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Finding A Dominant Or Master On Fetlife

Posted in Bad Dominant, Bad Reltionships, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, BDSM Dating Sites, Bdsm events, BDSM Relationships, Building a BDSM Relationshp, cock sucking, compatibility, consequences, Dominant, exposing bad dominants, FaceBook Vile Woods, Fake Dominants, Fetish, fetishes, fetlife, Fetlife Fetishes, Fetlife Groups, Manipulation, Master, Master and slave relationship, Meeting a Dominant for the first time, Meeting a new Dominant, Meeting your new Dom/Master, munchs, Safe and Sane, sane and consensual, Self Proclaimed Master, slave, Submission, submissive, sucking cock on July 14, 2015 by thekinkyworldofvile

There are some days I just sit and shake my head. I limit my friends on Fetlife mainly because I do not want my friends feed full of junk and drama.
As a matter of fact I am going to clean house later today on my friends list.

Fetlife is really an awesome social site , you have millions of people , many who share the same fetishes with you, the same kinks and maybe the same interest when it comes to submission. There is a group for any kind of fetish you can think of.

What is really awesome is you have the ability to fins a partner if you want to invest enough time. If you truly know what you want and need there is a partner for you, be it a male, or female , Dominant , submissive , baby girl, daddy dom, pony play everything is right there at your finger tips.

Fetlife is worldwide , now please let it be known I am not pimping fetlife but I have been a member for a very long time , and it is one of the only social sites out there that is not covered with spam……

The search is relatively easy , you can search by country , state and in most cases even the city you live in.. If you find someone who strikes your interest shoot them a email because it is free….

So finding a Dominant a submissive a slave can be time consuming but it can be done with enough research and Patience….

So from time to time I like to perv profiles, it is funny because on Facebook you want to see where people are from and who their friends are, on Fetlife you want to see what your friends look like naked..

So you come across a Doms profile or a Masters profile , you perv his pics and most are cock pics , well this is the way he thinks, that is where his brain is located. Second you read his profile many times it is blank but then you look at the list of groups he belongs to..

Here is a Dominant I ran across this morning and his profile is blank.. However he does have a huge list of groups he belongs to.

…but i like it rough
1950’s Household Relationships
69 by 420: Marijuana Kinky
Accidental Nudity
Adult Movie Theaters
Any RolePlay, Any Time!
Anything Taboo
BBW AND MEN WHO ADORE THEM………………..
BBW Women of Cental Florida
Being groped or fingered in public
Big Brothers/Big Sisters of littles
Braless in public
Breed My Fertile Cunt
Brevard Kinksters
Candle Wax
Cheating wives and girlfriends
Confession
Consensual Nonconsent
Cum In Panties
Cumming in public
Curvy Women and the People Who Love Them
CYBER SEX IN WEBCAM
Daddy Doms and babygirls
Daddy ~ girl Relationships
Daddy/Daughter Love
DADDY/teen girls
Devilishly Single
Dirty Old Men & Young Sluts
Dirty, Filthy, Naughty, Perverted & Taboo
Dominants Who Loan Their submissives/slaves to Others For Sex.
Domme Daughters for sub daddys role play
EDGEPLAY
Erotic Word Games
Erotica of All Kinds
Erotica, for writers and readers.
Exhibitionists/Nudists.
Fantasies & Role Play: Bound, Gagged and Raped
Fantasy Rape Stories
Female Squirters/Gushers
FetLife Announcements
Fetlife Classifieds
FLICK- (Floridians Living in Consensual Kink), Central Florida
Florida bbw & the men that love them!
Florida Singles
Florida Squirters
Florida Threesomes
Forced Exhibitionism
Forced Orgasms
Forcing girl to go in public with remote control vibrator deep in her pussy…
Fuck Friends
Fuck or Pass (without any drama)
Fuck or pass.
Fucked While Sleeping
Guys who like to masturbate to women’s fetlife photos & Women who like guys masturbating to their fetlife photos
Hand over Mouth/Drugged Kidnap Play
Having sex with pregnant women
I ❤ Squirting!
Incest Role Play
Interracial Love
Kink-Friendly Housing / Apartments / Roommates etc.
Kinky Parents
Masters & slaves
Masters and slaves
May/December Kinky
Munch of Central Brevard
Naked Family
naughty / sexual ageplay
nudism
Orgasm Denial
Orlando – BBW and people who love them!
Orlando area sex party hub
Orlando Daddy Masters and babygirls
Orlando Golden showers and Water Sports
Orlando Kinksters
Orlando Kinky Swingers
Orlando Personals
Orlando Play Partners
Orlando Poly
Orlando!! Meat Market
people that like pee play
People who are awake at 3:00 a.m.
Picnic
Play Rape
Playing Overtly or Covertly in Public
PREGNANT AND PLAYING
Rape play
Rape Roleplay
Really Taboo
Rough Sex
SEX WITH STRANGERS
Skinny Dipping
Skype Webcam chat
Sluts, Cunts, and Whores
SOMETHING FOR EVERYONE
Sons Of Anarchy Fan Club
Squirty Girls
submission by cam
Talking Dirty
Tattoos!
Teasing To The Brink Of Orgasm
The Oral Sex Classifieds.
The Woodshed Orlando
Tittie lovers
Unpartnered Little Girls
Upskirt peeking
Webcam Encounters
Winter Park, FL Kinksters
Young BBW (18-30) and admirers!
Young Breeders
Young Individuals Looking for Older Partners and Vice Versa

