he moves.

So you put your Submissive or Slave under Consideration , in some protocols there is a Consideration Collar , this collar can be taken off when going out or to bed or when company comes over. How long would you consider someone before you decided you wanted to go forward with a relationship ? That would really depend on the two.

The Training Collar this is a collar giving to the Submissive or Slave so the two can begin their formal training. Again this collar can come off when needed, or can be worn just at play time or when your Dominant is present.

How long does the Training process take. Well with Arianna I am going to say Hmmm the real in depth training was 90 days and a total of six months, and we are still going after almost two years. I have found that during our relationship I have had to add things and take away things.

The Collar , the collar of ownership. The Collar should be something that is picked out by the two, it should be something that is agreeable by both the Slave and Master or the Submissive and Dominant. Then a ceremony is planned if your anything like me I wanted it to be special. That is why we decided to do it on our wedding day at the same time.

The Collar on the slave is to be worn and it could on be taken off by the Master. Dominants and Submissive’s are different very few wear their collar 24/7.

It was funny Arianna went to the dentist to get her Teeth cleaned she has the whitest teeth I have ever seen, anyway before doing X rays they asked her to remove her necklace. She replied I cant , and the Hygienist said why ? Arianna said its locked and I do not have the key. A Few minutes later the Dentist came in and looked at it and said he had never seen anything like it in his life, but they were still able to do the X rays.

The term Daddy Dom and Baby Girl is relatively  new to the lifestyle. It is a Term that emerged about 15 years ago maybe a little longer but not by much. I was looking for some kind of date but I could not pin point one down. Any way there are a couple of difference stages of a Daddy Dom and Baby Girl.

Most are not sexual those who are truly growing up little’s, although it  has nothing to do with incest , the girl is usually around the age of 10 or 12 and at times younger. I have known some to even wear diapers. Most of the time a Daddy Dom has more than one baby girl, but the baby girl rarely has more than one Daddy. A lot of Daddy Doms are married and very few live with their Baby girls.

I am going to share a link from a Tumbler that a Baby Girl wrote to give a little more insight.

http://daddystendertouch.tumblr.com/Whatisadaddy

Now my reasoning behind the not collaring. Most Daddy Dom and Baby Girl relationships lack any type of structure, almost no protocols and I have seen this when out at different functions as well. Most are not long term. A Baby girls first daddy is seldom the last one. Although there are rules, rules are seldom followed and many times there are no consequences. I have never seen a Baby Girl with a collar on, and believe me when out I am a people watcher. The lack of respect when out towards their daddy is something less desirable. Again this is the growing up little’s I am talking about.

The other relationship The Daddy Dom and the Baby girl is really not age related, again very new to the lifestyle, but we try to except everyone, mainly because everyone is different, our kinks are different. So The Masters and Dominant open our doors with open arms. Munch’s MasT meetings and so on. I find it at times the baby girl to be very disruptive , again no protocols , no rules, and back talking their Dominant right there is public.

Then to have someone who is not a Slave or submissive because most Baby girls are only submissive when they feel like it. Have the nerve to criticize how someone else lives, or simply say that is wrong. Um wait you are at a BDSM munch Bondage Discipline Sado Masochism. .

We talk down about things we do not understand, we judge people because we do not understand, and even when you try to explain , they already have a mental picture in their mind, your fighting a losing battle.

Several months ago we went to a Munch In St Augustine Florida. Arianna could not believe how disruptive some of the subs were and most were Baby Girls and their Daddy sitting next to them like nothing was going on. At times we could not even hear the presenter, and at this time the moderator should of stepped up and showed a few people to the door. This is not the only instance…

Most Baby Girls when collared do not wear their collars, they only wear when they have that feeling of submission come over them, or when Daddy states he wants the collar on and then it is for play.

I take the lifestyle very very serious, as does Arianna . Last night we were talking about getting another collar, and I had found some that looked like eternity collars but they were made out of aluminum. She said NO. She said I am not going to down grade, the weight for one it would not have the same effect. Okay I understood.

When people disrespect the collar in my eyes it is the same as burning our US Flag. That is how serious I take my lifestyle. Sometimes I even hate the word lifestyle, if you think about it I am not a lifestyle I am me.

The collar not not have to be a big bulky leather one, or even an eternity collar, but something to represent ownership. How many of you can reach up right now and touch your collar?

Again these are just my views, my opinion and nothing more, but if your going to attend a BDSM event show some respect and be respectful of others.

