At our last Munch Arianna met a new Slave, new to the lifestyle. She was there to meet Sir E who I have very much respect for. Although I may not agree with everything he believes in, we are all different so I do try to keep an open mind.
As Dominants we all train different, we all want different things from out Slaves, different goals. How one Dominant trains his Slave is really none of my business, her rules, her task, what ever it is really nothing to me. If I see some type of abuse I may say something but other than that to each their own.
Sir E instructed his new Slave to contact Arianna , I suppose for advice, tips and friendship. She started sending Arianna emails asking questions since she is new to the lifestyle. This is her first Master and Slave relationship, this is also her first poly relationship, so yes there are a ton of questions.
I myself lived in a poly relationship , the second female was mainly my slaves pet we never had sex nor did I want to. If it had been the other way around and all three of us were really close I do not know if I could of giving both the attention that was needed. I think Sir E has 4 or 5 Slaves, but as far as I know only one lives with him.
In my world and my views Slaves are very needy, this is not true will all Slaves but I believe for the most they are. Some slaves can be independent when needed, while some do not want that independence. I prefer the later.
Being a Slave does not make one a Doormat either, being a Slave does not make one weak, being a Slave does not make one Dumb. Slaves are very strong willed.
So Arianna forwarded and email response and was seeking my approval before she sent it. As I was reading the email it really got me to thinking because I had heard all of this before, but maybe I did not listen as well as I should have. Some of it caught me off guard, but the entire email really impressed me.
Many of the people we meet in the lifestyle do not really understand how our relationship works. This sounds funny coming from Master’s and Slave’s
Just like at the Last MAST the first question I was asked is how do we argue? My answer was we do not argue we never have. When I make this statement and I have several times in a group. THERE HAS TO BE A BITCH IN THE HOUSE. As I am looking around I see the Jaws drop, mostly from Slaves and Submissive’s I live by those words, and I stick to them on a daily basis. Why would a Slave argue with their Master, more so why would a Master stand for it. If the two argue is it truly a M’s relationship?
I treat Arianna very well, as you will read from her email. I have the up most respect for Arianna as you will read. There is no abuse in our relationship as you will read. One thing I want to point out is you will see that we are a true Master and Slave, we live in a TPE Total Power Exchange relationship.
There has been a few emails from this other Slave but I am going to share one, and then Arianna’s response.
On Nov 16, 2013, at 10:48 AM, @aol.com
OKAY!!!! you win. Just thought i got lost in that social calendar of yours……lol
my real name just for “us” not munchers ……:-0
is E some people call me LAINEY…….nowadays i seem to answer to alot of things……..lol
MASTER did not approve of slave name list so i am back to ground zero
i won’t be seeing him this week either bummer all the way around.
So, what’s on your agenda for Thanksgiving i forgot if you told me. do you cook? bake? Do you spoil your Sir? Does he spoil you?
Do you have vaniila family? DO they know? approve? Is it separate? mine would commit me…i couldn’t even explain.
i am a fabulous cook and baker . BUT since losing weight i don’t No temptation for me. I seem to be a two note prson i want something in my mouth either or seems to do the trick. so i’m not doing food anymore…….haha
No more discussion about the positions “Just keep practicing” i’m told. This is like the CIA need to know basis .
it’s the POLY part i guess cause you know how we women are …has to be difficult to keep evryone happy im sure its easy to keep everyone in line but Happy ? that’s probably different. ???????? very different. i like different so this is all about trying new and living for now and seeing everything i missed being a good little wifey……….
What does your day include ? Does your Master give you assignments? Do you ever meet him for sexy lunches?
Do you ever start things to surprise him? Does he have total power over that? What if you wanted to, but he hadn’t initiated it?
What if he said NO? Would he make you beg? Could you seduce him into changing his mind? Yes, i have been reading again? just curious……if too personal don’t answer. I am curious about some things that are involving slave Master things if i ask and you dont want to reply just say no comment E go read. i won’t be offended i’m just trying to see if this is normal or weird? of course who can really judge what’s normal for one is weird for another but i guess i mean is it usual in the “life”.
but for the record i have no say in anything so far i just show up when told it’s 100% surrender of power. at this point i can have some passes on some things i’m scared of “still never done yet”-we discussed but once collared that goes away.
is that normal? slave/ MASTER stuff?
It looks like a day to be outside so i’m leaving now…..have a good one take care beauty! from J, E, Rebekah,Jamsine,
Cassandra, ect ect ect……..OH the KING and i……….
As you can see there are a ton of questions. I suppose Master E instructed the Slave to write Arianna, because for one she is experienced , two Master E knows we are a true Master and Slave, three he knows Arianna will not cross any boundary’s. four Master E knows Arianna will be truthful.
Here is Arianna’s response.
My response is first. Her email is second.
This is unsent. Waiting for your approval. Master
Well E was one of my guesses so you have to give me credit there.
I’ll try and answer most of your questions. Forgive me if I miss a couple.
