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Arianna And I watched, My Five Wives, Well Almost All Of It

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My Five Wives

While skipping through channels the other day I stumbled across this show called, My Five Wives

Brady who is married to five wives in Utah and has 24 children lives in two houses built side by side and a food bill of over 4.000 dollars a month seems to have it down for the most part.

The family were all Mormons at one time but have split off from the traditional Mormon religion and kinda added their own flavor.  While the family follows no real religion they all believe in Buddhism, all the women are pro-gay marriage and they all have a drink from time to time.

Each wife has their own bedroom and Brady takes turns spending the night with each one. One Birthdays each wife gets an extra night.

I have nothing against those who believe in polygamy or who live it, if it works for them then so be it.

If a family can live the Polygamy lifestyle and make it work, and not live off of government assistance then leave them be. We are in a new time where we allow gay couples to marry so why would be draw a line on how many people can live together.

While the family is not religious based they were all Mormons at one time, and they do live in a  Polygamist community , which they have been asked to leave because of the way they believe.

There are a few things that caught my eye in the short time we watched the show. The main thing was the jealousy between all of the wives as Brady took turns spending the night with each one. The second was no structure within the home, third there were no rules that had to be followed. Even though the show is not geared towards any BDSM lifestyle or Domestic Discipline the family did lack the fundamentals of any type of real structure and no protocol. I do believe Brady tries to communicate the best he can, but the main factor that keeps everything from working is the jealousy. There is no real communication with the wives, they all work toward the building of the home, but there is clearly no team work. They do have family outings which is good, yes all thirty of them, wow can you imagine going to McDonalds and having a bill for thirty.

So I wonder if others who live as Polygamist have the same issues , the same problems , if they have the same jealousy issues going on.

None of the wives on the show are Bi Sexual and that should never come into play anyway if you are looking to expand your family. I do not see the need in having partners and seeking out those who are bi as a need and that should never be part of the reason you are wanting to expand your family.

While I have done research on Domestic Discipline family’s I have not run into any who live as Polygamist. I have run into family’s who suffered from abuse and while a couple disagreed with me they mentioned all of the arguing that went on daily, and the fighting that went on daily so I was not able to connect them with living a Domestic Discipline lifestyle which for the most is religious based as well.

In the short time watching the show I was able to pin point where the problems came from. First there was no Alpha female, if there was she was not willing to step up to the plate. I can see where they all were wanting to be treated equal but in a live in situation like that I see no way that would work.

There was zero structure everyone did their own thing, having no structure causes arguing. There were no house rules again having no rules causes arguing.  Last but not least there were no consequences for any actions. Although he did try and communicate with everyone it was clear he was not getting through to them.

I can see where such a lifestyle could work if the male is in full control, and I can also see where it can fail. Those who live the polygamy lifestyle keep it such a secret I do not believe there is any hard statistics that shows if it works more than it fails.

I also believe a man can stretch his self way to thin and not being able to maintain any type of control, and it is clear when one of the wives stood toe to toe and argued with him he clearly had no control.

When Arianna and I were talking about the possibility of adding another, there would of been a plan in place. There would of been house rules to follow, there has to be structure, there has to be protocols , and most of all there has to be an alpha female, and the other has to know the alpha is just that and will always be the alpha. So a third would have to be okay being the third, and know that will never change.

I was reading some of the comments about the TV show My Five Wives, and there was not one good one, well until I commented. These people who were complaining are the same ones you see as customers in the TV show Hardcore Pawn, or guest on the Jerry Springer show, These are the ones talking about how others live their lives.

You have people protesting Gay Marriage if your so against it then don’t marry someone who is gay, BOOM problem solved. If you judge someone for having more than one wife, then just marry one, problem solved.

What is really stupid is you spend and hour watching a TV show about Polygamist then you spend the next day complaining about it. Wow fucking really. Truth be known your the fucking moron for wasting an hour of your life watching something you hate so much.

Let people be who they want and need to be. A friend at work was talking about a family he was working with they were Mexican, he was saying that two family’s lived in a two bedroom apartment, and how crazy they were. Well it is not really crazy, they make it work, who cares how they live.

If your going to live, live the dream, but don’t waste your time talking about how others live, when your own backyard is fucked up….

By the way I can talk, my backyard is clean.

Image Just how many is to many? How many can you keep under your control.

Vile

What If , Never Comes

Posted in 24/7, abuse, anal sex, animalistic, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Bondage, communication, control, controlling, Dating, Discipline, extreme, Face Fucking, Family Values, fucking, Giving Head, infidelity, Living in the what if world, Love, Master, munchs, Night Club, oral, oral sex, Pain, pleasure, pussy, relationships, Rough Sex, Safe and Sane, sex, slave, Spanking, submissive on February 11, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

We cannot go through life living on what if.,If you do you would never gain any ground at all. You would be stuck as if the clock has stopped, and you are stuck. What if I had gone on vacation? What if I had not had a flat? What if my relationship had worked out?

I know from experience what if does not work. After Bea and I broke up, although I was angry and hurt. I continued for over a year and a half living on a what if. What if I had handled things differently? What if I had continued to be the Dom I was when we first met? What if I had punished her when she broke a rule?