Vile

Leash Training

Posted in 24/7, Arianna, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Bdsm events, Behavior Modification, Collar, collar and leash, Collars, communication, Consensual, control, Discipline, Dominants, events, FaceBook, https://www.facebook.com/groups/230204630487640/244088752432561/?notif_t=like, Married Dominant, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, Masters, poly slaves, Protocol, Protocol public, Rules, Safe, slave, Slave Leash Training, Submission, submissive on February 2, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

Many laugh at the idea when someone says I am going to Leash train my Slave or Submissive. The fact is, if the two are very serious about the lifestyle. The leash can have a great impact on the Slave/ Submissive.

Just as the Collar has a great emotional impact, once it is placed around the neck. The same goes when the leash is added. Now there is someone to guide you. Someone is not in full control of your movements.

The Master would teach commands not with words but with movements of the leash. Up and down are the two basic. Pulling down on the leash indicates you wish for yours to kneel, pulling up indicates you wish for them to stand. .

The Master should always hold the leash with the dominant hand. This is to insure he has full control. Teaching the slave the different movements without speaking is not as easy as it sounds. You are teaching the Slave/Submissive to follow on your commands without speaking. It would be almost the same as Pony training.

Any training for that matter you as the Dominant has to stay consistent in your training. Once you implement a rule or protocol , then you stay on that path. Staying on a path you set helps set standards. More so the Submissive/Slave knows what is expected.

To take it one step farther You can use cuffs, behind their back. This give the Master total control, and the Slave/Submissive will have to pay attention to your commands. The commands are much like the commands you would give if you use slave positions in your relationship. I do not recommend most of the positions on a daily basis, but the Slave/ Submissive will pick up on one or two the Master likes and will use without being told.

The other day Arianna and I was talking and I was going to change the way she greeted me. She did greet me on knees bent forward with arms stretched out face down. I instructed her I now wanted slave position # 2 The same but facing away from me hands on ass spreading apart. She did as instructed but later explained she did not get the same feeling. In the first position she felt more like a slave and explained while in that position she had a big grin on her face because I was home, and she could not wait to see me.  So after we talked I made that change. It truly makes Arianna proud to kneel and wait for me to walk through the door. That my friend is devotion. This is not when she feels like it, the greeting is everyday. I expect no less from my Slave.

While leash training when you are speaking all eyes should be on you. You can tell when someone is listening and when they are not and you make the corrections with a slight pull on the Leash.

Now depending on who you are and how open you are about your lifestyle. You may want to keep the Leash play just at home. You may want to wear the Leash at local BDSM events such as munchs. Or where someone is giving a Demo, on rope or maybe spanking.

You may feel comfortable wearing your leash in public. Many years ago during a bile week event here in Daytona Beach I walked Chong down Main Street with a collar and Leash on. Up one side and down the other, and not one person made a comment. People took pictures but no one said anything. I did not really expect any comments, but during bike week I have seen way crazier shit than some bitch wearing a collar and leash. You may not want to be seen in public, and that is fine.

I have not giving much thought to training Arianna with a Leash. She has enough on her plate, and to add anymore at this time would not be fair to her. I have giving it some thought in the past, and I may very well here in the future.

The Collar once put around their neck gives them a feeling of being complete. They have worked so hard to earn. They have giving more in six months to a year than they have ever giving. I cannot even imagine the rush that goes through ones mind once the collar is put on. There is way more than just the feeling of being owned.

Then you add the Leash. You the Dominant are now in full control. If the Slave or Submissive is in the right mindset it will take them places they have never been before. Total power exchange. They now know they must follow without question.

This is also a type of Behavior Modification, you are giving a different mindset. Used on a daily basis they will soon adapt, and will most likely welcome the Leash when you bring it out.

One thing you never use is a choker collar, never, never , never.

Trust me it puts them in a different place.

Hey check out my friend on facebook she has an awesome group. Hers is more active than my group is you will have a lot of fun.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/230204630487640/244088752432561/?notif_t=like

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I am Doing The Twitter Thing

Posted in @vile62 on Twitter, bdsm, FaceBook, FaceBook Vile Woods, Twitter, Uncategorized, United Kingdom on December 22, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have been on Twitter for sometime, all of my post go there as well . @vile62

I have a Facebook as well Vile Woods. You do not have to friend me and I will

never send any unwanted Messages , many on wordpress just follow me.

On Fetlife Vile1962 speaking of fetlife people are blowing me on on @’s today all from the united kingdom wow it is crazy.