Thanksgiving- my mom, stepdad, adopted baby brother (he’s 11) and his friend are coming over to our house for dinner. My mom and stepdad know about my lifestyle although my mom doesn’t like hearing about it. She knows that our wedding and collaring ceremony was rolled into one and did not want to attend. That was fine because it would have made it awkward. Lol
Other than my parents, no one else in my family is aware although I wear my collar 24/7.
I do most of the cooking lately. Mainly because Master works more than me. He does spoil me though with surf and turf dinners and all the fixings sometimes. He enjoys cooking but just doesn’t have the time. Although he is the grill god. We grill at least once a week. My baking consists of boxed cakes and brownies. Hehe
My day… Well when I get home from work, I must shower before Master gets home so I am all clean and ready for use if he so chooses. I have responsibilities of keeping the house, I do 95% of the shopping and cleaning and laundry. It’s not a big deal though. I think woman in general like to keep a clean house.
Each morning when Master and I have our coffee together I write a to do list which either gets approved, added to, or items vetoed. Master does not like me to get too tired and realizes that with me working full time that some things on the list may not get done. He will asterisk the important things.
Master wakes up with me at 3:40am on my work days. Everyday without fail. He will also talk to me in the phone during my hour commute. This is before he himself works a 9-11 hour day.
I am open to initiate serving him sexually. He likes when I ask to service him but sometimes the answer is no. He has total control over that. Most of the time it’s about him but if I ask I sometimes can play too. I do not, seduce him. It’s really not an option because he is in control at all times. So if it happens then he so chooses whether I am putting on a show or not. He is the first man I met that doesnt think with his dick. His no means no.
I also would be hard pressed to define what is “normal” in the lifestyle because there are so many variations.
I know that, for my Master and I, the collar means a commitment similar to a marriage. It a consensual agreement for me to be a servant to his wants and needs. I gave myself to him and trust that he will not push hard enough to break me. He does not want to harm his property but takes great care to make sure that I have my needs met. The wants, maybe. But my needs definitely are met.
That is the basis of our commitment to each other. I take care of his wants and needs and he gives me what he decides I need for ultimately he knows me best. He gives me structure and purpose. A guided hand to lead the way. Most of the information about our issues are on a need to know basis. He does not involve me in some things because he handles everything. I gave all my rights to him and I only have the rights that he allows me to have.
I ask for permission to use the restroom, and sit on furniture when we are together. When we are apart I can use the restroom at will but still not allowed on our furniture at the house except for the dining room table. Permission is needed to sit on soft things. Lol
Permission is needed to enter and exit the bed. My Master controls my sleep, when I go to bed and if I get a nap. And When I shower.
Some of our rituals include me keeping journals of my activities. For example. When I leave the house I write down time and mileage in a book. He wants to know when I arrive some place and when I’m leaving. Permission is needed for any stop that I make if it’s not planned ahead of time.
I also keep a log of my activities when I am home alone. This includes times of things I do. For example, log how long it took to wash dishes, take a shower, when I put laundry in, clean the bird cage, vacuum, make the bed, etc.
I am considered micromanaged which isn’t for everyone. Most masters don’t want to be bothered with the details like that but it works for us.
There are things that I do without being asked. I greet Master at the door usually naked and in a kneeling/head to the floor. Arms stretched out position.
Sometimes when he leaves the room, I wait in a kneeling position for his return. I dry him off once he is out of the shower and kneel next to the tub when he’s in the shower. I help undress him after he gets home from work and lay out his clothes. I normally will pick his clothes out for him to wear out. He has full say over what I wear out although I get to give him options which he can overrule at any time.
He has say over the color of my nails and hair.
I wear a bracelet engraved WWVD- what would Vile do
This reminds me that my actions both public and private reflect my submission.
He has access to my phone which includes all texts, contacts, and emails. Basically he has full control.
Our communication though is like no other. He listens. Really listens and remembers every thought. He is inquisitive about how I’m feeling and what’s going on in my mind. I feel totally indebted to him and respect him galore.
Anyways…. I was kind of all over the place but hope that gave you an insight Into my slavehood. But this is only my own experience. Yours could be totally different.
When I read this I was just blown away. I am going to print it and save it, so when we are out at other functions and people ask, I will just say here read.
I do not think with my cock. I did that when I was a teen in my early 20’s maybe even very early 30’s ….. I run my house, I have the final say. This does not mean I never ask for advice or Arianna’s opinion because I do. Just like she stated most everything is on a need to know basis.
Arianna spoke the truth. I do get serviced anytime I wish but she does ask several times a day if she can service me. That is how you can tell if someone truly cares. Yes most of the time it is about me. I want to fuck bust a nut and go about what I was doing. Her Body and mind belong to me. The same with her mouth pussy and ass, which I use when I wish, and I use how I want to. As you read I give a lot back, I just do not take. Arianna gives 150% while I give 200% that is on a daily basis.
Much Love to everyone who has stopped by. It is you the readers that keeps me going. I will have a website up pretty soon, so I can be more open, more so with the picture thing, but everything will be from my WordPress.
Our Slave does look up to us.