A what if, leads to massive depression. I moved out in the middle of no mans land, so I could re-group, get my thoughts together. Take the time needed to heal, and get my life back on track. After all If I could not control my own life, how could I possibly control someone’s Else’s . How could I possibly Dominate someone if I was not even able to control me or my surroundings.

A year and a half I swallowed myself in my own pity, I drank almost everyday, I hated people, not that it was a big change. Maybe I hated people more, if someone looked at me I got pissed off.  A year and a half I dropped out of sight, even from my well the few people I called friends.

I fucked up a business deal with a friend> Why or how did I fuck it up? Because I was still living in the what if world. What if a frog hand wings? Well he would not bump his ass every time he jumped.. That is a huge what if.

I do not hate bea, although I should. She left me while I was in ICU during my 31 day stay at the hospital with 6 bleeding ulcers. She was the cause of my business going under. She was the cause of my merchant account being closed. She was the cause I could not work for six months after getting out of the hospital, because I was living in the world of what if.

Okay maybe I should hate her, or maybe I am bigger than that. Maybe I saw the end coming, but I was living in the what if time zone.

What if is living a blind path, the path goes nowhere. What if makes you depressed, confused. You cannot think clearly, and it prevents you from moving forward.

I suppose at times we all take pity on ourselves, We need to drown in our sorrow, but who do we blame? Who do we put all of our sorrows on? The answer is no one. We get our heads clear, suck it up and move on.

If a relationship fails there is a clear reason. At times you may or may not know the reason, but it does not matter. We suck it up and move on. Sorrow and pity gets us nowhere, it is a dead end street. Until we acknowledge this we cannot move forward. It can also cause you harm in a new relationship, it also prevents you from moving forward.

Okay so now I am in a good place, I still have a few things to work out, but I have a plan, and so far everything is falling into place. Just as I tell Arianna if you do everything by the book, everything will fall into place, once you start to take short cuts you blow everything you have worked so hard to make.

We all think about the past, we all think about the present, and we all think about the future. We as humans need to concentrate on the later two, more so on the present, you can plan for the future, but to dwell on it will just lead to a what if. If we dwell on the past it leads to a big what if.

In the past I have ended relationships. Why? Because I was no longer happy, maybe the relationship was no longer beneficial to me. Be it a communication break down, or we just fell apart and maybe we did not understand each other any longer.It is true you can still be in love, but you know deep down it will no longer work, if you do stay, you are now living in the world of what if.

When I divorced I had a heavy load of guilt on me. My Ex wife is not a bad person, she is a good woman, I have an awesome 14 year old son, and after nine years I still carry a certain amount of guilt.

The thing is, I could no longer hide who and what I was. I truly believe I was born a Dominant. I truly believe I was born into the world of BDSM even before I knew the name or what it meant. I was born with the need to control even at an early age. At the age of 15 I loved bondage, I loved face fucking, I loved choking while fucking, I loved and got off on face slapping while fucking. Yea I did not date much in high school.

So I sat my Ex wife down and I came clean, about who and what I was. Her words were you are a sick man. Okay I can live with that. I hid my animalistic ways far to long. I needed that control once again, I could no longer live in the world of What If.

My Ex wife and I have a good friendship, she is aware of my lifestyle, she knows Arianna is my slave. While she does not understand, she is fine with it. I can say Arianna is the first my Ex had approved of since our divorce, not that it matters, I could careless what she thinks, but I am no longer living in the world of What If.

So I could of stuck it out with my Ex Wife, I could of been Ward Clever, and she would of been June. Wow fuck that. So I could of stayed and spent the rest of my life being miserable, the sex really sucked, blow jobs were worse, no bondage, no spankings, more so I was not in control. I had to do something, I had to make a move, and I did.

I will say this, I did remain loyal, no matter how strong my desires were, no matter how much I needed that control I remained loyal. Loyal until the day I moved out.

I went to a night club in Daytona , not a bar a night club. I talked to a bitch for about an hour, we left went to my new Apartment, and I dogged her out. I fucked every hole, I pulled her into the bedroom by her hair, bent her over ripped her panties off and spanked her until I was so hard I almost exploded. I face fucked her until she started to cry, then I fucked the other two holes. We saw each other for about two weeks. I had been dating Bea but we had not got into anything sexual. I felt good, I felt like a new man, I felt like fucking Tarzan.

I fucked her ass until she pleaded with e to stop. I then made both of us get in the shower, so I could wash off, then I bent her over grabbed a handful of hair and fucked her as hard as I could, then when I was about to cum, I put her on her knees and shoved my cock in as far as I could. WOW I was fucking free.

So what if? What if I had stayed married? What if I had put a greater effort into making the relationship work? I would of been miserable, and I was not going to live my life like that. I was going to be happy, I was going to be who and what I was.I will never change for anyone again. I will be me.

This relationship is different, I have learned from mistakes from the past. I have learned patience , I have learned the difference from being in control and controlling. Although I do not enjoy punishing, I stand firm in my word, and I punish without hesitation. I am consistent in my word. Arianna knows what I say I mean. Arianna knows we are not equal. Yes Arianna knows she is the bitch in the relationship. Arianna knows the only rights she has are those I allow her to have.

Okay so the past, the What If has allowed me to grow, I am a far better man and Dominant than I was five years ago. I know what I want in a relationship and more so what I want out of life.

Living in the What If world will fuck you up.

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Vile