While pretty interesting he has no ties to the community at all, this should be a huge red flag. Blank profile. You want someone who is active in the local community , but mot of all you want someone who knows what they are doing. There is a reason this Dom is not part of the community because I am going to guess he is not welcome or he is just a predator.

This profile is actually on a friend of mine friends list and he was mentoring her…. She is pretty new to the lifestyle and is at a point where she is not listening, shrugs ….

Look at the groups , check out the fetish list see if your compatible , if your not into bestiality or watching your Master being fucked up the ass then he is probably not the dom for you.

Now it is true just because he is active in the community does not make him a good dominant, some are active but most times you will be warned…

It is not science it is common sense..

bill

I fucking Love Bill he is the Man, well next to me

Vile

Interview With A Slave. Greetings From Serbia

Posted in 24/7, @vile62 on Twitter, bdsm, Collared Slave, communication, Discipline, Domme, exhibitionism, Fetish, fetishes, http://fenixwild15.wordpress.com/, Interview with a slave, married slave, Master And Slave, Rules, Serbia, slave, Submission, submissive on August 30, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

So we get to take another peek into a Slaves everyday life, but now for most of us we travel across the world to a beautiful country.

Where we are traveling BDSM is not accepted in any way, and is looked down on even more so than in the USA.

First I have the questions then I will  post the answers…. IW as going to post this much earlier, but again life happens..

Here is a link to her Blog as well.

http://fenixwild15.wordpress.com/

Hello

How are things going in Serbia ?

I have been really busy here, Arianna’s father passing, now I am selling his SUV just changing jobs, a lot.

I just wanted to ask you a few questions if I may nothing to personal. I have tried to find a program so I could read your blog, but Google or Bing will not translate for me anyway..

1. First how old are you and your Master, and how long have the two of you been married ?

2. Whose idea was it to enter the lifestyle and how willing was the other partner ?

3. Do you have rules and Protocols you have to follow on a daily basis, and if so could you please share a few of them ?

4. You had stated you live an M’s relationship, is that while being outside as well, meaning while your out of the home?

5. You stated BDSM is Taboo in Serbia, have you met any others in your country who are in the lifestyle?

6. How long did it take you as a slave to adjust to the lifestyle ?

7 Is your relationship micromanaged or are you pretty much free to move about?

8. Without going into deep detail is your relationship more about the Disicpline or does it involve kink as well such as bondage ?

