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My Bitch My House My Rules

Posted in 24/7, abuse, Acceptance, anger, Arianna, bdsm, Consensual, control, controlling, Daddy, Daddy Dom, Daddy Doms, Discipline, Dominants, fighting, Giving Head, Master, Masters, Molding, oral, Pain, Patience, poly, Protocol, punish, Punishment, Rules, Safe, serve, session, sex, slave, submissive, Submissive Brat, sucking cock, sucking dick on August 14, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

Pretty harsh words there, but I can tell you how amazed others are when they look at the relationship Arianna and I have.  We just click, but the difference is I have been consistent in our relationship, I have not changed, but more so Arianna comes first.

We entertained a couple this week end, Arianna has become friends with a local submissive. We had met them several times at a munch and they started emailing each other. Her Master is a Daddy Dom and she is his Baby Girl. They do have a much different outlook on D’s but again to each their own, if it works so be it. They do argue at times, kinda like butting heads, but again it works for them.

What gets me thinking is every Dominant I have met, has the need for two or more subs or slaves, even when I explain how difficult that type of relationship is I just get a blank stare.

I lived with two slaves for about seven years, it is not easy. Both have to be treated equal although there has to be an alpha female, you cannot have a favorite, and you cannot take sides when an argument happens and it will, there is no doubt. It is guaranteed at some point and more than once there will be an all out blot out, and I have seen it get physical.

Even after I explained find the one who fits your needs, not just in a sexual way, but someone who completes the whole picture.

His way of correcting things or wanting things done was putting little sticky notes everywhere, things that needed to be dusted, moved, or cleaned. There was no verbal communication at all, until he pissed off his submissive to the point of arguing.

I explained you had to have house rules, you had to have protocols, but most of all you had to have communication, and no matter how tired you are you have to remain consistent. I cannot begin to talk enough about consistency. You cannot be a Dominant on Monday and be to tired on Tuesday it does not work.

When I explain something to Arianna, I think before I speak. Then I begin to explain what I need or want in great detail. I cover all the bases not to leave anything out, so when I am done I am sure there will be no questions. Although I do ask if there are any questions but the answer is always no.

If you the Dominant carry yourself as a Dominant, you act like a Dominant, and you earn the respect you deserve, no real submissive or slave would even think of back talking you. Now I have said things made comments, and out of the corner of my eye, I could see the all mighty eye role. I am okay with that, because nothing comes out of her mouth.

If you think before speaking, take a deep breath, and listen to your words in your head before speaking, you will find there is a much better way to re-word things so they sound much better coming out. Help keep you little subs out of trouble.

We had two different roast for dinner, I had taking a 8 pound roast and cut it in half, one half in the slow cooker, and the other I broiled. Arianna made an awesome green bean casserole,along with homemade mashed potatoes, and our guest brought dessert. The submissive brought a house warming gift a very nice thought since we had only been in our new house for a little over a month.

It is funny because when I am asked how our relationship works so well and I begin to explain it is not even five minutes and I get the almighty yawn. Okay well maybe it is boring, because they are waiting for the sexual stories which is not going to happen. Most of the time if I do get an answer it is fuck that, way to much work. Yea well how much work would you be willing to devoted to a vanilla relationship?

Once I decided to enter a relationship with Arianna , I was prepared for battle, I really thought there would be somewhat of a struggle, but she really threw me off guard, because everything just fell into place. That I was not ready for, so I had to regroup.

I do not and will not bend the way I am, I will not change to fit someones needs, I am me and that will never change. You would not believe how many subs and slaves I dated before I met Arianna. I was almost at wits end, I had just about said fuck it.

Okay so things turned out good, in fact much better than one could even imagine, but here we go now the training process. Arianna had only been with two other Dominants who had really shown her nothing.  As a matter of fact both had been very abusive physical and mental.

I was thinking ahead okay so the first 90 days will be rough, time will fly by. To my surprise everything just fell into place. Arianna was and still is the most compliant slave I have ever met, there was no resistance at all, no questions, no complaints, no back talking. There were times I was just speechless.  It is all good.

Now back to our planned evening, The other Dom and I talked, and talked, and talked. He explained the two of them argued quite a bit, and was mostly over stupid things, but the biggest reason was financial, not enough money to go around. I do understand times can be hard, I have been there before, but and here we go again there is nothing worth arguing over, nothing at all.

Here is my thoughts, you have a roof, your bills are paid, food on the table, as long as the two are working as a team to make things better, why argue? Why put yourself through all that stress. If the two spend time arguing and talking back to each other who is really in charge.

What kind of Dominant are you if your going to stand toe to toe and argue with your submissive, your baby girl, or your slave. What king of Dominant are you , when you allow yourself to lose your temper?  This is where the I demand respect factor comes into play, and once you play that card and it does not work, well you are doing something wrong.  So I am guessing after the big blow out, you have spent hours arguing over money you do not have, once you finish all the problems are gone as well. Yea it does not work like that.