Christmas is just around the corner. This is the time that we get together with

family and friends, the New Year is approaching as well, a very good time to

make any amends with family if needed

Vile

Feel Free To Hit Me Up On Face Book

Posted in bdsm, FaceBook, https://www.facebook.com/vile62 on November 20, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

To everyone please feel free to hit me up on facebook.

I have a small group called The BDSM corner. You can post what ever you want or just stop in to say hello..

Or feel free to ask any questions you may have.

https://www.facebook.com/vile62

Much Love To All

Vile

Our fetishes

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Adult Baby, Alt.com, Arianna, Ass, Baby Girl, bdsm, Collarme.com, communication, control, controlling, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Dominants, FaceBook, Fake Dominants, Fake submissive, Fetish, fetlife, Foot Fetish, Foot Worship, Honesty, Kink, kinky, Master, Mini Skirts, Old Guard, Old Leather Guard, Pony Girl, pony play, puppy play, pussy, rimming, self confidence, Self-Discipline, sex, slave, Spanking, Submission, submissive on November 5, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We all have our own fetishes, even if we do not admit it. We all get off on certain things, and at times our minds are more kinkier than we want to act out.

In our lifestyle we should never look down on someone because of their kinks or fetishes, we may not understand them, but it goes the other way as well someone else may not understand us.

When first meeting someone, there are somethings that are not best to share to soon. You should be careful with what information you give. One it could blow the whole thing, or two it could be used as ammunition later down the road when things go bad.

I have a bad ass fetish , I love to look, touch grab. Most of all I love anal sex, to me anal sex is the most submissive act there is, the most private part on the female body.

I have a short skirt fetish, I have almost broke my neck turning to fast to catch another glimpse. I am also a leg man I love a nice pair of legs, although they do look better on my shoulders.

The BDSM community has grown so much over the past 10 years or so, finely there was a place where people could be excepted and not be judged, or is that statement true ?

If you travel back in time to the late 60’s 70’s the Leather Guard Master And Slave, there were no Submissive. Then in the late 80’s and 90’s there was an explosion, the internet was a game changer people came to life, we could finely be who we needed to be.

Now you have puppy play , pony play , Daddy Dom and Baby Girl . Rubber fetishes , the list just goes on and on. We can be free and not be judged or is that statement really true ?

We are judged by the same people who live our lifestyle , we are judged by the ones who do not want to be judged. Why is this ? Because everyone has to be right.

That Master does not know what he is doing, or that Master is a FAKE , that Master cannot control his Slave, Or the best one is that Master cannot be real because he will not share.  Yea Ive heard that one before.

So when you first meet someone a Master meeting a new Submissive or Slave, a Submissive or Slave meeting a new Master you have to lay everything out on the table, but wait. Yes there is a BUT. These things should not be shared on the first meeting eh maybe even the second meeting. You should want to become friends first and for most.  Even when chatting and getting to know each other the topic of BDSM or limits or sex should not come up. If this does ladies you are just a piece of ass, and nothing more. I want to know you as a person, I want to become your best friend. Once you have got past that stage, then you lay your cards out, because if you do not, 3 months 6 months down the road these so called fetishes comes to light and guess what your partner is not game.

We as Dominant are suppose to be a different breed of men. We are secure by nature, we are not controlling by nature, we are self sufficient by nature, we are calm by nature. We indeed are a different breed. So if this is the case why do we not except others for who they are.  Every Dominant is different we all train different we all expect different things out of our relationship, we all have different goals, we all have different needs. .

Okay now there are a few good books out there for the BDSM lifestyle Master and Slave, but these books are one mans opinion, or a Slaves opinion. I am not to say what they believe is wrong or right, what they do works just fine for them. What I do works for me and Arianna.

I will tell you ladies something if you want to meet a real Slave meet mine Arianna, She can give you the definition of what living a Slaves life is all about. The one thing is we had an agreement prior to entering a relationship. She showed me her card I showed mine, there was no Bullshit. I will tell you this I do not negotiate, it is my way and my way only.  This does not mean I do not ask her for her opinion because I do. If there are any major decisions to be made we talk. Arianna is not a Doormat , nor is she stupid.

Be honest and upfront if someone does not like what you have to say, or they say no way would I think about doing that do not give in stand your ground. Be who you are and who you need to be.

Today we have a large number of BDSM site’s Collarme.com. More of a spam site, ALT.com use to because now you can only find Nigerian  slaves , you have FaceBook which can be awesome, and who could forget FetLife, every fucking kink in the world and you are not Bombed with spam.

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