9. What advice would you give to those who are trying to convince spouses that the lifestyle is a need for them?

10. Since I have gotten things messed up what is the weather like in Serbia?

Thank you so much for your time….

Vile

Hello Vil. Nor I do not have much time so late with the response. Sorry for Arijanna father.
Here about us :).
  I have 31 years, my Master is ten years older than me. We’ve been married ten years. We have not always been in a D / s relationship. In my life I have always been decisive and dominant, that is a sort of armor. In a very strange way I found out I was a masochist and the pain makes me stronger. I suggested to my husband to try erotic spanking and so it all began. He was very excited. And so I discovered one of my vulnerability and the need that not even I was not aware. I wanted to have a Master who controlled me completely. So we started something new M / s relationship. Given that we are very much together and that is a tacit understand, we have certain written rules . Always seek permission if you want somewhere to go, I have e-mails and codes that he does not know, I ask his opinion of clothing combinations.
  When you get home from work, waiting for him on my knees, without panties beside tables.
One of my favorite rules the bath. Almost always I bathe my Master, and he enjoys so that cares about me.
As for the other people who are members of the BDSM community in Serbia, with a couple of them we are personally acquainted with several them to keep their contact online using social networks. Here, there are not many couples, men who call themselves the homes are usually married, women or married so they bdsm excuse for cheating or read some stupid book as for example 50 shades of gray.
How much time do I need to adjust to life slave girl? In many ways, I quickly come upon us. In some a little harder, but most depend on the current mood, because, in the end, people are living with another bunch of problems.
Discipline … I am a person with a very sharp and venomous tongue :). Most time is spent my training to bite her tongue and resist not to answer hahaha. Penalties are usually ban orgasm as other things such as spanking, scourging, etc. as something positive.
Marriage M / s – advantages and advice: First, a man must be strong enough to prove that its worth, places Master, that my wife loves, protects, understand, given her attention. A woman needs to know its place, at the feet of her husband who loves and adores as much as it was under as slave, it must be inexhaustible source from which her ​​husband / Master takes effect. When everyone knows their place, marriage and relationships can only be developed.
As far as fetishes, we adore bondage, exhibitionism, erotic pictures, predicament bondage, however lots of stuff :).
We are currently looking for a girl who would play with us, where would I tried out as her dominatrix :).
Weather in Serbia is fine, summer and 36 degrees, with little rain :).
To write a message I used google translate, so I hope that I have enough to understand it if I was unclear, I now have more time and I’ll be happy to answer relevant questions.
Best regards from Serbia :))

The trick is to keep breathing…
Vile

 

 

 

 

The BDSM Tree Of Life

Posted in 24/7, Adult Baby, Adult Kitten, Ass, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM Communitys, Be who you are, communication, Consensual, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Dominants, Fetish, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, Kink, kinky, masochist, Master, Master & Slave, Master And Slave, poly, Polyamory, Pony Girl, pony play, Rough Sex, sadist, SADOMASOCHISM, Slave no rights, Submissive kitten on January 23, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

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We as a community have branched off in so many directions. We have the only lifestyle where we can be who, and what we need to be.

We have been able to Branch off in every direction to fill our needs and kinks. No matter what your into you can always find a partner, or maybe more than one.

Our lifestyle allows us to be free. We have what many only dream about. We live what others only see in a fantasy. We wake in the am proud of who and what we are.

You can be a Submissive , a Slave, A baby Girl, and Adult Baby if that gets you off. You can be a pony, a puppy, a little kitty and lets not forget the little bratty sub, who is always stirring something up.

You can be a Sadist who has the need and love to inflict pain. The Masochist who crave the feeling of a single tail whip strike your back. You can live your life as a slave, and hand full control over to someone.

You can be as open as you need, you can share your deepest and darkest secrets, with that one special one or like many share on their blogs. You have that second life no one knows about.

No matter what your kink is there is a branch for everyone. Every idea, every thought , need or want, you can find it in our small little world.