My Bitch My House My Rules ,all three equal consistency and keeping your word. The Dominant makes the rules, the Dominant enforces the rules, the Dominant stays on a level consistent path. The Dominants keeps his cool, most of all the Dominant must remain truthful.

If you let up on any of the above your bitch will walk all over you, and you the Dominant are the only one you can blame, no one else.

I can give advice, and I do like to help but when I am talking and I get this blank stare, I am done, it is what it is, you deal with it, and lets see how that works out.

I can see where it would be hard being a submissive, a Slave, a Baby girl. You are giving everything up, in hopes that the Dominant your with will be there 24/7 , will keep his word, and not take advantage of you. You are going to give your all no questions asked. That is a huge task.

You the submissive think about what you can do to make things a little easier on your Dominant. You see something that needs to be done do it.

Instead of arguing and fighting over task. The Dominant should make a daily list on what needs to be done, instead of spending time putting little sticky notes all over the place.

I do not understand how someone can expect there property to lay on their back, suck cock, take the sessions you dish out even when you get to rough, choose their clothing, food, bed time, shower, the list goes on and on. To stand toe to toe and scream and yell, put down, call stupid, and still expect the above.

While eating dinner Arianna was the hose, and she did very well, serving the food, keeping every ones drinks full, then I hear little remark’s about how at least someone is paying attention to his drink, or his plate. Arianna brought it up to me after they had left, the little remarks , and when asked what I thought I had no real answer.

You lay the rules down you enforce, if your going to spend time arguing everyday then maybe you should rethink your status in the lifestyle.

I love sharing what Arianna and I have with everyone, how we work so well together. I am a lucky man. Arianna is very beautiful, highly intelligent, open minded, and most of all has the need to please. Follows rules and protocols without question. We do not argue, and people we meet want to know how we do it, but when I start to explain I get this blank stare. Why is that you suppose? I can tell you, most men do not want to put that much effort in a relationship. It is to much work, they want everything done for them.

Yea it does not work that way.

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W All Have Skeletons In Our Closet

Posted in abuse, Acceptance, anger, Argue, Arianna, bdsm, communication, Depressed, Dominants, emotional, Fear, fighting, http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/02/demystifying-male-15.html?zx=becc23191815c038, Humiliation, Master, Skeletons In Our Closet, slave, submissive on August 1, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

First off I want everyone to go check out Lea BarryMire’s blog. She is an awesome writer of erotica, but she has a weekly blog where she ask a group of guys questions women want to know. Questions that would not normally come up in normal conversation. Unless you are of course Vile.

These are personal sexual questions that women have always wondered but were to afraid to ask. Well now you get get the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth Vile style.  Go on check out her blog.

http://leabarrymire.blogspot.com/2013/08/demystifying-male-28.html?zx=a979a31b13ee9cec

Skeletons we all have them, if you were going to open my closet you had better stand back. What I have done over the years is try and make things right. I wronged a lot of people mainly those who were submissive and Slaves.

Being a Dominant for any length of time, you come to realize just how easy it is to get into someones head. Once I able to cross that line it is game on.  many many years I used what I knew as a weapon, a weapon of knowledge and in the past I took advantage of many. Pussy was never a shortage, and it took sometime for me to realize there was more to life than just having sex. Most of all there was more to life than just using women for my pleasure.

My blog for the most as most of you know is about abuse. I share many things with everyone so maybe just maybe someone will listen, some will, but the truth is most will not, then you bitch moan, and whine about how some dude took advantage of you, how he hurt you. Then I get an email saying you know what Vile you were right.

Even out in public it is very easy to spot a submissive, I have pointed them out to Arianna and then explained why or how I knew they were submissive.

Some skeletons we should share, if you are in a long term relationship then everything should be out in the open, no secrets, no lies. Everything should be out on the table.

The problem with just meeting someone, and for what ever fucking reason women feel like they have to spill their guts, this is a huge fucking NO NO. Keep your pie hole shut

What happens is when you get in an argument everything you have shared is slammed right back in your face, everything you have shared, or confessed to, I know this because Arianna’s ex-Dom did the same thing, a real piece of work I might add.

So we do things we regret, or maybe just maybe we should not regret, I guess that would depend. Everything we do is for a reason, it may make sense or it may not, but we did it anyway. Live with it and be happy.

The thing is when you open your mouth and you spill your guts a lot of times this is used as ammunition , you may not know it at the time, until it is shoved down your throat. If it is used once it will be used again. Just like when your BF or Hubby beats you, and he begs for your forgiveness, and swears he will never do it again, but yea he will.

I have never fully understood why some Dominants will argue, and no one has even made a remark or explained what a good excuse to argue would be.