The Baby girl who needs a Daddy in their life, to love and guide. The bedroom submissive who only wants to submit when the lights are out. The submissive who is learning a new path of freedom, with her Dominant, or the Slave who wants to surrender all.

The pony who want to pull the buggy, or the puppy who wants to be in a cage, the kitty playing on the furniture. The tree is always growing and new branches are born everyday.

You can find the sensual Daddy Dom who will always be easy, or a Dom you likes it rough, there is someone for everyone, no matter what your flavor is.

In the world of BDSM a Dominant or Master can have multiple subs or slaves and at times all living under one roof. Some work out while some do not, to some it was just an experiment . If we do not experiment then how do we learn.

The bad news your going to make mistakes, some mistakes will have a plan and just goes wrong, while some mistakes are due to being careless.

One thing we all look over is we all need to get along. We are small in numbers. We should not judge anyone for their kinks, their needs. We are who we are and nothing is going to change it. We should support each other, give friendly advice, and if your told something keep it to yourself. There is a very heavy trust factor.

Just be who you are, and be free.

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No matter what your flavor is there is someone for you.

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Hey please check out my friend she was just a few hundred of hitting 50.000 visitors she is awesome. and she tells me she writes good books.

http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com

Vile

Behavior Modification Is Alive And Real

Posted in 24/7, Acceptance, Adapt, Arianna, bdsm, Behavior Modification, Change, communication, Conform, consequences, Consistency, consistent, control, Discipline, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fetish, Humiliation, Humiliation Training, Kink, kinky, MAST, Master, Master And Slave, needy, owning a slave, poly, Protocol, Rules, sex, slave, Slave no rights, slave positions, stop smoking, Submission, submissive, sucking cock, Total Slavery, TPE, Train your slave, training your slave on January 12, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

First things first today is the 12th of January and I am cigarette free. Well not totally I have this little friend called an ecig, which has really helped. There are some pretty bad withdraws though, this is after smoking for 38 years.

Now The Story.

Behavior Modification is real and alive. Along with such modification comes choices and consequences. Remember as a Dominant or Master we are taking full control over someones life. I am not so sure if this really is geared towards Dominants although there may be more than I really know about.

Most slaves when you start speaking about Behavior Modification, kinda look mat you like their skeptical , or like your nuts, but it is alive and well.

The choice however should be that of the slaves. How far do you want to take your submission? How do you see yourself living as a slave on a daily basis? How do you see yourself serving? Is it Domestic? Sex Slave ? or both?

Arianna wanted to relinquish full control. She wanted zero responsibility. Again that was something I did not just jump into, because now you have a huge ass fire you have to be able to control. You the master has to keep this fire contained, you have to learn how to control it.

I have talked about this before but maybe not in as great detail. How deep you want to go now depends on the master.

I thought for sure there would be some type of resistance but that was not the case, as a matter of fact there was none, which really shocked me

So to start out with all the things in life she liked or wanted, she now had to ask for. Instead of just sitting she had to ask for permission. She had to ask for permission to go to the bathroom, to eat, to drink, to get dressed. She was no longer able to make the simplest decisions, with the exception of work.

She was now told how to dress, how to do her hair, what color. She had to ask for permission to do her nails and I picked the color and she wore the color whether she liked or not. I picked out a hair style, this was the deal breaker here or so I thought. We went to a beauty shop and I showed the woman the style and she just looked at me. She shaved one side of Arianna’s head, leaving the other somewhat long. This all falls under Behavior Modification.

Once you begin I will say it again you have to be consistent in your training. You can not give in or give your slave a day of rest for the first 90 days. You must be diligent in your training. No matter how bad you feel , you have to stay on track.

You take things away from the slave, such as free time, Tv, music, limit their phone use. Everything they had available on a daily basis now becomes a need.

Humiliation should also play a factor in your training. Slave positions is a good way to start. Making the Slave expose themselves to you. Chances are they have been seen nude, but never fully exposed. On their back legs spread with them pulling their lips open just for your viewing pleasure, or position number two I like on hands and knees head down ass up both hands spreading ass wide open, again just for your viewing pleasure.

I do not think anyone really uses the words Behavior Modification during training. Most of the time it is I am going to train you, but what you are doing is teaching someone your way of life and what is expected. You either conform to the new way of life or you don’t, you either stay or you don’t. If you choose to stay then let the process begin, how the process goes all depends on the Slave, it can be an easy transition or you can fight it.

I have blogged about  Behavior Modification before but I wanted to cover a lot more, I felt like I left somethings out, and I will probably think of more down the road.

Maybe some Dominants do not take things to the extreme,maybe some do not want to dedicate so much time, but if your like me, I want the whole pie.

Wanting the whole pie to me is a need not really a want, that is why I have been so against poly. If you find a Slave who completes everything, I see no need for another. Other Slaves are brought in because one cannot fill certain needs the Master has. I have asked other Master what the need is and the answer is always because I want different flavors. So you take one Slave and you mold all the flavors into one. Kinda like going to Baskin Robins Ice cream, and getting a little of each in one container.

That is the same with Behavior Modification you are taking a Slave and molding her to fit your needs. How many Slaves can one Master really take care of. The fact is most who are a Salve or Submissive are very needy, I did not say all but for the most that is true. Most are very emotional. To add another would be taking needed time away from the first Slave, which you always say they are number one.

Some Slaves prefer the poly lifestyle , if the Master is a Sadist and you are not a Masochist, you would gladly open the door for another to come in and take your place, better the other slave than you, I guess.

The one thing a Submissive or Slave needs to understand, your Dominant or Master is not going to change, that will never happen. What will happen is you will change, and most likely you will change your whole life to fit ones needs.

BDSM is not about sex although today most think so BDSM equals fucking or sucking cock, or beating you until you cannot walk. That is a type of Behavior Modification, because that is how you the sub or slave understands how things are and you just go along with the flow of things.

I am more about control. I put rules in place, I put protocols in place, and it is very simple you follow or you don’t. When I was in my teens , 20’s and early 30’s I was all about sex , but there comes a time when you have to grow up, or want more things out of life, or like some you never grow up, things never go your way and it is always someones fault and never yours.

I love sex, I really do it is almost like a fetish to me, but I do not let my cock run my life. If I want my cock sucked I will tell Arianna, if I want to fuck the same. I would think a grown man would want more out of life than just a piece of ass.

A couple of Months ago at a MasT meeting in Orlando the topic came up about what if a Slave decides to move on. As I stated If it has been long term I would think it would be difficult just because of all of the above and that is based on the Behavior Modification process both the Master and Slave has gone through.

If you jump from Master to Master even just while searching for the right one, you as a Slave never get to experience the whole process, the true feeling of TPE Total Power Exchange.

I believe with a Dominant and Submissive it does not go as deep as an M’s relationship, because the training process is totally different. I do not think the Dominant invest as much time as  master Does in an M’s relationship. I could be wrong but this is my train of thought.

When Arianna states she is a no rights Slave that is what she is. I will admit the training was much easier than I had anticipated, and everything just fell into place. She made the needed adjustments and was able to make a somewhat smooth transition.

I may at times act up and get a little goofy, but I can say there is no one who could fill her shoes. There is no one like Arianna who could stand toe to toe with her, and be the Slave I need, and more so be the Slave she needs to be.

 

Behavior Modification Good Or Bad ?

The above is just my opinion, it is the way I see things. You may think different as a Dominant or Master but in the end we want the same for ours.

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Vile

The Book BDSM 101

Posted in abuse, Advice, Baby Girl, bdsm, BDSM 101, BDSM Communitys, books, control, Daddy Dom, Dominants, Fetish, kinky, Married Dominant, Master, Masters, Meeting a new Dominant, Rules, slave, submissive, WRITING A BOOK on January 3, 2014 by thekinkyworldofvile

You know the funny thing is, we all write our own book. We have an entire book in our head, and everyday we turn a page, page after page , chapter after chapter , The only thing with this book there is never an ending.