Much Love

Vile

Why Argue

Posted in abuse, Argue, bdsm, control, controlling, Discipline, Dominants, fighting, http://hisbelovedsubmissive.wordpress.com/2013/07/17/people-watching/, Respect, Self-Discipline, slave, submissive on July 23, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I posted sometime ago with the question on why a Dominant and Submissive would even argue. I wanted someone to give me one reason, but no one did or could.

Our relationship is much different than a vanilla in a lot of ways, although some would disagree.

I have said this before and I will say it again there has to be a Bitch in the relationship. There has to be a Dominant in a relationship. Both cannot be Alpha’s it never works, and if they are together it is just constant fighting.

In our D’s world or M’s we have a clear understanding of what roles each is to fill. We have a clear understanding what the Dominants role is as well as the Submissive’s.

We as Dominants are held to higher standards, if you scream and yell, call your names what does that say about you. We are looked up to, we are suppose to guide, and give support, we are suppose to build not destroy. We are suppose to provide an open line of communication.

One of my followers posted the other day and it caught my eye. she was talking about her and her Dom, on how well they got along, and after four awesome years they have not had one argument. I speak about this all the time. You the Dominant must be in full control.

Even when I am really pissed I still remain calm, I keep my cool. It does not mean that deep inside the atom bomb is not going off because at times it is.

Here is a remark I received about arguing from another Submissive.

in response to Vile:

Two things, in a vanilla relationship most of the time you have two alphas , and this never works. not all the time. Even in a vanilla relationship a female can be submissive and not even know, she just takes the steps, and the husband has not a clue. The second thing those who are […]

You had a post recently where you made the comment about seeing no reason people should argue. That reminded me of Sir, 4 yrs together and we’ve never really argued. We’ve had disagreements, but, never argued. Even our boys have commented on that fact.

Please check out her blog. This is exactly what I have been speaking about.

http://hisbelovedsubmissive.wordpress.com/2013/07/17/people-watching/

If you the Dominant stands toe to toe and argue with your property that makes you just as much the Bitch. Your a grown ass man, your suppose to be in control, that is what you told her from the start of the relationship. You would treat her different, you never lose your temper, you would treat her better. You talked about about her Ex.

It took me a long time to get to the point of controlling my temper, and it is really easy just think before you speak.

Your Submissive respects you, why would you want to act like a child in front of her.  Your suppose to be better than that.

Either you are a Dominant or your not, if your in it to just get your kink on then be up front about it. If your in it just for the pussy then tell her that’s all you want. It is wrong to mislead someone telling them your someone your not.

Can anyone give me a valid reason on why two grown people would argue? Can anyone tell me why a Dominant and Submissive would argue?

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You Can Never Come Between A Submissive And Their Mother

Posted in A submissives mother, abuse, bdsm, fighting, mother and daughter, slave, submissive on April 7, 2013 by thekinkyworldofvile

I have made this mistake a couple of times, putting my two sense when when I should of stayed out of the way.

I am sure there are Dominants who have tried to step in, when they truly felt they were protecting their property. If you do step in between a Mother and Submissive you are going to lose. I have been in a relationship between Mother and Submissive was just out right abuse, from name calling to getting physical. Again if you step in you will lose.

In the end no matter the circumstances the Submissive will side with their mother every time not even giving it a thought.

Last year I had a submissive come and stay with me, her back was black and blue from the beating her mother had been giving her, marks around her neck, and even a cut to her head. You would think this would be enough, but I was wrong. The more angry I became towards the mother, the more the submissive disliked me

The same way with a wife and husband fighting. I remember I was around the age of 19 and I passed a house and this dude was beating the fuck out of his wife in the front yard. So being the good guy I am, I stopped ran over got him off of her, he swung at me and it was game on. I had just finished Ranger School in the Army so I felt like Superman. Well when I knocked him down, I felt something hit me in the back, his wife was swinging a ball bat at me, and when I turned around her eye was black, nose busted, and bleeding from her mouth she was yelling at me to leave him alone. She then bent down and started kissing him, and helping him up. WTF is going on.

No matter what the Doms feelings are or what is going through our mind, it is best to keep our mouth shut, and let the two work it out.

The abuse comes in many different forms, be it verbal , mental, physical , or even financial. The Dominant has to stay out of it. The first time you try to intervene  or say something against the mother, this is the beginning or the end of your relationship, no matter how strong the two of you are together, no matter what has happened in the end she will side with her mother.

If asked, then you just offer support, never say a cross word about their mother no matter how much it bothers you. If you step in you will fail.

One the other side of the wall, we must try to maintain peace with the mother, now matter our thoughts, or how we feel. I have tried the, well I am not going to see your mother, or I will have nothing else to do with your mother. This is the same thing as bad mouthing her.

It is hard to keep peace when your property is being abuse, it is harder to keep our mouth shut, as most Dominants are very out spoken.

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