To write our book we all do research , we read, we listen , and we watch. So we take a little from different books, and we write our own.

In our book we are in control of our lives, while writing we are able to control the story. We control the characters in our book, we control who enters our book , we also control their outcome. We are in full control.

Every Master, Dominant, submissive, slave, Daddy Dom , baby girl has their own book. We decide what we want to share, and not share, again we are in full control.

White writing your book if you run across a fake Dominant you have the control of hitting the backspace key. You can erase that part of your book, you have that control. If you meet someone who is abusive you have the backspace key. You may use the backspace key a thousand times, maybe more because you are the one in control. You are writing your own destiny.

Your book can be about drama, it can be an action book, it can be a romance book. It can be a book about confusion, sorrow , it can be a book about mistakes, or we can write a stupid book, again we are in full control.

BDSM 101 we are all different, we all have different needs, we all have different kinks. What I like or how I live you may not like, the same goes for you, I may not like. The key is to respect everyone. To love everyone, and be there in a time of need. We are such a small community, we are unique , special. We are very few.

It would be great if there were manuals we could pick up and read , kinda like a chilton’s repair manual online for cars. A book or books full of references that could tell us what we are doing wrong, but there is not. We write our own book.

We have control over our book we can make it fiction or non-fiction it just depends on the individual and what they want out of life.

Some in their books for what ever reason crave abuse, while other want peace. Some want structure and rules, while others crave drama.

We all write our own book , we all have BDSM in our heads, we all know who we are and what we need.

So to all those who are submissive, to all those who are a slave. You need to sit down in front of your computer, open word, at the top you type Chapter One my world of BDSM

From that point on you are in full control of the outcome of your book. You get to choose your character , you get to choose your Dominant and how you want your Dominant to act. You are writing your own book.

While others do write books and we all take in their information, we need to remember those are just opinions, of ones thoughts. Just as I write. You read my opinions my thoughts you take in or you just laugh. This is why it is so important to write our own book .

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Vile

Be Who You Are Not Who Your Expected To Be

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, anal sex, anger, Arianna, ass fucking, bdsm, Bdsm events, BDSM Safety, bleeding, blindfold, blow job, Bondage, chat room, Consensual, Consistency, consistent, control, controlling, Dating, Dominants, emotional, Emotions, Fake Dominants, Fetish, Fitting in, Gagged, Kink, kinky, Local events, married, Master, Pain, Protocol, Protocol public, Respect, Rules, sadist, Safe, Scared, slave, Spanking, Structure, submissive, sucking cock on November 27, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

You do not have to change the way you are , or be someone else your not when entering a relationship. You have to be honest with yourself, then you have to be honest with others.

This is more for the new submissives and slaves who are entering the lifestyle. You truly have to be careful and you have to be thinking with a level head. Once your mind starts to go off in a hundred different directions you need to sit down and catch your breath and gather your thoughts, because you are thinking of shit that has never crossed your mind before.

First off Chat rooms pollute your mind, I am not saying all of them are bad but for the most this is where your wannabe Dominants lay in prey. Like a rattle snake just waiting to strike. Once you are bitten you have very little time to get to a doctor. If you do frequent chat rooms pick and choose wisely.

Second what I blog on here is just my opinion, I share who I am and what I am about. You either love me or you hate me. I do not want you to agree with everything I say, and I want to hear your objections, I want to hear the other side of the story. The same goes for other information you gather around the net, staying up late at night reading and taking in information. Nothing you read is written in stone.

What part of the lifestyle are you interested in? How far do you want your submission to go ? How much freedom are you willing to give up ? What do you want out of the relationship ? What type of Dominant are you looking for ? Are you really into the kink of everything ?

When meeting a Dominant you are just doing that, it is like your first date, as a matter of fact it is your first date. As Sir Marcus pointed out you do not have anything to prove. The only thing that both of you has to prove is that you are both compatible nothing more.

Your submission is not proved by sucking cock, or spreading your legs. Your submission is proved by being the person you are. Again as Sir Marcus pointed out proving your submission is not just following rules. You being a submissive you already have a good idea in your head how you want a relationship to work.

To give yourself as a whole, the want to kneel before your Dominant the peaceful feeling you get while at his feet, then you feel your submission.

That is the frame of mind you strive for, the rest of your submission just falls into place. Yes it is really that easy.

Okay even if you just moved in with a Dominant within the first 90 days the relationship you are looking for will just fall into place again it is that easy. There may be a few modifications your Dominant wants to add,  house rules a few protocols, but you already know your submission. you know your limits, you know your needs.

That is where your training comes in, the modifications your Dominant imposes on you. You do so willingly though because it is a need, you have a growing desire to submit.

Okay we are going to begin your training right now I want to see how you suck cock, I need to see if there is any room for improvement , that is not proving anything.

If you change the person you are to make someone else happy. Then where does your happiness come into play ?  What satisfaction are you going to get out of the relationship ?

If you meet a Dominant and the two of you get along okay and you feel you have something, but he is into pain and your not. You do not have to except what he is giving just to please that just simply means you are not compilable . Why put yourself through something you do not enjoy , it is not worth it.

Being a Dominant is not about barking orders, or making demands. A Dominant is meant to make you feel safe, wanted , cared for, he provides structure within the home. He is calm ,  and remains in control at all times. It does not mean there will not be disagreements but the two will talk things out. A Dominant provides an open line of communication, meaning you are able to share what ever your thinking, your feelings your emotions, your needs. More so he will listen to what you have to say. He will take an interest in things you want to do, places you want to go. You should be the center of your Dominants world you should always come first and want to come first.

Being tied to a bed getting your ass whipped does not prove your submission, being shared does not prove your submission. The Dominant has much more to prove than you do, he has to prove he is who he says he is. Your just going to take his word after a few chats and a couple of phone calls ? I would hope not.

Arianna has a friend who met a Dominant who she had been talking to for a while and agreed to meet him. Yes on the first meet a motel room.  She was tied down spread eagle on the bed, blindfolded and gagged. He began to fuck her with a huge Dildo, very hard once he was finished, he took the gag out the blindfold off untied her , and when she looked down the bed was full of blood, he told her to get cleaned up and get the fuck out he would call her later.  Yes the first meeting, but she proved her submission Right ?

Over Ninety five percent of my followers are women, I truly wonder why ? I will share my thoughts, While I am a Dominant, married to my Slave who happens to call me Master by her choice I never directed her to call me anything. She asked me what I would like to be called. My reply was what ever makes you feel comfortable. I made no demands.

I am very strict I run a strict home, I have rules and my rules are followed, I have protocols public and private that are followed. Yes I get my cock sucked when ever I want, I get pussy anytime I want I get anal anytime I want, fuck I cannot think of anything I do not get. I can tell you this. I have never raised my voice to my wife and slave, I have never left a bruise on her anyplace . Her needs are met, she knows she can come to me and talk about anything knowing I will not get upset.  She knows that if something comes up I will handle it, she has no stress no drama, and most of all no regrets.

Yes I got it like that, but it was no easy task I had much to prove, before she gave her full submission. and I had to stay consistent I had to be who and what I am. I did not put up a false wall.

I am against abuse of any kind be it emotional , physical or mental. I am against someone being used and just tossed aside. That is why ninety five percent of my followers are women. Because I tell the truth.

I use to get a lot of hate mail I have not received any in some time. Men telling me how I fucked their relationship up. Really I did that ? Um no you did.

Last year I blogged and a Slave made a comment and her question was , What is a Munch? She had been with this Dominant for over a year and did not have a clue to what a Much was. Some of you being new may not know what a Munch is but you will now. A munch is a gathering of like minded people who have dinner together once a month and sometimes they have discussions after eating. There is no sex, sometimes they have demonstrations maybe rope or spanking.

If you are with a Dominant and he is keeping you cut off from the outside world, you need to pack your shit because things will go wrong. Keeping you from friends and even family. The abuse is about to begin, and it can turn ugly.

I made it a point when I first met Arianna to introduce her to people I knew and was friends with in the lifestyle. I never said much about me, but it was not long until she made the comment, you are very respected in the community . That is only because I am who I am and I did not change for anyone.

I live by the Truth.

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Just be who you are.

Vile

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We all have our own fetishes, even if we do not admit it. We all get off on certain things, and at times our minds are more kinkier than we want to act out.

In our lifestyle we should never look down on someone because of their kinks or fetishes, we may not understand them, but it goes the other way as well someone else may not understand us.

When first meeting someone, there are somethings that are not best to share to soon. You should be careful with what information you give. One it could blow the whole thing, or two it could be used as ammunition later down the road when things go bad.

I have a bad ass fetish , I love to look, touch grab. Most of all I love anal sex, to me anal sex is the most submissive act there is, the most private part on the female body.

I have a short skirt fetish, I have almost broke my neck turning to fast to catch another glimpse. I am also a leg man I love a nice pair of legs, although they do look better on my shoulders.

The BDSM community has grown so much over the past 10 years or so, finely there was a place where people could be excepted and not be judged, or is that statement true ?

If you travel back in time to the late 60’s 70’s the Leather Guard Master And Slave, there were no Submissive. Then in the late 80’s and 90’s there was an explosion, the internet was a game changer people came to life, we could finely be who we needed to be.

Now you have puppy play , pony play , Daddy Dom and Baby Girl . Rubber fetishes , the list just goes on and on. We can be free and not be judged or is that statement really true ?

We are judged by the same people who live our lifestyle , we are judged by the ones who do not want to be judged. Why is this ? Because everyone has to be right.

That Master does not know what he is doing, or that Master is a FAKE , that Master cannot control his Slave, Or the best one is that Master cannot be real because he will not share.  Yea Ive heard that one before.

So when you first meet someone a Master meeting a new Submissive or Slave, a Submissive or Slave meeting a new Master you have to lay everything out on the table, but wait. Yes there is a BUT. These things should not be shared on the first meeting eh maybe even the second meeting. You should want to become friends first and for most.  Even when chatting and getting to know each other the topic of BDSM or limits or sex should not come up. If this does ladies you are just a piece of ass, and nothing more. I want to know you as a person, I want to become your best friend. Once you have got past that stage, then you lay your cards out, because if you do not, 3 months 6 months down the road these so called fetishes comes to light and guess what your partner is not game.

We as Dominant are suppose to be a different breed of men. We are secure by nature, we are not controlling by nature, we are self sufficient by nature, we are calm by nature. We indeed are a different breed. So if this is the case why do we not except others for who they are.  Every Dominant is different we all train different we all expect different things out of our relationship, we all have different goals, we all have different needs. .

Okay now there are a few good books out there for the BDSM lifestyle Master and Slave, but these books are one mans opinion, or a Slaves opinion. I am not to say what they believe is wrong or right, what they do works just fine for them. What I do works for me and Arianna.

I will tell you ladies something if you want to meet a real Slave meet mine Arianna, She can give you the definition of what living a Slaves life is all about. The one thing is we had an agreement prior to entering a relationship. She showed me her card I showed mine, there was no Bullshit. I will tell you this I do not negotiate, it is my way and my way only.  This does not mean I do not ask her for her opinion because I do. If there are any major decisions to be made we talk. Arianna is not a Doormat , nor is she stupid.

Be honest and upfront if someone does not like what you have to say, or they say no way would I think about doing that do not give in stand your ground. Be who you are and who you need to be.

Today we have a large number of BDSM site’s Collarme.com. More of a spam site, ALT.com use to because now you can only find Nigerian  slaves , you have FaceBook which can be awesome, and who could forget FetLife, every fucking kink in the world and you are not Bombed with spam.

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Vile